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Please is there any 400level or 500level Medical student of Lasuth on this thread, kindly signify I need some information please.

SMH jobless people, everything is cruise for them.

Mtcheww.

Daily parrot you can go for Fresh glow 950 for pack yesterday wholesale price, the price increased to 950 very recent but some stores may be selling it 1000 or 1,100 since they sell one for 300.

Or buy local soap i.e black soap or Ose dudu, it foams well and makes the body clean, just that it doesnt have scent.

Nawa ooo, does she despise/ hate the man that much.

apolonius:
Know any tailor that is as good as the one the agbada sower?

Honestly I don't.

I thought they said blood / ritual money is not real and there's nothing like money rituals.

Eyes are beginning to open.

Taich:
The agbada is to be admired in this picture. The tailor knows his onions.

Oshey I thought I was the only one that noticed, a well sewn agbada is muaaah. Superb finishing.

Pheww, wow too much marriage issues these days, it is well.

This can be ironed out I suppose, not everything is divorce divorce.

This year alone too much cases I have seen, Nawa oo

Well lots of people don't even know what caused the lady's divorce and are already assuming all what not.

My cousin just moved out of her husband's house about 5 days ago.

I got a frantic call from my mum that Aunty T ran/moved out from her husband's house, her 2 sisters actually went to pick her.

The eldest sister called my mum (their mum died about 18years back) that they want her to stay at mum temporarily till she can rent a place. They said she will stay over at the eldest sisters place that night but they were scared the husband can come kill her at her place because he knows the elder sisters house but since he doesn't know my mum's place she would be safe till she can move.

They now began to confess all what had been happening for about 20years in the marriage how they all had been covering the endless beating from the man, the many times she had been hospitalized, her teeth had removed several times, her eye had also been badly wounded and that they can't cover it any more they have to speak out that it's now a matter of life and death, they dont want their sister to die. . I was shocked, all these was happening and you people couldn't tell your mum's sister.

She came to mum's place and they went somewhere together, mum was telling me the way she was looking left and right with fear maybe the husband will show up was really saddening.

Mum said she was like okay let's call all the elders let's see if the matter can be thrashed, the woman said no, even his family members never visit their house again, that if she calls the husband's younger brother that she has left he will congratulate her.

Why did you now stay this long if you had died nko, she said she wanted to have all her children in one place. When she began to list the atrocities apart from the beating and mum was later narrating to me, I was just wondering how she could bear all such.

Even allegations of juju and all what not.

It was so bad that the first son in the uni swore he would never step his father's house for the next 10years.

She couldn't even stay long at mum's place she left after 3 days, they rented a one room apartment for her somewhere that they would cross the river to get there - she ran away that far.


People are passing through a lot sha.

Pheww, such drama in the new year.

BabaDelta1:
Dear Madam,

I salute your courage and my sincere wish for you right now is grace and wisdom to move on and train your children in the fear of God.

Let me share my story with you maybe that will be of little help to you and other readers.

I married my Ex at age 27 as a virgin. We met when I was invited to his church as a guest minister to train his church choir. Everything seem okay not until he suddenly resigned from his place of work (bank) without any form of explanation as to what led to his decision. For peace to reign, I stopped asking him and made up my mind to take charge of caring for the family.

Hubby became a chronic womanizer and from a church minister he became a gambler and gradually started avoiding church.

A lot really happened but what finally caused our separation was the fact that he did secret wedding with my best friend who is a widow. On the day of their wedding, I was the one that opened our house gate for hubby and when he was about driving out, he asked " What about your friend, hope you still here from her?' I replied, yes she's fine and he said I should greet her when next I hear from her not knowing he was going to wed her. Same friend whose wedding to her late husband I was the lead vocal of all the songs in the church and Reception. Her late parents and mine were good friends and we were in the same church choir for 10 years before I got married and left the church. My so called friend was the one that came to stay with me when I had my first baby because my mum was ill at that time and my then mother in-law was no more. Same friend that will wake me up late at night that we should pray, same friend that frowns at me putting on any dress or skirt below my knees did secret wedding with my hubby.

It was more painful when I got to know they lied to the church that joined them that I was late and that my children are with my mum.

Please note, I did not do any wrong to hubby even till this very moment neither did I frustrate him when he was out of job. He knows how much I earn, I was 100% faithful, I respect him a lot and I don't spend without taking permission from him despite the fact that it was my money.

I also need to mention that after my National Diploma, then hubby has a BSc and he wanted to go for his Masters. Because of limited funds, I agreed to hold on and continue working while I singlehandedly sponsored his Masters program till finish and during this period, he was also defrauding me and used my money to sponsor a lady with two kids through school.

I decided to move on with my life when I finally got to know about his secret wedding to my so called bestie. The betrayal from the two of them almost cost me my life. I cry morning, afternoon and night. I cried not because he got married but because he did it with my bestie that is like a sister. I was more shattered because they both lied I was dead. More still, I was devastated because he was out of job for many years and I have been the one caring for the family, rent, school fees, utility bills, clothing him and children's school fees leaving me to wonder where he got money to do wedding.

I attempted suicide twice because the shock was too much for me to bear and I was also concerned about what people will say knowing I was a committed sister in the church and also in my family.

Much later I decided to move on because of my children and the fact that I can't afford to hurt God. It was not easy for me but then, God proved Himself mightily in my life.

I became more dedicated to the work of God, I became EXTREMELY STRICT to men's advances and concentrated more on my children and job. I enrolled for more professional courses, went back for my BSc and Masters and today the rest is story.

Now I can look back and give glory to God Almighty for how far He has helped me. My children are doing excellently well in their studies, they have everything at their comfort and we are more than comfortable.

It was not easy I must confess especially when nature calls but I was strong willed not to disappoint God and my children. I did all I could to be a good role model to them and I don't say evil things to them about their dad despite the fact that he was not giving me a dime to fend for them till date. My second child was not up to a year when we separated and today, she is all grown and my son is now in one of the best Secondary school doing excellently well academically and moral wise.

By the grace of God, I and my children will be relocating to Canada soonest for further studies and my wedding is around the corner.

Learnt my Ex and Bestie are now divorced.

Op, key notes for you

- Move more closer to God
- Concentrate more on your children, job or business
- Mind what you do before your children, brace up to play father and mother role
- Avoid bitterness and do not speak ill of your ex to your children.
- Develop thick skin because friends, church members and associates will mock you but when they later see you succeed, all will be a thing of the past.
- Do not rush to get married again, easy does it.
- Work on past mistakes
- If you can afford it, travel out of the country with your children
- Try as much as possible to raise Godly children.

If there is still room for reconciliation between you and your hubby, please embrace peace and if not, I wish you the very best.

Nawa ooo, this one shock me, damn such level of betrayal.

Nickymezor:
The fact remains he didn't play football so where did the ankle infection come from? No b from the beating they give am

My own thoughts too,

The question should be what are the events that led to the 'ankle infection'

Doesn't it matter what led to the ankle infection?

tempex88:
The man is not dead na. Why are we all making it look like the kids is 100% the woman's responsibility?

Technically in Nigeria it becomes the woman's responsibility when a divorce happens, do they pay child support in Naija, or is it the 2 000 naira monthly igando magistrate court will tell the father to pay as child support that will be enough for the children.

Hopefully the courts will get him to pay at least 50% of the children's financial responsibilities but I doubt it.

I don't know why people are just making a fuss out of this, those that know her very well will remember her when she told her story of how she dined with the devil etc.

I am talking of almost 20years back(if not more than) possibly even before she started a church. all those small magazine they sell in church camp then, her story was out on them there was even a tape and CD for it if I am not mistaken-999 years with the devil or something. I think her name is evang Funmilayo.

These are the things she has always said maybe its social media that is making people to know more now do its not like she's trying to gain popularity or something, those who know her back then know this is what she says.

People just like to use everything for cruise nothing has changed in her preaching abi is it testimony

grafixdon:
If the woman has been sincere from onset I wouldn't have made that statement. Why going through his (her current husband) back to contact her ex? For good 8 years, that dude was no where to be found, and she has been surviving without him. Let's call a spade a spade, it's inevitable, the pvssy would be bang no doubt about it. That's my only concern. If I was in his shoes, I'll be worried.

She wasn't sincere and she woke him up in the middle of the night to tell him the father is trying to re establish contact?

The only mistake she made was not to tell him when she decided to establish that contact that's all.

Is your concern about this runaway father or both exes because the way you keep on hammering on banging makes me wonder.

If she was that kind of woman, the OP would have mentioned it as regards the ex who has always been present.

The way it is auntie friend / adviser seems to have succeeded in breaking the family

mabeni:
Update : my wife has finally given birth to a bouncing baby boy today

Oya wash it for us.

Congrats bro,

grafixdon:
Baba, trust me, I've seen this happening countless time. That dude will bang that woman. Its 99% possible. And it'd happen

The father of the first child who is in contact with them and pays support for his child has not slept with the woman yet( at least the OP would have mentioned it) so what makes the father of the 2nd child different that she will go about sleeping with him.

99 percent possible indeed.

There are 2 exes in the picture, one has been in contact which the OP is aware and he knows, it's the 2nd one that decided to show after 8 years.

Since she has not slept with ex- A whom she has been in contact with for years of their marriage what's makes you think she will start that with the absentee Father.

thorpido:
You don't want your marriage anymore?

Very valid question.

I would also question his source of wealth if all what you say here is true

Well you are being unreasonable, in reality she did nothing wrong by letting the girl know the father, she should have told you the plans that's all, she has even apologized and is telling you information.

The friend told her not to marry you
The friend advised her to take let the child meet the father without telling you
The same friend came to tell you she has introduced the child to the father.

And you still can't see the friend is out to destroy that marriage

The friend will destroy your marriage and you are fanning the flames she's put on don't worry your eyes go soon clear.

That said, understand that you can never be the biological father of those children I am saying this because you never even wanted the child to have contact with her biological father anyway which is very wrong, you are her father (you adopted her) but the man still donated the sperm biologically, same way if your own daughter comes to live with you, your wife can never be her biological mother.
It seems harsh but it's the truth.

JONNYSPUTE:
....Ok but then he is dead and can't do anything. What the elders need to do is call both wives,divide the whole properties into 2 equal parts and ask the first to choose. Once she does that,the second wife takes the other part.

Now it's nobody's business how they split it among their kids.

Let's say the first wife has 3 children and got 4 houses,it's her gain or she has 6 children and got 4 houses,it's her loss therefore she should know how to go about it.

Likewise the second wife.

All this things are simple just that greed has spoilt alot of things.

Exactly, I don't even understand how they ( the elders) agreed to a reshare


The 2nd wifes children are greedy and I believe their mum had cautioned them before her demise which is why they waited till her death before demanding a reshare.

motirayo2018 I am assuming they are yoruba

In Yorubaland It's shared either oriojori or idi igi method.

Oriojori is it being shared between all the children i. e head to head

Idi igi is shared equally according to the no of wife's in this case shared into 2, the no of children do not matter, the children then share amongst themselves whatever was given to their branch.

In this case it was already shared with the oriojori method, what I don't understand is why they now decided to share it again using the oriojori method after their mum died.

They had shared it equally among the 2 wives it should have been left at that.

The family members should never have agreed for it to be reshared. It was done with the idi igi method and should have ended at that.

Of course it's only natural the resharing would would cause problems.

Agbaya, radarada

Is it the new babe doing backup singer in the background? Her own too is coming.

To think this man is some people's mentor. Chai.

Acidosis:
Okay, you've concluded that the wife indeed poisoned (killed) the woman based on what OP said?






Repeating these lines won't change facts bro. If you think anyone can love your parents more than you do, you better have a change of heart now before it is too late. Your concern should be whether your wife loves you and your children not whether she loves your mother more than she loves her mother (a daft expectation

Here are the facts: Nobody can take care of my parents better than I would BUT here is the clause: I'm more than 30k kilometres away from my parents. I would be f00lish to downplay the efforts of those living and staying with them currently while I sit my butt in Lagos making bogus and unrealistic claims about "loving" and "taking care of" my parents just to spite those who are actually doing the hardest part of the job in the village.

Many medical professionals have come out to say that there is no correlation between cooking with small portion of salt and seizure but many of you still want to dwell in your ignorance. Na una modus operandi na. I can't wait for one of OP's sisters to also come out with a thread on how her sister in law killed her mother.

Nice point, tell them ooo.

Same way a wife will always be a daughter inlaw not a daughter.

It is what it is, no hard feelings


As for the topic, they should find out what caused mama's seizure leading to her death

airsaylongcome:
I completely agree that she did very well getting such wonderful looking shoes in quantity. Look at those shoes very well sha. The boxes especially. They are designer knockoffs. That is not necessarily a bad thing though as knockoffs are what is most readily available in our markets

Let's assume they are knockoffs

And so? What if they are knockoffs, why telling him to' look at those shoes well sha' so if they are knockoffs he shouldn't wear them abi what.

honeyball:
Trust me, your over generosity to famiies will do you more harm than good. You are over doing it.

Set boundaries and be stingy for a while and see a what happens.

Bunch of ingrates.

Preach it oo.

At least the OP is the one seeing such entitlement himself. If it's his wife that's telling him now they will say she doesn't want them to help the family.

deadkamalu:
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What many of the governor's and magodo resident sympathisers don't know is that if the judgement affect just the poor the governor won't even acknowledge them with his presence.

d .

Yeah you have a point sha.

Nawa oo, these people have suffered on this case. Their properties were even demolished?



They should settle out of court. They will have to compensate them both in cash and lands, state govt will pay, even the Magodo landlords will have to part with plenty money except they want to carry their house away from the land which is not possible.



One case since 1984? Nawa.

But 549 plots in Magodo is plenty money oo.

Malawian:
Sanwo Plus should allocate Magodo 2 to Adeyiga and then revoke it immediately. The Land Use Decree vested all lands in Lagos State under his care. There are many ways to skin a chicken.

Loool It's an option

but that would be very harsh and more court cases loadung as they will challenge it.

otipoju:
Na it does not matter. Power is good when you dont use it. The policeman dey use wisdom...he does not want to be caught in the middle of power play. Thats why he dey beg say sorry sir...abeg call an by yourself.

I no want loose my job.

Loool, very smart CSP.

Those who work in govt and have been caught in between a battle of bosses will understand what he did there.

He smartly wriggled himself out.