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I have been receiving messages concerning 3 different people.

They even called me about on a pre-recorded message that one person I don't know is owing and he used me as guarantor blablabla, shey one can be a guarantor without knowing ni abi how.

Also got a watsap message about another person. Please help inform him, it's 68days overdue.

Got another text for another person.

I don't even know 2 of these people, the 3 Rd person name is someone I knew in 2016-2017

Due to the nature of my job I give out these 2 nos to everyone well and it's those 2 nos I receive those mssge on.

My main line and the other one doesn't get such messages.

To give out your phone number is now a problem, Nawa oo

The officer was smart enough to save his job and still being respectful to the governor in the process.

No be him head them go use settle fight.

What is the AGF and IGPs interest in this case?

Land is not federal land? So what's the issue.

There's something I don't understand

How did the issue even become a fed govt matter that IGPs team and AGF are now involved.

Is it not a private VS state matter issue that ended up in the Supreme Court? Or am I missing something

Or is it all land matter that gets to the Supreme Court the IGPs team gets involved?

What is the interest of the AGF on this issue.

I honestly don't Gerrit.

Simran94:
No I wouldn't.

The OP is not ready for marriage because someone told him to go and marry single medical doctor or someone who earns close to what he earns, Oga said no, that the higher a woman earns, the more difficult she becomes

Yeye people on NL.

This same dude can't even marry a woman earning the same 300k he earns.

The lady is very smart I like sharp girls.

The OP doesn't know he is asking this question in the wrong place.You are asking on NL romance section of all places.

Anybody has a right to request not to have sex before marriage, whether she is a virgin or not is irrelevant.


As for the OP

How to make it work
1.With prayer all things are possible

2. In extreme cases a cold shower will do.

She has told you her stand. If you know you can't cope, another man will come around.

BigBashiru:
No. Read it properly.... the op proposed to foot every major expenditure- rent, expensive food stuff and whatever op proposed she pay like dstv or nepa d woman also uses. The ops girlfriend is selfish and entitled. Not cool....

Then let the OP look for another woman that will accept his proposition Na if he feels that way.

He is dictating she will leave 35k out of her 80k salary and then also in the 45k balance there's

1. Food supplementation which can even gulp the whole 45k
2. Transportation to work
3. Her own clothing and personal needs
is included in the balance, s
4. Miscellenous

And the babe Japa, If you ask the OP now he can't even do housework or baby sit. She should have even proposed how to share house work to see his reaction before she japa finally.

Leave the lady with her so called selfishness and entitlement she's smart, very smart.

BigBashiru:
No one is placing any responsibility on a woman....all we are saying is that she went to school and therefore should be responsible for herself and her needs....

At least the OP is or what the OP placed is not responsibility?

Mariangeles:
On top 80k salary, you want make she dey drop 10k every month for trust account, 20k for joint account, provide "food supplement", make she still choose between NEPA bill, DSTV, or GOTV subscription...on top wetin?
Oga, how much wan remain to take buy clothes, cosmetics and toiletries for herself na (cos e sure me dai say you no fit buy those things for her), not to talk of find her parents something? Unto say she marry you?

Abeg! Carry your wahala go front!

The food supplementing part kuku off me, radarada. That food supplementing part will finish the remaining 50k left.

Radarada.

dmostcheerful:
Oga I read everything.
You all wants a woman to contribute financially running the family, do you contribute in chores, will you give birth for her?
Will you take care of the kids when they start coming.
Most of you don't even know how to wash plate, how do you expect a woman to wake by 4:30am make breakfast and lunch, leave for 2ork.
Come back by 4pm.
Wash the cloth, keep the house, do school runs and still be financially responsible too.
You need a woman to take care of the home money wise what do you do domestic too?
From that 80k she will make her hair monthly too.
A pack of attachment is 2500 she needs like 2 pack, then 5k to the hair dresser, she buys her tappon, buys her clothing's out of the said 80k.
You people are so selfish here.
Out of all expenses he listed he won't even be spending upto 150k.
He have over 150k to save, what exactly does the wife save too?
Also who should be responsible for clothings?
A man's major responsibility is providing financially for the family.
Making his family comfortable.
A woman's is keeping the family, cooking, cleaning, the kids and so on.
Look I am married too, any salary from my husband's pay goes directly to my account as soon as he gets it, I buy all that is needed for the month, give account and we save the rest.
You can't marry a woman and place financial responsibility on her, the early you understand a woman should do that voluntarily and a man should do chores voluntarily the earlier for you.
Except you 2ants to run back to nairaland with, "please help me how do I solve this problem in my family?"

@bolded Preach it louder.

Nwachi22:
Op, since you’re sharing the bills, I hope you will also share the house chores with her and assist her to carry pregnancy. I don’t know why men of nowadays now run away from their responsibilities.
Marriage is about what each partner will benefit not love anymore.

If women were running away from homemaking the way they run from provison I wonder what will happen.

Chores ke, lailai, he wont answer you.

Let the lady sef share 20 perent of chores for him, all hell will let lose. You will begin to hear the male ego, ego this ego that.

Provide wahala
Oya do chores now double wahala,they will say it's no big deal oya do it Na, wahala will start, they will start opening thread on NL about how they can't take care of children when the wife traveled to visit her sick mum.

Some women are even providing 80percent and doing all the chores and they won't make noise, simply because he want to be dropping chop money he must make a case out of it and share percentage

DEBJOCH1:
UNMARRIED AN INMATURED PEOPLE WILL BE HERE TELLING YOU NONSENSE THAT THE LADY IS BAD, SHE A GOLD DIGGER OR THAT, MARRIAGE AND FINANCIAL PLANNING DOESNT WORK THE WAY YOU JUST PAINTED IT NOW TO BE. THE RULE OF HAVING A SUUCESSFUL MARRIAGE AND A SUPPORTIVE WIFE 8S THIS. BE OPENED TO HER, DO NOT PURKDIVE INTO HER SALARY OR SAVING, DO YOUR PART AS A HUSBAND, THEN ONCE IN A WHILE PRETEND YOU DONT HAVE, THEN YOU WILL SEE HER DOING ALL THE UNIMAGINABLE, THOUGH WE HAVE SOME HEARTLESS WIVES, THOSE THAT EVEN IF THEY ARE EARNING 500K A M9NTH THEY WONT EVEN DROP 10K AT HOME FOR SUPPORT, BUT GENERALLY WHEN A HUSBAND ALWAYS TREAT THE WIFE WELL, YOU DONT NEED TO SHARE RESPONSIBILITIES WITH YOUR WIFE BEFORE YOU SEE HER DOING THE NEEDFUL AT HOME. IS EVEN A SHAME ON YOUR PART FOR YOU TO CALL A LADY YOU ARE NOT MARRIED TO AND START SHARING FINANCIAL OBLIGATION WITH, IT SHOWS YOU ARE NOT EVEN MATURED, IT SHOW YOU AS A MAN, YOU ARE THE GOLD DIGGER THERE, THE YOUNG LADY DID THE BEST BY SAVING HER HEAD AND RUN AWAY FROM A POTENTIAL RISK LIKE YOU. WITH YOUR KIND OF MEN NO LADY WILL WANT TO SPEND HER LIFE WITH A MAN LIKE YOU, BECAUSE YOUR TYPE WONT MAKE A BETTER HUSBAND, WHAT YOU SOULD HAVE BEEN CONCERNED ABOUT DO GET A LADY WHO CAN MANAGE WITH YOU, WHO IS NOT EXTRAVAGANT IN SPENDING ETC. AND NOT A LADY YOU SHOULD BE SHARING FINANCIAL IBLUGATION WITH. I. YOUR MIND YOU THOUGHT YOU ARE WISE, YOU BE MUMU, 70 YEARS OLD MAN.. EVEN THE ROAD TO....

Loool, Thanks for shouting it.

Once it comes to provide only, all these NL boys start hyperventilating.

Theonlysonofher:
Unfortunately my sweet mother left us

So sorry about your mum.

jedisco:
@op @theonlysonofher

I doubt your mum was seen by a qualified doctor. No doctor worth his onions will tell you what you said.

Since your wife has been corrected, and she is remorseful, it's best to close ranks cos your mum's seizures were not due to the food she ate

He said the doctor even said it was more than twice mama ate the salt, how he came to this conclusion is what some of us can't understand.

anungangampu:
Pure Mummy Boy pushed around by passion of two women. I can even predict that your mother will survive but you might be next sick person with the way you are taking emotion from both side hook and sinker.

How can your wife deliberately poison your mother? Did your marry a murderer or you are allowing your assumptions and emotion suggest your wife can't be careless as a human being ?

Be careful, your motherly care and gossip from doctors and others will destroy your marriage and your life before your time .

@bolded I thought same too

As expected they have infiltrated the thread.

adanny01:
To me, its no discouragement. It is opening his eyes to reality.

Mind you i met my wife a virgin and we were both virgins.

Marrying a virgin brings more marriage challenges than less, its a real fact that religious people will not admit leading many "virgin marriages" to fail.

Marrying a virgin is not all rosy.

Really @bolded, your own personal experience is not the standard.

Virginity is now the cause of marriage failures abi.

Nawa.

Hundreds and thousands of virgin marriages are still waxing strong.

You guys should stop dishing out stats that are unreal.


Anybody that wants to remain a virgin till marriage should remain so ignore whatever society is saying.

So how will the woman know it's the male neighbor knocking.

The man is the one coming to knock at another person's door.

He is the one looking seductively at another person's wife.

The wife is being blamed for opening the door and smiling at the person by the door.

Instead of the husband to sternly warn the man to keep away from his flat and wife he is blaming the wife who opens the door to her own flat with a smile when she hears a knock.

The woman should stop opening the door when she hears a knock, let him do the opening.

Some people are even shameless and don't understand boundaries, what is that neighbor from hell looking for up and down sef.

Your friend knows what to do.

So she left the house with her stuffs because your sister came for IT and you are thinking she will file for divorce.

You better say what you are not telling us.

Awesomejah:
Yes I know each pregnancy comes with it's own challenges and health related issues or stuffs like that. I am not generalizing that all women become lazy once pregnant.

Doing house chores and one or two stuffs to keep your home tidy is not much of a herculean task na.

I no talk say make person wey get belle begin pound yam and prepare banga soup na. Any hubby that demands that no try abet.

What I mean is that women should at least not become an entire opposite of that loving, sexy, neat and caring wife she used to be before pregnancy came in.

Simply because it was not an herculean task for for woman A doesn't mean it won't be for others, Also because you feel it's not too much of a task for any responsible person to do doesn't mean it's not too much of a task for that woman.

There are actually women who pound while pregnant and there are those who will be in and out of the hospital the first 4 months of the pregnancy.

Even with the same woman her experience with 2 or more pregnancies she has may be different, she can have it difficult with pregnancy 1, easy with pregnancy 2 or vice versa.

So for some they become totally opposite which it's not something they should be blamed for and they might even become a shadow of themselves especially in the first 4 months or even throughout the pregnancy while others continue as if nothing happened.

Congrats OP.

Kindly ignore the haters and bad Belle people, they will always have something negative to say about marriage.

Sex sex and sex, no sex matter on the show. If they were pressing body people would watch even if it was a 6 hour highlight every week.

Toke might not have been the perfect pick but she's not the main problem.

MT:
So vague and not measurable

Why is everybody saying it's not specific that has always been his style from time immemorial.

Dr Olukoya will not tell you specifically.

Thats how his prophecies have always been Google his prophecies of the past 15 years, it's mostly always vague and in parables its always left for those interested to decode.

Those that have gotten the information needed have gotten it.

Malawian:
Landlord no know Lawyer or quit notice. Him go just go Ogbomoshor come back and you go dey sweat every night even inside AC. Better pack out or anything wey you see, make you take am like that.

Lawly:
I'm also sure that if they mean my guy, na him go run commot from the compound by himself.

So, if you no want wahala, try settle with ur landlord or wear ur pride like agbada and find another house. Some kind fights are not worth

He should do one of this two- it's either he leaves in peace or he begs the landlord.

Any other option is a no go area.

Loool some people don't ever want to pay their bills, they will be fighting landlord as if he is Nepa, lawma and CDA (security money)

I read the letter
He just gave you a quit notice and put his reasons

Loool at " we are no more compatible due to your ruggedness, disregardness and always wanting to fight landlord and family. So by all means Mr Man you are no more qualify to stay with us"

"Please leave my house before ending of January in peace or else.."

The man dey vex Gan.

Oga go and beg him, if you like listen to those that will tell you he has to give you 6 months blablabla and to ignore him, do you have money for another rent agency and agreement?
This man looks like someone that will pour werepe on you he no send at all.

Beg him and end the matter, you too stop quarelling with landlord over Nepa bills, he's not the one that increased the bills Na and try to pay yours simple.

olumike001:
Prophecies are not predictions of things to come, when prophecies come, even the prophet goes into praying that evil ones will never come to pass. That's where the word intercessors comes to play. Prophecies don't have to come to pass except one doesn't take action. So to the poster, if you dream or see a vision that you will die, so you will go and sleep on the high way? Won't you take up the words spiritually with God?

Many so call Christians dont understand basics things of the scriptures. Prophecies are not the same as Betting/prediction game.

Except you say God fail.

Finally someone who understands the basics, king Hezekiah took action and 15years was added to his life. Jonah prophecied that Nineveh would be destroyed, the people repented and the prophecy was averted. Or was it not God who spoke?

When prophecies are given especially bad ones, you pray to avert them, Even some good prophecies that tells you the mind of God for your life, you can even pray for them to come to manifestation, the fact that God has something good for your life doesn't mean the devil won't battle you for it.


Now all these doesn't negate the fact there are false prophets, even in the Bible there were false prophets. The story of micaiah and the lying prophets comes to mind.

Saying a prophet is fake or false prophet because the prophecy didn't come to pass is wrong.
You even need the spirit of God in you to know a fake prophet, even the Devil can see the future anybody can conjur any thing and tell you what will happen.

But then this is NL where even some Christians don't understand the basics of Christianity and non-beleivers/atheists have an opinion on all Christian matters.

Solofresh2:
You can't fry chin chin with #500 in this present Nigeria.The flower alone is up to #500 and what of the ingredients?

Don't mind the OP jare

This season veg oil is very costly, e en flour is costly

Lucaslookers
Are you very sure she didn't have a miscarriage maybe she suspected something and went for a scan only to hear she's lost the baby and she didn't even bother to tell you about both the pregnancy and the miscarriage since she might have not even known she was pregnant.

Ask very well oo.

Thats how people open threads back then using pregnancy age on early scan to calculate if they are the owners of the baby forgetting the 2weeks the medical people add, claiming they are not the owners of the baby.

I am very surprised even your so called doctor friend couldn't tell you it might be a miscarriage.

I watched the video I don't see what necessitated the rant, abi is there more to what was said.

Cover your husband
Don't talk about the whole neighborhood
No perfect marriage


Just normal talks that's all.

OP Ignore those people posting nonsense about you, especially those saying he's focused they are from the pit of hell, you are right to be worried, you are right to even want to get pregnant after 3 years of marriage even if it's just one child.

You have a right to say your biological clock is ticking

Are you sure he's not hiding something from you.


Some of this people on NL are wired to be against women, same people that will be calling someone an old newspaper, are berating a legally married woman for asking she wants a child. the hypocrisy is sickening.

Just remember he can have a child even at 50.

Bulletproofgt:
Jafo is the Agbero in charge of all Tricycles and Okada in Lagos and was a puppet of Tinubu. Currently he is the Oba of Iba aka Oniba. I wont be surprised as Tinubu is replacing real royalties with Touts...It is a pity what Yoruba nation has been reduced to and peoplw cannot speak up.

Jafo is from the royal family his case if different from oluomos case.

The people / oracle deciding to make jafo king is another matter entirely.

Ego2:
Funny how you guys keep praising her and can overlook her been a stay at home mum with no source of income and her hubby not badmouthing her about it but majority of y'all would go head to head with your Nigerian wives for wanting the same..... talk about double standard smh

The bolded is true but did they really have a choice of her not staying at home? I only see a couple in synergy who know how to do what needs to be done.

He needed to work 2 jobs to keep the family running since madam was not earning which he did.

She needed to be a stay at home mum which she did.

She also realized his loans were much and he needed help which she did when she started working.

All those harping and shouting on NL will never ever work two jobs so their wife would stay home with the kids.

Tobijays:
I don’t get it , this man is a fool and the woman is manipulative. He would have paid off his debts if he had being on his own the lady refused to work nigger got to work double jobs to balance the household instead of paying his debt get a job simple and let the man do one job, slowly the man is dying if it wax the man that said he want to be a stay at home dad will she get double jobs ? I know the standards of naija women have made y’all feel the woman is great but she sef be wolf for sheep clothing

Off course someone had to do this.

Have you forgotten the part where she had to stay at home to take care of the children, even if she was working child day care costs would have taken most of what she earned anyway.

It makes sense for one parent to stay at home there, child care is expensive.

Yes you must pay the full LAWMA bill

Where is your location in Lagos?

Is it a residential or a commercial premise