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Pataricatering:
this is plain dishonest - have you asked whether her in laws treated her well.for.her.not.to like them ? A lot.of.you will.come.online.and.be acting brand new like we don't know.the way society allows.wives.to.be disrespected by husbands family

It will be Clear to You when your SON eventually get Married to his Wife.

if you come Near that House. Alligator Pepper is what you will get for Bath.

Then Your Eye will be Clear.....

pocohantas:
The truth is that I would be too busy enjoying retirement with my husband for your wishes to come through.

She should feel free to play badminton with her husband (my son).

No disrespect taken.

LOL....You Obviously CAN NOT Stay with a MAN( Not to talk of Husband...)

Its as Clear as a Bright New Day!

Be open to the Idea of being alone at Retirement.....(that's most likely to be your Case)

pocohantas:
No devil entered them. It is who they are. The signs are always there. Some people are not family oriented or accommodating.

I generally have a problem with people that do not respect my space or rules, given that I have chronic OCD. That is my problem with guests. But if you give me my way, mind your business and help in your own little way to take care of the home, we have no problem.

Truth is, Nigerians are very bad guests and they don’t know. The ones from the man’s side tend to be the worst. No disrespect intended.

These are the Signs The OP is Referring to....

She will have No issues Accommodating her own Siblings/Family BUT already has a Terrible Mindset of the Husband's Siblings/Family.

The Truth is that: You will be served your own POISON if you happen to have a SON married in the Future.

The Wife of Your SON will Use you to play Badminton.

No Disrespect intended.

Timekeeper:
I can't even say.. I hardly go to any of my Married siblings house.... Infact it's been long I saw them, no time for anybody...

But for one, my brother's wife... She encourages my brother to spend money on her family than us.. It ended terrible for him as marriage turned sour.. My brother does as if he just won a jackpot anytime his wife family are around but for we, long thing..

Long story but we push him aside.. We don't even communicate with him again...

Forgive Him o.....He needs you Guys(his Family)

Its Wife Manipulation.....that Caused it...(He complied to get Rest of Mind)

Are They Apart now?

Jayzel:
But she's from a wealthy background for crying out loud !!
She's living in their own duplex her dad brought here in the island so she's not after money i don't think so

it seem you are seeking Greener pastures....

Jayzel:
My gf can never cheat on me i trust her more than i trust myself. U won't understand me bro
Our relationship has been a solid one up~till date

Na this Kin People(with 100% Trust with No Shock Absorber) dey get Heart Attack when they Discover that: Their First Son is not Theirs by DNA.

Guy Be Open Mined and Create Shock absorbers for yourself

How to Create Shock Absorbers:
Ask yourself Questions.... like what if i find out :''The kids are not Mine''? What will be My Reaction? will I Die? what is the +ve way out of such as Situation?

and then Answer them.....

You will be fine if the Shocker Happen! because you have Rehearsed it initially

Lalami3232:
As a web, mobile and desktop developer, I can say it has to do with your bargaining power.
Some junior developers are paid as low as 80K while others are paid up to 250K. But don't ever settle for a job less than 150K as a junior developer, don't try it. But the truth be say, junior developers get grade sha, make we no lie. Some wey dey claim to be junior developers are interns in disguise.
I dey interview one guy online one day, he claim say he don get like 3yrs experience for JavaScript. My questions were:
1. What are the biggest and smallest numbers in JS?
2. What is true+1+"1"+1?
The guy flop anyhow without any hint but I no dey access person with algorithm test sha. But that aside, the minimum salary of a junior developer should be 150K, but it has to do with ur bargaining power.

I don talk am before and I go talk am again "the day I go mistakenly born girl pikin eeh, I go *****"

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Lalami3232:
As a web, mobile and desktop developer, I can say it has to do with your bargaining power.
Some junior developers are paid as low as 80K while others are paid up to 250K. But don't ever settle for a job less than 150K as a junior developer, don't try it. But the truth be say, junior developers get grade sha, make we no lie. Some wey dey claim to be junior developers are interns in disguise.
I dey interview one guy online one day, he claim say he don get like 3yrs experience for JavaScript. My questions were:
1. What are the biggest and smallest numbers in JS?
2. What is true+1+"1"+1?
The guy flop anyhow without any hint but I no dey access person with algorithm test sha. But that aside, the minimum salary of a junior developer should be 150K, but it has to do with ur bargaining power.

I don talk am before and I go talk am again "the day I go mistakenly born girl pikin eeh, I go *****"

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Lalami3232:
As a web, mobile and desktop developer, I can say it has to do with your bargaining power.
Some junior developers are paid as low as 80K while others are paid up to 250K. But don't ever settle for a job less than 150K as a junior developer, don't try it. But the truth be say, junior developers get grade sha, make we no lie. Some wey dey claim to be junior developers are interns in disguise.
I dey interview one guy online one day, he claim say he don get like 3yrs experience for JavaScript. My questions were:
1. What are the biggest and smallest numbers in JS?
2. What is true+1+"1"+1?
The guy flop anyhow without any hint but I no dey access person with algorithm test sha. But that aside, the minimum salary of a junior developer should be 150K, but it has to do with ur bargaining power.

I don talk am before and I go talk am again "the day I go mistakenly born girl pikin eeh, I go *****"

Biggest Number:
1.7976931348623157e+308

Smallest Number:
5e-324

pmoye:
You're not wrong actually. Our society should probably start normalizing both men and women remaining single. And this should have nothing to do with religion or being a nun.

Broke-ass woman?? I disagree on that. The humongous amount of ego our men carry into marriage relationship disqualifies them from insisting on the women bringing in equal amount of money. Any woman who does that should be given a merit award by the husband. If you can forsake your ego as a man, and your native sense of entitlement to implicit respect from your wife, then you can reasonably expect your wife to bring money in.

What makes you the head in the marriage is not because you have a dick and ego problem, it is because you do indeed cater for your entire house. We shouldn't make mistake about that. Enough of all the weak and incompetent men we have around who continue to find the slightest excuse to ask their wives to bring in money.

If you are not capable as a man, regardless of your age, simply stay away from marriage. In the alternative, you can have girlfriend who is also not interested in marriage. Until you are fit, don't irresponsibly marry and don't get any woman pregnant.

Its EASY to call People WEAK when things are going well for You.

You Think When You Make A Great Start in Life.....YOU are Better than everyone Around You?

Ask Around.....Some Started of Great....and Lost it all in the twinkle of an eye....

My friend Take it Easy....Pride they Say....

Diligent1:
How can you say you don't have money for happy hour when you have this type of car.

YOU just Vommited exactly....This very Familiar Statement : that show a Sense of over Entitlement.

I'm really Not surprised its coming from a Lady...kai

when You Listen Carefully, You'll Seen the Signs from the Speech.

Entitlement is Written allover u...

Apsis:
Hello every
Pls I need help seriously
I've been experiencing Tingling/burning sensation on public area for 2 weeks now, I went for test and it came back negative
Has anyone had such experience before, pls kindly share solution.

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Minimize outbreak triggers, including stress and too much sun.
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The bottom line
You can contract or transmit herpes and other STIs from kissing, but this doesn’t mean that you should blow off lip action all together and miss out on all the fun.

Avoiding skin-to-skin contact when you or your partner is experiencing an active outbreak will go a long way. Barrier protection can also help.

killmods:
Hmmm

That The RED Flag.....This one has the Traits already to Scatter.....

pocohantas:
Oh please,

You Nigerian men whine too much.

Marry the ones there, una no gree.
Marry foreigners, another wahala.
Come back home and marry, wailing.

What exactly is happening in a marriage abroad that doesn’t happen here? Or you are afraid you can’t batter her, cheat and pursue her from the home you both built?

Anything you see Naija men complaining of, just know their wickedness has been checked.

The ones with clear conscience and good character might have their fears, but they don’t go on and on about it like this.

The way you guys complain of Naija women, one would think your relationships with foreigners last for long. Abi how many old Nigerian men have you seen with foreign wives? All you’ll be hearing is, I dated one Kenyan, Spanish, Polish, British, Finnish… Why you no marry am?

Just hope for a good partner. Love, respect, forgive and communicate. Even on Mars, you guys would weather the storm.

HOPE is not Good Enough in this context .
If One Make a Mistake in Marriage, It can Ruin One Life Completely....

Imagine Being Thrown out of your Home U are Paying Mortgage for.

Where would you Start From?

mrbenjame:
Please I need an honest opinion. I’m not saying there’re no good women. But the rate at which women who marry their abroad hubbys and thereafter go to join them overseas and start misbehaving gets me very worried and sometimes afraid. The question is

1. How often does this happen?
2. Should a guy go on to take his chances?
3. Should he marry someone already abroad?
4. Should he settle entirely with another Nationality totally?

Guys make una input o make we know where we Dey.

over there, if Your Wife Call Police : I want him out.....Your own don finish be that o. You will be Paying the Home Mortgage while you sleep in the Streets.

Your Wife Bring in another Man....and YOU cant do Jack Shit About it.

Apsis:
Hello every
Pls I need help seriously
I've been experiencing Tingling/burning sensation on public area for 2 weeks now, I went for test and it came back negative
Has anyone had such experience before, pls kindly share solution.

Guy, Sincerely how did it happen?

You went in Unprotected?

Hassanmaye:
Lol why stress yourself when you can get Many women at coded runs

Ha!

How Can you be Paying 25k for such ?

i Dont think its a better option...

JayB11:
People of God, i suffered in this life sha. This lady i am talking about is a lady i met since 2007, at that time i was in Senior Secondary. It happened that i visited her at school for proper grammatical grilling, she came out and spent only 6 seconds to say "i don't know you, please leave".

Thereafter, i deployed my CIA, FBI, DSS skills to garner info about her. It was quite successful, i got to know her address and even got her number through her brother (i lied to him that we were classmates), more so, i realised that our parents are very good friends too. Though, this lady crammed my number to always reject my calls.

Later on, i was able to trace her house, and that was were my zombie mood got activated. Brethren, can u imagine that i would trek for about 2 hours in the name of exercise, just to survey this lady's house to see if we can meet since she doesn't pick my calls nor reply my text, it was all futile. Infact, it has become more of a routine for me to go around her house on weekly basis, during which i got stunk by bees on several occasions, coupled with the Temple run i had with some mischievous dogs from her neighbours' houses (na im pain me pass).

Time past, and sometimes around 2010 (now awaiting admission into Uni), we met at Church and i never had the courage to meet her cos public embarrassment and I are not from same village. She sensed my body language but i had no send thought. Again, i met her on FB, and to crown it all, this girl accepted me and liked my pix, but she never responded to any of my messages not until one day we met at an event where she responded to my "hi". I felt the time has come.....little did i know.

From 2011 to 2013, below are few of the humiliations i suffered from her hands even when we fully got into talking terms
...

1. Bought expensive gifts which she rejected without reasons.
2. Failed to show up at eateries and other venues that we agreed to meet at numerous times, most of which i spent money to make a cool arrangement.
3. When with me, she calls several guys (richer ones) and put the phone on hands free for reasons best known to her.
4. Told my friends we are not a match, infact i don't fit into her spec.
5. She never gave me that space for love. YET I WAS WORSHIPPING AND STILL FOLLOWING HER LIKE I WAS CURSED.

Fast forward to date, the girl na Med Doctor, and the guy don receive small grace, now gurl wan carry my Children..... O YA WERE.

PS:

This same girl is now doing anything possible to let us get married. She got some people to talk to me about us coming back together for a very serious relationship that would lead to marriage. I thought you should marry your friend, not a hypergamist

Let me Guess Your Age Now: You are Around 33 -35 yrs old

She is Through with Flexing.....Now.....She Needs to SIMP to settle with.

Nuttella:
And I heard that husband will be scarce by 2023.

Oh I'm so scared

No, when you clock 29. wait and See....

UyaiIncomparabl:
I have a lot of boyfriends. Come, let me dash you one. I use and dump them like papers.

Your Time is coming.... : 27-28 yrs o.....Then, they'll become Scarce.....
E go be like Magic!

gracedson:
I don’t have a Social life at all, I don’t go out at all, except to get food and fuel, and more importantly go to Church.
I have just learnt to balance my life around programming.

This is my Greatest Fear....0 social life!
Eventually, Due to lack of being socially Savvy and experienced in Women, one will not be able to Know the Good one from the Not so good one...

and if one wifes a Bad one, all the Academic Efforts and Scarifies to Attain Wealth will be frustrated ....even to Zero!

there must be a way to balance all these parts!


Are you a Front End Guy OR full Stack?

gracedson:
Brother, I am a programmer myself, been doing this since 16yo, the Top programmers I know takes alcohol and smokes, programming in this modern age is a lifestyle, you’ve just got to balance everything.

If you are not ready to dedicate a part of your Life to this Craft, you ain’t going to Where.

Bros, You mean you still have a Great Social life...like Dating and Outings....weekend Trips....together with Programming?

how do you do it.....

i need some Heads-up on how you manage the Time

Powersurge:
Stop saying what you don't know. Data sciencs na programming abi?

Programming is in Data Science too....

Python Can be Used to Analyze Data : Numpy / Pandas / MatplotLib package
python for data Extraction : Beautiful soup

Programming is very much in Real data Science bro...

RichboyPee:
Nobody takes a loan with high inconsiderate interest rates for the fun of it. Let's be considerate in our comments please

But to Be Frank.....If you check the interest Rate, and its too High,

You Don't have have to Take the Loan.....

Consider borrowing from Friends or Family......

If You decide not to pay Back…..These Set of People will easily forgive you...and let it go...


But if you Take the Loan Despite the HIGH interest Rate from the Loan Company,....That means You have agreed to Pay Back WITHOUT COMPLAIN.....

BROS, is that not?

Tabithatim:
Come and see o! A particular loan app in this Nigeria has been threatening me over a loan that isn’t due, out of 6 instalments I’ve paid 3 and now just some hours after the 3rd instalment is to be paid they’ve started sending me threatening messages and even had the guts to contact people on my contact list that I’m late on my payment. This is so wrong!!

So in July I took out a loan of 150k to pay back in 6 months, they gave me their rules and how I’ll pay it (make I no even talk the big interest rate way dem give me, that one one na topic for anoda day). After confirming my loan on the 2nd of July, it took 4 days for the money to reflect in my account after many stories and mails to them. Can you imagine that these guys have been debiting me on the 2nd of every month claiming that’s when my loan was approved and it’s from my end there was a delay. That’s so unprofessional and mean! I’ve tried to speak with someone on their end but nothing…they’re just speaking English. I don’t know how to report them. Now they’re threatening me even though they’re the ones at wrong.

Most of these loan companies don't care about you or your reputation o. They will promise you heaven & earth everything join with sweet words, they will trick you with social media ads only to lure you in and torture you.

I just tire. I’m soooo pained that I even had to take a loan in the first place and this is what they’re putting a customer through. Na only to dey dirty people name them sabi all these loan apps are one kind and maybe even fraudulent cause not only is their interest rates too high, they shouldn’t be allowed to threaten people at all even if they’ve missed a payment date; it’s just wrong. Is this how all loan apps are? What can I do? I heard FairMoney and some other loan apps are better?

BRO, from you explanation which is not completely clear, You took the Loan in JULY (lets Assume JULY 1). you ought to Start paying by:

AUG 1 : -----
SEP 1: ----
OCT 1: --------
NOV 1: ------
and be Ready to pay the 5th installment by DEC 1

if you have only paid 3 installments (from you Write up) YOU ARE GUILTY!

Please Clarify, why Have you paid Only 3 Installments?

Jman06:
There's really nothing fantastic about living such lifestyle he is craving for. I mean, the life of partying, clubbing and flexing different women. Many of us who had a taste of such life are even grateful to God that we were able to retrace our steps on time. Some people were not so lucky as they got struck by the so many negatives of such lifestyle.

The best thing anyone can do for themselves to live long and good is to live chaste. There are better ways the op can have fun without doing what he is proposing.

You are Saying this.....Because you Tasted both Lives.....

Its not so easy when you have no experience of the side you wished for....lol

Truvelisback:
If this is what marriage is all about, i won't marry, i would rather have a Gf. Marriage now is like a suicide rope on the neck.

GUY, A GF abroad is as Good as Marriage. Read the publication again.....

you Breakup, You might have to start paying maintenance monthly..... as she moves to her Next Man(victim).

Myexdisturbs:
You're actually experienced bro. They seem not to care if one is married and I try to know why exactly it is like that. Men can easily walk away from a married woman than a single girl walking away from a married man

BROS, Since you are Justifying all the actions of your Wife, WHY then did u come Here to Report to Us?

BROS, What Exactly do you want from US?

wfjimmytobby:
I meet this girl around September we got so close and have always spent on her, going shopping and all that and always tell her how I feel.

She do make demand from me and have always responded..but I suspected that she has lots of suitors trying to get her and even her ex..cos she told me he is trying to get back so I decided to demand for sex so we can get serious but she refuse and said she is not ready and that I should wait but she keeps requesting for assistance and even wants me to get her a new phone cos her previous phone got spoilt and all..

So I need your advice should I wait for her to be ready to give me her body and keep on assisting her or should I just give up on the relationship cos she might actually be trying to scam me or something?

You are Scammed Already bro. Its Time to Wake Up!!!!

Stop the Spending and Assistance Already without Receiving in Return!
That is the reason YOU ARE BEING DENIED ACCESS to the coochie.

You are a Provider..... and PROVIDERS don't GET coochie!!

wake up and Demand it Or Break the relationship off !!!

distinguish:
We have been married for a year now. We have been trying to conceive. Because of the emotional stress attached my wife said she can't be staying at home alone, it causes her stress. She said she wants to start doing something. At least a business.

I took a loan from my place of work and we started the business for over 2 months now. The issue now is that, I don't always have cash on me anymore. Any little money I got it's for the business. Basically, we mostly feed from the business.

Yesterday, after we returned home, she started giving me attitude, I asked her what the issue was, she started telling me how I am killing the business, not taking good care of her, not having money to take care of her and all sort of rubbish, she brought out how incompetent I am as a husband and what have you. I never said a word to reply her and its eating me up seriously, I could not sleep the whole night. This is the person that I sacrificed a lot for. I was supposed a take a professional course this November, but because of her I had to postpone it.

Please I need your advice.

PS: I did not eat the food she prepared last night.

Bro, if You are Depending on a New Business to Feed, The business will Crash.
the Profit and Initial capital must be Turned over again and Again for the business to survive.

if not....It will Crash.

look for another source of income like a Job to prevent you from eating up the business.

Know this and know peace

Saintmary:
See, don't mind all these small boys o.

I call them small boys because of their maturity not their age. Lots of them don't mature until around 50 years of age and it's not an insult.
It's just what it is!

They want to gallivant around picking up women without thought of the consequences of their actions and the impact of their activities on the innocent children.

When they finally get sense after their middle age and they find out that they only have immature men like them in their immediate circle, they start longing for a family of their own.

They will eventually marry o, I repeat, ALL of them will eventually marry. It's wired into their DNA and they are resisting now but mark my words:

THEY WILL MARRY.

Now, the kind of person they will end up with is not in this context.
As a woman, if you like, do baby mama, this life goes on, and no one will defend you. But I'll tell you, don't agree to do it.

Even George Clooney that was a confirmed bachelor married at last, I don't rate these small boys and their noise.

You Sound Scared....are You in your 30s and Searching?

tradepunter:
When working class guy with roof over his head making use of public transport approach these girls, they look down on you like you wasting your life..

Na benz boys them like... Prefer to live in fantasy than in reality.... No questions whatsoever, intellectual conversation na sin to them....

Trying to encourage while finding avenue to sponsor their biz na sin...

Come see my estate for island lagos, na so so baby mamas day everywhere... Father's no where to be found, then they will be asking is it a sin to date a SINGLE MUM??

Anyways make everyone dy there lane....

To every genuine hard working man, none of these girls are worth it if you don't meet their fantasy.

This Need to be Understood:

You See....Ladies have Age Time Frames:

18 - 26 yrs of Age :
They don't want wish to settle down...They want To party, Grove etc. with the most sociable guys in town (guys that spend it all as they get the money) .

BUT at

27 - Upwards:

They Shift their focus:

They are Ready to settle Down, so they Stop pursuing the Sociable guys that mostly don't think about the future TO guys that have been working from day1 (The nice guys, studious guys, the planners, the Executives that have been sacrificing all their social life just to get a good future)
The Reason is : To provide for her kids and form a stable family.

(some of them don't escapes this (18-26)period without a kid or 2 ruining or reducing their chances of Trapping a provider [/b]Man in the (27- upward) Age Period)

They make this shift because the Former Cannot Not Provide for Family and Mostly are Not stable to commit to a Family.

[b]Sadly, due to lack of experience of theses non-socially savvy second set of Guys (providers), they get Trapped by already used Ladies.

If you are provider, Look well and Don't be Trapped.

Know this and Know peace....