₦airaland Forum

Lionessza6:
It's not the Nigerian girl's fault, it's a societal problem. Nigerian men can put an end to it if they wanted, but to me it seems like your whole identity as a man is based on money. And if women don't see you as their lord and saviour anymore, you will loose your value as a man and your lordship status ofcourse...this ofcourse comes with actually earning the respect of your woman and not buying it.

Well said. A man is a provider by design and should be able to provide. But when all his value is hinged on only financial provision, there's a problem.
Some women have money and all the value is the attention the man provides.
Some value the knowledge he provid3s
Some value the protection he provides.

Basically money is important but that's not the only value a man or a woman provides.

Samantha124:
It's funny you had to mention Xhosa ladies because there's this stereotype that Xhosa ladies love money more than anything...😂😂😂

The irony is that you who know the Truth, you're trying your best to help my Nigerian men see the light but they are still arguing with you.

Though you probably shouldn't have generalised cos there's always few exceptions.

Lionessza6:
I don't think it's egos anymore, more like mental illness . I've never met men who are so needy, and who place their value on being liked by foreigners like Nigerian men. It's actually weird and nauseating to witness .

Cos most Nigerian girls have been trained to be transactional about relationship.
Nigerian men have gotten accustomed to being transactional too.

So when a Nigerian man meets a normal girl else where who was not raised to be transactional about relationship, she appreciates even the little he does.

Most Nigerian girls are so entitled.
When you meet good Nigerian girls, we should treasure them.

Unfortunately life no balance, good girls end up with bad guys, good guys often with bad girls. But I believe that's changing too.

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
Shey dis news will increase the value of naira

It sends a crucial message to whom it may concern.

Taylor94:
Pastor Nicki Minaj

Carry people offering money go buy bone straight
E sure me say Love Machine dey that her bag wey dey alter

All these many criteria’s are mostly demanded from single men, once man see woman wey he like all these a woman must be this and that will fly away

You never see where babe wey no make her hair snatch boyfriend from babe wey fix 2.6million hair

The Way God is exposing false pastors and prophets lately, I know He has remembered us.

Imagine the audacity of teaching pretense and packaging on the Pulpit.
That women should wear wigs and package themselves just to get married only to switch and reveal their true selves after marriage cos then it would have been too late fir the man to change his mind.

Many pastors are married to Jezebels and do not either know it or are stuck in the marriage with them.

There's nothing wrong with wearing wigs amd looking good. But it's the lack of self esteem that is the issue. When a lady depends on all these fake things before she can feel beautiful, then it's an issue.

And there should be no pretense. Be yourself. He should meet the real you, whether you like wigs or do not like wigs, whether you like make-up or do not like make-up.
Most importantly both parties must submit to the Word of God.

Generalmystic:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ESJN7SYhL4I?si=6uY2-qohoc8hP0fV


Beautiful female pastor gives unmarried sisters tips on to attract spouse.

Rev.2.20 - Nevertheless I have a few things against you, because you allow that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess, to teach and seduce My servants to commit sexual immorality and eat things sacrificed to idols.
Rev.2.21 - And I gave her time to repent of her sexual immorality, and she did not repent.
Rev.2.22 - Indeed I will cast her into a sickbed, and those who commit adultery with her into great tribulation, unless they repent of their deeds.

EternalBeing:
When your life pleases God and HE still have assignment that HE wants you to deliver to Humanity, nobody can kill you. They must have tried to use sword and other means to kill John before throwing him into massive boiling oil with determination to fry him to death. Out of frustration when that didn't work too, they banished him into the lonely Island of Patmos in the year 93 AD, hoping that he would be devoured by wild animals.
The powerful Book of Revelation addresses seven letters to seven churches in Asia Minor (modern-day Turkey) (Revelation 2-3). Each letter, as proclaimed by Jesus and recorded by John the Apostle at the Patmos, declares the triumphs and failings of the recipient churches and warns each congregation to repent. The advice in these letters is prophetic, forewarning present-day Christian communities of the snares that can lure us away from our faith.

Thanks for sharing.
This has been on my mind a lot lately.
I hope to share as the Spirit leads.
It is important to know which church we identify with presently and where we need to make amends.

It is instructive to know that every individual in Christ is a church. Then the gathering where we fellowship together is also a church. So we must both check our individual lives and see which church we represent. And also check our local assembly to know the Spirit of the church there.

This goes beyond denominationalism.
Every denomination with these 7 churches/gatherings among their various branches/centres/parishes.

Grace and Mercy multiplied to us all.
This much we know, that the LORD is building/rebuilding His church and the gates of hell shall not prevail against us in Jesus name. Amen

socialmediaman:
Don't forget who's running things in the government prosecuting "corrupt" officials

UK government is clearly complicit and an accomplice in this case.
By the time we realise that UK is actually the Root of the problem of Nigeria, we will value and appreciate ourselves more.

CANTICLES:
Good point. Sales come with targets and getting those targets can claim those bolded factors. If only many learn to look beyond money

I wanted him to share more details concerning Bank reconciliation officer and If it is a contract job. If it has a defined career path then he should exercise patience and allow himself grow.
If not then Sales jobs usually have good prospects in the long run, especially if he has a knack for Sales and marketing, which I believe everyone needs.

oceanblazer:
I currently work as an a bank reconciliation officer with a monthly pay of #50k and I have an offer for a Guinness depot sales reps job.

I would love to know how financially rewarding the sales rep job for Guinness products is.

I'll really appreciate your inputs.

The bolded is our problem as Nigerians.
As important as the financial reward is, we should be more interested on how much value it adds to us and the society, among other benefits- time, money, health are major factors to consider.

And consider which job will give you time to grow spiritually without compromising on your core Christian values.

Urheadmaster:
Lopsided appointments as usual

Igbos cannot be trusted with sensitive positions for now.
They have to earn the Trust they have hitherto abused.
Federal character is however being adhered to.

babakb:
Please be realistic, HND Graduates have so much limitations in Nigeria, e.g

HND Graduates can't become Lecturers in Nigeria even if they Obtain PGD and MSc.
HND Graduates are not eligible for PTDF Scholarships and all other federal and state government scholarships for MSc studies.
HND Graduates are not eligible for COREN.
HND Graduates are not eligible for the various Job Seeker Visas introduced by many countries.
HND Graduates don't go beyond Level 14 in Federal and State civil service.

So you can see that it's not about inferiority mindset, it's about opportunities passing you buy in the Nigerian system which you can easily make right by opting for a Top Up program

This will blow your mind.

Advantages of HND over a Bachelor’s Degree

A Higher National Diploma (HND) course has several advantages over a traditional bachelor’s degree:

HND courses typically offer a more practical focus, providing students with hands-on training and work placements that directly apply to their chosen career path.

When compared with bachelor’s degree, HND courses are more affordable than bachelor’s degrees and allows students to enter the workforce more quickly.

HND courses also deliver specialised vocational skills and knowledge that employers value highly, leading to excellent career prospects.

HND courses offer flexibility regarding study plan and schedules, allowing students to balance their studies with work or other commitments.

HND courses offer a valuable pathway to various careers and can be an excellent choice for students looking to gain practical skills and enter the workforce quickly and cost-effectively.

HND courses offer the opportunity for students to transfer to a bachelor’s degree after completing their HND, providing a cost-effective way to earn a bachelor’s degree while also gaining valuable practical experience.

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Curled from: https://gbs.ac.ae/blog/hnd-vs-bachelor-degree-key-differences-between-the-two/

Janosky:
That oil in little bottles sold by your Pastorpreneurs anointed your IBERIBEISM.
Your deities dwelling in side those bottles.

JWs will ALWAYS OBEY the Bible's instructions of Hebrews 13:7,17 & Titus 3:1
This fact is your Sifia pains, just continue WAILING.

FAITHLESS miscreants buying oil containing the life of their deities.
Idol Worshippers DECEIVING THEMSELVES.

If JW org gives you peace and joy, by all means it is thr church for you. But if you dobnot have peace and joy there, then this is a deliverance for you. Simply try some where where the obey the word of God that we should Go preach the gospel to the world, baptising them in the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirir.

Ekemax:
Am a young guy of 27 and as a norm I don't like sharing my stories outside but this has broken me.
I met a girl in my university days, and we started dating.
The relationship has lasted for 4 yrs+ and I have strong intentions of settling down with her, as I'm deeply in love with her.
She's churchy as a result we haven't been intimate as i respect her decision in regards to that, She's also little bit gullible expecially when it comes to religious matters .
I've known virtually everyone in her family and so I think we are in same page.
Her attitude changed and I inquired to know why and she told me her pastor told her that her husband is not the first one but the second one and a her first love (at least to the best of my knowledge). The same pastor that once asked her if she's in love with his arrogant son. And that she wants to go by the pastors prophecy, and that her brother had a dream and told her that we are not matched for each other and as such she won't continue with the relationship.
I'm devastated right now and just don't know what to do.
Should I fight for my love or should I let it go as I really love this girl.

So sorry to hear this.
I feel your pain. Cos I know what it means to lose a good one.
If you truly love her, please let her go.
God will provide your wife for you.

TheKingsmann:
I swear, he tough but e sweet die. 😂

E kon still get random quiz for the wrapper.

Akwamkpuruamu:
It's better I choose Israel for taming terrorists. Their killing of Jesus is a prophecy fulfilled. So Israel not being Christians means nothing. But for Hamas ramming and killing people having their annual celebration in mass, is Evil. Say it as it is

I'm not aligned with either of them.
I simply pray both sides come to see the light.
It's an eyesore to see what's happening to both sides.

Akwamkpuruamu:
Your support for Hamas changes nothing. Israel Ride on! I love the Jews for the good work they are doing against Hamas

The irony is both of them are suffering the consequences of rejecting Jesus Christ.
Choose your qlignment carefully.

Akwamkpuruamu:
Should Bokoharam keep attacking the FG from hospitals and public spaces?

Don't they?
Here they attack schools with children and churches.

Be careful how you judge, you just may be judging your self.

MightySparrow:
These people are so conceited that they cannot take correction from anyone. The Governing Body cannot take correction from within the organization. Carl Olof Jonsson comes to mind. In the midst of it all, faithful, honest ones are disfellowshiped.


This men are illusioned and takes pride in stupidity.

You got the words right- Conceit/Pride.
And a customised tailor-fitted bespoke garment of self righteousness.

sirblend:
No way

HAMAS started it by unproken killing over 1500 innocent Jews inside Israel.....

Should FG annihilate the entire Northerners for the sins of Fulani herdsmen? Or annihilate the Muslims for the sins of Boko Haram. Or should all Igbos be annihilated for the sins of IPOB? Let's learn to reason out issues before making sensitive comments. If you're to be judged by what you preach, will you be alive?

Hamas is like wise the extremist Palenstinians who are also fighting to be liberated from Israel.

MightySparrow:
https://youtube.com/clip/UgkxpmZ8udr3SVmwA4jbe2V_DJvql272a55q?si=R1gW64705PaxqMCv



The Jehovah's Witnesses's Governing Body has prized themselves as the sole custodian and dispenser of God's knowledge and are also saddled with the responsibility of separating the sheep from the goats.

Since 1919, Jehovah handled commissioned them to undertake these tasks. Though, they teach that the Holy Spirit does not talk to man anymore, how the Holy Spirit gives them conflicting information, interpretation, and direction is still a thing to wonder at.

One Jeffrey Winder, supposedly, one of the Governing Body members was telling members that any errors in their interpretations of the scriptures are backed up by Jehovah Himself. So, the Governing Body does not have to apologize to anyone for any reason whatsoever. They shift the blame to Jehovah and the Holy Spirit.

I personally feel that this group are master deceivers who has mastered the art of hypnotizing their innocent, ignorant sheepies. Interestingly, some of these followers are highly placed people in the careers, lawyers, academics, captains of industries etc How they are comfortable with this High level of manipulation beats my imagination.

C C:
MaximumSide
Emusan
Achorlardey
Janosky
Aemmyjay
other witnesses.

They caught the revelation of God for a time and season and boxed God within their scope of revelation.

But God works with Times and Seasons.
His Way in the Old Testament is not His way in the New Testament even though Jesus Christ is the Same Uesterday, Today and Forever.

God is such a Mystery that to take out the Person of the Holy Spirit from your relationship with God is tantamount to leaving the only Person who can give us understanding and Power.

But JW Org have not so learnt of the Holy Spirit. They refer to Him as It. They think he is just the force of God. They say spiritual gifts ended after thr bible was written. Who has bewitched them?

When the Governing Council finally submits to the Word of God and the Holy Spirit, they will not only realise their errors but will also cry for forgiveness and by the Grace of God be forgiven and delivered. God is faithful to His Word.

Transformer777:
All my life, I've been an "inside boy" so socializing isn't my strongest skill. Recently, I met a girl in school who I'm interested in. She's cool and apparently a good person. We've been talking for a while now, and she seems to be interested in me too. But lately, she's casually mentioned breasts in our conversations, which is kind of awkward for me. I've never had a conversation that led to that point with anyone, and even my guy friends avoid talking like that with me because they know I don't want to. This is probably because of how I was raised.

Now the problem is, how do I respond to similar messages without looking uncool or lame? Someone might ask; "What's your goal when you get her?" I genuinely don't know, I just enjoy talking with her.

If you're born-again, let her know and set your boundaries.
You're sending mixed signals.

PS: Be careful what you're willing to sacrifice/lose just to be cool." You're set apart for a reason. Know the reason, cos you're not like every one else, if you're a child of God.

God bless you.

illicit:
As the guy I won't let her do such

And if my mum raised it, I will tell her she wanted to but I didn't allow it.

She's meant to meet my family not to cook for them, my mother has always been doing the cooking.

If I should follow her to their own house,I met her father doing some stuff, am I obliged to join him?

This is a good point.
But as a Nigerian, she better offer to cook for your mom and you better offer to assist/join the father to win good points.

Both cases show a sign of responsibility which parents want to see before being able to trust you and commit their child to you.

Some have however abused this so you have to be sensitive about it.

HeatSeeker:
Don't mind him. All because he is not in power anymore.

Power is transient.
How you conduct yourself before, during and after power/authority is thrust on you says and determines a lot.

Manfromlasvegas:
U make good points, but the examples wey you give, you dey their marriage? Forget wetin dem dey show u, you know wetin dem dey go through inside? No be recently we hear say this banky w wey u mention cheat on him wife?


No matter how beautiful and successful marriages can be, marriage is not for every one. Some people are not just meant to get married, sometimes because of their nature sometimes because of circumstances. Even though society should encourage people to get married and start a family, they should not pressure people. Na this pressure be one of our number one problem for many marriages. A man who doesn't get married is not a failure and should not be looked down on, a woman who doesn't get married is not a failure.


If you want to, or circumstances, make you single forever be single---- be single and happy. If you want to get married, then get married. If you want to get married, and get divorced, then get married and get divorced. If you want to get married, get divorced, and get married again. Then get married again. Let people be people and happy.

Well said.

BrickDevo:
Smh, aside from davido being open and cheerful, i heard he is also reckless and disrespectful, he owes one guy 250m refusing to pay back, he once owed mercy Johnson's some millions for not turning up to perform and refused to pay back. Tueh!

Picknick the same thing

Since I watched a BFS prank on him and his rude and violent reaction, I realized I disliked the person David but still like the artist Davido.
His brother is even worse.
I can only blame the dad, cos wealth is not easy to manage. He didn't instill certain foundational moral values in his children.

Blackveil:
These reasons are not enough to change my mind.

Even if it’s the only way to heaven, I'm not getting married

Marriage is actually not compulsory, even biblically. Matthew 19:12, 1 Cor 7:8
As long as you're fulfilled and not regretting it.
Singleness actually affords one the ability to make choices that may be impossible or extra-difficult for married couples.
God bless.

Reminderz:
@op, apart from the sudden demise due to not having any kid prior to death, and maybe respect in some part of the world, the rest are irrelevant... if not because of religion, morality and consequences, most men would rather remain unmarried and just go the baby mama way just to have some kids... marriage doesn't benefit men in this modern century...

If you go for marriage seminars, you may have a rethink.
This generation has made marriage so scary that men and some women would rather just be baby dadas or baby mamas.
When you hear what some people are going through in marriage, it scares the bejesus out of you.
Especially if you consider their lives before and after marriage.

But guess what?
You meet some and you're like... God I want this!

In this same world where some are unlucky, some people are simply lucky.
Like wise, in marriage some are just lucky to marry their friend and companion who they are fulfilling life together.

As a believer, I know the devil targets marriages the most because a godly successful marriage is so full of potentials that its multiplier effect extra-ordinary.

When you consider marriages of Banky W and Adesuwa, marriage no dey sweet you?
When you consider Pastor Eneche's family, e no dey hungry you?
When you consider Mrs Awosika or Alakija, belle no dey sweet you?
When you consider Jay Z and Beyonce or Rihanna and ASAP Rocky, you no see say God's Grace is not by religion or piety?

Successful marriage is not even by being so rich some times it's about sharing the similar vision in life, sticking with each other through the thick and thin and being fulfilled.

babakb:
So you can see that NUC is over reaching this time, Overtime HND Graduates have suffered uncontrollable limitations in their careers for no reason simply because they don't have a Bachelor's Degree.

And it's never been about Inferiority complex, it has always been about career limitations within and outside Nigeria, it's time to break barriers, HND Graduates go and get your Barchelors Degree and be at par with your counterparts.

Honestly I wasn't even aware that it had such limitations till people brought it up here.

This is obviously long overdue.

babakb:
We're saying the same thing, conversion means securing admission in an accredited University and obtaining your Bachelor's Degree.

I had to re-read the OP. You're right.
I misconstrued the meaning of conversion.

Since it's simply an opportunity for HND holders to get a BSc through an added program, then it's a very good idea.
I thought the implication was for FG to simply convert the paper/document from HND to BSc.

Thanks.

babakb:
We're saying the same thing, conversion means securing admission in an accredited University and obtaining your Bachelor's Degree.

That's not what the OP implies by conversion.

yarimo:
Calm Billionaire in reality without any boasting online or offline, unlike audio and socal media billionaires

Original no dey make noise.lol