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Toks2008:
The day you ladies wake up from your deluded slumber is the day you lot will be liberated.

MEN DON'T CHEAT and only married ladles commit Adultery and ofcourse the man they sleep with but if a married man decides to be with a single lady, there is no single crime in that as long as he wants her as another wife and not just fvking her.

I wrote a thread concerning this recurring issue. Perhaps you should take a look at it.

https://www.nairaland.com/5492915/opinion-present-day-woman-misplaced-priority#83457096

Cc: Lalasticlala

Oga this is 2022 I know you are entitled to your opinion but stop all these your yarns abeg. Haba. Be talking heresy here and there.

Men don't cheat indeed.

The problem is the position of the labellings and then all of them made the mistake of labeling the breast bone, the ribs etc on the arm.

How can a student label the arm and call it breast bone, rib etc. Not even one of them attempted to label the parts of the skeleton properly

MBA.

BigYash:
I no too blame the bad belle people, na people when no fit live their life without involving social media I blame..
Some people I know.. If them eat what'sapp status, if them never eat whatsapp status. If them ill whatapp status, if them broke WhatsApp status. If them get issue with person, WhatsApp status. Sometimes I wonder,if they are living for people..

Loool them plenty for my contact list, all I need to do to know what's up with their life Per time is to check their watsap status, sometimes I get scared on their behalf with the sort of things people post, one even accused me of viewing her status, and not asking her what the problem is.
Me that I just glanced through I didn't even read it. Make I dey decode cryptic messages that you dint send to me direct abi. I think it's just for attention.

Even if you want to advertise yourself, kindly keep the children out of SM.

I know in Lagos State public service native is allowed for interviews, facing of panels, any official stuff. But as a guy you have to put a cap to complete the dressing else it's not accepted. I am not sure if gele is compulsory for the ladies.

Dchampion65:
Let me be sincere with you,

She is wiser than you think.

Her strength is in her meekness. You can never win against her.

Better make sure you sincerely apologize now and come down from that husband horse you are riding. Change the properties to both names or register a company where all the names of your children also will be included and use the company name in all properties.

Listen sir, your karma is waiting for your old age when you will not have strength to do anything.

I pity you, just know that she is not DUNDEE UNITED

Loool at least you are honest enough to tell him the truth.

The only reason why he's feeling this way is because she's making more money thats all.

Gospel2Day:
You're right.
This generation is NOT raising responsible, and reasonable males.
It should be instilled in our male children that they are to bear the financial burden of the family they will head and lead as fathers.
Sadly, all they fill their heads with growing up is exploiting and abusing females sexually and emotionally. They date girls for years and later dump them. They impregnate females and abandon them to nurse and raise the kids by themselves.
We have a disaster of irresponsible and irrational males/men on our hands in this generation.
God help us.
Shalom.

Thank you.

Parents should do well to train their boys very well, train them to provide, same way you train a girl child to nurture. Shikena.

They call the 2nd bolded red pill, Yeye boys.

Bjteensdes24:
Good morning nairalanders, please I need a quick response to this and your opinions; I rented a single room apartment on the 19th of February 2020 and if we are to count the months, my stay supposed to expire on the 19th of February (if am correct). My landlord came before the due date and said my rent expired end of January, we dragged that but due to me saying i will renew then, we ended that. Now this is 2022, she came yesterday to tell me I have this week to pack. Am I getting it wrong telling her my house rent expires on the 19th of Feb 2022 (which makes it 12months) or is that how it is counted( January ending which is 11months)? Location: Abeokuta

Your 12 month rent expires 18th Feb

Ogalanyaidi:
Thanks for your response. I just got married and I don't want a divorce.
Agreed, she is extremely intelligent and I can't really predict her intentions. How did I know?
I play card games well but she would always beat me to any game we played together, even card games. She thinks very deep and it marvels me.

Loool

You know she's intelligent, you too watch what you say and both of you should also try to stop arguing.

Since it's only argument it's resolvable, not everything is divorce abeg.

EagleEyes794:
The funds my mom used in raising me up. She could have used it to built a decent house and sustained a good life for herself but she didn't do that.

She ain't forcing neither is she pushing. But I owe her everything.

The bolded is what a lot of posters on this thread are not considering.

Not all parent are rich or will be rich, same way there will always be the poor among us, some parents toil hard and spend all they have to train their children without having any investment, it's not their fault it's because there's poverty in the land.

We can't compare the system here with abroad, in Naija a typical 18year old is still being fed by parents maybe abroad he can get a small job and move out.

Parents literally train children till 25-30 over here and if you are not financially buoyant enough to have a retirement plan, you may have nothing left to fall back to, when you are old and weary.

Some parents even make investments for their grandchildren as soon as they are born, some leave inheritan e for their grandchildren it's because they can afford it, there are parents that send upkeep money for their grandchildren, buy clothes for them do this and that and there are some that won't even be able to afford anything because all their strong years were used to serve their children.

Everything is not black or white.

Loool

All the OP is saying is provide and I will do my own responsibility, do yours

Just provide and all hell is let loose.

Lots of hypocrite boys on this forum.

See as they are insulting the OP.

Provide they will start hyperventilating and talking nonsense but they can kill someone's daughter with financial and domestic responsibility.

The ones even shouting most are those that can't boil ordinary water in the kitchen, they will remember its a woman's role, oya do your role now wahala will start.

NL and comedy ehn

GboyegaD:
One reason I feel many Nigerians need be probed. Surely, he's living way above his income; how is he surviving without corruption?

Loool ooo.

Shey he doesn't enter transport to work or buy clothes since he gives 40k to wife as upkeep and uses 10k to pay other house bills.


As for the topic, the point is the 40k is not what serves as upkeep for the month it may even be as high as 100-120k. Ask her very well maybe she's not telling you what she contributes. It's something a simple discussion or her keeping record of all money she personally spends as upkeep for the home (apart from the 40k) will solve.

After this you will know the real amount used to run the home, then you can now state your grievances.

GboyegaD:
One reason I feel many Nigerians need be probed. Surely, he's living way above his income; how is he surviving without corruption?

Loool ooo.

Shey he doesn't enter transport to work or buy clothes since he gives 40k to wife and uses 10k to pay other house bills.

Olarhhh:
Told him how uncomfortable it is combining all the responsibilities he left me with together with his sister and he said he expected his mom to call her back home knowing how he left things at home without fund a[/b]nd he can't tell his parents either cos they are the least understanding people he knows so we have to let her go on her own..
Meanwhile I don't have any issues with her at all, [b]we just don't get along well, their mom doesn't let me see my husband siblings as my own, she emphasize they are my inlaw which gives the girl reason to be rude and my husband is helpless about it

Nigerian in law relationship 101

1. No money dropped by their son
2. The inlaw is rude because you are a wife.


The point it they won't understand, that's how a lot of inlaws are wired. They will expect you to feed their child despite the fact you are struggling and the girl will even be rude to you on top the matter.

Maybe you should try telling them your hubby didn't drop much and you are even paying gbese and can't cope feeding an extra mouth. I doubt that one will even work because the mentality will be is she not eating why can't she feed our daughter too and they forget that ordinary food is now very expensive in Naija.

Too much teenage/unwanted pregnancy stories nowadays.

What happened to 'not having sex'

A lot of issues will be avoided.

Nawa ooo

Since she never turned a new leaf from previous attempts, she might never turn a new leaf now. It's just the truth, so sorry.

Do a DNA for that child when he/ she's born.

It is well oo.

I personally won't allow a woman displaying such signs to vaccinate my child.


They came to my children's school sometime back, they were not informed prior to that, I was called by the authorities if they should give my children the polio vaccine and I told them to go ahead, they also came few months later and I was like what of the one they collected about 8 weeks ago.
They said it's another general polio vaccination.

The children came home with the inked fingers on both occasions

How on earth will I not know that they want to give my child something to swallow in this Nigeria that anybody can wear any uniform to distribute anything.

The school is not wrong, the woman was being unnecsarily violent, it something she could come the next day for after the school has informed the parents.

The matter never reach to tear book she wrote her data, that singular act makes me suspect her.she might be fake for all I know.

Loool.

Not common anymore nowadays even in cases of babies wearing the same surname name tags.

This scenerio might only happen with same surnames and besides the mother has already seen the baby and carried the baby she knows which one of the two babies with the same surnames is hers.

The chances of this happening even in a general hospital which is always very busy popping out babies every other minute is very low.

A simple solution in cases of 2 or more babies with the same surnames is to add the name of the mother on the tag of the babies with same surnames.

Lovely couple, happy married life.

Nairaland connecting people since 05.

Richy4:
Actually u did nothing wrong... I would have done the same.... but what we have to look at is the opportunity cost of the choice u made...for me what you gave up was more than what u gained...U gave up a job that would have taken u away from labour market for dignity and professionalism...

Is it worth it in a country like Nigeria were unemployment is high?...How soon do you think u can get another opportunity like that?
I mean such decisions are made in a country where unemployment is at the barest minimum.... I admire your courage though...

@bolded I love it when people say it as it is

You are in touch with reality.

The point is - Is it really worth it in this our country.

It's very competitive and expensive but people are getting admitted.

I heard you can't get pregnant for the 3 years.

Once you have your husband's support and arrangements to take care of your child(ren), it's just 3 years make the sacrifice you will be better for it. Wish you the best

Mayyvin:
Sent my CV last week and I got a response last night from the MD of the company that I should come for the interview by 9AM on Tuesday.

At about 7AM this morning, I got a call from him telling me that the venue has been changed but the time remains the same.

I said no problem. After all, the new venue is closer to where I reside.

I got to the office at about 10 minutes before 9AM. I was told to wait a little.

At about 9:15AM, I called the MD just to inform him that I'm around.

He said I should wait for 10 minutes that he's in a meeting.

Well, After waiting for over an hour twenty minutes, I picked up my bag and left.

15 minutes after leaving, I got a call from the man asking me where I am. I told him that I already left.

He asked me why I'd leave even after he had obliged me to wait.

I told him that I had other commitments scheduled for today and I can't work for someone who doesn't respect time.

Was I too impatient?

you told that to a prospective employer? Very wrong move. You were impatient, if you had just left its still okay, but for you to tell him you can't work with someone who doesn't respect time is quite damning as you don't know the emergency meetings he had to hold. Besides he told you he was in a meeting, I would have assumed it was an impromptu one. Patience is a virtue.

You didnt need that ' I can't work with someone who doesn't respect time' statement, it was not necessary.

Well my job, we were scheduled for a 12pm Final interview, was there way before 12 and the interview took place about 5.30 something pm.

When we even saw the people going in and out of the MDs office we were like Na wa ooo, will it even get to our turn like this the HR would go in to remind him, another set of people will come and override us, it is a govt agency so it's expected, so possibly for a private firm a schedule might be met even at that schedules in private firms change.

I couldn't even take the risk to go and eat because it might be that time he will call us to the board room.

Hmmm may God help the church.

The gates of hell will not Prevail over his church.

God help the church.

The church should never lower the standard to please youths it should be the other way round, members are to conform to church
Many churches have lost it for this simple reason.

And deeper life is a CHURCH I admire for their very strong doctrines and ability to maintain them for a very long while.

All these controversies and the set of incidences which led to this are Manipulations from the kingdom of hell to pull down the church. It's not about the ministers invited or the protest, the end goal is to scatter that church. It is well ooo.

Well since they say it's only for interstate vehicles and it's cheaper that the amount they pay before it seems okay.

Kobojunkie:
Your brother does not even pay a kobo for the child's upkeep, not even undercover but na the wife issues you dey query instead?

Inlaws will always be Inlaws

They can't call their brother to order to at least drop chop money for the child, it's the wife that is handling the issue the best way she deems fit they are accusing.

Handle your blood the way you want to.

Then let her handle the matter the way she wants to. No be ordinary block she block una shuu, it's not like she's maltreating the girl or something.

Leave her now, you are even saying shebi she's forgiven, woo just drop matter oo.

Face your brother call him to order to be responsible for his child.,leave his wife alone.

Richy4:
Just thinking aloud...All these people throwing insults left, right and centre, calling OP names and making derogatory remarks to question his manhood,

Do they handle insults as calmly as the way OP was doing?...If they don't why do they do it?.. Can't people pass their messages across without insults? Does insulting people make one's post more remarkable on this forum? ...

This is one of the most hypocritical thread I have ever seen for a long time...
Everyone is now forming marriage adviser.. Holy Michael... even those that cannot talk to a woman offline are suddenly alpha male who takes charge in their relationships...I guess this is one of the beauty of a faceless forum ...

Solid points, if he likes he should listen to advises of those who know nothing else to do but shout simp simp up and down and wannabe repillars.

There's some good advise there, but I know he won't go with that, he needs some boys to validate his actions or inactions.

KingAzari:
@OP
Your marriage has already crashed. Move on.

You created the problem for yourself. That woman was out to destroy you and you played to her gallery. I would rather carry a prostitute to my house and fvck her on my matrimonial bed than put myself in a situation where I'd have to deal with, for the rest of my life, the stigma of being called a rapist and woman beater. God forbid.

Forget the matrimonial title, if you could rape your wife, you can rape any woman. No woman is safe around you in terms of sex. You violently raped your wife, which woman would you not rape given the same or similar circumstances? How do you explain to your daughter that her mom left you because you raped her? You don't deserve to have custody of your daughter because she's not even safe with you.

I don't care whether she denied you sex for a decade, there're many ways you could have navigated through it without violently violating her. Such a despicable act.

Quit the pity party and move on with your life as you bear the consequences of your action. Whether she was your wife or another woman, rape is rape.

The bolded is what a lot of people just don't understand.

Mariangeles:
Seriously??
You didn't see anything wrong with what she did?
She made a fool of the op.

I didn't in all honesty

He claims to see her as a sister, a brother would not be vexed his sister is going out on a date with another guy even after he has made plans to stay with her all day. A brother will even encourage her to go on the date he will just vex small for canceling his appointment and it will end there, he's not supposed to be this pained.

Except it's not a sibling relationship which he's portraying here.

22o62021:
I don’t have a problem with her going out with another man but she made me cancel my plans for dat day because she told me she was coming to spend the day in my house and she don’t want me to go out

But she came, controlled another man to my house and went out with him barely 20 minutes after she came. I was angry because she knew that what she was doing was bad and still went ahead to do it.

Na see finish na

But it's a sibling relationship according to both of you though it seems wrong, a brother would over look it as since you both see each other as siblings it not supposed to be a major issue. Except there's something else you are not telling.

Ishilove:
I don't understand this story. Op sees the girl in question as a sister, but he got mad when she went on a date with another man. Since you don't have any intimate dealings with her why are you now upset that she is being intimate with other men? Were you catching feelings??

Abi na me no read the story well?

Loool, I was thinking if I read another story.

You see her as a sister, she sees you as a brother you are vexing, I just don't Gerrit.

Anyway maybe he needs validation from the romance section boys.

OP, she said she needs space give her space, she's traumatized, how can't you understand that?

Give her space, you might inform your parents or someone you look up to on what you did and the effects.


hope and pray things change with time


Thats all.

crackhaus:
I didn't believe this story the first time, I still don't believe it now.

Which part don't you believe?

The part that he his wife denied him sex or the part he slapped(I think it will be blows actually) her saw her bleed and then still raped her or the part that she moved to her parents place.

The dude is even talking about how he's providing 85percent. he still doesn't know what's up.

Anyway I see some romance section boys leading him on.


It is only God that can heal that marriage.


I actually remembered the there's 'no marital rape thread' that rocked family section sometimes back. Well this is rape and its in marriage so it qualifies as marital rape.

BigDawsNet:
Was still little den ...

I refused to go to church on that Sunday

I told ma folks...just go on I will meet you guys soon...

As they drove out...
I lock gate..

Switch On my Nintendo game...
I played for hours... My mind was telling me..."Dawson shebi u no u haf diee today Sha"

Was like... Yes I know nah...

Las Las... They came back home looking like Kane of WWW does years...

My Dad enter his room and bring out better Para military belt made of Leather and Iron...

I shop better beating Dat they...
Since den before i con later turn 21.. na me go first prepare on Sunday morning...