chukwuibuipob: There’s even one that snapped his mum unclad pic and save it.The 2 boys beat their mum if she dare talk.If there’s no money to steal,they’ll sell her pots etc to play Bet9jA. May God nor give us misfortune children
frozen70: I feel sorry for the heartache they are giving you
Taking them to their fathers village may worsen their situation because they will contact their friends to send transport money to them and once they get that, you will never know their movements again till you see them on screen, either for good news or bad news
Have you tried involving uoir husband families or you families to talk sense to them
Have you tried seating them down have heart to heart discussion with them on how to move the family forward
If they made their papers in WAEC, they should be seating for Jamb to get admission then if they get there, they will be busy, though we have the good and bad in the school but they will be in the school environment that will remind them to be reading
At this stage inform and invite both families so that they will say their mind
Boys of these days are more problematic than even the girls
Very soon they will go into yahoo yahoo, I even prefer that to being naughty and giving you aches
Then put them into prayers because am very sure their peer group is giving them the pressure that comes with peer pressure
The one that already have a girl friend
Try and invite his girlfriend and have a heart to heart talk with her and she could be of help to reorganize the senior one
You Prefer they Do Yahoo Yahoo. I Fear for your Kids!
Hezzyluv: They would come back. Let her just quietly leave the house for them and never let them know where she is.
The problem about this solution is that: if they become worse...like being Robbers....They can come back to kill their Mum for Not putting them on the right path and then Abandoning them!
eskuvoisrael: Please take them to the military school, if possible Nigeria military depot, they are highly needed. They are good materials for the sector. My elder sister has one little brat here too, when I talk to the boy as an uncle she will pick offense Right now if she beats the boy, he makes sure he return his own back. Seriously I don't know how women thinks. A Male Child is not same as their female counterpart, they need strong voice to bark at them when they go wrong. Most times its not by beating them. But that ironic voice that threatens.
@ the Bolded. This is Always the Problem... They think you are a Beast to Apply Tough Love.
Without Tough Love, the Result is an Incontrollable Kid much Later capable of Slapping the Mother
DAMIMONY: Are you an oppressive mother?are you always on social media?are you promisious?are you an insultive mother? Are you a power toxic person? Are you the type that curse ur kids? Are you the type that claims superiority? Are you the know all mother?Are you a moody mother.please check yourself,check where you went all wrong,check how you have treated this boys without apology,check what they have caught you doing.consider that this guy's hustle to maintain their self.its the little care and love he couldn't get from you that's making him spend on a little girl.be careful what next you do else you might loose them forever.wisdom is not power,not by age.send me your number for more counseling.but u Bleep up that I know
This Your Method (apologies to kids)...will produce Wild Kids.... once they mix-up with Street bois....You see wen
ibechris: I picked my belt to beat my children yesterday,and lo and behold my wife said,I should take it easy before they will hate me when they become adult. I then asked,is it that women aren't good in training up children or what?...although we laughed it off
U see,my father beat the hell out of us when we were little children and today, I cherished the discipline,the shouting and all sorts as an adult and I have come to love my dad more as my mum never like us to be caned.
Today,many women are complaining just like the above,but how does that solve the problem when the problem couldn't be nipped in the bud at a tender age.
This is no time to complain,have u sat down with them instead of whining and complaining. I remembered those days when my father used to stand us up for close to 2hours talking sense to us.,in fact,my immediate younger brother would be standing and sleeping but in all,it all turned out good today.
Solution:
Ground them, but reasonably. Grounding children is an age-old disciplining technique. ... Take away privileges. ... Your house, your rules. ... Let them face the consequences. ... Do not issue commands. ... Let them mend things. ... Give them more responsibilities. ... Befriend them.
Exactly My Point. Women Think You a Beast and sometime even help the kids to Hate You....When you Apply tough Love. That Tough Love is What Molds a Child Correctly. i swear. i can relate to your Upbringing 100% : The Result is Good Kids
Anobody: I'm a single mother of two teenage sons, lost my husband 10 years ago and have been struggling to cater for them singlehandedly. My first son is 19 and the last 17 years but I'm getting fed up with the disrespect and regret not taking them to the village so I could remarry.
They both left secondary school and working to save up for school and I don't ask them for a dime. My last son suddenly started behaving like a tout, pierced both ears and turning his hair to dread, takes my stuff without my permission and even to extent of holding my hands when I get furious to beat him.
My first son is dating a girl and spends all his money on her to the extend of asking me for transport fare sometimes. Sometimes they come home by 10 or 11pm and are ready to fight me if I get furious to discipline them.
What broke the camel's back was that my last son went to a friend's bday party overnight without telling me, my first son said he called to tell him he won't return and NONE OF THEM TOLD ME under my roof.
I've tried talking calmly, denying certain privilege and discipline but it keeps getting worse, my last option is to take them back to their father's village before I die of hbp.
I'm depressed nairalanders�, please I seek matured advice, thanks.
Please help me push to front page
This is Exactly What happen to a lot of Single Mothers Bringing up kids.... especially BOYS
BOYs without a Father Figure in their Life.....Go Crazy in when they Become Teenagers...
REASON:
Women are too soft raising Kids.... They think Sparing the Rod OR Overlooking their wrong-doing is the Best Way to show Kids Love..... It does Not Work!
Once they Start Mixing up with Street Kids....You are done for....
At some point, They Can even Slap the Mother....
Tough Love is the Way to handle BOYs
But unfortunately, When a Man is Discipling his kids...the Women Make it look as if he is a Beast.....Your present Situation is What he is trying to Avoid. (so that the kids don't turn Uncontrollable)
To me.
The Solution is to put them under the Father's Family ( They need a Father Figure) Look for a Man in that Family to Help you Strictly Guild them aright and Don't Question or Quarrel with them when the Kids Report to You that they are being Disciplined
DominusPrime: No difference to iron out here. She wants to live a certain life that the op can't handle. Don't decieve him about handling differences. You know that wild stage where virtually every lady goes through? That's where she is now. She's interacting with guys who are not as SIMPle as the op and truth be told they are usually more fun and exciting even in bed. So I think op should just move on. She's at a stage now and words or talking or long messages don't change such. She will calm down at her own time.
Around 30 - 35.....That is Settling Age to look for a Regular financially stable simple ( programmer, engineer, book warm, gentle, Loyal )Guy to settle down with. who can stay and take care of her Needs and Kids....
Octopusssy: These useless Agege boys. Born troway. No wonder people at Dopemu were running around like cattle without herders because of the rumour that "they are fighting somewhere" in the next bustop. This bustop was quite far from Dopemu, and stationed right in my front was an RRS patrol vehicle. People were running, trader's were panicking and packing their wares, others were power walking and looking behind them. There was a palpable air of tension. I looked everywhere and sensed no danger. Well, except maybe the danger of having my toes trod on by panicky feet.
I shook my head and told the person beside me "no wonder people ran like sheep into the Oke Afa canal in 2001. We run first, ask questions later."
subsidywise18: 1.Why do you have to share everything with someone
2.Also, look at it this way...your brother may be trying to help you. Gambling, chasing women, and going to joints are all bad habits that can wreck your life long term. I'm not the arbiter of your life, but having seen and heard far too many stories that touch that begin at those three things....be watchful. Gambling in particular can chop your money, including the one wey you never make.
Anyway, watch your habits, and also at the same time, no need to tell everything to everyone. [b]I don't go to bars, womanize, or gamble...[/b]and I don't feel the need to tell all my secrets to my brother.
Omniman: Some foolish people are saying nonsense on this thread and mod are looking like lucozade boost... The guy calling the lady prostitute n the guy that says she is wearing something revealing
AND You that is calling the Mods : lucozade boost.
Khoielvis: Na. I don't do anything with that dude. What I'll say is the only way to date inexclusively for me is of these discussions take place from the start. I make sure I have these discussions within days of asking any lady out by the way. So, I don't stay long in unhealthy relationship no matter the qualities the other party may have. Some issues are unrepairable and we must not assume ourselves responsible for them
You mean with all these your Great Strategies that You are Dishing out Confidently and Practicing , You have Not Settled down(married) anyone of your catch....and you are still changing them?
That means your strategy is Not functional in getting the best to settle down with.
Khoielvis: No na. Intimacy doesn't take place at the shallow levels. Just talk and talks and finding the right fit. Dating is now a mess anyways and many won't marry in this generation no matter how society spins it. Why? Many know that inexclusive dating reserves a part and wants intimacy, to initiate true committment. And when this committment starts, it almost triggers the idea of I've captured you irrespective of how bad I treat you, which makes it difficult to move on when the partner is bad
In anyways, intimacy shouldn't occur in shallow waters and financial compatibility discussions must take place thesedays at almost the very start of relationships, not wait for when situations bring them up
So...….you will be Collecting Money from all 10 different boyfriends (in the name of Sampling and looking for the right one).....But you will be saying No No to intimacy Right?
Joezinho: Mr Uche the coward from Alaigbo , hiding behind a cheap android phone to form Lion King online while lying down on his bedbug infested mattress waiting for his next meal.
PYO has balls bigger than your head and qualifications larger than that of your entire illiteracy populated community..
This is what happens when one's head contains more wool than sense.
ahhhhhhhh!
This is Fatality! You finish the Guy Completely....
Olaideolayemi: Being an Economic man..Cooking food are more cheaper,especially when you have all the basic amenties for cooking..Like gas,electric stove,pot and many variety of food in wardrobe,satisfaction is quaranted,belleful is sure,and little saving at the end of the month,depending on your income..especially at this hard times of the economy..where income is poor to spending..
Deepocean: No matter how, cooking will always be cost effective.
For you to eat satisfactory in any mamaput these days, you will have at least 1,000
Let say you want to eat 1,000 food in the morning, eat snacks of 300 in the afternoon and another 1,000 meal as dinner.
This will amount to 16,100 in a week and 69,000 in a month of 30 days.
Now, if you use 69,000 to get raw food.
Analysis: If you look out to fill your gas from the seller selling in bulk you will fill at an average of 700/kg. You will fill 12.5kg cylinder with 9,000 transport included.
Out of 69,000.
1 12.5kg gas +transport fare = 9,000
1. ½ bag of rice = 15,000
2 Bean = 5,000
3. Semi 10kg = 6,000
4. Garri = 3,000
5. Yam = 5000
Ingredients for cooking soup eg: Palm oil, seasoning and others =5,000
Balance = 26,000
Out of the remaining 26,000 Budget 4,000 for soup and the transport fare to buy the ingredients every week.
Remaining 6,000 can be kept for miscellaneous and evening suya and Pepsi while returning from work.
Impossible:
This your Food Stuff Supply CANNOT last 1 Week. if it Does Max is 10 Days then You have to factor in the Time and Stress of the cooking.....Imagining being a Programmer and cooking.....chai.... you go chop POP Beans tire!
pansophist: What people don't realize is that there is no such thing as a career, or I will put it this way, the people that have a fulfilling career are very tiny. If the job pays you do let you to live a respectable life, then that is the ideal. The idea that you must be in a suit with a tie in an office is nonsense. Arrant nonsense.
Human civilizations are not built on suits and ties but on hard grinding work. From the peasants building and maintaining railways to long-haul interstate drivers even accross countries, to the sewage workers, the farmers, traffic guys, and so forth. These are the people that powers society, the majority in the background, not the tiny veneer of men in suits that are sprinkled on top. These ordinary men and women are the heros of society but sadly, these are the people we don't want to be like.
In other words, we live in a cappuccino society, where beneath is an untold amount of ordinary men and women keeping the system from crumbling, but with a sprinkle of tiny men on suits on top. Lots of people depressed themselves nothing because they have filtered their vision to see the majority that powers society who are ordinary, to see only the tiny ones.
And here comes the most important one, which is contentment. Contentment doesn't mean settling for less, or not aspiring to be more, but it's about being okay with what you have while working to improve it. [/b]Probably Nigeria hasn't reached the peak of educated masses, but in all developed countries where most of the populations are educated up to 99% (eg Canada, US, UK), the majority of the workforce are not happy with their jobs, and even Ph.D. holders do taxi jobs.
This is sad to say, but personally, [b]I see how many of my ex-classmates torture themselves just because they think life after school should be nirvana. Some postpone the pain by taking more courses, embarking on more degrees, and so forth, but shifting the goal post doesn't mean the post isn't there, it's still waiting albeit, a bit farther. Perhaps if they could just see that the world is not powered by men in suits, but by men on rags, it shall be well with them.
At the Bolded:
Please Be realistic:
What Drives men to Excellence and bettering their standard of Living is Non-contentment. You cant be Contented with your present situation AND have a Drive to Improve your Living condition - Impossible!
Have you every heard of the word - DESIRE? You have No Desire when you are in your Comfort Zone! (contented) You only have to be Grateful for your Progress...while You keep the Drive for your End GOAL alive.
How can You say Self Development after living School is worthless Pain? Let me tell You - it is a well Know Fact that - if You Have a Desire to improve your Life, you have to Do more....a lot of Self development outside the walls to School( it is a welcome pain -price you have pay to Achieve your Desire for the Top- a better Life/Pay)
With Great Desire Any thing is Achievable....
But if You Embrace your comfort Zone ( Contented) your income will continue to shrink until technology will eventually make you Jobless
Be Grateful for current Achievement but Never be Contented in your comfort Zone... be Adaptable!
djojo: How sure are you that he is truly ready for a change, maybe he is broke and he needed your help but knows you wont do it until you see some changes in him. before you try to put him in any learning process, i will advise you first test him otherwise street guys are difficult to change if you put him in a learning process and Oga talk to him anyhow you wont be surprise that he might stab the Oga or anyone that makes him angry. First is to try and rehabilitate him because for him to grow up in the street till 24 nobi beans
The Ops needs to be Very Careful....he is not Hurt in the Process to trying to be Helpful. The Street No easy o
Danonym: It's been 4 days since the transfer was made. I contacted my kuda and they've seen the transfer has been sent, But they said they haven't seen anything till now. Also I want to thank everyone who responded, I'm grateful. I didn't even expect anybody to see this post.... Cus currently what's happening in my family and all around is making me feel very low. I hope I move past this
No matter how bad....Do not Think About Suicide!! you will get over it!
[quote author= post=113121196][b][/b] Yes, your company can get them arrested. Report to the police and get ready to get a lawyer.[/quote]He Might Spend More than 25k...to follow through with this case....
Next time make sure you use Established Agents and Also Do a Background Address Verification and Guarantors form filling) on Your Workers
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