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emerged01:
In Yorubaland,it is the mother of the husband that will come over. Except if the mother in-law is not healthy or late that the mother of the wife will come. I think one of the reasons is that anything traditional that needs to be done on the child should be from the family of the husband not the wife.

Really? Where in Yorubaland? There's no rule to it in Yorubaland.

Sixfeetbelle:
Omugwo of three months is what you're dragging here bikonu? Omugwo that is like tourist visa? Hia. Umu nwoke

Loool I still can't believe most of the posts I am seeing here.

Some insinuated she married because hubby was in obodo oyinbo she debunked that by saying they are both citizens even before they got married.

She is pouring her heart out about what is really bothering her and they all joined the bandwagon of she talks too much.

The most shocking is she shouldn't have said she wants her mum to come for omugwo simply because it's abroad, that is what I still can't understand saying She's selfish, authoritative and watever simply because the word abroad is in the equation. .

Some even tried to make light of the juju/herbalist issue which is actually a very serious matter .

Nothing can surprise me anymore on NL joor

Most mothers would prefer their mum coming to help them after delivery in naija for obvious reasons, its not even an issue but because its abroad its now a problem. Hr never stated his preference , she did and it was used against her.

Lots of people are very hypocritical.

OP you have more serious issues, the herbalist issue, God help you.

chii8:
Yes,do that girl's mother a favour and alert her please.That was how a teacher in his late fourty's was asking a J.S.S.2 student to sleep with him, the girl refused and he started giving the girl unnecessary punishment.The student eventually opened up when it was too much and the slowpoke dog of a teacher told me and I quote "why are you protecting a girl that is spoilt already or do you think she's still a virgin"... I shock that day. Infact for even confronting the teacher I was queried, the principal believed that I was embarrassing a fellow teacher in the staffroom.



Parents should be watchful over their children....e get why!

I find the bolded more shocking

So a teacher should not be embarrassed for trying to sleep with a minor that is under his care.

I don't even understand, what is even happening these days, A teacher being queried for exposing a questionable teacher. - Teacher that should be sacked and blacklisted from all schools.

omojesu202:
he's someone that wants his car washed daily. Will you have two grown up boys of 20 and 18 at home and still be washing your car yourself?? if he sent for his boys to do that the wife will block it. giving him sleep and rest as reason

Does this qualify as turning the children against their Father? No

The main issue should be addressed, I don't see why grown up boys can't wash their fathers car, except there's a genuine reason or they are spoilt brats which still boils down to one thing - Bad parenting.

I have said it before, if we are not carefull the generation of youngsters that we will have in the next 10years will be something else and its because of terrible parenting.

See what the mother is saying?

The motto of the sec school I attended is discipline and knowledge, of what use is the knowledge without discipline. You must conform. They flog you you went to call your parents, we couldn't try that because because we know our parents will tell them to flog the more

Woo I am pissed.


I even went to Google those names they are pornstars truly.

Loool People don't read sha, she stated clearly she will be quarantined for 2 weeks, and they are asking for outdoor pictures, I can't understand their problem.

Loool for 2weeks you have not been flowing well and another girl is feeling vacuum of your fiancee

You all deserve each other

richie240:
OK....I'll respond:

From the post you quoted, I said " yes".


1. When we say husband, we're not talking of a boy in adult body with over-sized phallus dangling BTW his legs.
2. Theres no place in d scriptures dt said dt d condition for d wife to submit to her lord is dt he loved her first! ......and dt if he doesn't love her she shouldn't submit to him!
3. "Husband love thy wives, wives submit to ur husbands" is God's commandment which shd be carried out so long as they are married, irrespective!
The man is to love his wife even if she doesn't submit to him;
The wife is to submit to her king even if he doesn't love her!


Already answered!



That was why God commanded men to 'love', not 'reason' with his wife. Women are emotional beings whilst on d contrary, men are logical beings.
Any man who hopes his wife to reason with logic will only give himself braintumor!
That's why God asks a man to love her despite her fickleness!


Again, no where in d scriptures which indicates that a woman's submission to her husband is predicated on his love for her!

@bolded In a christain marriage it is assumed the man will love his wife, it is a commandment more or less. If the man doesn't love his wife its supposed to be an exception that's the angle I am coming from

richie240:
Are u d same person as d moniker I quoted earlier?
I just wanna know.

No

Followed the convo

richie240:
This is where 'Christian-feminists' (sounds like 'beautiful-beasts', 'holy devils' to d ears ) r getting it twisted.

The commandment of God for d husband to 'love d wife' doesn't negate His commandment for the 'wife to submit to her husband'. The 'love' doesn't change d fact DT d wife must recognize his husband as her lord!.

The 'humility/love' of d man for his wife doesn't change d fact that that same woman is under him; he is her lord!


Did Christ die for us so that sin can abound?
That same 'Christ of love' is also a 'Christ of judgement'!

The fact DT Christ proved His love 4 us by dying on d cross 4 us doesnt give us d licence to disrespect him by sinning; same goes for d woman: the love her husband has for her shdnt be taken for granted and used to be disrespectful/insubmissive to her husbandman!



Once again, u missed d mark!
I can love my wife to die, to protect her, but that shdnt be an excuse for her to be unsubmissive/disrespectful/combative to me as her husband/lord!

You still don't get it and you are twisting your reply. It was a simple question - Are you ready to lay down your life for your wife as Christ did for the church?

There was a reason why husbands love your wives comes before wives submit to your husband. A woman will hardly ( genuinely) submit to a man who doesn't love ( the way christ loved the church)her

Husband will love and wife will submit its that simple.


Now I will ask clearly are you ready to lay down your life for her as Christ did for the church? I believe you have a full grasp of what Christ did for the church if yes as you have stated then you should know it might actually be easier for a woman to submit than a man ( of this generation) to love his wife as God has commanded it.
It is also difficult for a woman not to submit to that man that loves her as God commanded.

Love her- she submits she won't even disrespect you.

And 1st Corinthians 13 also shows us characteristics of love ( maybe a part)

All these threads sha,

I have seen this article different times, and I am almost sure it will turn to another woman bashing thread.


What I did notice is there is something wrong with the parenting style of this generation, children are being allowed to do whatever they want , no discipline.

Like someone of page 1 said , we are complaining of the current youngsters abi let's wait till the infant and toddlers of this age grow up then we will know what's up.

Parents should train their children, why would a parent allow a child to do whatever he/she likes? That's not how our parents trained us. A lot of parents are raising spoilt children, no rules nothing just behanving anyhow. Are you a parent? Discipline your child.

Why does she want to live alone.

Is her work place far from the parents house?

Was she transferred to another state or somewhere far from the house.

Or she just wants to move out, its cheaper for her to stay with her parents so I don't understand the moving out except there is a reason .

Ishilove:
Don't blame him. It is the chicken legged woman who chose to be tied down for 6 years that you will blame. If after 2 years no sign of seriousness then any woman whose umbilical cord was not used for rituals is supposed to pack her kaya and geddifok.

The bolded sounds harsh but ehn it is what it is.


There's a simple rule to this, marry a man properly then start a family, it saves a lot of headache , how some ladies still don't understand this simple principle is what I still don't get.

Imagine him saying he is using delaying payment of bride price as punishment.

You saw alert of 4k from an Igboman you have concluded immediately, sebi she has a shop shey customer cannot by 4k goods and transfer ni.

Ofadaman:
The comment is a sign that tape victims are in trouble in this country, they don't want them to speak out of shame,they don't want them to defend themselves. I've had to waylay a lecturer who raped my niece, her story was unbelievable no one would believe but I know her very well, and that's all I needed, got hold of the stupid man in a bar, waylayed him, he confessed. He's paid up for damages and on suspension from the school. Guys let's be reasonable most rape stories aren't believable but they are real,many of us here would not see anything wrong in going to visit a girl at his place , now imagine if she's planned to use you for rituals?, Many of you would see nothing wrong in waiting for a lady somewhere for a meet up, imagine if she's set u up to be robbed. And even if the lady goes to visit a guy that's not consent to rape.

Dumb people everywhere

God bless you.

Rape stories always sound unbeleiveable. My good friend told me about hers that happened years back she couldnt tell anyone when it happened, she told me years later though we were not friends as at the time of the incident

Good you stood up for her.

princepalace:
My dear, sorry for what happened between you people. Devil is a liar and he has failed over you people. Apologise to him. Tell him you are serious even though to you you are not wrong, but do it. Do the following henceforth to take your relationship to the higher level which will continue while married to him eventually :
- always put him first in the picture of anything you want to do in life
- give him sense of Belonging all the time as your number one fan after God
- never see him as your rival or you are in competition with him
- never give room for feminism in your relationship with him
- make your total submission to him as non negotiable.
I am very sure if you had handled the case differently, you won't found yourself in this scenario.
My dear, the car is giving me problems. What do you think if we change it?. With this position you took, you have involved him from onset, and you should allow him to handle the whole process of choice of choosing, placement of order, payment, clearance, registration. Etc. Since you have the cash, with humility, Transfer the cash to him and trust him for proper handling and execution of it since your relationship is 4 years plus. At least
trust is built already. Don't give him that attitude that it is my money I work for it I can spend it as I like I don't need his permission to do whatever I like with it. Yes you are right, but your type of man may not like that stuff. If you can not do or practice such life with him, you can chicken out and look for your type. But please safe your relationship

@ the bolded. She should be walking on eggshells around a man she is not married to on top of money she worked for to buy what she needs.

It seems you don't understand, that guy will never be comfortable with any success she makes, that is a receipe for disaster, if she likes she should be extra ordinarily humble, the man will never be satisfied. You can not satisfy such men.

Women who have experienced this will tell you

Please don't marry him.

He wanted to elicit a reaction from you that was why he brought up the issue up, whatever you said was going to be used against you.

Its not like he's even broke and he's already like this.

afombc:
It smells so bad ooooh.

Told you

afombc:
Yes, he is fine now. He finally poo yesterday night. Thanks.

How was the smelll

bukatyne:
Goodluck.

I put best case scenario for all parties.

They can be outsourced with you paying if you are alapa ma sise aka alapa stainless or have 50 shoulder pads in your coat.

Oh my see the new baby of yesterday oo.

She's so pretty

God bless and keep her

Warm water in the morning and give him oranges, vegetables, majorly fruit, veggie , liquid diet for thenext 24 hours , maybe it's the drugs that caused it.

I also don't think its something to worry about but get ready when he eventually shits, it will be very smelly

Going forward incorporate fruit in the diet maybe one orange a day.

SchoolPedia:
A healthy marriage will surely last.

Yeah but There are lots of unhealthy marriages that last.

Just saying

Both of you should know better than opening and responding to this thread.

Badbelle people are here and the distance is a major factor, lagos to abuja is not lekki to badagry.

Loool forget social media posts, I strongly doubt if anyone that ever passed through a polygamous family would advise you to go ahead.

Even some who are Muslims and have the perfect reason to do so are avoiding polygamy.

E get why.

Its interesting how I am seeing posts like let's hear the mans side of the story, we were not there when they started etc what will his ownside be for abandoning a woman that had pre-eclampsia and lost the baby, it seems some guys don't know what pre-eclampisa is.

Its also interesting how this thread is just 4 pages, if it was the other way round , nobody will ask for the other side and this thread will have turned to another woman bashing thread.


The guy is wicked .


I hope the ladies are learning sha.

pocohantas:
Educating! My mum gives out her own steady to people. Sometimes e dey be like she dey beg them to come take sef. Now it adds up.

I want to get one for myself. A small one They should even put my initials for me.

Yeah, the more its used the longer it lasts

@bolded nice, those saki peeps write whatever one wants on the pot

Sunnydoo:
This is good. But have you seen the pot splitted in two's when cooking?

Not spilt into two, but that round pointed bottom does drop( O yodi in Yoruba ) it happens when the pot has not been used for years, kept minefor 9 years, first time I would use it the pointed part came out.

The cooks now told me they don't keep it that long, if you want to store it without using you pour water into it occasionally or let people come and borrow it to cook

It was taken back to shaki to melt it and make a brand new one, it cost me more than half of the price a 2 piece set cost back then .

Cc pocohantas
LadySarah

descarado:
Nope, it's not done that way.

She knows the type of man she took home to her mum.
If the man didn't come with gift( nothing wrong with it, we usually visit people with gifts), it now behold on her mum to show him how it's done. Kill him with kindness.
Get some things, wrap in polyethene and give him to go home with. The mum can continue by calling him the next day to ask if he reached home safely, have eaten what I gave you etc, that way, u are drawing him close to you and at the same time changing his mindset.
Trust me, next time, he will go with truck loads of gifts.

My mum will never allow that man leave our house with nothing be it cooked food, foodstuff or fruits.

U are not doing that man a favour rather it's the opposite
All these entitlement mentality.

Kindly expantiate on the bolded

WILLuKPquiet:
Your guy did badly and you did not do well also.
He should not have gone to your mum empty handed it is not proper. But must you hang up on him because of that? What if the same irresponsible blood that runs in the veins of those insulting is what runs in him too What is the essence of being in courtship? Is it not to shape one another into what you both desire?

If I were you, I would defend him and give an excuse on his behalf. Telling a lie for him won't be too bad too.

You should have calmly corrected him afterwards. Tell him you wouldn't do that when going to his mum.

That is the essence of courtship.

You overreacted and you are wrong although he did not do well either.

Call him and make peace. Tell him you are sorry and then explain why it is wrong to him.

The bolded made me laugh.



@topic Iam amazed at some responses,lots of kids boys roaming about this forum, all they know is redpill and simp. They can't even handle the elderly with wisdom.