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Kkkem:
Mistake of marry Igbo ,I regret it in my life,still in the mess,. Marriage mistake is life one and big issue.,may God help me .

I don't think its About the Tribe,

It's More About the Individual....

When you want to get Married....We Most Look at ONLY Beauty, Sex, etc

Not Considering very Important things like :
Background,
Upbringing,
Submissiveness,
working, Supportive,
Ability of Manage Little Resources,
(is she a Spender OR Saver of Money) …etc.

That are Really Key to getting a Good Companion.

frank10chi:
She don pass MILf... she be GILF now.

Meanwhile Xvideos account for sale

Grandma In her Late Fifties (GLIF)

Ekpekus:
Yimu...
Always about girlfriend, boyfriend, sex and expenditures...
No information about generating income, building wealth, investment strategies, human capacity development...
This country, e go tay us sha...

There are Threads for these naa....Wetin you find come this Thread?

Acidosis:
You all should stop blaming your wives. She's not the reason you all couldn't control yourselves before marriage. If you're the type of guy that stayed away from pre-marital sex or sex with too many random women, living with your wife for months without sex during pregnancy or child birth wouldn't be an issue. 1 month after child birth, and some of you're thinking about side chicks. Is sex the only thing you all did with your lives as bachelors?? Just one month oo!

Some of you slept with at least 6 girls per month before marriage. Now as a married man, you want your wife to take over and do the work of 6 ol.osho while also attending to house chores and corporate responsibilities. More often than not, you guys are the problems in your marriage. By the way, this thread is disg.usting.

Are You Married and for How Long? Do you have Kids? How Many?
Don't Lie?

joshua203016:
There is nothing like starvation of sex, the only starvation i know is food

Type it on Google.... and check the Images Tab

Zao19:
More than 70% of married men face this type of problem including my self, if u are yet to married pls stop talking rubbish, u are yet to experience such.

Absolutely. Especially After Kids

LIVINGICON:
Are you sure you are really turning her on? Do you do pre-intimacy? Or na to just dive dey enter the pussy like that,go dey jam am like porn star. To the best of my knowledge women crave sex often, most especially if the man is skillful. Na she go dey disturb you for am.

So, go back to the drawing board. There are books on giving good sex and making a woman squirt or orgasm.

How married man go dey masturbate? Na 4uck up.

Are You Married?
Sincerely....

Gaggii:
I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.

I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.

Am just so fed up.

If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping

ONE of the Biggest MYTH of Marriage is:

Just get Married and GET ALL THE SEX YOU WANT . ANY TIME YOU WANT IT!

its a BIG Lie....it could get look rosy in the First Few months....
but Gradually She will start to give you excuse for No sex (I'm Tired, Not Now, May be later, Na Free?, Buy me Something First, I'm Not in the Mood, Apologize to for ('something Not existent'), I'm Angry with you, so No sex)

Its Used as a Bargaining tool and Used as Punishments.

it dwindles from: Once a week....Once a Month....Once in 2 Months ….Once in 6 Months...etc..

its Worst after Children are Born.!

The Starvation is second to Non.

The Only Solution is: to Have Options (mostly not Accepted by the public) but the only way to solve the problem

Curious345:
Medical consultants earn 300k-400k monthly in 9ja.

Professors earn 400k-500k monthly in 9ja.

Bus driver earn £3,000 (2.8m) monthly in London..

If you don't chose driving a bus above this mess we call a country then you must be high on Mkpurummiri

(NO need to Convert to Naira) because the 3000 Pound is not Enough for her for the month over there because spends it over there in the UK.
The Only Time You can Have a Leverage of the Nigerian Currency with when : You Earn in Foreign Currency and Spend in NAIRA ( then you can be doing conversion)

if Not we are all on the same Pedestal (except for a More Sane Environment over there)

IbrahimSkiba:
You are a very good and caring husband who's only passions is seeing his marriage work.. God will give you your heart desire.. And reconcile that broken bond between you and your life... And abeg ehhh, if you get any single friend wey dey find Nigerian wife.. Holla at me.. I come in Peace

You Want to TRY your Own Juju too on another One.
so that when you get there....You TURN to LION.

You have the signs already....

neonly:
From yur write up you still young my best advise is dat don't make another baby with her for now it will be more easy to detach yurself from her with only one child d more children d more it becomes more hard to detach
Yur family is yur family because without them u won't be what u are today don't let any body ridicule yur family I mean anybody
Start making plan B I am in same shoe but dis static am using now is making me to have my sanity so many Jezebel outder careful

It is Quite Common. Once the Wife Has Kids (She has Already met her Life Goal) she will now try to Lord over u. Reduces the sex to the minimum as a punishment and manipulation tool

BLoomfrancs:
Forget that bullshit. Stay loyal how. My man life is too short for someone to be enduring shit. If this Op na my brother, I swear I go fight am. If he no wan kick that bitch out, I go do am myself. As I dey see am, the Op will end up in the streets if he no use him number 6.

Even if he makes the Divorce Move, He will Still Lose the House to Her and Pay for their Upkeep including Mortgage.

He is a Sitting Duck

[quote author=EndRape2 post=108319650]Dating alot of ladies is never the solution because it will mess your mind, and most men dating different girls can never have a good marriage research has proven this most ended up divorce withing 5years

If you like date 1 million women , the experience can never be de same with the one you finally settle with. No two women are the same .

MANIPULATION

You get Better in Anything you set your Mind on.... only from Experience.

You CANT be Excellent in a Task You have Little OR No Experience in.

FACT

Igolonwaanyi:
You call doing domestic chores 'simping'. I wonder the kind of home you came from. Because of people like you I'm teaching my sons and daughters to ditch the idea of gender roles.

Your SON will be Washing Pant when he his Married and will Tell You (Mother) to her him Spread it on the Line Outside....

Then You will Understand what we are talking About.

Alusiizizi:
Continue being a simpleton. Continue playing houseboy for something you refer to as wife. Thats right, wash plates, sweep, cook, clean toilets, wash her pants. Really? Is this a serious story. I have no pity for simps but today I'll restrain contempt and give candid advise: I would have advised you to throw the useless bitch out of your house were it not for the fact that you mentioned residence "abroad", which I take to mean US,UK or any of those places where simps are receiving respect, so my advice to you is GET A DIVORCE!!! You've been married 3 years, which means you're young and can still live past the mistake that you brought into your house. Normally they'll try to guilt-trip you with narratives like "think about your son". Don't fall for that bullshit. If you should be thinking about what's best for your son then so should the bitch. Most important is for you to put yourself first. If you keep playing simp for some worthless bitch, you may end up not noticing the passing of 15~20 years or so, then you'll know the true meaning of "mid-life crisis" whence you gaze upon yourself from the front of a mirror and see nothing but an animate corpse.

Sadly,
She will Take his House,

and He will BE paying child, Home Mortgage and Wife Upkeep

Danjikanbauchi:
Walahi I swear to God, no woman can take the place of my mother.

Op if you can tell the bitch either she calm down or you send her out of your house and marry another woman.of it's her mother will she ask her not to enter the kitchen. What did she brought to your house ? She can pick them and Bleep off. I hate rubbish.

Bros, Unfortunately....They Are ABROAD. she CANT be sent Packing
if he leaves....he can be Sued for Abandonment....That place is Hell for a MAN.

50pseamer:
I would like to share my current situation on this platform , and I will very much appreciate your mature advice on the issue.

I have been having issues with my wife after our first born, we married about 3 years ago, our first born is now about 2 years old, we have been having series of issues In the marriage, my wife argues with me a lot on flimsy issues at times, we do not have constant sex, although I started helping more in the house,I cook and and I do the laundry , and asked her to give me my share of the work, when she complained about work load,I am the only one really working now, and paying 98 percent of the bills.

I told my wife that I will like us to be eating together on the same plate to improve closeness, she refused, she sees arguement as normal discussion, sometimes we have sex once or twice in a month, I have told her I will like us all to attend the same church and pray together, but she still attends her Nigerian church online , where they are always seeing vision , and I do not like her attending that church.she also attends online services of my church with me, but I would like us to be attending one church even if it is not my church.
I asked her recently that we need to be praying together for our marriage even if it is 10 minutes every day, after weeks of no response from her,I approached her yesterday and scolded her about it, she cried and I comforted her, I later asked her at night to come for the prayer,and she said she is not coming.
We live abroad and my mum wants to pay us a visit,
She told me the kitchen is her's and my mum should not enter the kitchen, and I told her that it will be difficult, we can pre cook all our food, But she might need to make tea and I will like her to be able to do that by her self , but my wife refused.
In her church she is attending they already branded. My mother a witch. Even if my mother is a witch, we only need to pray against it, should we humiliate her when she visits us? I cannot make my wife my mother, she does not show me much love and does not show that she cares, neither does she respect me. My mum shows me love that I can feel.

Now we are living like neighbours in the same house.
Do you think she is interested in the marriage or has another plan?

Your Story is NOT New...it Happens in almost every Marriage Now...
You have been manipulated to Carry the Entire Burden of the Family Like a SALVE. You do the Home Chores + Go to work to Finance the Family. ( With this kind of Role, How Can One Live Long)
Accepting these Roles has Made her see Your a Weak( without telling u)....so Quarrels will come out of : No Love for a Weak Man!

Once a Woman get Her Kids and Someone is paying to Raise them (She had Exceeded her Life GOAL!) , To Hell with Everyone Else....


For those guys thinking Sex become FREE FOREVER in marriage and Gotten any time u want it......IT's a BLATANT LIE.....it comes in Trickles (Once in 2 weeks...Then Once in 1 month ......Once in 6Months especially [i]after she has reached her life GOAL (Kids)). You go Starve tire!
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Verdict: You need to Apply Iron Hand or Live Apart...to forestall the Need for Each other again

ideatoprince18:
Bully no good oooo

Three seniors name still ring in my brain anytime I remember what they did to me at Federal college Kankon!!!!

Senior Yunus
Senior Mahmood
Senior Ovie!!!!!

These wear the worldbest in Bully ..... They won't beat u .... But make it life a living Hell with punishments!!!

Senior Yunus Gave me cup to get h water from Tap and fill 4 25 litres keg on sat just because I asked him if I was the one he was calling(dont blame, he has severe squint eyes).

Since the day I no gree give mahmood Garri..... Dat day I turn to Target man for his knocks early in the morning!!!!

Ovie that one na Devil incarnate ..... I hope to see am one day one on one .... Then we go throw better blow even if him be pastor sef

You Mean : Lagos State Model College Kankon. What Year was That?

Offpoint1:
Any guy doing that or thinking about doing it should stop.

I have a female friend which her boyfriend has been sponsoring her schools for years, she's serving now. She confided in me that should won't marry the guy... I was heartbroken cuz I knew this guy through her, very quiet guy. I won't even state what he does for a living, this compounds the pain.

Only train a woman you're married to, women generally are emotionally unstable... Only few are deeply deeply in love can withstand the temptations out there.

Even this DOESN'T a 100% commitment. If she want to Leave, She will still Leave.

Lalami3232:
Africa and tradition . How many of them don drag yansh for ground because of politician? My dear, relationship has no guarantee oooo. Even marriage dey breakup talkmore of relationship. My dear young lady, take up your yansh and go home, no go give yourself unnecessary sore/blisters .
When u see most nairalanders wey dey bitter, you think say na normal thing abi? Na past experiences na dey make people turn to bitter nairaland men or feminist ooo
But those of una wey dey break people heart after una don get wetin una want, I wan tell una say karma dey exist and E no dey forgive.
Young lady, I feel ur pain but get up and dust your yansh, bad experiences are part of life's lessons. If water no boil, egg no go dorn


I don talk am before and I go talk am again "the day I go mistakenly born girl pikin, I go *******"

Bro, How do you Mix Social Life with Programming.....? (You are a Full Stack Right?)

Most Programmers have known are Scaled to abt 0-1 socially (they hardly even go out)
On a Scale of I -10 (what no, will you rate your Social Life)

I seems you have found a way to Balance Both...

What's Your Method? (i want to learn o)

Pataricatering:
this is plain dishonest - have you asked whether her in laws treated her well.for.her.not.to like them ? A lot.of.you will.come.online.and.be acting brand new like we don't know.the way society allows.wives.to.be disrespected by husbands family

It will be Clear to You when your SON eventually get Married to his Wife.

if you come Near that House. Alligator Pepper is what you will get for Bath.

Then Your Eye will be Clear.....

pocohantas:
The truth is that I would be too busy enjoying retirement with my husband for your wishes to come through.

She should feel free to play badminton with her husband (my son).

No disrespect taken.

LOL....You Obviously CAN NOT Stay with a MAN( Not to talk of Husband...)

Its as Clear as a Bright New Day!

Be open to the Idea of being alone at Retirement.....(that's most likely to be your Case)

pocohantas:
No devil entered them. It is who they are. The signs are always there. Some people are not family oriented or accommodating.

I generally have a problem with people that do not respect my space or rules, given that I have chronic OCD. That is my problem with guests. But if you give me my way, mind your business and help in your own little way to take care of the home, we have no problem.

Truth is, Nigerians are very bad guests and they don’t know. The ones from the man’s side tend to be the worst. No disrespect intended.

These are the Signs The OP is Referring to....

She will have No issues Accommodating her own Siblings/Family BUT already has a Terrible Mindset of the Husband's Siblings/Family.

The Truth is that: You will be served your own POISON if you happen to have a SON married in the Future.

The Wife of Your SON will Use you to play Badminton.

No Disrespect intended.

Timekeeper:
I can't even say.. I hardly go to any of my Married siblings house.... Infact it's been long I saw them, no time for anybody...

But for one, my brother's wife... She encourages my brother to spend money on her family than us.. It ended terrible for him as marriage turned sour.. My brother does as if he just won a jackpot anytime his wife family are around but for we, long thing..

Long story but we push him aside.. We don't even communicate with him again...

Forgive Him o.....He needs you Guys(his Family)

Its Wife Manipulation.....that Caused it...(He complied to get Rest of Mind)

Are They Apart now?

Jayzel:
But she's from a wealthy background for crying out loud !!
She's living in their own duplex her dad brought here in the island so she's not after money i don't think so

it seem you are seeking Greener pastures....

Jayzel:
My gf can never cheat on me i trust her more than i trust myself. U won't understand me bro
Our relationship has been a solid one up~till date

Na this Kin People(with 100% Trust with No Shock Absorber) dey get Heart Attack when they Discover that: Their First Son is not Theirs by DNA.

Guy Be Open Mined and Create Shock absorbers for yourself

How to Create Shock Absorbers:
Ask yourself Questions.... like what if i find out :''The kids are not Mine''? What will be My Reaction? will I Die? what is the +ve way out of such as Situation?

and then Answer them.....

You will be fine if the Shocker Happen! because you have Rehearsed it initially

Lalami3232:
As a web, mobile and desktop developer, I can say it has to do with your bargaining power.
Some junior developers are paid as low as 80K while others are paid up to 250K. But don't ever settle for a job less than 150K as a junior developer, don't try it. But the truth be say, junior developers get grade sha, make we no lie. Some wey dey claim to be junior developers are interns in disguise.
I dey interview one guy online one day, he claim say he don get like 3yrs experience for JavaScript. My questions were:
1. What are the biggest and smallest numbers in JS?
2. What is true+1+"1"+1?
The guy flop anyhow without any hint but I no dey access person with algorithm test sha. But that aside, the minimum salary of a junior developer should be 150K, but it has to do with ur bargaining power.

I don talk am before and I go talk am again "the day I go mistakenly born girl pikin eeh, I go *****"

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Lalami3232:
As a web, mobile and desktop developer, I can say it has to do with your bargaining power.
Some junior developers are paid as low as 80K while others are paid up to 250K. But don't ever settle for a job less than 150K as a junior developer, don't try it. But the truth be say, junior developers get grade sha, make we no lie. Some wey dey claim to be junior developers are interns in disguise.
I dey interview one guy online one day, he claim say he don get like 3yrs experience for JavaScript. My questions were:
1. What are the biggest and smallest numbers in JS?
2. What is true+1+"1"+1?
The guy flop anyhow without any hint but I no dey access person with algorithm test sha. But that aside, the minimum salary of a junior developer should be 150K, but it has to do with ur bargaining power.

I don talk am before and I go talk am again "the day I go mistakenly born girl pikin eeh, I go *****"

2. True

Lalami3232:
As a web, mobile and desktop developer, I can say it has to do with your bargaining power.
Some junior developers are paid as low as 80K while others are paid up to 250K. But don't ever settle for a job less than 150K as a junior developer, don't try it. But the truth be say, junior developers get grade sha, make we no lie. Some wey dey claim to be junior developers are interns in disguise.
I dey interview one guy online one day, he claim say he don get like 3yrs experience for JavaScript. My questions were:
1. What are the biggest and smallest numbers in JS?
2. What is true+1+"1"+1?
The guy flop anyhow without any hint but I no dey access person with algorithm test sha. But that aside, the minimum salary of a junior developer should be 150K, but it has to do with ur bargaining power.

I don talk am before and I go talk am again "the day I go mistakenly born girl pikin eeh, I go *****"

Biggest Number:
1.7976931348623157e+308

Smallest Number:
5e-324

pmoye:
You're not wrong actually. Our society should probably start normalizing both men and women remaining single. And this should have nothing to do with religion or being a nun.

Broke-ass woman?? I disagree on that. The humongous amount of ego our men carry into marriage relationship disqualifies them from insisting on the women bringing in equal amount of money. Any woman who does that should be given a merit award by the husband. If you can forsake your ego as a man, and your native sense of entitlement to implicit respect from your wife, then you can reasonably expect your wife to bring money in.

What makes you the head in the marriage is not because you have a dick and ego problem, it is because you do indeed cater for your entire house. We shouldn't make mistake about that. Enough of all the weak and incompetent men we have around who continue to find the slightest excuse to ask their wives to bring in money.

If you are not capable as a man, regardless of your age, simply stay away from marriage. In the alternative, you can have girlfriend who is also not interested in marriage. Until you are fit, don't irresponsibly marry and don't get any woman pregnant.

Its EASY to call People WEAK when things are going well for You.

You Think When You Make A Great Start in Life.....YOU are Better than everyone Around You?

Ask Around.....Some Started of Great....and Lost it all in the twinkle of an eye....

My friend Take it Easy....Pride they Say....

Diligent1:
How can you say you don't have money for happy hour when you have this type of car.

YOU just Vommited exactly....This very Familiar Statement : that show a Sense of over Entitlement.

I'm really Not surprised its coming from a Lady...kai

when You Listen Carefully, You'll Seen the Signs from the Speech.

Entitlement is Written allover u...

Apsis:
Hello every
Pls I need help seriously
I've been experiencing Tingling/burning sensation on public area for 2 weeks now, I went for test and it came back negative
Has anyone had such experience before, pls kindly share solution.

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