₦airaland Forum

Blessedmercy8:
How am I supposed to add value with my income that cannot sustain me alone as a single? Or you now forget how the same you men always kick against the woman depending on the Man for her needs? Now you want a woman to add value to his 100k. No be only value, na value bread * * chuckles**.

A man that woke up and says he's ready to settle down should be very very ready and not depend on any woman. I'm speaking from the men's perspective now. That's how you men tell us not to depend on our husbands money. So i won't lose myself just because I want to add value to a man in carrying out his responsibilities.

I gat "me" to take care of as well and the money never rish me.

Blessedmercy8:
In sequence to a post I made earlier on how couples can run a home with a 100k income in this present economy, which gave rise to another and yet another post where a breakdown was finally given, something caught my attention which brought me close to tears and this are my exact concerns and worries about the OP I made earlier.

Now, the man that gave the breakdown said some things in his reply to a commenter and in the tone of that reply, you could sense hes already feeling the heat from what he said in the attached excerpts.

This goes to show that while everyone was busy commending and cheering him for running a home with that amount, he on the other hand is not finding easy and is already planning to subject his unborn baby to a life of discomfort and that is just one aspect of the so many uncomfortable adjustments he might be forced to make if he still on that income but I reject that for him.

Now ma ladies, after seeing this harsh reality, would you still wanna go ahead?
The choice is yours to make and endure or enjoy the outcome.

Below is an excerpt from that post that made me create this post.

Blessedmercy8:
Between 150 and 200.

wiseone28:
There's a heaven for a G

ashewoboy:
Really! Na him their test come hard like that? Think say na better place to work.

GUY, them go Drill you for like 5 to 6 stages on interview.....
You will think is Oil and Gas job

at the end, they will offer you 45k to 50k per month....
if you Accept.....
they will Train u for 1 month.....
and then you could be shipped to anywhere ( branch dey for Nigeria)

Chymummy89:
You are right about the stages of interview but the pay is good. They even pay 13th month.

OtubuAKS:
Good evening house.

Should I Drop First Bank Contract Staff For Orange Group?

FireUpNow:
It will not be a top priority after having kids

rollandben:
Honestly I so much have phobia for sides runs this days with the way sudden Deaths popping out among the sides lovers ehn. Die there die here just because of industrial pussy. it worth running from o. May his soul rest in peace

FireUpNow:
From kpekus he came and to kpekus he returned. Old man at 55 still craving for sex, too bad. Don't let your erection be your direction. If any man on earth can control his libido such a man has conquered most life threatening problems

CaveAdullam:
1. A man must build himself for his well being. And as a result, he becomes a person people respect, love, fear and want to relate with.

If you don't respect yourself as a man, nobody will. Self-respect will always culminates into general respect.

But I do disagree with you on some cases.

Let's go.



2. Do you still remember alpha fvcks beta bucks?

Who impregnates women and make them single mothers and baby mamas? Is it the guy focus on his study or business. Of course you know, many of these men are players, bad boys, thugs, jerks. A man of self-respect will not.

Who are the men that are friend zoned? The ones that want to deal with women from a self-respect level. They want to always take things cool and easy with women.

Please, don't interpret me wrongly. I'm not saying self-respect is not important when dealing with women or for you to fvck women you must turn into a bag of shit. But what you must understand about women is that they don't view things from a moral and ethical point of view. They go where their feelings dictates. They don't care.

All of us have guys who are called "street urchins" in all of our environments, these are guys you will not want mingle with because you carry yourself with self-respect, however, they are the ones impregnating sister angels.

3. Do women respect self-esteem and high value men? Yes. But that isn't going to their pvssy. They must be stimulated emotionally and sexually for you to fvck them. If they really care about self-respect, guys would not be complaining of being friendzoned.

4. "COME TO MY HOUSE" is a direct game. He cares for nothing. It shows that he's on the pedestal and will not waste time jumping around texts and phone calls just to get her attention. He shows that he respects himself and time.

5. For example: I have a female friend in another state, we've known for close to 5 years now online. She has been asking me for some help, and I have told her several times, that if she wants anything from me, she should COME TO MY HOUSE. She always say that if she comes she will not go back the same way, and I always tell her is just one baby noy in her womb. Has she come to my house? No. Have I been preaching about sex to her? No. Have she received a dime from me? No. Does she respect me? Yes. Do I respect her? Yes (at least she has sense more than the average Nigerian girl).

6. Commanding what you want from a woman at a short period of time reeks self-respect for your time and well-being. It doesn't mean you are a bag of shit.




7. You built yourself because of pvssy, and you said you were not pvssy focused?

This is not meant to be a mockery but an evolutionary sexual instincts. Whatever women desired in men, men evolved to become that thing. And same for women.

"COME TO MY HOUSE" is a command.
"I'm a self-respect guy" is an attitude.

Both boils down to pvssy. What matters is one or both not metamorphosing into something stupid just to get pvssy.



8. If you know your worth as a man and have an understanding about women, by virtue of your worth, women will help you filter themselves. If you are a man of self-respect, you'll encounter with idiotic women less because you're not always around idiots.




9. Maybe you are misconstruing that every woman a man sets his eyes upon he must fvck. Will men want to fvck any woman? Yes. Will a particular man fvck all the women he comes across? No.

If the women that helped in you in your areas of life opened their pvssy for you will you fvck them?
Sex may never had been an open objective dealing with them, but that sexual instinct was lurking under your skin.

10. There are gender roles. Women nurture, clean, cook, serves as companion. Men provides protection and provision.

Women have nothing to offer because a man can get everything a woman provides on his own. Even other men can do it for him. The only reason for women is sex and reproduction.

Except for independent women, women can't protect and provide for themselves and kids. Even the state is made up of men who provide and protect them on a macro scale. Women can't get commitment or provision and protection from other women; any different men. And they also need men for sex and reproduction.

Men want women. But women desire and need men.

A woman can't boldly say "all what a man can give is just provision and protection" - because they are expensive, everybody desires it. Any woman that says that is a pathetic liar.

But a man can "say all a woman can provide is sex", and he can get it from different women.



11. Men can't care less about sex because they are damned by the hormone testosterone. You can deny it but you can't erase it.

It was even men of old that care much about pvssy, they became hunters and warriors to secure more women.

According to recent statistics, marriage rate is declining, the rate of active sexual men is declining. Incels are on the rise. MGTOWS are on the rise.

Men are not desperate for sex per se, it is an evolutionary instinct that makes them desire women in a haste where the sexual market place is deregulated. In ancient times men can easily get women because the rate of inequality was low compared to this day. Women will settle for men in their community because they don't have social media to scan men from different geopolitical zones.

The seeming desperation is because, 100% women are only focus on 20% of men in the society totem pole and are not interested in the other 80% of men.

Is self-control important yes. Is self-respect important yes.

Refer to 8 above.

Thanks.

Pukkalolo:
What you said make some sense at least on a rational point of view...but then recently after I went through my cousin's social media and saw the battalion men in her DM telling her to "COME TO MY HOUSE" in their own different words, then suddenly what you said doesn't seem to make sense anymore.....

(Note: My cousin's is very beautiful and she's 22 years: she's in her prime. Hundreds of guys are wooing her steadily and trying to invite her to their place. )

Yes, you're right in the sense that a guy has to test a girl to confirm female sexual attraction/genuine desire; at least the purpose is that so he won't waste his time, but the problem is the ''COME TO MY HOUSE'' part that you talked about.

Here's why:.

Most times guys think they have dating problems; but what they really have is "Self-Respect" problem. Their lack of self-respect is only reflecting in their dating lifes.

Back in the days, when I was struggling with girls, I always wondered why. But then I eventually realize that the reason why it was so was because I was trying to get pussy instead of trying to build self-respect. When I stopped being pussy focused and start being RESPECT focused, that was when women started responding to me differently and started giving me the treatment I want.

A guy who is pussy focused is all about being liked and trying to get her to come to his place and give him sex.

The truth is, if you develope a high self-respect... instead of telling a girl to come to your house, you'd actually be more careful about the kind of girl you invite your house. You'd no longer be impressed with just physical appearance anymore.... Instead of being concerned about getting sex, as a high self respect guy, you'll more concerned about not dealing with the wrong girl; you don't want a girl who's higly deceitful, gold diggers, drama queens, mannerless, bitchy, STD infected or any other has any other negative traits.


I see many guys say "women have nothing to offer and the only thing they can offer is sex"

But that's a lie.

If you're pussy focused, then it will seem like sex is the only thing women can offer because sex is what you're focused on trying to get.

I think women have more to offer apart from sex." Women can be very nice, nurturing and supportive, if you give them the opportunity to.

The first nice job I had it was a lady i dated back then that connected me to it. I've got ladies who bring food stuff for me and cooked for me. I've got ladies who has help promote my biz on their social media for free and many more...

If I was pussy focused and all about trying to get her to come to my house and give me sex, I might not enjoy those benefits. These ladies respect me that's why they do things for me.

If you've read any popular dating advice book for women, you noticed that most of the advice is often centered around playing hard to get and making it difficult for men to have access to their pussy.

Ond of the two best-selling dating advice books for women are "The Rules" by Ellen Fein and "The Power Of Pus*y" by Katty King. In this books, women are told that most men are desperate, thirsty and Hot for sex and men are all about "come to my crib". And so these books advice women to use their pussy to gain control over men and they should always not give up the pussy easily, and more importantly they should pretend they don’t like men that they’re actually interested in.


So, telling guys to tell a girl to ''COME TO MY HOUSE'' is almost miserable because hundreds guys are already telling her that, and it also re-establish the fact that most men are desperate, thirsty for sex and men are just about "come to my crib."

The sad thing about this generation of young men is that they are the horniest and most desperate for sex. Men in the past generations were not really like this. The reason is not far-fetched.

The men of the past decades were naturally strong and alpha because life force them to be so... Their women naturally respect them.
Most of these men were farmers, hunters, cattle keepers and soldiers. The average young man of those days don't even have the time to be telling girls to "come to my house" because he's busy hunting antelopes and lions or he's at the war front defending his country and trying to conquer territories..

But this generation of men are weak and feel sex-starved because we are not experiencing the harsh nature of the olden days...so we've got lots of time to idle away begging girls for sex.

I always tell guys to careless about getting sex. The reasons some guys are finding difficult to get sex is because they are trying to get sex... Sounds ironic, but that's the truth.

You should careless about getting sex and care more about getting RESPECT.

When most guys are wooing a girl, they are more concerned about trying to make her like him, trying to get her to "COME TO HIS HOUSE" and trying to get sex. There's nothing necessary wrong with that, but the problem is getting sex shouldn't even be the goal. The goal should be achieving SELF-RESPECT, and getting sex should only be a side effect of that.


Remember, this generation of men is the horniest, weakest and least respected by women. One reason for that is because this generation of men are more concern about getting sex and getting female acceptance..

This is why unlike most guys, when interacting with a woman I'm less concerned about getting sex and being liked her. Instead I'm more concerned about getting RESPECT...

The sad thing is, most young beautiful ladies often view men has Hot, weak and desperate for sex, so when interacting with a her for the first time, she's kinda seeing you that way. This is you should always seek every opportunity to establish yourself as a self-assured guy with HIGH SELF-RESPECT.

99% of the time, the woman gives you the oppurtunity to so you when she starts acting bitchy, rude or difficult... When you're more concerned about being liked and getting sex, you’d probably end up just accepting her bitchy, rude or difficult behavior, by ignoring it or laughing it off. And as a result, you won't get the girl despite all your efforts with her, and you'll be wondering what you're doing wrong.

A woman often provides an abundance of opportunities to for you to establish yourself as a self-assured guy with HIGH SELF-RESPECT.
For example, let say you try to initiate a conversation with an attractive lady, and you say “hi” to her, but she just looked back at you from head disdainfully and say "please can I help you?".

If you're like most guys(pussy focused), you would try to make a joke of her bitchy, rude or difficult behavior; or pretend it didn’t happen, and try to say something that would calm the her down and make her cheerful. By doing that, you're only giving her more power and re-confirming the fact that men are Hot, weak and desperate.

Never forget that when an attractive lady start misbehaving, she's clearly aware of it. She knows exactly what she's doing. She's curious to see how you respond to that situation.

In that situation, if you're RESPECT focused, you'll see that as opportunity to establish yourself as a self-assured guy with HIGH SELF-RESPECT. You respond by calmly and confidently calling her attention to her rude and difficult behavior: "That was rude...I believe you are better than this!”

You are indirectly telling her that you deserve to be treated right.

You'd get either of these outcomes:
1.) She gets more bitchy, rude and difficult, and then you respond by walking away from her immediately.
Or
2.) She softened immediately... and talk to you in a more respectful and polite manner.

The outcome itself doesn't really matter, what matters is that you've changed the entire dynamic of how she view you. She would never view you as a dude that is Hot, weak and desperate for sex.

The average guy is pussy focused and lack respect for himself--- that's why he's in the other room begging a girl that he should put "just the tip inside"

You can never see a guy who's RESPECT FOCUSED begging a girl for sex or relationship.

RESPECT should always come first. Sex or relationship can come later if they want to. You should never be part of an interaction where you're not being treated with respect.

As a guy, It doesn't matter whether you get sex or not. What matter is that you never accept being DISRESPECTED.

Stay blessed.

deavicky:
I was minding my business in my office trying to get out of tedious drawing I was doing, suddenly my phone rang. I checked, it was an unknown number so I ignored the call and continued with my work. The phone rang again I still did not pick. About 15 minutes later a text came from the same number that she is Mr X (my friend) wife that if I'm free I should call her back.

Immediately I had to call back.
She picked and start by apologising for calling but she couldn't just help it. That they are very broke at the moment even their little baby food is finished and no money to buy it that she had asked her husband to call me but he said he doesn't want bother me. She just had to take my number from his phone to secretly call me. She said I should send them any amount I can and I should please not let her husband know she called me that I can also send the money to his account.

I was not having much at that time so I sent 20k to his account only for my friend to call me later to thank me and also indirectly warn me not ever listen to such call from his wife.

My concern here is, why is that the same person that asked me not to tell her husband be the same person to tell her husband or is she trying to cause problem between us?

TheGidRedpiller:
Dear Kings, This is what a man with a GOLDEN PENIS looks like!

I LOVE THIS!

humberjade:
Yeah, she is very right. Most Nigerians, especially those who have been abroad for years want new comers to go through the same process of hardship they went through before making it. But among these wicked people, you meet very good ones.

But then, what I noticed is that, some new ones are ingrates too, some are very wicked; they are ready to even step on their helpers to make it. So many have even gotten into trouble trying to help their countrymen. So most people just face their lane, but some don't care, they help if they have the power to, but keeps everyone at arms length to avoid getting into trouble, except a very small circle of friends ( 2or 3). Some even stay away totally from the gatherings of blacks altogether.

Most times, you can't just blame them; individual experiences, if you get me.

TylerDurden:
Their main hustles are:

1. Local runz

2. Only fans

3. Dubai runs

4. Yatching runz

If you don't know what yatching is, it is the runz where these actresses go to high profile resort locations that billionaire Yatch owners frequent. They roam the shore bars hoping to be picked up by deckhands of the yatch who then take them onboard to hookup with billionaires partying on their yatch.

They earn upwards of $20k sucking off fat old billionaires and then are kicked off the yatch.

Nnegi is currently yatching her ass off as I post this.

Only fans is another avenue where these oloshos make big steady revenue of at least 10k a month showing their ass and masturbating to paid losers.

GODPUNISHALABI:
how that guy wey wear blue nd white...leg thin like that?

CedarHoldings:
Help me view this one, is the lady real?

oluwamichael93:
I can be so straight forward, I'm not here for friendship ooo, I'd like us to be fornicating

virginprincess:
It is only a shameless and irresponsible man that would allow a woman to feed him for good 6months .

spencekat:
Congratulations!.At last it ended in praise.Most of these superiors at work places, especially private establishments are wicked.Most bosses don't believe or they pretend to know that conspiracy can take place against a certain person in the office.I hate when they say everybody is talking against you and all of them can't be wrong.Toxic idiots everywhere.

robotix:
tah... more than what? is there any NBA player currently playing richer than Ronaldo or Messi?

Florblu:
The guy's look scared me

zakkxx:
Receive sense and run for your life! Stop asking us a question u know the answer to! Men are sometimes blind by beauty! Run oo God don warn u and u want to still enter

The GUY will still Send the Money.....

Louisfrank:
Guy on a norms, I would have advised you to just ignore the gal, but for friendship sake just send her 5k n tell her that's all you have, if she's responsible she'll behave like one but if she isn't she'll behave like a fool. Anyways on a normal note goan look for your future wife elsewhere.

By the way, you're not only been frienzone you're been jonzed.

Juoflife1:
I knew this post was going to blow.. 10pages now.. wow.. you guys are doing well.

hashtagged:
Idk maybe he bleeps better than your dad

Soulstar205:
That is called entitlement my friend. Some women just think a man owes them anything they want. I don't blame them, nowadays musicians have given them the wrong idea about romantic relationships.

ogatboy:
Lol, we would know how keen you are once you get visa.

Timetravel88:
But this is wrong, the allusion that we must compromise for the benefit of our kids should be threaded with caution. Old age is very unforgiving and we must also strive to prepare for it. Imagine a man who sacrifices everything for his children and is left in penury at old age with a mental breakdown.
We must learn to balance the two, as we raise our kids let's also remember to guard jealously our retirement plans. It is no guarantee that your children will be wholly there for you when you get old.

Martinez39s:
Yep. Go to elderly health care home or hire maids and caretakers. At a very old age, you wouldn't be able to do much and that is okay. Old age is when you should relax, reflect on your life, and prepare for death (everyone's final bus stop). Do all you want to do and chase fun and your happiness when you have the strength.

If you get divorce raped or stay in a marriage where the woman wears the pants (thanks to the family laws), becomes a thorn in your flesh (thanks to the family/domestic violence laws) and you become miserable and can't leave due to the cost of divorce, you will wish you took my advice. You might argue that it doesn't happen everyone, but it only takes one encounter and the probability of what I wrote happening is large.

Your peace of mind, serenity in your abode, and utter freedom are priceless and not worth risking by getting married in a western society. Never! Later in life, you will realise this.

Finally, try your best to avoid entering the child support plantation because that is another slavery and oppression on its own. Avoid having kids with a wife, babymama or any woman.

Go and enjoy your life. Hustle hard, make that paper and go have fun. There are a lot of sweet hobbies and entertaining and fulfilling things to do with your one and only life before you die.

Nyascobar1414:
What a lost soul..

Adversaries will make you learn.