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killmods:
Hmmm

pocohantas:
Oh please,

You Nigerian men whine too much.

Marry the ones there, una no gree.
Marry foreigners, another wahala.
Come back home and marry, wailing.

What exactly is happening in a marriage abroad that doesn’t happen here? Or you are afraid you can’t batter her, cheat and pursue her from the home you both built?

Anything you see Naija men complaining of, just know their wickedness has been checked.

The ones with clear conscience and good character might have their fears, but they don’t go on and on about it like this.

The way you guys complain of Naija women, one would think your relationships with foreigners last for long. Abi how many old Nigerian men have you seen with foreign wives? All you’ll be hearing is, I dated one Kenyan, Spanish, Polish, British, Finnish… Why you no marry am?

Just hope for a good partner. Love, respect, forgive and communicate. Even on Mars, you guys would weather the storm.

mrbenjame:
Please I need an honest opinion. I’m not saying there’re no good women. But the rate at which women who marry their abroad hubbys and thereafter go to join them overseas and start misbehaving gets me very worried and sometimes afraid. The question is

1. How often does this happen?
2. Should a guy go on to take his chances?
3. Should he marry someone already abroad?
4. Should he settle entirely with another Nationality totally?

Guys make una input o make we know where we Dey.

Apsis:
Hello every
Pls I need help seriously
I've been experiencing Tingling/burning sensation on public area for 2 weeks now, I went for test and it came back negative
Has anyone had such experience before, pls kindly share solution.

Hassanmaye:
Lol why stress yourself when you can get Many women at coded runs

JayB11:
People of God, i suffered in this life sha. This lady i am talking about is a lady i met since 2007, at that time i was in Senior Secondary. It happened that i visited her at school for proper grammatical grilling, she came out and spent only 6 seconds to say "i don't know you, please leave".

Thereafter, i deployed my CIA, FBI, DSS skills to garner info about her. It was quite successful, i got to know her address and even got her number through her brother (i lied to him that we were classmates), more so, i realised that our parents are very good friends too. Though, this lady crammed my number to always reject my calls.

Later on, i was able to trace her house, and that was were my zombie mood got activated. Brethren, can u imagine that i would trek for about 2 hours in the name of exercise, just to survey this lady's house to see if we can meet since she doesn't pick my calls nor reply my text, it was all futile. Infact, it has become more of a routine for me to go around her house on weekly basis, during which i got stunk by bees on several occasions, coupled with the Temple run i had with some mischievous dogs from her neighbours' houses (na im pain me pass).

Time past, and sometimes around 2010 (now awaiting admission into Uni), we met at Church and i never had the courage to meet her cos public embarrassment and I are not from same village. She sensed my body language but i had no send thought. Again, i met her on FB, and to crown it all, this girl accepted me and liked my pix, but she never responded to any of my messages not until one day we met at an event where she responded to my "hi". I felt the time has come.....little did i know.

From 2011 to 2013, below are few of the humiliations i suffered from her hands even when we fully got into talking terms
...

1. Bought expensive gifts which she rejected without reasons.
2. Failed to show up at eateries and other venues that we agreed to meet at numerous times, most of which i spent money to make a cool arrangement.
3. When with me, she calls several guys (richer ones) and put the phone on hands free for reasons best known to her.
4. Told my friends we are not a match, infact i don't fit into her spec.
5. She never gave me that space for love. YET I WAS WORSHIPPING AND STILL FOLLOWING HER LIKE I WAS CURSED.

Fast forward to date, the girl na Med Doctor, and the guy don receive small grace, now gurl wan carry my Children..... O YA WERE.

PS:

This same girl is now doing anything possible to let us get married. She got some people to talk to me about us coming back together for a very serious relationship that would lead to marriage. I thought you should marry your friend, not a hypergamist

Nuttella:
And I heard that husband will be scarce by 2023.

Oh I'm so scared

UyaiIncomparabl:
I have a lot of boyfriends. Come, let me dash you one. I use and dump them like papers.

gracedson:
I don’t have a Social life at all, I don’t go out at all, except to get food and fuel, and more importantly go to Church.
I have just learnt to balance my life around programming.

gracedson:
Brother, I am a programmer myself, been doing this since 16yo, the Top programmers I know takes alcohol and smokes, programming in this modern age is a lifestyle, you’ve just got to balance everything.

If you are not ready to dedicate a part of your Life to this Craft, you ain’t going to Where.

Powersurge:
Stop saying what you don't know. Data sciencs na programming abi?

RichboyPee:
Nobody takes a loan with high inconsiderate interest rates for the fun of it. Let's be considerate in our comments please

Tabithatim:
Come and see o! A particular loan app in this Nigeria has been threatening me over a loan that isn’t due, out of 6 instalments I’ve paid 3 and now just some hours after the 3rd instalment is to be paid they’ve started sending me threatening messages and even had the guts to contact people on my contact list that I’m late on my payment. This is so wrong!!

So in July I took out a loan of 150k to pay back in 6 months, they gave me their rules and how I’ll pay it (make I no even talk the big interest rate way dem give me, that one one na topic for anoda day). After confirming my loan on the 2nd of July, it took 4 days for the money to reflect in my account after many stories and mails to them. Can you imagine that these guys have been debiting me on the 2nd of every month claiming that’s when my loan was approved and it’s from my end there was a delay. That’s so unprofessional and mean! I’ve tried to speak with someone on their end but nothing…they’re just speaking English. I don’t know how to report them. Now they’re threatening me even though they’re the ones at wrong.

Most of these loan companies don't care about you or your reputation o. They will promise you heaven & earth everything join with sweet words, they will trick you with social media ads only to lure you in and torture you.

I just tire. I’m soooo pained that I even had to take a loan in the first place and this is what they’re putting a customer through. Na only to dey dirty people name them sabi all these loan apps are one kind and maybe even fraudulent cause not only is their interest rates too high, they shouldn’t be allowed to threaten people at all even if they’ve missed a payment date; it’s just wrong. Is this how all loan apps are? What can I do? I heard FairMoney and some other loan apps are better?

Jman06:
There's really nothing fantastic about living such lifestyle he is craving for. I mean, the life of partying, clubbing and flexing different women. Many of us who had a taste of such life are even grateful to God that we were able to retrace our steps on time. Some people were not so lucky as they got struck by the so many negatives of such lifestyle.

The best thing anyone can do for themselves to live long and good is to live chaste. There are better ways the op can have fun without doing what he is proposing.

Truvelisback:
If this is what marriage is all about, i won't marry, i would rather have a Gf. Marriage now is like a suicide rope on the neck.

Myexdisturbs:
You're actually experienced bro. They seem not to care if one is married and I try to know why exactly it is like that. Men can easily walk away from a married woman than a single girl walking away from a married man

wfjimmytobby:
I meet this girl around September we got so close and have always spent on her, going shopping and all that and always tell her how I feel.

She do make demand from me and have always responded..but I suspected that she has lots of suitors trying to get her and even her ex..cos she told me he is trying to get back so I decided to demand for sex so we can get serious but she refuse and said she is not ready and that I should wait but she keeps requesting for assistance and even wants me to get her a new phone cos her previous phone got spoilt and all..

So I need your advice should I wait for her to be ready to give me her body and keep on assisting her or should I just give up on the relationship cos she might actually be trying to scam me or something?

distinguish:
We have been married for a year now. We have been trying to conceive. Because of the emotional stress attached my wife said she can't be staying at home alone, it causes her stress. She said she wants to start doing something. At least a business.

I took a loan from my place of work and we started the business for over 2 months now. The issue now is that, I don't always have cash on me anymore. Any little money I got it's for the business. Basically, we mostly feed from the business.

Yesterday, after we returned home, she started giving me attitude, I asked her what the issue was, she started telling me how I am killing the business, not taking good care of her, not having money to take care of her and all sort of rubbish, she brought out how incompetent I am as a husband and what have you. I never said a word to reply her and its eating me up seriously, I could not sleep the whole night. This is the person that I sacrificed a lot for. I was supposed a take a professional course this November, but because of her I had to postpone it.

Please I need your advice.

PS: I did not eat the food she prepared last night.

Saintmary:
See, don't mind all these small boys o.

I call them small boys because of their maturity not their age. Lots of them don't mature until around 50 years of age and it's not an insult.
It's just what it is!

They want to gallivant around picking up women without thought of the consequences of their actions and the impact of their activities on the innocent children.

When they finally get sense after their middle age and they find out that they only have immature men like them in their immediate circle, they start longing for a family of their own.

They will eventually marry o, I repeat, ALL of them will eventually marry. It's wired into their DNA and they are resisting now but mark my words:

THEY WILL MARRY.

Now, the kind of person they will end up with is not in this context.
As a woman, if you like, do baby mama, this life goes on, and no one will defend you. But I'll tell you, don't agree to do it.

Even George Clooney that was a confirmed bachelor married at last, I don't rate these small boys and their noise.

tradepunter:
When working class guy with roof over his head making use of public transport approach these girls, they look down on you like you wasting your life..

Na benz boys them like... Prefer to live in fantasy than in reality.... No questions whatsoever, intellectual conversation na sin to them....

Trying to encourage while finding avenue to sponsor their biz na sin...

Come see my estate for island lagos, na so so baby mamas day everywhere... Father's no where to be found, then they will be asking is it a sin to date a SINGLE MUM??

Anyways make everyone dy there lane....

To every genuine hard working man, none of these girls are worth it if you don't meet their fantasy.

trumpcoat:
That's the truth,another thing is men marry who you're older than so well so that at old age the woman will still be strong to take care of you, before they will start saying age is just a number,
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bepositive11:
You're making a mistake by only blaming your mother. Yes, she was wrong to hit your father but don't forget that your father contributed to the problem by allowing her to hit him. That's called enabling bad behaviour

Your father should have stood his ground. That doesn't mean that he should've hit her back, no. He should have told your mother not to hit him and laid down the consequences she would face if she should hit him. This is called setting up boundaries

If there's anyone you should hate, hate both of them. Your father not hitting her back doesn't make him innocent. He contributed to the problem by being passive

Benzemma:
May TUNDER fire such girl, who after rendering her life useless with bad nigas, will come to me for relationship!

Palema007:
There is no lines to read between here, you gave your definition of bad boys to the question asked.




I never personalized that,did I? Here I am trying to help you guys understand why some ladies go for your so called bad boys. But what do I get in return? Assumptions and incoherent babbles.

Some of you are so difficult to reason with.

XXXXTENTACION:
Will Smith is a Simple man....

Ficient:
A smart girl supposed decode na. Na so I take one babe go fast food that year, she look me up and down nai she talk say she no go eat, she go only taste small from my own. Based on say she fit say I no too hold cash. Man never package himself fully that year, but I just landed a good oil company job. Na so I thank God say she look down on me, although I was prepared for her and even like 6 of her friends bcuz na so warri girls dey do that yeah. I spend only 1.5k, still force her collect big ice cream for her siblings. Last last I didn't continue with the relationship, as she dey look down on me say I no too hold cash, she no know say me don summarize her already say she no reach my spec for a serious relationship, based on levels don change

Jman06:
My brother let me advise you like someone who has experienced the so called "fun" in partying and clubbing lifestyles.

There's no fun in such places you are looking at. You'll only end up complicating your life and putting yourself into financial, health and security risks. Don't start a bad life you were not cut out for ab initio! It ends in regrets!! I don't know how else to stress this so you can understand.

Meanwhile, since you were not even like in a relationship with your wife at the time she was living such lifestyle, why are you angry about it now? Not like she was cheating on you or something.

OverCalculating:
Hi Everyone,

I took a loan from a Microfinance bank sometime in 2019. The loan was N600,000 and I was asked to pay back on a monthly basis for 8 months. I had actually requested for 1.2million naira loan to get an important tool/machine to enhance my business but I was only offered 600k. With 600k I could not afford to get the tool, so I diverted the money to another business. After repaying a portion of the loan for few months, the business failed and I could not afford to payback afterwards. The business was meat distribution to households and offices. It failed because of inadequate structure that gave way for customers to receive products but not pay back. Debt killed the business. I have been struggling to survive since then.

At a point, I called the company early this year, when I got a new job that I know the months of my repayment have elapsed but I am ready to start paying a percentage of my new salary, but they insisted I should pay in full since my repayment is overdue.

Recently, I have been getting several threats from the company asking me to make full payment or else the case will be reported to the police and I would be jailed for absconding with the company's money. I know I am indebted to them but I can't afford to refund all the loan now since I am only managing to live with a job that I am doing now which I earn 40k salary. My concern now is that I need clarifications from the legal practitioners, IT experts and public prosecutors in the house on the following:

1. Is this case truly a criminal case as they constantly remind me or is it a civil case?

2. Can the Police actually track my location to arrest me as they threaten? Please note that I use a small Nokia phone and I am in a remote area outside Lagos.

3.What is the worse thing that can happen; so I can get ready for it because I am not financially buoyant now to cough out 600k now.

Thank you all.

NgeneUkwenu:
But my husband doesn't cheat, even though I dated a lot of married men, when I was in form.

beyooooni1:
how ronaldo be the fault, na ronaldo make them score the goals against MAN U. It all boil down to the fact, OLE doesnt know how to coach a world class player like Ronaldo.... Person wey don prove himself in different leagues.

paulolee:
Even wenger don talk same...his fans go still abuse n call wenger saidst n clueless than kissing the fact..
One clueless gee de compare suffering united fault with messi PSG wey dey top league
Its not about both individual stats BT d after effect of their team performance after signing them..
United dey suffer more with cr7 than wen him no join n dm say ole ia d fault....no wahala

Phillz83:
Goodday nairaland sorry this was coming late was so busy today... this creature was killed very close to my Neighborhood today