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2Radii:
This is night bro, and I pray u will face what the OP said.
Exactly the way he said it is the way u will face it in ur marriage.
Ur wife will always find excuses to give u sex once in 3months
By the power of universe that is how it will be.
But u will also have the fortitude to persuade her all the tym.




Let see if u will stick to Ur words

MrBrownJay1:
bro, there is something called COMMUNICATION, and if a wife doesnt want to get close to her husband during 3 months, then she should have a VALID REASON for it. the husband should simply ask her for an explanation, and if she aint got one then get rid of her.

odinson1:
The simple reason is, she doesn't love you bro. She married you only because she had no other option at the time. Know this that a woman will break all rules, raise hell if she has to, to have sex with a man she likes. If she's constantly giving you excuses for an extended period of time, or making demands before she allows you in, it means you're sexually unattractive to her bro, she settled for you.

Women will come on this thread now and give nonsense excuses about her being tired, depressed etc but for how long can one be consistently tired that she only has sex with her husband once in 3 months?

Why are you men just so blind to reality? Damn! You'll jus rush into marriage because of love without making sure the person you're marrying isn't settling for you. You'll give her a comfortable live in the marriage, she'll deny you sex and you'll come to Nairaland to ask for advice.

Women will tell you to continue treating her right, talk things out with her etc. But it never works, trust me. If your wife settled for you, she'll deny you sex and use it to control you. When she needs a new handbag that is very expensive, she'll deny you sex and wait for you to buy it for her first before she allows you in.

Then she repeats the process for another demand and so on and so forth. Is that how you want to live the rest of your life as a man? Begging and paying your WIFE for sex. I'm tired of you men really, y'all lack balls and that is why women use Sex to control you.

AllKnowing:
Is it just me or are all Nigerian and white girls, and dare I say every woman on earth, the same?

The whiteys I live and work with here want money, want dates and flowers and gadgets, and still aren’t all down for supporting you with cash.

Just like Nigerian women, too, only old white woman are ready to selflessly spend on you if that’s what y’all woke Nigerian men want!

crafteck:
No matter what you do in in life as a man, kindly runaway from I NEVA CHOP WOMEN they come in many guises and sometimes hide under woke umbrella, adjust your mentality and dont be intimidated by their shenanigans, dont be oppressed by class they try to form by getting high iphones, next to nothing almost naked designer clothes,hair etc, most of them no fit chop for 3 days if dem never NAK them silly.... Nobody should say im talking about nairaland, owerri, anambra, lagos or lekki girls ooooo. Infact na only hausa girls i see wey both rich and poor dey modest... High percentage in all west, east and center... Na bambiala dem de take survive till the day one unfortunate being go wife them.

Triangles1:
The same thing is happening to me right now, my girlfriend rented apartment of 300+ the interiors decorations should be up to 500+, she said her uncle in U.S gave her the money, this is the girl begging me for 10k last month and her salary is not up 200k, I didn't argue with her because I already plot my timeline date to wave my five finger on her.

bukky1994:
you mean SIMPs

Willbright:
Sometimes you just try to do your all, but your all might not be enough. Had to open a new account to hide my identity.

I have this girlfriend or let me say fiancé( I’m planing to do the normal rights in December) then we get married next year. Both families have met and things are going on fine. I stay in UK just completed my masters.

My fiancé on the other hand works in a bank in Nigeria, she got the job this year. She does not lack anything and I do send her stipends from time to time .Lately anytime we talk she has been telling me most of the guys at work have been asking her out on a date bla bla bla she would just brief about it and we will talk about other things. I really didn’t take it serious.

Yesterday we where talking again and she made mention of it again, this is like the 5th time she is talking about it, and to be honest a feel a little bit sad. I have been here for 2years and never in my life have I even gone out with a girl. She told me she is already feeling like going out with this guy that he is nice.

Told me this guy threats him special and he is even the manager where she works.this is someone I call my fiancé, I told her I’m not comfortable with her going out with the man and she said it’s just a date. I’m boiling inside and I don’t want to overreact, in the past this same man have adviced her to leave me saying I’m too far away and I have warned her severally never to have anything to Do with him. The thing is it’s like she has made up her mind already, the man also drop her off everyday after work and she stays alone.
Am I overreacting by trying to call it off?

There is no day we talk and she won’t bring this particular guy up in her talks, I’m seriously fed up. Why go on a date with someone if you are in a relationship?

Explorers:
A security guard accused of doodling eyes onto a £740,000 painting's faceless figures at a Russian art gallery suffered a lapse of sanity on his first day, the exhibition' curator said.


To the dismay of many, the guard is said to have drawn two pairs of eyes with a pen onto artist Anna Leporskaya's 'Three Figures' (1932–1934) painting, while it was on display at an abstract art exhibition at the Yeltsin Center in the city of Yekaterinburg, Russia.

The man, has since been fired by the private security firm hired by the gallery and police have opened an investigation into the defacement.

Photos: Before and after the defacement.


https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10499459/Guard-accused-doodling-eyes-painting-Russian-gallery-suffered-lapse-sanity.html

Olachase:
Gud afternoon wicked world

Our manager ran abroad with the company project money

H. R lie to us say them day comot money for pensions and tax every month from our salary, buh na their pocket the money they enter.

H. R will look for a way to sack employees around 19th - 20th so they won't pay you salary

For Nigeria you still day look for integrity

If na one company way them call WAUM u day work and they make such mistakes bro cash out the money and relocate to Togo

Gud afternoon once again wicked world.

Thinkam:
Igbo and Yoruba dey do, do me I do you...

Weak tribes

Atiku is coming

detectivejones:
Everyone knows that whenever 2 or 3 women are gathered gossip is abound. There is no how you'd listen to someone's incessant gossip without contributing to it, so your wife is guilty as well. BTW I can't believe a man involved himself in women's them say them say matter.

Kastonkastroll:
RIP to her but is definitely not from my heart. Some people will say she wasn't there when slave trade was a thing then, but omo the blood of those bastards British monarchs runs in her vein. I no wan speak bad about d dead, but what the British Empire did to Africa and africans is unforgivable. The inhumanity was very barbaric. Using padlocks for person mouth so that he no go chop ur food, chains for necks and legs, and u dey still flog them. I'm sorry but some things are unforgivable.

Even the diamonds that were used to make her crown were stolen from Africa by the thieving British monarchy.

RIP to her

afube:
No......the thieving colonialists who took over 1vmillion igbos as slaves are not racist abi........! Queen eliza will answer to God for the sins of her forebears Great Britain invaded 124 countries in the last 300 years ..thieving and killing millions of people.........the Buckingham palace is satan's throne room!

densiks:
Is she not saying her truth?
everyone may not be politically correct.

Karanka:
In all these, there's just one person about two posts above mine who just registered on Nairaland yesterday and has being everywhere targeting Igbos in his disjointed and oversized hatred for Igbos, laced with unequalled inferiority complex.
He's neither Jewish nor Briton, just one hate-filled bum living in Ogbomosho and hating on another Igbo who just bought yet another plot of land in his village, after hawking Gala and Lacasera for several years while he was daydreaming and hallucinating about Igbos.
Vote wisely!

Ilekokonit:
Some women now wear remote controlled vibrating panties

The remote controlled vibrating pant costs £77 and has a built in bullet and a potent motor such that when the woman presses the remote's JOLT! Lightning button, it delivers to them 5 seconds of jolting vibration that courses through their body and in some cases they may even fall off their chair.

And someone said women still need men for sex.


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sammieking2017:
Is it a crime to be honest in this country ? Referencing to the post I saw here yesterday.

https://www.nairaland.com/7315480/thought-honesty-hardwork-pays

I had my own share too, though it's long but I need your advice.

The episode started when the Suffocating and comprehensive ASUU strike is becoming more elongated.

My mum discussed with her boss if I can be working with them depending when ASUU will call off their strike.

Fortunately, they affirmed to my mum's request and I was employed to work as a secretary.

Note: They are both husband and wife running the organization.

My role is to write receipt for all payments entering the organization account, write and ensure all the payments of the day are updated before the next day.

As a result of the nature of my work, this give me access to the boss office as I may need some things to take there. Even if other staff want to access the office, they will inform me first, then I will collect the key and give them whatever they need in the office.

Things was going smoothly until a fateful Friday I was accused of stealing.

The scenario happened like this.

As the secretary of the organization, I do resume work by 7:30am and close by 5:pm.

Apart from the cleaners that tidy the compound. In most cases, I'm the last person that leaves the office. And whenever I'm leaving, I collect the key to the office and park the bags of the boss and his wife into their car, check whether they bought something and ensure everything is placed in their car.

That fateful day, as usual, His wife wasn't around, then I look for the husband to collect the office key and he told me that the office is opened. With no further delay, I moved into the office and carried their bags. As I was going, he stopped me and check the bag. He claimed that inside the bag, where he packed money, the money has been rough handled and the nylon bag that housed the money was found tore.

Then pandemonium began. He insisted that a person has accessed the money and I was the only person that has the privilege to enter the office. I was troubled and confused. My perplexity was so high that I don't even know what to say.

I tried to explain to the best of my knowledge. I tried my best to exonerate myself that I knew nothing about the money. I told everyone that I met the office opened and I ain't aware that the office was opened. Most times, if I see the office ain't closed. I will close it because it's close to my office. But on this day no one to bear me withness. Every odds look against me. We left there around to 5:30pm that day.

I even told my boss that he should count the money that I don't perceive anyone entering the office. But he kept saying that he didn't know the amount he put there and he can't give the precise amount that has been stolen.

Beforehand, I noticed that the environment is full of jealousy. The staff jealous themselves. They envy each other and there are lots of faction within the organization. To be on a safer side. I didn't join any caucus or faction. I play my role diligently and discharge my duty responsibly. I don't do favouritism as I make myself to be honest in all things. There are many evil things that I'm aware of that goes underground but I don't interfer in it or report it except the bosses know by themselves. With my altitude, well with this I thought, I was loved by the boss and his wife.

When I got home, I wept profusely because no one to bear me withness, everyone seems I'm the thief.

I explained to my mum what happened because she has left earlier. She pacified me and said. If I'm not guilty of the stealing, nothing will happen to me and they should use whatever they want to use to look for their money.

On Monday we resume back to work. What happened on Friday kept pondering my heart, the wound hasn't been healed yet another mysterious thing happened again.

My own office is at the front of the boss office. My table and chair are placed there but it doesn't look privately. It looks like a reception before entering the main office. I got to my office next day to find that #3,600 has been smuggled into my drawer.

Chaiii! No one to bear me withness again about the money I saw. All things look like I was the one that stole the money, and just hiding under the guise of innocency.

I was extremely perplexed, different thought were ruminating my mind. One thought said if you give them the money they will say you are lying that you just kept it there. Another thought said, who knows, perhaps they are putting you under integrity test. Well! I carried the money, luckily the wife was around and I explained how I saw the money and handed it over to her.

When the husband came, she told him exactly what I reported to her and the husband responded, he might be the money they stole on Friday. He continues, definitely the thieves has returned the money as a result of their actions on Friday.

The matter dies there and no one ever made reference to it again until today when the boss (he) asked me to prepare a bill for a customer.
I've done that already and also listening to him and the customer while they were conversing. In a nut shell. I heard the customer telling him that he wants another bills too. Therefore I was preparing that too, unknowingly as I was preparing it, I have covered the first bills with lot of books on my table. As the boss arrived, he requested for the first bill he asked me to prepare. Unfortunately, it's no where to be found again, �‍♂️. I tried to explain to him that I was also preparing other bills the woman mentioned. I think that was the only mistake I made thinking that would make the work faster for the woman to collect the bills.

All of a sudden, I noticed that he has been seethe with anger. He shouted at me that I don't have regards for him, he said, he asked me to do something but I'm doing otherwise. Before I could utter any statement to clear myself out. Everything has already scatter, he remained deaf to whatever I wanted to say. He insisted that I'm not working with them again, he chased me out like a dog that I have to go back to take my phone.

Amongst all the turbulence, I kept begging him. I prostrated on the floor to show that I'm sorry. But he didn't even looked at me.

For the sake of my mother. I don't want to do anything that would affect her relationship with her bosses, I would have said. I'm not working again and not even bother to beg.

To cut it short. His wife signaled to me to meet an erderly man close to the place, possibly he might listen to his pleas. I did as instructed by his wife, "God bless that woman" The erderly man followed me but another thing bursted. He said apart from this, that he can't employ somebody that he doesn't trust. He made it known to the erderly man that I'm not trustworthy using the past money that was stolen as a case of study.

That moment, tears began to roll down from my face. I didn't know what to say in the midst of everyone. Everyone was just saying, please forgive him, he will change, he won't do that again. I looked at myself and said this is humiliation of the highest order. If I take any step, it might affect my mum too and lead to the termination of her appointment. I don't want her to be traumatized.

I remained calm and crying bitterly. Well! he accepted the elderly man plea for me and they concluded that this is yellow card, that if I do anything bad again, they will resort by giving me red card.
Since ASUU is still on strike now and there's no way I can say I'm leaving there without having implication on my mum employment. Who knows, what will happen next that might get me roped and I will be given red card couple with humiliation. I want men with wisdom to advice me on how I can justify my resignation peacefully.
I don't want anything to backfire on my mum. I don't want her to be traumatized and I don't want them to transfer their aggression on her.

I just want to leave there peacefully because I can't see myself working there again. Even all these things was written with my unbalanced emotions. I know I have been traumatized and accused falsely but I believe I will bounce back strongly and soon or sooner God will revealed the perpetrator in Jesus name.���.

I will be glad if this can be moved to front page.

BeanmanX:
Ur woman wey dey collect steadily for outside,,,I wonder when una go ever smart....

No worry when una want do the do,,,na big and wide hole u go see...

Eeghe:
If sex is important to you? If your love language is physical intimacy? I say you shouldn’t…but then, what do I know?

Blessedmercy8:
Please o, where is. Such guy?
That's what I've been praying for, biko.

Woleobi:
That's why I like my club. No time for rubbish. You are not doing well, you are out!

virginprincess:
I didn't bother to watch the video because i know she won't say anything sensible,but one thing i know is that i can never date my friend's ex and any friend that dates my ex is not worthy to be called my friend,how can you as my friend be dating a guy i broke up with it not right.

Mercisharelove:
Your body.

Lust of your flesh.

Many get into wrong sexual relations

But you can also control your lust,

Remember, everything we do has consequences, you will never be able to get away with it, therefore, not everything your body ask you to do that you should obey.


Be wise today and try and control your sex cravings before it destroys the fabric of your life.


Many are dead right now, many are going to die the next minute, are you sure of where you are going after death, let no one decieve you, there's a life after death.


A word is enough for the wise.

Bradford111:
I don't know what to say we have never even had sex before

yusufmurry:
I thought you wanted saying, "reject the gift" but you ended up saying dash him slap. Poverty will keep dealing with una

Nonsense! You dey collect gift but wan give slap. Ba? You go collect wotowoto one day.
Confused human beings

Nothing is free. A guy wey dey give you, wants sex from you and will look for the slightest opportunity.

internationalman:
[b]It's no wonder most of you guys think money [/b]is the only love language girls know.

You'd be surprised how easily girls can fall for you in the less likely way...

I don't even got to debate class with you

wallarwallar:
Na lie nt sure u be street yeah dere are some smello dat fall in dat category bt person wey want better girl u go spend nothing concern dem with fine boy again

Blessedmercy8:
Tell them.

That was how one thought he could try rubbish with me. Just small gift he gave me, the next thing is come to my house and prepare something for me.

I just told him, uncle, do it yourself.


Girls, give yourselves some respect. If he touches you, dash him a super sounding slap and abandon the food .

handsomeyinka:
I was in Nigeria 2 weeks ago for vacation and I decided to drive to lekki (sangotedo area) to see one of my old time friend,going through the stress of driving from the mainland.
I decided to pass the night in his house so he decided we go to a club and relax.
We sat at the club for some few hours and 2 girls decided to walk up to us probably to chat or thinking we were looking for hookers.
My friend immediately admired both of them and offered them drinks.
They both offered us sex for #30,000 each but in my mind I was wondering what could be the reason for this act.
So I played along,I now asked the lady (emergency companion) what brought you to this act? she replied and said,shes a single mother looking for money to pay for her daughter's school fees #97,500 (less than $200).
I felt so devastated and asked her what will her daughter feel if she eventually knew she went into prostitution to pay for her school.

She replied and said,shes been doing it for years and that's the only way shes been sustaining herself and her daughter.

I felt so touch,got so emotional to the point of me weeping (This someone's mother,daughter and wife)

I told her I will pay for the school fees and explained to her that I dont leave in this country but just in town for vacation. I told her the reason for helping her is for her to know that not all men are the same.What will be my gain to do such an act? i told her to get her life together,look for a better trade to start in other to have a better life.

I feel so bad reading the above comments about guys taking advantages of females cos they are been asked for help.if you are in a position to help someone,just help and let go.

We can always help each other without asking for a favour in return.

Say no to prostitution.

Blessedmercy8:
Tell them

That was how one thought he could try rubbish with me. Just small gift he gave me, the next thing is come to my house and prepare something for me.

I just told him, uncle, do it yourself.


Girls, give yourselves some respect. If he touches you, dash him a super sounding slap and abandon the food .

truthsayer009:
I could somewhat agree with this statement, but I have a question. Isn't this going to be a recurring issue that keeps coming up?.

I tried to date someone older than me with a year, I can genuinely say she loved me because of the evidences I saw but omo the disrespect no be here oh. It was clear cut that she couldn't bring herself to respect someone younger.

I have asked women this questions offline too and the answer I get is that they cannot see themselves respecting a younger man.