₦airaland Forum

This marriage embodies the three things that prove troublesome and causes issues in marriage: money, sex and communication.

Whatever she's hoping to achieve with her behaviour, she's going about it the wrong way. Six months is more than long enough for her to tell him what's on her mind.

@ OP - I suggest next time she's foolish enough to give you an ultimatum regarding assistance for her wedding, say these three words:

[center]"I dey laff"[/center]

I'm sure if you say it often enough, not only will she stop bugging you, but she'll remove you from her list of friends on FB 

_{Are you sure she's getting married and not just trying to get money from you for a shopping trip?}

190:
Na wa oo

if i talk now, wahala!!

lemme keep quiet and watch stupidity @ its best

Well, there's stupidity going on at a whole number of levels.  Maturity is the thing that is really lacking.

[list]
* It is not compulsory for a woman to change her name. If marriage is based on a woman changing her name, better not get married if she chooses not to do so.

* A name change does not make a woman more committed. She could still cheat and lie on her spouse. 

* If it is simple to dump a woman who chooses not to change her name, it says a lot about a person's lack of maturity - they are not ready for marriage.

* If someone thinks that, by paying a dowry for a traditional marriage they have rights to demand what they want - again, they are clueless as to what marriage is about. They should remain single for longer until they can get their head around "commitment".

* The love and commitment between two people far exceeds any name change.  A lack of name change does not make a woman less committed or married.
[/list]

Marriage is not for children or the immature and it isn't like being boyfriend/girlfriend. Sadly many people are playing at being grown up and have no idea. Mark my words, be guaranteed anything you think you will be able to do now will go through the window when it comes to the reality of marriage.

Isoke & Blood Shed.  At the end of the day you're both saying the same thing:

[quote author=Blood_Shed link=topic=654531.msg8208921#msg8208921 date=1303843319]This male is a prick  for continuing to entertain this broad and if I knew him I'll literally beat some sense into him.[/quote]

Isoke:
And despite his girlfriend's stupidity (and she is either attempting a blatant set up or she really is that damn silly), again, he has a choice. If he really wanted her to stop bringing these women to his house he would stop her.  What man is really just going to let a woman run anyone or anything through his house without seriously checking her. Come, the hell on!

Let's see where the poster takes this.

Does this mean Silverbird is going to be full of men standing alone waiting for a popcorn babes?

What if there isn't enough waiting space? 

Amareal - barring the jokes and insults, lemme see here:

You've been married to this woman for 5 years without a child.
She was married before.
She divorced her previous husband because, according to you, she said he wasn't "man enough" (whatever that means).
Your Christian mind, after 5 years, is telling you that she isn't your wife because she was married before.

Now, does it not occur to you that if you marry another woman that  you will not be her husband as you will be the divorcee/adulterer - or is this status only for the wife you're looking to divorce?

You seem a bit confused.  Why divorce?

@ poster - are Glo or Airtel any better?

Nigeria doesn't need extremism in any forms, whether Christian or Islamic. The sooner people get this, the better Nigeria will become.

So long as there will be Christian vs Islam in Nigeria, things will remain the same.

@ Beaf - to be honest, I fear for Lagos after Fashola. He may not be squeaky clean but he seems to have done more for Lagos than his predecessors apart from Jakande, in my humble opinion.

At the moment the ACN is his vehicle but I believe the party are taking undue advantage of the trust of the people of Lagos and ACN members. I don't think changing parties will make any difference, politics in Nigeria is unpleasant for the most part. You dine with the devil,

adconline:
But men are not like that. Women manage this manage that and at the end theya re asked, 'what sef do u do wit your money' .

You have no idea what it takes men to provide for their family. How about guys who provide the finances ?

Do you have any idea what it takes for a woman to provide for their family?

You'd have to define what "respect" is with regards to husband. Should a husband be respected because (a) he's the husband (b) he married her, (c) he behaves in a respectful manner?

"Westernized" can mean many things. Some of those same values that people think are wholly elsewhere also exist in the "West", depending on which circles a person moves in. I can only presume the reference is to a version of "b*star.dised "Westernization".

sibepoc:
Pls the same thing happens to me. How do i deactivate that 444 thing.

There was a post about this a few weeks ago. You should be able to text OUT to 444. It'll cost N100 but should stop. If not, call Customer Service.

Let me know if the text works.

[quote author=tpiah! link=topic=641680.msg8087342#msg8087342 date=1302356001]i think life in general has gotten more boring for the computer generation.

everything is just tied to quick lays and cash flow.

quality of life vs quantity of life.[/quote]So true. Short attention span you think or no understanding of longevity?

You're lucky, I was automatically put on ValueMax, can't go back to my Zain Joli.

You may find that you probably can't use Me2U. Out of 3 lines I found it only worked on one.

Has anyone been reading any of the comments on Twitter? Looks like many people have the same credit deduction problems. Will keep reading,

I really wonder where some people get their ideas from.

Newsflash

[list]
[li]Women in the good old days are not significantly different to women in this modern era.  Women then could be just as materialistic - unless they were brought up in the village.  Ask the older ones and they could probably tell you some stories.[/li]
[li]Modern marriage does not spring from Westernisation.  It primarily comes from things that were wrong in "olden" marriages - think of it as new-improved.  Modern marriages are not devoid of the same values that sustained our parents.  How many of us have the identical values of our parents? [/li]
[li]Anyone who thinks a couple won't last more than 2 years without counselling knows the wrong kind of people.  I know plenty of people married over 5 years and worked things out between them without the aid of counselling.[/li]
[li]Don't presume no one gets spouses DHLed - Someone I know married a lady who was DHLed to a friend who rejected her.  Last time I saw him they were happily married with children.  So while you can lead a horse to water and it may not drink - someone else may drink instead  [/li]
[li]I keep hearing repeated "women want to be like men" but no one has explained how.  Women on the whole do not want to be "like men" (whatever that's supposed to mean).  If we're talking sexually, then a certain type of woman may share the (low) values of her male counterparts.[/li]
[/list]

It is obviously easy to blame women, but as the saying goes, "women would be women if men were men".  Many men and women know nothing of commitment, and are committed to nothing. Yet these same people want to play at marriage.  Should we be surprised at the result?

Well, they do have a presence on Facebook:
www.facebook.com/Airtel

Can't find them on Twitter.

corle1:
For so many years now, y hasnt nokia come up with a chat messenger like Blackberry messenger,

engrhamid:
Its just a matter of time. Babies doesn't walk the first day they are born but later they do

At the rate things are going with Nokia it's not going to happen. Their Ovi chat is now powered by Yahoo.

base 1:
Ofcourse it would be a useless exercise, i can bet that NCC has had these sort of complains and they'd just shove it aside, and the people who lodged such complains would be tired of following it up. One thing is for sure they can't get away with this for long. If excessive media force i.e facebook, nairaland, twitter etc is used to get these messages across. A change might occur.

I totally agree with a media campaign. It's very hard to shame Nigerians but because Airtel have a large customer base outside of Nigeria, it's not the kind of publicity they would want. I'll bet you that there are loads of other customers in different places with the same Airtel problems.

They've been a mess since the changeover from Zain. As for the NCC, it's a joke. They advertise an email address but I'm sure they've never checked the mail (if it works at all) and never responded to customer complaints. Even their website information is out of date. I tried emailing Airtel's Customer service email address and it bounced back as "undeliverable". Go figure.

Have you noticed that recently you're getting more and more 3rd party texts for services you've never asked for?

@ base 1 - I had a similar problem, then I was told it was my fault even though I still had some data bundle left. They will not credit you your lost data bundle, I definitely wasn't refunded when they took call credit from me even though I had an active data bundle.

@thweraja10 - the same thing happened to someone I know. What may have happened is that the internet dialled up automatically. In the end they had to take the internet settings off and that's what stopped it. Be grateful you at least got warning that your phone was active rather than discovering all your credit was eaten!

If complaining to the NCC would reap a positive result I would suggest it. Sadly I think it would be a useless exercise.

For Facebook:
http://www.facebook.com/mobile/?v=2254487659

@ Mobinga, it depends. If you watch ordinary tv, StarTimes will be a BIG improvement.

I'm not too impressed by the kids channels (there are about two, Kidsco and Nickelodeon), there's a weird mix of films e.g. E-Stars shows lots of Nollywood films, while MGM shows lots of old films. Personally I don't mind as you do come across some good films in between the dross. In addition, some of the local channels are available. Not sure where you live, but we get Channels, Galaxy, TVC, Silverbird, NTS and MiTV. The reception is so much better through the StarTimes box. The South African channel, e.TV is available and good viewing (many of MiTVs programmes are recorded from them!).

If you want to get it, make sure you have a good aerial - apparently that and your location determines how may channels you will receive. We get 36 but we know of someone who gets 40. The StarTimes dealers should also sell an aerial for between N2500 and N3000. It's pretty good, in my opinion. the other thing is ask for your free months' subscription, of the dealer will take your money and not tell you.

The only problems we've had are that sometimes the screen goes blank for a while. The first weekend we had it we didn't pick up anything, we thought it was the aerial. It was only after a few calls that we were told it was a problem they were aware of. Sometimes - especially on the news channels - the sound is out of synch. I'll wait until the rainy season starts to find out ''even if rain fall like Tsunami you go dey kampe''

We've had it for about a month and for a N1000 subcription, it's worth it. Hope this helps.

@ dell_net, I got the same message - you know what I did? I deleted it. Whether it is from Airtel or a third party, I didn't ask for it so it's deleted.

Note they will charge you N100 daily. If you feel the burning need to give them your money for free,

@ Siena - thank you so much for listing the AWD cars. More options

@ Poster - it does not surprise me that they are doing that. I believe Airtel had defrauded me in a similar way.

I took out a 100MB internet bundle in December but was getting charged for every MB used. It took two weeks and speaking to 5 people before it was sorted. I can only assume that staff don't know how to use their system as all except one were unsure as to whether I had an active data bundle. I was asked the same questions and blah blah but nothing was done. When I asked if I would get a credit refund I was told that Airtel were right to take my credit even though I still had an active data bundle.

Their Customer Service has been down all last week. If you tried checking your balance or even topping up your credit, you may have gotten the message ''Congestion, try again later''. There's nothing on their website to say there is a problem even though there is. But they can still send texts advertising their services.

I'm curious how long they will last going on like this. It has rapidly deteriorated since changing from Zain. I'd suggest getting another SIM card from a different network.

Watching them age.

It not only reminds you of your own mortality but you realise your parents aren't as invincible as you always thought they were

Rather than a 4x4/SUV, how do Subaru's match up in terms of AWD?

They are the only general car manufacturer that I know of who have AWD as standard (but I could be wrong). I'm thinking of a late 90s Legacy.

@ Honsule, I'm not convinced. The BB serves its purpose but people take it to be what it's not. It's not a Nokia phone, even though ironically other phone makers have nicked the BB design (qwerty keyboard, ergonomic design) and in some cases improved on it.

The questions are: does Te-amo mind the app limitations, if they want a phone that isn't a BB or the C3 do they want something similar in design, and how much are they willing to spend?

MODERATORS, PLEASE DELETE.

I'm not sure how my reply to a thread became another topic. I tried modifying it and reporting it to the mods but it's not possible.

IGNORE THIS THREAD.

^^ Where's the hammer-on-the-head smilie when you need it?

Still would like to know about the C3. Looks like a BB wannabe to me.

@ Te-amo

What are the reasons your family don't want you to buy a BB apart from ''it's a waste of money''? And why is the Nokia C3 not an option?