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For the sake of your life, run ASAP away from this man permanently. Domestic violence kills.

dannyla:
I opened a new account to remain anonymous.
This story is a bit long but pls bear with me.

I met this man almost 2yrs ago at an event a friend invited me to. The next week, he collected my number from my friend and called me, we began talking from there and agreed to go on a date. He proposed marriage to me on the first date which I rejected. I told him that I can't marry outside my church and from the little I've heard from him, our life dreams differ. I decided to cut him off from that day and I stayed away for about 3months. Meanwhile he got my friend to introduce him to my sis, mum and another friend who happened to be from his place, I'll call her Grace.
He made them all aware of his intent towards me and my stand and asked for their help to change my mind. Grace became his biggest ally and convinced me to have another date. He asked that we date for a while and see if we can work out our differences. During the date I noticed he has a very hot and quick temper and he listens to gossip a lot so I do tell Gracethat I don't see a future with him but he was too persistent, Grace always had words of encouragement and considering the fact that for some strange reason, it was mainly married men always approach me for a relationship with stories of how they got married to a wrong woman and they are or are almost divorced, dating a single man with no kids was very tempting and I decided to give it a try.

He asked me to tell him everything about me so there are no secrets between us and I did. Starting from secondary school to that day, I told him everything, from my first kiss, the colleague who tried to rape me, my ex who lied about his marital status and disvirgined me etc. he did the same too and I felt a burden roll off my shoulder.

Few days later I began to notice changes in him especially towards my business. I thrive in a male dominated industry in a ratio of 9men to 1woman. He asked me to show him the pictures of my colleagues which I did, he also asked if they make passes at me which I said is almost inevitable but my boundaries are clear and rigid.

Fast forward to now. I noticed that whenever I drop my phone, he goes through it. Facebook, sms, WhatsApp etc. He even picks my call when I'm not close to the phone. He asked me about a certain colleague who cracks dirty jokes like how I rushed to get married (I told him I'm already married). I didn't think much about it.

He later began to complain about my partners and how I'm sleeping with them like the prostitute I am, called me an unrepentant liar, unsubmisive, manipulating etc. Said he regrets asking for my hand at all and he's just waiting forthe day he'll catch me redhanded so he can dump my sorry a*s.
I told him to end it now cus I'm fed up, family came in and I later found out that Grace has been telling a lot of lies against hoping to get him for herself as well as hate filled advises from some aggrieved friends who felt ladies from my tribe are no good and just there to "chop money". Apologies were said and received and we continued.

Another time I visited him and we had an argument, he gave me several heavy knocks on my head and I developed a headache and began to insult him which resultedin more heavy knocks. I broke up with him and left. Later my mum called him to ask why he laid his hands on me, he denied it swearing with his life. Said I insulted him and he lost his temper and insulted me back that he's sorry. He began to drop messages everywhere and I eventually gave in.

3rd incident happened on our way back from an event. He saw a message from a colleague he told me to stop doing business with cus he feels the man has his eyes on me which is totally not true. He flared up, stopped the car and was even threatening to beat me up. I came down from his car and stood by the roadside. He came down too and gave me the insult of my life in full public view and glare and told me to enter the car which I refused. I had no money on me and had to beg a stranger for money. By that time he was coming back, he quickly took a picture of both of us and sent it to everybody of how he caught me in the act with my lover on the road. He called me and said that if he must marry me, I must break my business sim card and look for a wife friendly occupation or sit at home.

He later apologised over it. Meanwhile he and my sis don't flow as before as he once called her a prostitute.

I want to call it quits but everyone around me feels it's a mistake and he is saying everything out of anger and if I'm patient enough, he will change completely.

I must admit that he has changed alot since we met but the progress compared to the timeframe and the heat I face everyday is nothing to write home about.

He loves me to a fault and I don't know if I can find someone who loves me like him but his other attitude is sniffing life out of me. Do I stay or quit?
Thanks for reading and pardon any typos

Brainwashing, manipulation.

Heartless.

Na wao! This is becoming too much.

My father was very kind to me when I was growing up. What bugged me though was his constant admonition, "kpep nwed" like I should be studying 24/7. Overall, we had a good relationship.

Its nice.

Scammer

He was once the Chairman of Enugu LGA.

LZAA:
what i struggle to understand is this sudden craze for igbo votes.
aren't they just 5%, aren't they just terrorists?
GB Onoh that can't win a ward is the one backing buhari?
oh well its allowed to dream and live in fantasy
smh

Another scam in the making just like the building of the River Niger bridge?

Thank you.

GNature:
@Ndipe

Excellent point on the value of interning in America. I always advise people to go that route
before they graduate and stop chasing after short term money from so so jobs.

Is that their school uniform?

I love reunions. Nice.

God's Grace saw you through. Meanwhile there are always two sides to a story.

DNA

Are they worth it?

How do you cope with the language barrier?

All that glitters . . .

Good move.

Life is a testimony.


quote]Most of them are actually fabricated and unnecessary.

A woman will come out, sing for 5mins, only for her to testify that she slept and woke up today. Like WTF, don't we all have that same testimony?[/quote]

Nice.

I passed the night in Istanbul on my way to Nigeria. It's a beautiful city. I really want to visit Trabzon.

Hate speech? I completely disagree with your fault assessment.

Kennyswagzz:
Nigerians are the most useless people to ever walk the face of the earth

We, Akwa Ibommites, are known for making and cooking delicious cuisine in Nigeria. Next time, try other food like afang soup, atama, nkong, ekpangkukwo . . .

May his soul rest in peace.

Bola146:
Na by force? when you don't know how to swim, don't come close to any River or water

This is nice

That's what I have been saying, the government intentionally neglects the educational sector because they can afford to send their children abroad for further studies.

YouTube

We are all Nigerians.

Did Trump cause all this?

He helped you when you needed help. Reciprocate this gesture as well by helping him. Dont be selfish.

WOW

quote author=Emelcee post=65104206]If you can't make it to America, Uyo is the best option.[/quote]

Hopefully he pays you back.