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Why are you asking me whether I know iice in person? The most important thing you need to know is that she is a responsible lady and highly principled. You have been to her thread that had been running for almost two years, did you see where she ever attack anyone, or use dirty languages?

Man, I needn't tell you much. If I have not known you a little bit, I won't have bothered. No doubt, undesirable elements are on the forum. Don't be surprise when you find that someone you thought as a nobody is actually a respected member of the society. Be friend with all. Learn to show restraint. Know when to stop wicked joke. Be yourself and play safe. Ko ju be lo!

Beyond the northern element, isn't there more important issue this man have raised?

Like the manner Yaradua seem to be fighting corruption while Ibori lead in decision making?
The frank talk on how Soludo glamoralize the office of CBN,
The revealation that a Northerner is the richest blackman in Africa etc

It is time we learn to discuss issues and leave tribalism out of the question.

Was Adam dress in gold or Diamond?

Why do you love "smallies?"

Anyway, whatever decision you make, ensure that they are not meant to revenge. I don't want to pass judgement on that girl until I hear her side of story. For now, enjoy yourself!

OMG! I feel for you, madam poster. But it doesn't have to be depressing. You can solve the riddle if you calm your nerve and do what is right. . .

I wish I know more of what happened. I can't say more than this in the light of my limited knowledge.

Hmmm easier said than done.

So amazing!

@eyo,
First of all, I want you to know that iice is a wonderful lady who have never (to the best of my knowledge) insult anyone directly. Yes, she is a no nonsense lady but very, very slow to anger. I know her well and therefore strongly believe you must have said something wrong. But, she may not be the one that banned you.

@topic,
I should ask you what do you want from the girl. The girl is already showing you that she is immature and you are trying to join her. Isn't it time for you to take control of your life and decide once and for all what you want rather than allowing a teenager to run you like that?

Go back to my earlier post and read how to place a stop loss order.

The girl obviously want you. But the two of you must stop playing chicken game. If she won't stop, the look elsewhere and stop being played like football.

@poster
it means you are a nobody!

Hmmm! Persist. If she turn out to be telling the truth, you will have yourself to blame if she dump you when you are already thinking you are in.

But if she turn out to be telling lie, you can win and you can lose. You can lose if it turn out that she doesn't actually want you as a partner but friend. You might have misinterpreted her being nice and friendly to mean she is "tripping" for you.

So what should you do? Leave her? That isn't the best advice either. Some ladies stupidly play hard to get until they lose their man.

My sincere input is that you stop bothering her about love. Yes, stop talking about love and switch your conversation to normal friendship type. While doing this learn to do without her and mentally begin to look for replacement.

If you want to hit her well, then act as if she mean nothing to you except "just a friend." Make yourself scarce and let her have time for whoever she is in love with. If she flirt with the guy openly, get your own gal too!

You know what? While you are "just friend" you will notice whether she was lying about the guy or telling the truth. If you are smart, it won't take you long to figure out.

Don't be desperate about women. Learn to be in control. If you lose her, you will get a better one.

Suddenly, I am in love!

Let us be honest. We can't blame guys for having sex with girls if it is not rape.

To the best of my knowledge, if the act takes place in the privacy then both party should be blame. Any girl that knowingly walk into a man's beroom, then allowed the man to have intercourse with her without raising alarm is as guilty as the man who rode her.

We must realize that sexual energy is like intoxicant, it overpower whoever exceed allowable limit. We can't blame the beer or the bottle of beer for our drunkeness, we must blame ourself for taking the drink.

A lady called men oloshi oloburuku above. That is not a good statement at all. It is only possible you know something we don't know.

Dont just forgive, learn from it.

There should be a law in the country that jail people who exhume the ghost of biafra. Just as we have in Germany for those anti jews nazis. That way, the matter will die naturally.

What evidence do you? And what gain will you make of it if you report? This is the best time to shut up and act as if nothing happened.

@iice,
i come online as irregularly as I can but I have not been havhng time to go round the forum.

@mukina,
e go beta!

Glad my people are doing well, I salute you all oo!

@poster,
First, you can't blame the guy for having affair with your sister. In reality, both of you never dated. But in your heart, you wanted him. That was why it was painful to you.

I will explain it this way. If your sister look like you and is mature, then, the guy merely transfered the unfulfilled desire to her. He may also have been encouraged by your sister. You are partially responsible. When you noticed that your sister is having affair with him, you should, honestly have handled the situation differently. It seem your hard talk merely encouraged her the more. But that is history. A lesson for you and other ladies: NEVER KEEP YOUR SUITOR WAITING FOR TOO LONG. It is either a yes or No. No waiting game.

On your sister. Talk to her first without bitterness. Let her be assured that you bear her no grudge. Then counsel her on the danger of abortion. Also find out the type of relationship she had with the guy. Perhaps it was "accidental discharge" or "temptation.

Talk to the guy also and try to convince him to accept the baby. Do it without thinking of the past. If he is well-to-do, let him know that it well with you as long as he'd made his choice in your sister.

If it work out fine, let them be. If he insist on abortion, then go to step 2!

Eyo, dont post any picture o. You will hurt your gal!

See u later.

@poster,
it seem to me that your guy is a bit bored. From your last reply, it seem he is honest until other women start coming. His age also betray his maturity.

Why not try what crazykid said above? It may help.

Try that for a start. Afterward, we will see what happen next.

There is nothing wrong in reading Mosssab in prayer although some people try to avoid reciting it.

When you read the meaning, ou will find that it is not a direct curse. Anyway, there is nothing wrong. In fact everytime you hear that they read the whole quran in prayer, it is inevitable that Masab will be read.

Allah know best

I wonder why people can't ive their lives just because they are overaged and unable to find a good man,

As for the guy that blame them all and labelled them as being promiscious, you will soon find out why some women are left behind,

I do not like the way some people mock others when there appear to be a kind of short-coming,

the same people will have their own problem and hit it away from the world. It take courage for someone to come to public and discuss his or her life,

I am of view the the relationship eyo was talking about is not yet over, it MAY come back stronger and it may not. The truth is that, anything can happen, depending on how it is handled,

This look like a re-union party of sort.

Wait, what is happening? I hope this thread will answer my question.

Mr Eyo,
if what you said are true, then, I can tell you that you are the one who is wrong! I am sorry to say this. You are acting more like a kid than adult. I like to be honest with people. It doesn't matter whether it sound nice or not.

Recall what I told you on fb? You didn't get in touch afterward because you are excited at her return. The result is that she may return without you getting the answer you are seeking!

Let me remind you that your motive of opening this thread include:
to know the reason she started withdrawing from you. The reason she changed toward you. And the reason she still collect your gifts in spite of her withdrawal. And you also want to know whether she is into someone else down there or she is just playing game.

Take a look at what you have done in the past few days and ask yourself whether you have got exact (not gessimate) answer to your questions.

Let me explain something to you. At 17, a child can be bright and mature in the manner he/she communicate, but he/she is still a child. Once a while, the child in that person will manifest. That is what is wrong with your girl.

Secondly, anyone who have passed through radical change of faith will tell you that the first phase are often accompanied with fighting desires and battling what look like obstacle to the growth of their faith. I went through that stage and I know a lot of people did.

If she was converted to born again and she demonize you, while wanting you to join in her faith, then she is doing what many underaged new converts do.

You are wrong to think that since she use occasional bad words, she isn't a convert. As a new convert, she will be battling her past and people that are obstacle to developing her faith. To know whether she was lying or not will only happen when you listen to her and let her do the talking.

I think she still want you. But since you are not ready for her craps, the best is to let her go. Tell her it is over. Better part in peace than live in agony!

@poster,

You are a man. Men don't run away from challenges. You should exert your will power and control you lustful desire. That is the greatest virtue in men. Real men don't let emotion run them down.

When you take cntrol of situation, you will win the respect and admiration of even your enemies. Never try to avoid loving, you may end up in regret. Never rush to love, you may end up with broken heart,

What you feel for her is normal and most men do. But when you show her that you are fighting your emotion for her, you are showing her that you are a weakling. the more she see of this,the more she play hard o get. And the less your chance of getting her.

For all I know, what you feel for her might as well be a rsult of your loneliness and your lost of the first lady. and it could also be lust in capital letter.

The only way you can find out the truth is to control your emotion and be "just friend" with her,

Yes, those are probable signs that she has softspot for you. But they are not enough to conclude that she want to be with you. Women may like you, but still refuse to date you. It is women nature.

Like I said, be friend with her and you will find the answer that you seeks. Just don't spoil the show by making declaration of love from the onset.

Also be friend with other ladies that will help you stabilise your emotion.

Holy fraud!

Is there no way by which some of us can seperate issues from personalities? Why, for God sake must we abuse an elder just because he is nice enough to be among us and share his opinions?

Why can't we for once show the world that we are humans and treat our fellows like they are just there to make up the number?

My heart bleed for this generation. So, so sad!

Strangleyo,
I do not know who you are refering. I also want to believe that you have not done your own investigation.

No one, even among the market women want Fashola to stop cleaning up lagos. Please try watch a programme on LTV where these women praise him. But the manner of demolition and the economic hardship must be addressed. These people are being treated like animals. Go and see for yourself.

As for tax issue, you are deluding yourself if you blame it on the traders. I know, because I am proud to say I was without silver spoon. Though we are extremely lucky to have parents that made it and make life easy for us. I remember when I was in Primary school, the council will make our parent pay some money. They will bring receipt. We paid, weekly, and annually. The state will also bring their own levy. Then the Market union will also bring levy. If these weren't tax, what are they? When you board a Danfo bus, you will see difference kind of receipts from LG, State, union etc. That is apart from the road side Agbero, which is an exception, if those money are not tax, I mean money collected by govt, what are they?

On the land reform law, do you think if it is passed at all, the people that are affected before the law was passed will benefit? What happened to Maroko, Ajah land grab? Has the victims been compensated?

While we all love and desire a clean Lagos, we should be wary of making unfair comments about we know absolutely nothing about. We should know that while govt can't satisfied everyone, we can't always shut our eyes to injustice.

Fashola is choosing the wrong time to execute mass demolition. With global crunch and mass unemployment at its highest, it is only a reckless govt that will allow it policy to aggravate unemployment situation.

FYI, the project was conceived during Tinubu administration. He did some demolition but not mass demolition. What he did was to demolish one, rebuild it and then demolish another, while the cycle repeat itself.

It is easy for us to comment on issues that did not affect us. I was also in that category until recently when I opt to do personal investigation where possible. On the Railway issue, it is irresponsible comment for anyone to think the people enjoy trading on the rails. It is wickedness for govt to castigate the traders for not leaving when in reality, it was govt that encouraged them to stay on.

When I was young, I used to follow my mum, once a while to her shop, on weekends. We will cross the lane to reach her shop.I also know that two of our neighbours trade on railway lines.

After everyone had finished serving their husbands and kids, they have a way of coming together to discuss their respective experience while we children sit and listen. Even though my mum has not had her break at the time, I realized how lucky we are to have a decent shop.

The Federal govt at a time evacuted the traders from railway line, but the state and local govt, desperate of shoring up their IGR revenue gave them blanket approval to return to the place by ordering the traders to pay taxes, dues etc.

We must realize that these people are poor and their wares barely keep them alive. It is this condition that made them vulnerable to govt policies sumersault.

As for providing alternatives, it is a blantant lie from govt! They did nothing of such.

My mun had a legally acquired shop in Old Agege Market when I was young. She toiled hard and bought the space from govt. Yet, she pay ridiculous amount as dues, daily, weekly, monthly and annually to all tier of govt and market unions.

When the Market was to be Modernized during Bola Ahmed Tinubu administration, she had already moved to bigger shops but retained the ownership of the old shop. Guess what? Though Tinubu fulfilled his promise to allocate the new shops to original owners, the traders paid #250k-#500k to re-acquired the small shops. Those who don't have the money had to let go. Is that good governance?

Jimmy,
I have questions for you:
1. Are you truly 19 or you feel 19?
2. What is your vision of yourself in 5 years time?
3. Have you made you WASCE papers?
4. What are you doing now? Study? Working?
5. What class is this girl you are tripping for? Is she brilliant? Or she acts older than her age?
6. What are the 3 most important things you find in her that trips you?

The way you answer the questions will tell more about you. Please don't lie if you want the best for yourself.