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lexy2014:
You haven't married her and you are saying she is your wife

They don't seem to have even get to know each other well in a courtship.
He just want to Rush!!!

Enuguguy:
I planned to marry in 1st week of November 2022 and bring my wife to UK immediately with me
When do I suppose to start my visa application
NB..we don't have any marriage certificate yet
Nairaland help a brother

I hope you are very very very very very sure of this your Woman...
Please Update Us...on your Doings in 2 to 3 yrs Time.
Thanks.

prepresh:
Most times 200(tfare to and fro work), sometimes nothing at all, few times like 1k(fruits for the week) then, once in a month 62k for cooking. I cook once a month and on few occasions I spend anything depending on what I'm buying.

SAY the Truth:

You are Looking for a Man that will Inherit all this you Bills RIGHT?

QuinModah:
How long do you want to remain single? Get responsible

This Statement is Used to SETUP MEN.....
so he is not Responsible while Single?


cc: Entanglement

deavicky:
if can be spending 20k daily I will be very happy. But I'm not sure of how much goes for feeding but expenses on daily bases I can't tell, like today I took my kids to the park about 7k I branched spar and spend about 11k, I fixed something in my car 4k, I send 5k to one person like that I also pay another guy 12k I teast 0ne bottle of beer and bullet 1.6k the once I can remember

WOW!

Are You are Business Man or Salary Earner?
You dey Try o

JONNYSPUTE:
.... Lol. The funny thing is that my wife will tell them to stay hungry bu I no get mind to see them crying and complaining. My wife will always say I'm the one spoiling them.

Oga, You are the one Spoiling Them. Truly o

thomkross17:
3k daily on fuel for gen=3x40=90,000
90000x12=1080000
Maintenance 50k yearly
Noise
Solar energy =720k 3yrs guarantee..
24/7 power
No noise no maintenance
Free sun energy.
Reduction in nepa bill
Parked gen one side
Wellll I rest my case

Bros,
1.The Inverter Batteries are mostly Unreliable : Max 1.5 Year...they are Gone and need Replacement, They are very Expensive (200k upwards)
2. Solar installation in a Rented Apartment is Not Realistic.

Ulunne777:
My kids will not tell me what they want to eat.Make up your minds and tell me one thing and that is for days I can't seem to remember what to cook.There's a time table.
When you live alone or marry you can do that with your wives not me.Nobody will add o.oo oo oo1% stress ontop the stress i have being a Nigerian wife~cook.
If I give you food and you don't like it,I assume you are not hungry and take it back immediately.By the time hunger wires you,you will locate the rejected food.
I will not enable that nonsense around me.Thankfully they cooperate
The only unforeseen expenses we run is fruits and occasionally bread.All others are restocked monthly.

Modified:Pls I'm not saying we don't indulge them but it must not replace the food cooked at home.Consider the time ,resources and effort put into making a meal and understand how the cook must feel when it is abandoned plus it sets a bad precedent for children.It is your duty as a parent to guide their diet right from small.

I wish i Could Like this 1000 times.
Helping Your Husband Enforce this Discipline on the kids Make You are Great Woman.(sadly, Ladies like you are very few)

africantycoon:
You know what's up bro....the question is what does the man get in return for taking care of all the girls responsibilities over her lifetime

Almost Nothing....

if you are Lucky Not to be Abandoned at Old age!
if you did not save any money for your personal self, one is doomed....waiting for Wife or Kids...(they mostly don't reciprocate your Scarifies)

Entanglement:
the truth be say all those people were dey dey shout marries is good check them out! 98% na women and the rest 2% na mugu
Na only women dey enjoy for marriage because then don drop all their responsibility to the man.

I get plenty married friends were dey wish say them dey single like me as I dey text you so!

Did You observe that: There is Almost NO women on this thread....
The Single one that are here are still looking for the MAN to Inherit the Bill she is paying at the Moment!

psalmz:
I just sat down and did some calculations and noticed I spend nothing less than 8k daily on feeding my wife n kids and also fueling my car and generator,some one said I am extravagant ,pls how true it ?

A married man Spending 8k,15k,20k daily.....Wow

That's about 300k per month not including Rent (abt 300k/Year), School fee(abt 350k/Year for 2 kids)
Total About 1Million per Year.....
and you still want to Build your own House......like 20M


No Wonder Married Men Die Quickly of financial Pressure from thinking and HBP
and Single ladies see it as a 100% trophy when they get married( They have Seen who to inherit all the Financial burden of her life)

Despise all this your Heavy Sacrifices, You might Still have a Wife that will Not be satisfied with all your Efforts and would Sill be Nagging, Telling you:
what Are you doing with Money?
you are not Doing Enough....
Look at your mates etc.

Men!!! Don't bite More than You can Chew....Women(wife) need to Support You financially too.


imaging losing that Source of income that Pays the 1M/Year...
You need Try at every point to cut cost and save for the rainy day
Always save for yourself too.... very key. At Old age You will observe that all those you had labored(wife and kids) for Might not really Reciprocate the Sacrifices you made for them(in most cases, they don't).

To prove this, check when a man loses the source of the 1M/Year (eg, job)
he received Hostilities from his family that he had been sacrificing for.... get Abused by his Wife etc.

A man is usually lonely in old age and his Money(if he saved any for himself ) might be his only shock Absorber.
so Married men, cut Cost compulsorily! and Save for your Old age!

For the Unmarried Folks,

Don't Marry a Liability Lady or make her contribute financially from Business or job
Don't have More kids than you can take care of..
if possible have several source of income and be Buoyant before going into marriage o.

psalmz:
I just sat down and did some calculations and noticed I spend nothing less than 8k daily on feeding my wife n kids and also fueling my car and generator,some one said I am extravagant ,pls how true it ?

A married man Spending 8k,15k,20k daily.....Wow

That's about 300k per month not including Rent (abt 300k/Year), School fee(abt 350k/Year for 2 kids)
Total About 1Million per Year.....
and you still want to Build your own House......like 20M


No Wonder Married Men Die Quickly of financial Pressure from thinking and HBP
and Single ladies see it as a 100% trophy when they get married( They have Seen who to inherit all the Financial burden of her life)

Despise all this your Heavy Sacrifices, You might Still have a Wife that will Not be satisfied with all your Efforts and would Sill be Nagging, Telling you:
what Are you doing with Money?
you are not Doing Enough....
Look at your mates etc.

Men!!! Don't bite More than You can Chew....Women(wife) need to Support You financially too.


imaging losing that Source of income that Pays the 1M/Year...
You need Try at every point to cut cost and save for the rainy day
Always save for yourself too.... very key. At Old age You will observe that all those you had labored(wife and kids) for Might not really Reciprocate the Sacrifices you made for them(in most cases, they don't).

To prove this, check when a man loses the source of the 1M/Year (eg, job)
he received Hostilities from his family that he had been sacrificing for.... get Abused by his Wife etc.

A man is usually lonely in old age and his Money(if he saved any for himself ) might be his only shock Absorber.
so Married men, cut Cost compulsorily! and Save for your Old age!

For the Unmarried Folks,

Don't Marry a Liability Lady or make her contribute financially from Business or job
Don't have More kids than you can take care of..
if possible have several source of income and be Buoyant before going into marriage o.

Tboymessiah:
Thanks for your contributions,
If I may ask, is 6 month courtship too short to know in and out of a woman

It NOT enough o. like I said....you need Multiple like 4. You must Not be footing all their Bills like Mumu

cRobo:
Alexgman1
I noticed that you have countered all the advice given to you thus far

If you thought your opinion were superior why seeks others opinion

Since you keep saying you love her go to hell with her and stop being a nuisance

EXCACTLY!!!

Alexgman1:
You guys are really confusing me oh!

These Your Responses are Baffling me!!!

HOW OLD ARE YOU??

Alexgman1:
[color=#990000][/color]That will hurt her.

Let me Tell You....
in the First Place Office Romances....Mostly End in Tears....
You go Hear ram Sooner or Later.....

If you Must Go down, Make sure You convince her You will Use protection
tell her ....you are protecting her just in case you have an infection

No matter what, don't give in to her manipulation not to Use protection!!

Alexgman1:
I and my colleague at work recently got romantic. Shes a single mum but she said it was a mistake. Four years ago her so called ex got her pregnant & told her to keep the baby but after a while he travelled and till date he hasn't return neither is his line going through. She later delivered the baby and with the help of her parent shes taking care of the child and hes going to school.

Now back to us. We got into a romantic relationship & she started disturbing me to sex her because its been years she did it. She came to sleep over one night & after so much romancing she pleaded that i should flex her that she cant endure any longer. I stood up & went to my jacket to get a packet of condom. When she saw it she was displeased & asked me not to use condom on her that she doesn't like it at all. I told her i have to use it because i am not ready to be a father yet. I told her i dont know how to withdraw. We both sat on the bed pleading to each other until she got fed up & slept off. She said i dont love her.

MUMU man. You are Being Manipulated!
When You Know The Logical thing to Do (Protection), And a Woman is convincing You to do Otherwise.....You are Being manipulated!!

When the Beans Don Done!....(she Get Pregnant or you Get an infection)......
You would Now be running Kiti kiti ....wishing you had Listened to your Logical Reasoning!!

PROTECT YOURSELF Always as long as you are not Married!!

begoniaa:
If your sister or your mother was r*ped and defiled, as young as anyone of them were, you would not do more than Princess?

Or if your daughter was the kid in question, you will not be a bitter father seeking for justice?

If na you dem r*pe, you life will continue to remain the same?

Because na ordinary heartbreak from women naim turn you to this bitter being always creating one million threads, now imagine if a group of guys sexually molested you, gangr*ping you, and come back to call your mother bitter if she lays curse on them.

How Old was the Girl?

Fiendy:
Hello everyone,

Am so baffled, am online to share this,,

The intelligence report that I got from a reliable source with proof clearly shows that my own blood sister is chatting secretly with criminals to extort my money under false pretense..

Please what should I do, I need an advice please

Can they Take the money with your Consent?

Thats Easy....Just Say NO to any Money request.

Tboymessiah:
True talk,

But what of we wey we no get long time relationship...
And we are not any relationship, and age is not on our side, how then are we going to settle down then

32 this December but planning to settle next year, no girl friend not in relationship, but financially okay

Sadly, If You are not Currently Dating a lot of women at same time and analyzing their Characters without telling them your Real intentions of finding a wife.....You have to start immediately..... (Because you can't Select a good one without Long term Experience in the Trenches...sieving the shaft from the food)

without Experience You will Mostly like fall for a retired Olosho. (this Happens a lot.)

LutherSanchez:
OP,Please stop being nice and calm to ladies especially those above 25,they're looking for the last guy to clean up and pay for the mess all the bad boys,one night stands,hookups,bleep buddies and ex boyfriends did to them. Always remember this, SECURITY and COMMITMENT is the female end game and marriage provides this,that's why after all their bleeping around,they always try to find a SIMPle guys who will tolerate their bullshits and he usually pays for what other guys got for free.

SPOT ON!!

ehissi:
Girls typically like men who are comfortable, stable and think they are easy to control.

If they see you as someone that will not give them wahala, its okay for them. If in addition to that, they also see you as someone they can easily control and walk all over, then you are their idea of a husband material......

ABSOLUTELY!!!

They can Even Cheat and Get Caught and still Bully their way out of it (Taking advantage of your Calm Nature!!)

UyaiIncomparabl:
Sweep test? What the hell is that? Hahaha. Poor people mentality.

I Really Wish we could go back to the days...…PARENTS ONLY select the woman they dim fit for their son... it would be so nice

if You failed in Ethics as a Woman back then,....You will Die Single

when Men choose themselves, we are carried away by only the things we see... like Shape, beauty etc. ( that does not make a Great Union)

parents help you select beyond the physical appearances.

UyaiIncomparabl:
I should be asking you if you know what you are talking about. It is insolence to sweep when a guest is around, especially with the entitlement mentality that she should have taken the stress off you. Who asked you? Wait and let me be gone then you can sweep your house.

It simply tells the guest that you don't welcome them. Learn simple manners. Why must it be when a guest is around the mother chooses to sweep?

THAT was the "SWEEP TEST".....
to Sieve out the Good from the Bad Prospective Wife of the Son.

she Failed!

JackDaAlienz:
I want to find an apartment but na money kill am.
I will be turning 30 on october and im still living with my parents. I feel like i have failed in life at my age.

It pains me that as a guy, i dont have my own apartment. Apartments are so expensive now than before. And i dont have friends that i can squat in their house.
What should i do?

Apartment is Not the First Step

the First Step is to get a Good pay Job...Save and then start with a very small Apartment like a 1 room.

if Not You will still fall back on your parent when you cannot pay the next rent.

Na frustration be that o

Truvelisback:
Good day, fellas. If u know that u rocked this game, say hi.

I enjoyed this one.....Got Batteries at all Cost
Adaptor later saved the Day....

Munzy14:
Plus the mood swings to manipulate and frustrate him the more..

Occasionally shouting at him at any little provocation and the regular "Ozu Nwoke" tag.. ..

Man is vegetable without money I swear..

May God keep blessing o..Insult full everywhere for this country.

A swear!!

Mayemavins:
I have been seriously contemplating, she Aborted my pregnancy after we both went to hospital confirmed it and we both agreed to keep the baby.

Moreover I really need the child, she connived with her sister and they Aborted it. I'm thinking to go the Police station to make a report and arresther!!

Pls should I?
Many more things surrounded that Pregnancy. I really need a child.

You Can Not Do anything About it.

Even if you were Married to Her, You can still Do nothing....

The Maximum you can do is.....Go Your Separate Ways....

wiseone28:
Life goes on..


Another brother fell victim to the street.

Young Nigga, There is a heaven for a G.....
be a lie if i told that i never thought of d***h

My Nigga, we a the last ones left...

But Life Goes on.....

Munzy14:
Very obvious..few with fear of God will manage to hold themselves, though they will still make that humiliating side talks ones in a while.

They will Turn him to House Boy....Sending him Demeaning Errands.

justli:
When a friend of mine met his wife, he was a taxi driver and she works with an insurance company , driving her own car and living quite comfortably.

Since she likes the guy and a being a born again, she gave him an order:
" I don't know how you are going to do it, but you must be the head of the family and that means you have to start making real money "

Well, to cut a long story short, today he is a billionaire with multiple estates in Abuja and doesn't joke with his wife.

It's natural for a woman to want to be looked after. If you reverse the order, in which case she makes the provision and you tell her thank you, over time, your authority in the house is going to wane and hers will increase.

DONT TELL ME You are NOT Familiar with this Outburst from Women.....when there is a Serious Argument
Especially when you don't Bend her way in Decision making:

"I Pick You Up from the Gutter, i Clothed You , i Cleaned You Up.....and you have the guts to Argue with me"

You easily get this from your Story Above....
If you want to Avoid this You have to Align 100% like a Puppy.
and you will still get the Heat form time to time.

i magine her having a Visitor....and Telling you to go into the room.... that she want to entertain her guest....
You just Run in like a Puppy!!

Successlane:
@ ....' I still fulfil my obligations as a man ....'

That's just your saving grace.

The Truth is that:
1. he Cannot give the Rules.
2. in fact, she will give the Rules and he will have to follow...
3. He must be Submissive or He will be Sent Packing....