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frozen70:
He should thank God that she has carried her wahala and liability away from him to another man

Truvelisback:
Woemen.

fasho01:
That's no more love but obsession

AFONJAPIG:
Exactly same happening to me now but I will never support evil, I got this girl pregnant 8yrs ago we lost contact , she kept the child, she got married same year I travelled out.. we started talking recently and she's want to leave the poor guy because of me, I only told her I want to take responsibility of my boy after DNA and I will compensate her as well but even if she wants, the boy will still be in her custody, but she's planning erupting with me and the boy and leave the kids he had for the poor guy ... God knows am not going to give her that

HopeNeverDies:
Damnnnn!!!! *You Live MUCH more Longer*


I noticed most single men tends to live much longer unlike their married Counterparts.

Honourable1901:
Can you imagine the rich also fight
One thing I know for certain if two pussy fight there's a dick involved.

Surrey2Bimshire:
It’s child abandonment especially when you have both parent and you uproot a child from his country of resident with the hope of you bringing them back only for you to abandon them there.

Speak to any social worker or child protective service agent they’ll tell you what he did is in fact a child abandonment and kidnap being held against their will .
That woman has a good solid case if they’re legal residence of Spain .and if they’re not she can use domestic violence and emotional abuse as a her means . That man is not smart at all

irunoko:
more implicating for the man if the woman went to the embassy and told them she was abandoned in nigeria.thry will investigate,fish him out and God help him if his purpose was to marry oyinbo woman double jeopardy.however if she's ignorant he can get away with it.first thing is for her to get to the embassy,call all her friends in Europe on phone and definitely he will be rounded up and made to face the laws

Some Naija men are completely unreasonable and not fit to be husbands.i wonder how his kids who are seeing all this things will be able to forgive him or have anything to do with him

Later some men will say children only focus on the mothers and leave the fathers out.he didn't even care about the childrens welfare, education or how they'll cope.its definitely a konji Influenced decision

When he's deported and given a taste of his medicine,sense Wil fall on him because if it was about the woman's misbehaviour, why also inflict pain on the kids.

Reptyle:
Painful betrayal from her husband. It may have been triggered by something the woman did. But no matter what he should not treat her that way. He can divorce her over there and let them continue their life.

But she needs to stop wallowing in self-pity and pick herself up. This is not too difficult to fix though it will cost her quite some money. This case will just be handled the same way you handle missing travel documents. She needs to get a lawyer and fight for her's and her children's rights.

The first thing she needs to do is file an affidavit for her missing passport. That way, she and her children can be issued fresh passports. Then she needs to approach the Spanish embassy to have her case reviewed and her visa restored.

I am not an expert in this sort of matter but I know it is not an impossible situation to resolve. A good immigration lawyer should be able to provide her with some professional guidance and support.

VenumX:
Mumu man. Make Spanish police catch you. Dem go deport you back to your sh1t hole.

The woman sef no smart. Abi she no go school. You no fit keep your own document and that of your children? Na your mumu oga come hold every thing.

alphaconde:
i have asked my self this question severally

how easy they say

what have u done for me

i am like

NOwazobia:
What I deduce from the story is that the girl was into the first guy because of money from the start, she actually accepted the second guy due to the help she got from him, and again accepting the first guy because of more money and a change to a better location.

Love is not in the picture for any of the guys.

ZUBY77:
If you like don't respect yourself and get stable financially first.
The same person you think loves you will be the first to tell you how useless you are.
You can not buy Rice, Diapers or pay house rent with love

frozen70:
You did well by informing her mum about your intentions on her

The next step is to discuss with your girlfriend and find out if she will marry you as you are not yet stable

If she accepts that, then ask her about their marriage rights and how best you guy carry it out without much fan fare

It's now left for her family to cooperate with you

Some women sponsored their marriage because then man couldn't and they lived happily while the man still finds his bearing

The only problem with such marriage plan is when the man starts measuring his muscles with the wife by being authoritative at home and there by proving stubborn

That will definitely not go well with them.

You can't be poor and troublesome in a relationship

ndukwechinasa:
I met my girl friend around 2015 but I was not so serious about loving her. Just wanted to make love to her normally or even become a casual friend. But my intentions did not work out as planned we both stop communicating.

Not until December 2020 when I had accident and she eventually came visiting me and bought somethings for me. I was so impressed for the kind gestures. Her care and kindness made me started loving her.

However, this love extended to her family. I always call the sisters and the mum at will. I also visit their village during festivities and their base too. She is kind to me that I can not imagine. I have grown to love her immensely that I don't have affection for another woman.

But yesterday, my babe called that the mum wants to speak with me. I aborted the call and hurriedly call back. I greeted the mum and she responded very well. She asked me not to get upset that she wants to know my intention towards her daughter that time waits for no one and again there are suitors coming but the daughter said she loves me. Finally she will not be happy with me if I dump the daughter in due course.

I just told her that I love her daughter so much and I also have the intention to marry her but she should also pray for me that things work out right for me.

Honestly, I really love the girl so much but I am not financially stable now cos I lost my job two years ago and I have been trying to put things in order as to meet up financially.

What do I really do now?

MATURE MINDS���

DimIsaac10:
The shit saved my name with Low Battery

Beedude:
Met online, claimed to be a big girl. Came with a Lexus on first date. I ordered something of 3k but she order 15k. I paid and we move.
2 days later, she made a disress call that she forgot her ATM at home while going to work and she already filled up her car with fuel of 13k in the station. So i should bail her out with 15k. She wanted to send the fuel attendant account. I told her bluntly, why cant u do the transfer from your own account since you only forgot your cards and not your phones.
She hissed and hung up immediately.
I helped her by blocking her on every platform she can reach me on.
Some ladies are just mad

pansophist:
Asked me to book for uber while coming, I did. While at the venue, ate so much and ordered take away, i paid, then asked for a uber ride back home to the island, i paid again. Another meet up, asked me to book uber again, while choosing an expensive location which I'll pay of course.

Mehn, I ghost her instantly. I can't be spending more than the minimum wage per date, I no be thief na. Watching as debit sms keeps entering my phone almost gave me heart attack. I don't like that feeling.

Betterprospect:
Good day Nairalander. I'm single, 30 years old. I studied agriculture related course at University level, and I presently worked in that field and I earned about 120k monthly.

I feel unfulfilled and I'm lacking interest day after day. The unfulfillment brewed mostly from my bosses egoistic and narcissistic approach to his employee, the insane working hours, and the lack of liberty, and most importantly, I feel I could do better. Now I have a meagre 2 million naira saved up, small? I know. Buy I'd like to pursue my passion in tech albeit from ground zero.

Now my dilemma is:

1. Seeing that I'm old and already past my prime for a career change at 30 yrs old, does a pursue of another career make sense?

2. Knowing that 2 million is small and would not last long. Does is it make sense to just up and leave?

3. I have a small biz I ideal which I feel could give me close to 50k monthly, but thing is, this is Nigeria and I might be wrong.

4. Should I just suck it up and continue for another year or two? Everyone I asked seems to think I should.

P,S. I worked 12 hours a day and its impossible I merge the two together.

CSNg:
Sorry poster! It is encounters like yours that made me get a taser for myself. I can't be caught in a situation where I will be molested and manhandled by anyone anyhow.

The taser is disguised as a phone so when your attacker(s) are at it, you simply make the top have contact on his skin (whether clothed or unclothed) and it will send about 250volts of non lethal electricity shock waves on his body and you can free yourself from their grip which will immobilize them for like 10mins or thereabout which is enough time for you to make your escape.

You should get yours.

Peppers Sprays are also available.

Ladies can also get theirs to ward off rapists.

Wow...
if the Guy collapse....Die nko?
250V...

Check my signature.

Slynation:
Omo...I tried as much as possible to avoid there wahala after the last encounter, I've got an issue with one about 2years back on a christmas eve when me and my sis went for Christmas shopping...!! For the barrow guy to cross the goods to the other side of the road where we parked, one agbero guy jumped from nowhere and charged us 1k5...Omo I shock, I asked him, then how much will I now pay the barrow guy?? his response was "nkaa gbasara gi" (na that one concern you) I was thinking he was even joking with the price but Baba was serious...!!

Me self wey dey vex say prices of goods don skyrocket all because of Christmas, I just told him that I won't pay more than #500, he said then we won't pass, say make I carry the load for head...!! Ahhh, I just gave my sister my phone and the car key and told her to go wait for me...

I quickly switched to Onitsha slangs + Hausa slangs, I notice say fear come catch the guy small, but e no wan looseguard himself because people don dey gather small small, I told him to collect the 500 if not I will pass through and he won't receive shi-shi, but he was adamant, I told the barrow guy let's go, then the idiot now removed one item from the barrow, na so I follow am, pin am with my left hand for wall, make I launch am better blows for face but I just hang my punch for air, I guess he clearly got the message, then one of their senior came and asked what happened, I explained to him and he cautioned the guy that the charge is too much, that he should collect the 500 and be going...!!

When I got home,I began to reason things, shey if say this guy hold gun or knife now, naso e for shoot or stab me all because of 1k5...!! I realized I allowed my emotions to get the best of me, since then, I began to comport myself around those people...!!

lecturer50:
Another thing that is surprising is that most men don't help a fellow man but would rather help women.

But when they have problem, it is a man they would run to for help.

Most men would not go to a woman to get help but they would rather seek help from a man.

But these are the people who like helping only women.

So if they have a need, why not go to women to seek help since it is only women you help?

Why go to a man?


If you are a man, and you help only women, why do you think another man should help you when you don't normally help a man?


I mean, it's very ironical.


Most males believe it is not proper for men to ask help from women.


They equally believe that as a man, they should help only women.


But when they have problem, they still expect a fellow man to help them.


Is it not totally ironical that you don't help another man but you expect another man to help you?


If you believe you must only help a woman, why not seek help from a woman when you also have problem?

I don't understand the irony that characterizes the life of men.

bepositive11:
True, but why does rejection have to be seen as disgrace in the first place? It's really nothing personal. In fact, that man should be happy that she didn't drag him into a marriage that she didn't want

Ninety6:
Judging by the man actions, the lady made right an important decision of her life.
MODIFIED- in life, everyone walks at their own pace, he who walks or is forced to walk slower or faster than he should invites regrets later. This is a life commitment and you'd need to be sure about the decision you make. A responsible "man" raised with good morals doesn't do that.

Timoleon:
E tire me. Why report to us when they can go and stop Russia, after all that’s why NATO exists. Are they counting on Using our emotions as weapons against Russia?
Let NATO ACT if it truly cares. Not whipping up emotional sentiments up and down while using the lives and properties of Ukrainians to play their games.

Prayfortheworld:
My sister is 24 she have thesame mentality with your sister and honestly is eating me up.

My sister has never worked before in her life, she ask my mom or me for money.. she can't buy anything for herself if you didn't buy it for her, everything she's wearing are mostly clothes i bought for her and she's still using the phone my mom bought for her 2018

I've adviced her but nothing dy enter her head. She's in higher institution
I go through her phone always she's a decent girl but she don't have that hustling spirit in her. I'm just scared for her because i don't want her to suffer in her marriage.
though she don't ask men for Money instead she ask me or my mom I'm tired the burden is too much. Someone that should be helping the family by now. Sometimes i just wish my mom gave birth to just me and our last born

Dawn91:
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SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -

I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.

I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.

December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.

When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.

This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.

We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.

Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.

She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.

Well, hello next morning!

Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.

We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.

It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.

She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!

She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.

By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!

Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.

Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...

I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!

It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.

I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.

We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?

Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".

I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?

jimtemi1:
have once been told that last statement by one stupid girl wey I dey fall for, she bluntely asked me did I ask you? My head rang, I don't know when water drop for my eye.i bought her Samsung blue face around 2008, just to make sure no guy outdo me with her, at the end na disgrace I carry come

jimtemi1:
lol,i give u 60%,the remaining 40% na for the guy wet wan Bleep the hell out if a girl all because he spent on her, not knowing he can't Bleep girl finish u do ur best n leave the rest at the end na the guy loose both money n energy. Sick n perverted mind set indeed

DanielAlhassan:
I searched for those books I can't found it

I wanted to download it on light reader