Ifabernard: Na just service my girl friend de do o and they gave her bag of rice, spag, 4 litres of vegetable oil (4) and some other stuffs like that. She lives in my house free cos I have another place I live. I just visit her once in a while. As I enter there house she no de na so I carry one vegetable oil go house. U need to see the insult this babe give me. Even shame catch me sef. Next time I visited the house she don carry the 25kg rice to her friends place so I won't see it. Just fear ladies.
and she is Still Living in that Place for FREE? you Amaze me o....
Maverick777: Nobody needs your conviction sir. I'm not a journalist. Who makes a video of such situation just for clout? I'm not that insensitive okay, I'm an elder..
mfm04622: You go to an ATM anytime you want, you withdraw money with the card. You don't know banks spend a lot of money to ensure you can do that? They should spend all that money to make life easy for you free of charge? 1. They built ATM gallery, it cost money 2. They buy ATM, it cost money 3. They buy inverter and batteries, it is expensive 4. They pay for power (bill or diesel) 5. They sort money to put in ATM (you can't just put any money in ATM, ATM will only accept ATM fit notes). This is very expensive to do as you need expensive machine to sort, staff and other equipment for the sorting center 6. You buy data services for internet connection, it cost money 7. Them you employ staff to manage the ATM.
All above are cost banks have to incur to ensure you can have access to your money anytime you want. If you use your bank ATM, all these are free! Free! So how do you want banks to recoup the expenses they incur to provide the services for you? How much are they charging you quarterly? Even what you are charged for using other bank's ATM is to defray the cost of the other bank checking your account to see if your have enough to do the transaction and then doing the transaction. Another company provide that services that link banks together when needed. Even at that, your bank pay for the 1st 3 transactions of every month on your behalf!
the Above does not justify the numerous Deductions
1. The Money we all save in the bank is used by the Bank for investment and they get massive returns. 2. The ATM card is not FREE we bought Them 3. They even give almost nothing back in interest for Money saved. 4. There are Numerous other charges... some they even deduct without Notifying you (including you the defender) 5. I am also aware we pay for 3rd party transactions in ATMs and when you do transfers to other Banks 6. even though inter-switch does the linking of banks, they should pay from their Massive Business returns 7. You leave 1k in your account, in 1 Year it would be emptied by Deduction
How would you feel if MTN was
1. Charging You SIM card fee. 2. SIM card Maintenance fee 3. Mobile Number selected Maintenance fee 4. MTN Base station Infrastructure fee.
No Justification for the numerous Deductions Abeg.
I’m a student of FUTA in the department of Mathematical Science, which means I’m affected by the ASUU strike.
I’ve not been doing any work actually, but I’ve tried to learn Copywriting — I can write all sorts of copy, ranging from Email copy, sales copy, product description etc.. but no clients coming my way..
I also tried to source out for a job, I found two. One is ushering service, two working days in a week — Monday and Saturday with a pay of #6500 for the two days. While the other is Retail sales cyclists with a pay of almost #40k in a month.
But due to my present situation, I want to quickly actualize about #30k for an online course (this will further help me to be more better in my copywriting skills and more so, in freelancing) before mid July.
I need your advice guys, and if you can help me with any job I’ll be glad.
Thanks.
Are You sure That Ushering Job is not those Jobs pasted on walls..... its GNLD in disguise o and could be Kidnappers too. be very Careful!!
My younger cousin got both offer below 80k in ikoyi with pension and HMO or 80k in Ikeja with no Pension or HMO
He resides in Alimosho
Which would you choose and why?
BTW the Devil and the Deep Blue sea......
Alimosho to and Fro Ikeja is also like N1000/Day Transport so in 20 Days, you would have spent 20k on Transport
Ikoyi from Alimosho is suicidal except you relocate to Ikoyi environs But i think the cheapest you can get for Accommodation will be Around Ajah (Roomself = 250k/Year) Ajah to and fro Ikoyi is still like N1000 per day on Transport Alone. so in 20 Days, you would have spent 20k on Transport
Your Situation is very Difficult abeg!
Take Ikeja and Actively be on the lookout for another Job!
LCling: Please I just transferred my voting location state even I registered people .wt is now successfully I'm thinking that why not people should assemble computers and printer go to their communities or the neighborhood and help people out to register is free .since this can be done online using this address .https://cvr.inecnigeria.org I just did for the whole family now very successful application successful please share this information
chukwuibuipob: There’s even one that snapped his mum unclad pic and save it.The 2 boys beat their mum if she dare talk.If there’s no money to steal,they’ll sell her pots etc to play Bet9jA. May God nor give us misfortune children
frozen70: I feel sorry for the heartache they are giving you
Taking them to their fathers village may worsen their situation because they will contact their friends to send transport money to them and once they get that, you will never know their movements again till you see them on screen, either for good news or bad news
Have you tried involving uoir husband families or you families to talk sense to them
Have you tried seating them down have heart to heart discussion with them on how to move the family forward
If they made their papers in WAEC, they should be seating for Jamb to get admission then if they get there, they will be busy, though we have the good and bad in the school but they will be in the school environment that will remind them to be reading
At this stage inform and invite both families so that they will say their mind
Boys of these days are more problematic than even the girls
Very soon they will go into yahoo yahoo, I even prefer that to being naughty and giving you aches
Then put them into prayers because am very sure their peer group is giving them the pressure that comes with peer pressure
The one that already have a girl friend
Try and invite his girlfriend and have a heart to heart talk with her and she could be of help to reorganize the senior one
You Prefer they Do Yahoo Yahoo. I Fear for your Kids!
Hezzyluv: They would come back. Let her just quietly leave the house for them and never let them know where she is.
The problem about this solution is that: if they become worse...like being Robbers....They can come back to kill their Mum for Not putting them on the right path and then Abandoning them!
eskuvoisrael: Please take them to the military school, if possible Nigeria military depot, they are highly needed. They are good materials for the sector. My elder sister has one little brat here too, when I talk to the boy as an uncle she will pick offense Right now if she beats the boy, he makes sure he return his own back. Seriously I don't know how women thinks. A Male Child is not same as their female counterpart, they need strong voice to bark at them when they go wrong. Most times its not by beating them. But that ironic voice that threatens.
@ the Bolded. This is Always the Problem... They think you are a Beast to Apply Tough Love.
Without Tough Love, the Result is an Incontrollable Kid much Later capable of Slapping the Mother
DAMIMONY: Are you an oppressive mother?are you always on social media?are you promisious?are you an insultive mother? Are you a power toxic person? Are you the type that curse ur kids? Are you the type that claims superiority? Are you the know all mother?Are you a moody mother.please check yourself,check where you went all wrong,check how you have treated this boys without apology,check what they have caught you doing.consider that this guy's hustle to maintain their self.its the little care and love he couldn't get from you that's making him spend on a little girl.be careful what next you do else you might loose them forever.wisdom is not power,not by age.send me your number for more counseling.but u Bleep up that I know
This Your Method (apologies to kids)...will produce Wild Kids.... once they mix-up with Street bois....You see wen
ibechris: I picked my belt to beat my children yesterday,and lo and behold my wife said,I should take it easy before they will hate me when they become adult. I then asked,is it that women aren't good in training up children or what?...although we laughed it off
U see,my father beat the hell out of us when we were little children and today, I cherished the discipline,the shouting and all sorts as an adult and I have come to love my dad more as my mum never like us to be caned.
Today,many women are complaining just like the above,but how does that solve the problem when the problem couldn't be nipped in the bud at a tender age.
This is no time to complain,have u sat down with them instead of whining and complaining. I remembered those days when my father used to stand us up for close to 2hours talking sense to us.,in fact,my immediate younger brother would be standing and sleeping but in all,it all turned out good today.
Solution:
Ground them, but reasonably. Grounding children is an age-old disciplining technique. ... Take away privileges. ... Your house, your rules. ... Let them face the consequences. ... Do not issue commands. ... Let them mend things. ... Give them more responsibilities. ... Befriend them.
Exactly My Point. Women Think You a Beast and sometime even help the kids to Hate You....When you Apply tough Love. That Tough Love is What Molds a Child Correctly. i swear. i can relate to your Upbringing 100% : The Result is Good Kids
Anobody: I'm a single mother of two teenage sons, lost my husband 10 years ago and have been struggling to cater for them singlehandedly. My first son is 19 and the last 17 years but I'm getting fed up with the disrespect and regret not taking them to the village so I could remarry.
They both left secondary school and working to save up for school and I don't ask them for a dime. My last son suddenly started behaving like a tout, pierced both ears and turning his hair to dread, takes my stuff without my permission and even to extent of holding my hands when I get furious to beat him.
My first son is dating a girl and spends all his money on her to the extend of asking me for transport fare sometimes. Sometimes they come home by 10 or 11pm and are ready to fight me if I get furious to discipline them.
What broke the camel's back was that my last son went to a friend's bday party overnight without telling me, my first son said he called to tell him he won't return and NONE OF THEM TOLD ME under my roof.
I've tried talking calmly, denying certain privilege and discipline but it keeps getting worse, my last option is to take them back to their father's village before I die of hbp.
I'm depressed nairalanders�, please I seek matured advice, thanks.
Please help me push to front page
This is Exactly What happen to a lot of Single Mothers Bringing up kids.... especially BOYS
BOYs without a Father Figure in their Life.....Go Crazy in when they Become Teenagers...
REASON:
Women are too soft raising Kids.... They think Sparing the Rod OR Overlooking their wrong-doing is the Best Way to show Kids Love..... It does Not Work!
Once they Start Mixing up with Street Kids....You are done for....
At some point, They Can even Slap the Mother....
Tough Love is the Way to handle BOYs
But unfortunately, When a Man is Discipling his kids...the Women Make it look as if he is a Beast.....Your present Situation is What he is trying to Avoid. (so that the kids don't turn Uncontrollable)
To me.
The Solution is to put them under the Father's Family ( They need a Father Figure) Look for a Man in that Family to Help you Strictly Guild them aright and Don't Question or Quarrel with them when the Kids Report to You that they are being Disciplined
DominusPrime: No difference to iron out here. She wants to live a certain life that the op can't handle. Don't decieve him about handling differences. You know that wild stage where virtually every lady goes through? That's where she is now. She's interacting with guys who are not as SIMPle as the op and truth be told they are usually more fun and exciting even in bed. So I think op should just move on. She's at a stage now and words or talking or long messages don't change such. She will calm down at her own time.
Around 30 - 35.....That is Settling Age to look for a Regular financially stable simple ( programmer, engineer, book warm, gentle, Loyal )Guy to settle down with. who can stay and take care of her Needs and Kids....
Octopusssy: These useless Agege boys. Born troway. No wonder people at Dopemu were running around like cattle without herders because of the rumour that "they are fighting somewhere" in the next bustop. This bustop was quite far from Dopemu, and stationed right in my front was an RRS patrol vehicle. People were running, trader's were panicking and packing their wares, others were power walking and looking behind them. There was a palpable air of tension. I looked everywhere and sensed no danger. Well, except maybe the danger of having my toes trod on by panicky feet.
I shook my head and told the person beside me "no wonder people ran like sheep into the Oke Afa canal in 2001. We run first, ask questions later."
subsidywise18: 1.Why do you have to share everything with someone
2.Also, look at it this way...your brother may be trying to help you. Gambling, chasing women, and going to joints are all bad habits that can wreck your life long term. I'm not the arbiter of your life, but having seen and heard far too many stories that touch that begin at those three things....be watchful. Gambling in particular can chop your money, including the one wey you never make.
Anyway, watch your habits, and also at the same time, no need to tell everything to everyone. [b]I don't go to bars, womanize, or gamble...[/b]and I don't feel the need to tell all my secrets to my brother.
Omniman: Some foolish people are saying nonsense on this thread and mod are looking like lucozade boost... The guy calling the lady prostitute n the guy that says she is wearing something revealing
AND You that is calling the Mods : lucozade boost.
Family › Re: Is It True That When Women Have More Money They No Longer Regard Their Husband by OvertheTop(m): 4:48pm On Jul 01, 2022
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