₦airaland Forum

Kusetic:
You want an exam timetable that has been the standard for years with effective spacing for the convenience of its applicants to be changed because of Friday prayers? In essence, you and muric are proposing that henceforth, exams and if possible classes shouldn't be held on Fridays because it affects your Friday prayers. Waec is not beholden to religious beliefs so therefore, as has always been said, if you or your ward can't abide, go and write GCE.

Just because it has been a standard does not mean it's fair. Those setting the exam schedule from the beginning were aware of the significance of Friday prayers since at least 1914. Government it not beholden, but can be considerate.

(raised in the Christian faith BTW).

The lack of common sense on compassion being displayed is quite alarming.

Nigeria is a deeply religious country (at least people want to be seen to be, which is a different story altogether).

For at least 60 years now, the Government of Nigeria and its parastatals have been aware that Friday has special meanings for Muslims, same as Sunday for Christians. There are 4 other days in the week for exams to be scheduled - 5 if you include Saturday. Why is this still an issue? If the WAEC official was muslim and threatened to put exams around 9am-1pm on Sunday, you can imagine the howling we'd hear from Churchgoers.

I'm non-religious BTW, but I believe in basic fairness. I was brought up in the Christian faith, and also encouraged by my Christian parents to attend Quran study for years, and intentionally took Islamic Studies in Secondary School, so I could grow up with a broader understanding of two religions that are really just two sides of the same coin, two brothers from the same Father. That we Africans are still fighting each other over two imported religions is quite amusing (if sad) to me.

Bonus points: did you know that both Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) and Prophet Jesus (Christ) are believed to have ascended into heaven from the vicinity of Jerusalem?

slivertongue:
They dont have access to clean water because dey dont have access to good leaders

No access to good leaders, or they intentionally choose bad leaders, as this last election shows?

Benlight:
Big kudos to a president that is alive. What should I say to the lifeless one and his comrades?

You know, before I would blame Buhari for his failings. But after this last election I just blame Nigerians, because na we put am dere*.

abumeinben:
The minimum wage thing is the krawkraw we have now..

Things would now be expensive than they were at 18k. Minimum wage was increased by 33.33%. VAT to be increased by about 50%. So pure water go become N15 be that.

What manner of "dem dey use us play" is this? What's labour even saying about this?

The long-term trouble of increasing minimum wage (which I agree needs to be done BTW), is that the cost of goods will increase to match. Meaning it will still take the same amount of time to earn the money to pay for the same things: wages rise, prices rise to match.

Shelumiel:
Only God knows what Nigeria will pay in return for Japan's "kindness "".

Oh, the funds were used to buy Japanese products ... oh you thought donation is free?

Enough with the "I will..." PMB is not running for re-election again, so he can save us the empty promises...

Tywo2018:
Just check back on the toilet next week and see how worst it will be.

Abi now...

first day (in fact, as soon as governor leaves the school) no toilet paper as the admin and staff take their own share
by second week, no water to flush as there's no light for the borehole pump
third week, "what borehole pump?", as one senior staff relocates it to their home
fourth week, students recommence shortput and bush things

Abi na lie?

luvyaself95:
I hope you didn't marry Olosho

Since Nigeria is filled with olosho, the chances of marrying one is very high.

grad2012:
May he wasn't into her in the first place.

But wait beans seller, may be she used diabolical means cause am a little confused.

How can you see such a beautiful, responsible n down to earth woman who even gives you her salary and leave her for a beans seller.

A tiny selection of famous women whose partner cheated with somebody (arguably) less beautiful or accomplished:

Beyonce
Halle Berry
Jennifer Lopez
Hillary Clinton
Britney Spears
Maria Shriver (Schwarzenegger)

It's a pity it happens, and I'm not defending cheating, but most of these women fought to maintain their relationship because it was worth it to them. OP did what was best for her.

Daeylar:
I'm a woman, I don't prefer persistent men.

I'm taking "ask her out" in this instance to mean ask her on a date.

There is a difference between no and "I don't want to go that place". "Or I can't make it this day", "or not yet" Or anything I can say that will show you that I would like to go out with you but the way you're asking won't get you that yet.

No on the other hand is final.

If I tell you no, I mean no.
keep disturbing me after that and you become nothing more than an irritating pest.

It leads me to start asking questions.
If this guy doesn't respect me enough to walk away when I tell him that I am not interested. that means he doesn't respect me nor respect what I say. What kind of love or relationship can start from that?
It also shows the markings of an abusive relationship in the making where the guy has no interest nor care for what I say and only goes after what he wants, even if I tell him that isn't what I want. What of relationship is that?

Besides, There is no non verbal cues when I have used my mouth to say no. How can you still be looking for cues again when I have said no?

No offense, but the first rule of understanding women is not take what they "say" literally. How many times have you heard a woman say one thing, then do the opposite? I can never date X, and you see her with X. I can never do such, but guess what... BTW, second rule is "don't discount what she says, but pay more attention to how she's feeling". With that out of the way:

Perhaps I should rephrase my sentence on persistence to be: Women want persistent men (as long as the woman is interested). She will put roadblocks to test his sincerity and will throw up shiit tests in order to weed out the weaker suitors. Again, if a guy reads your non-verbal cues and gets a negative, he should stop, or switch up his approach, or just put his game with you on pause for a week or two... I'm not advocating harassment or being a pest. A man with choices never becomes a pest, and there are way more women to date for a guy to become obsessive over just one.

There's a lot of cues in the way you say "No"... even you alluded to it when you said: "There is a difference between no and "I don't want to go that place". "Or I can't make it this day", "or not yet" Or anything I can say that will show you that I would like to go out with you but the way you're asking won't get you that yet.

As our OP said, she didn't really mean "no, go away or I will pepper spray", she said "no, try again in a different way", but her suitor only heard the "No", and didn't understand the remaining (unsaid) part of that phrase. A persistent (well-adjusted and socially aware) person would understand what the lady was saying, adjust accordingly, and try again. That's what I mean by persistent - not the clueless guy pushing you to your breaking point.

I also want to briefly address the "man does not care for what I want in a relationship". You're right, those men do exist, they really are selfish jerks, and it's wise to avoid them from the get-go. At the same time, we can all tell the difference between a narcissist, and somebody who just needs a little more experience in understanding social cues.

This stuff can get really deep, and I spent the better part of a decade learning, practicing, and teaching, and its fascinating how we all react the same... just like automatically smiling or nodding slightly when somebody says something we like; or furrowing our brows or crossing our arms when we encounter concepts we don't agree with. It's cool to watch body language during courtship/toasting. There's a ton of material on this natural subconscious phenomenon, and I'm just providing the tip of the iceberg, but feel free to google "shiit test" or "body language" if you're interested in the psychology of it:

https://www.toddvdating.com/pass-shit-test/
https://www.menprovement.com/why-women-test-men/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201110/reading-basic-body-language-dating-and-persuasion-success

DonX001:
I find it difficult to believe that a guy would still reason like this in this day and time.
In fact, are you sure you're actually a guy? ...I'm suspecting you might be a woman masquerading as a guy on Nairaland.
But if you're a guy sha...no offence intended.
Its different strokes for different folks, so you're entitled to your opinion.
I'm just really surprised, that's all.

Guy fam... there's still a lot of guys like me out there who enjoy the game, and get bored with easy lays.

Sigh... what a stupid thing to do. And especially poignant because that's the type of loser the girl doesn't want to be associated with. He doubly justified her reasons for rejecting his dumb ass.

Still on this thing of human sacrifice abi?

For those criticizing Africans for human sacrifice... don't forget that - at the heart of Christianity - is the human sacrifice called Jesus, whose death and blood are supposed to cleanse and connect people to God.

Rexnegro:
believe me am one of those who move on immediately..no time at all

Which means you're not really interested in her specifically, just about any woman will do. I'm not saying that's wrong, but since it doesn't match what she's looking for, it's good for you to move on immediately.

As for me, I *used* to enjoy the feelings of thinking about a girl, working out how to toast her, playing the game over some time, being rejected and trying again.


*I don't toast anymore, since I don find wife, and honestly, I enjoy telling people how long it took for me to convince her I was worthwhile. It doesn't hurt that she can boast that she had many suitors and rejected so many. Not that I had low self esteem, or needed a woman to validate my life, but it tells me (subconsciously) that I have won a prize that not many men could... it's all psychological, but hey, so is everything isn't it?

Piercy:
Don't think the guy was really interesting in her, trust me if you are in love you won't get turned off easily and honestly speaking she did the right thing.
I bet most of y'all claiming she was at fault would come for her when she starts crying of the guy who only came for a one night stand relationship.

if you love her then prove it don't just be Mr. I can't stand rejection, not all ladies think that way.

kudos to her.

Yep, my thoughts exactly.

Well, then the guy was either not really interested, or just not experienced enough. Either way, not for her, at this time.

We men are very dogged and persistent with what we really want. Even if the girl is doing shakara, if there's something about her that really intrigues us, we will persist. I don't mean as in begging and lowering your value/esteem, but how to use convo and swag to convince her of your worth (as a real man).

Also, any woman worth her salt will not just agree like that; any good toaster knows that the first shot is just one of many in a toasting/courtship.
It's a game we both play and it's sweet when both parties are parlaying. Even watching guy toast a girl is sweet to watch when both parties are good at the game.

iLegendd:
In this new era, you don't need to ask a woman out — just sneak into her heart by acting as her boyfriend already. Nice guys never listen.

Nah mate... 1 million years of evolution can't be overridden by 30 years of sexual liberation. The same rules that makes a relationship sweet from the start still apply.

Daeylar:
I actually respect that he respected her no.
I like men who listen to women. Who listen and respect it when a woman says NO.

Funny thing is women prefer persistent men... there are a bunch of biological reasons that delight a woman's heart when a toaster is persistent: "if this guy just gives up at the first sign of resistance, how will he deal with my bullshit later in the relationship? How can he take care of and protect me and my progeny? How can he provide for us"? Will our male children be weak like him?" These are not conscious thoughts, but they are unconscious switches in the woman's head being flicked, and if the guys isn't flicking the right switches in the right direction, attraction remains low.

I'm not saying that one should continue pushing until it becomes abusive or stalkerish... every man should learn to read the non-verbal cues that a woman is giving; understand that one can persist without being a jerk; and also know when to back down. In this case, the game hadn't even begun. Even in tennis, you get multiple serves before the volley

myself13:
Unnecessary yeye pride and mumuness will not stop doing our women.

Everybody needs a level of pride... men don't even like or respect girls they got without trying... it's not even because of society, and can also be explained by biology: "if anybody can mate with this person so easily, what are the chances of my genes surviving with her?"

In summary: she did exactly what she should do, but he failed in his role as toaster (even if it was just disinterest).

Sigh... every few decades we make another mainland bridge (which is good), but nothing is done to reduce the volume of cars on the roads... we need commuter trains otherwise we will need 6th and 7th mainland bridge. Oh, and all of them eventually feed into the same Lekki expressway.

kiddoiLL:
isn't it a shame that our county can't do a thing like this for him? Another country naim take am up, appreciate and showcase his talents, for here na to dey twerk, dey naked dance for IG, dey claim gay, dey fvck different seek our country dey appreciate, Dear Lord please why? why you send me come Nigeria??

But my guy, wasn't it Nigerians who appreciated, showcased and retweeted until it got Kevin's attention? We used our data, shared with people, and bubbled this to the top.

Monjerk:
Cheating everywhere, the world have cheated us again. We are supposed to take the first position in the second one.

Why always rob us of our first position.

We will fight and recover our stolen mandate in the court.

Heh heh... since PMB came in, we've been getting more and more unhappy...

collitexnaira:
A Hotel is correct
The word Hotel starts with a consonant letter H. That is why A Hotel is correct not An Hotel

So do the words Hour, Honour, Honest, Historic, etc. but it's incorrect to say "a hour" or "a honour", isn't it.

The rule on 'a' vs. 'an' depends on how the word is pronounced, not necessarily on how it's spelled, though the preference changes over the generations. I'd say about 80% of the English-speaking world pronounces Hotel with the "H", and about 20% leaves off the "H" and pronounce it like the French: otel.

Honest and Historic are other words where the "H" is not always pronounced, leading to phrases like "An honest person" or "An historic moment".

CaptainFM1:
How about "An house"? Sure, you got it now.

In this case, there's no ambiguity, because the H in House is (AFAIK) always pronounced, like Hair, Hand, Happy, unless the speaker's first language is Yoruba or they're from parts of Britain, where you hear things like "take my 'and and come to my 'ouse", or "'ere, 'oo's making all at noise at this 'our?", or "and 'e's gonna let my 'ouse for the monf?"

Joromi12:
Dangote never thrives when there is free market. He also will not sell fuel at 145. Forcing govt to pay hin subsidy

1. It IS a free market... all those wealthy Nigerians buying properties in US, UK, Dubai; what stopped them from opening their own factories to produce cement, sugar, tomatoes or fuel? All those people buying expensive cars and wasting millions of Naira on shoes and champagne nko? They didn't think of making small factory? As of now sef, there are still many many areas that they could go into today, but they won't. When Dangote goes into those areas, people will accuse him of monopoly or non-free market.

2. Why should any private company sell their products at a comparative loss? If government subsidizes fuel bought from other countries (and indirectly also NNPC), why the hell should a private Nigerian company not also receive that same subsidy? Are you preferring to penalize the Nigerian company? The money and loans being used to fund the project, will it get paid back with losses?

MyVILLAGEpeople:
They have started again.
So what is NOUN abi na VERB trying to say now??
That Obasanjo is poor and he is just surviving on a 40,000 Naira annual allowance??

No... it means it's just a token fee and actually shows that Obasanjo does not need the allowance, and is basically doing this job for free, for pleasure.

Realtord43:
Adesua shud shut up nd get pregnant,

Wow... I'm looking at the calendar to check which century we're in... it says 21st, but for some reason I'm reading a post dated 1893...

LuciferPrayer:
She's hiding her face because she knows she has been busted. No more quadruple & sextuple dating. Now all her magas know her game.
That guy na real sharp guy.

Good analysis... chai... her game is busted.

No dear, you did not fall... all you did was display your birthday suit... which was lovely and cute to behold.

The Net is filled with self-righteous hypocrites that do far worse in public and private... quick to judge and attack... almost like a pack of rabid dogs. They will pour vitriol upon you, as if they themselves are saints and "pillars of society". And the irony is, people who are genuinely good at heart, don't attack or insult people.

Notin do you jare... keep on making comedy with that cute potbelly of yours.

yemmight:
Na their food. They said they are not selling for you. Na by force to sell for you?

bettercreature:
I dont see anything wrong its their rule,is either you obey it or bleach your skin to look like a chinese

kunyeo:
Absolutely.I run my business and I say I don't want you,so what is your problem?.Have you
not heard of financial racism?A shop you are not allowed to enter or even an estate you not enter because of their reasons?

So it's not enough they have this kind of policy in their land, they will now bring that nonsense here.

I'm assuming you guys are joking. Well, imagine you saw: "this is an amala joint... you cannot come in without Yoruba escort", or "You must have Igbo person in your group to enter this club"... so if you're from any other part of Nigeria, you're not welcome.

You, as a private business, have a right to exclude individuals from your business, within reason, but not to exclude an entire class of people based on race/tribe/disability/religion/marital status/gender, etc.


Right now I'm looking at CAC website to see what they say about this kind of behavior...

The sad thing is government may not do the right thing, but we citizens need to curb this nonsense before it goes too far.

And Nigeria still can't guarantee clean water for it's citizens to drink, even though Germany showed the way in 1893. We fail at basic things, yet quick to abuse: "made in China". We abused Japan, Taiwan, Korea, now China... soon we may be abusing "made in Ghana", and we still won't have clean water.

Can you imagine: network is there, electricity is there, robotics, oxygen, anesthesia, and talented staff... here our people perish from mosquito bite.

OkunrinOloro:
In the long term a collosal waste of money.

China, India and Germany have already announced that by the year 2030 which is just 11 years away, they would have fully done away with the use of cars which run on fossil fuels.

Indeed, Sheikh Zaki Yamani, a former Saudi oil minister, once said, “The stone age came to an end not for a lack of stones, and the oil age will end, but not for a lack of oil.”

But Nigerians have never been known for long term strategic thinking or planning.

You guys will suffer the consequences of poor leadership very soon.

And the remaining several hundred countries nko? We know just Nigeria alone can consume all the fuel produced by this refinery, and we have no plans to stop using cars that run on petrol.

LuciferAnointed:
Further proof that this fulani heathen led government have no plans for Nigeria.
Imagine siting a refinery very far away from the raw materials.

So after factoring in the cost of transportation of raw materials & other miscellaneous expenses, how much will the fuels produced cost?

The only refinery that should be situated in Afonjaland is a skull refinery where skulls are polished before being exported.
Any other refinery is a scam.

*spits

SMH...

I'm from Asaba, and here is my analysis:

1. This is a private refinery, and it can be placed any damn where the owners choose - whether or not it make business sense is no business of those who are not owners of the business.

2. Rather than subject the refinery and its personnel to constant threat of kidnapping or sabotage, this one is situated in a sane environment. Pipes and pumps at sea will bring the crude to Ibeju-Lekki

3. Transportation (either by sea from Lagos ports to abroad, or by tankers over road is much much easier from Lagos to where the majority of the fuel will be consumed, than from the hinterlands of the Delta area.

4. If you also factor the cost and logistics of all those tankers going into some riverine area, just to move the fuel to the Lagos metropolitan area (where most of the fuel will be consumed), you'll see it makes no sense for this refinery to be outside Lagos.

5. Do you really think the cost of importing and transporting all those materials for building, plus finding and housing all the needed skilled labour, plus moving all that cement... you think it would be cheaper in Lagos or in Delta?

Having said that, a government that is serious about national development would develop the needed infrastructure and ports to help make this private refinery viable. Most SS state governors have chosen to develop Lagos and London at the expense of their homes, and the indigenes of those states have nobody but themselves to blame for not demanding better.

abike12:
Imagine someone with that kind of kettle and stove selecting girlfriend

Abi now...

She didn't want to wash pot... won't she still wash kettle? I don't get... this smells like fake news.

But let me go and be sleeping jare... I say make I just check phone after Friday groove... I dunno why I'm on Nairaland this late.

That's not the issue... lots of buildings around the world are close, and some even join an entire block of houses together...