₦airaland Forum

mmsen:
They're not facts.

These are silly opinions.

How does the OP reason that the Kanuri/Fulani/Hausa girls will have money when the absolute poverty rate in that part of the world is over 80%?

There's an iota of truth in most of what he said though not always absolutely correct.
In this case, the kind of lady that you as an educated non-northerner would like consider approaching is likely to be from a relatively rich family.

I bet you won't find an 18 yr old whose body is prolapsing like a 50yr old attractive ?

tenry:
You are very wrong! Pls come to Kano, u ll see them in thousands.

Kano is an exception amongst Hausa land. It is a very cosmopolitan town and hence the ladies must have this 'city' and 'open eye' feel about them. But that aside the OP might be right.

gracile:
well done op! you're not so far from the truth
buh we are not heartbreakers now, abi idoma gal don ever break ur heart talk true o

Idoma girls are generally not straight forward. (I am generalizing of course because there will be exceptions depending on so many factors - of which you might be one) But majorly they have this snakelike feel about them. For them, being deceptive in relationships is natural and necessary.

The thing is that their outward personality makes them attractive to any man.
Generally beautiful, with good figure, can cook, are respectful towards parents/elder. Relatively sophisticated, relatively intelligent, exceptional diction (since their language is not one of the major languages, and there is no dominant major language around them- some speak Hausa in addition to Idoma, some speak Ibo as the added language, some speak none - they are more adept generally at spoken English than almost all the tribes in Nigeria) .
But as the OP said '100%' love from an idoma girl is a myth even after marriage (as I said earlier, this is a generalization and there are exceptions) but I will generally advice men to have their antennas up and senses alert when dating Idoma women.

the OP - DanceVille - said they practice 'emotional balancing' he is right but the psychology term is 'triangulation'. Idomas are masters at triangulation.

No biggie

1dafullymade:
buh OP, permit me to ask, u hv a "BoyFriend" right?, & this ur "boyfriend", I supoz he is a christian, right?...if ur answers to d above questions are in d affirmative, den u confuse me with d "I don't want to be a part of the "hypocrite" thing going on in d church.."statement....just as ur now boyfriend,who I believe is a "christian" saw,admired,wooed u & u accepted, is the same way these other guys saw,admired(still admire),wooed(still wooing) u & is upto u to either accept or reject their advances...so whatz d news here? or are they outrightly asking u for sex?, is it now wrong for pple,irrespective of d group they belong in, to xpress themselves?is it not possible for dez guys asking u out to actually mean well & "might" respect & abide by any conditions u give...by the way,don't u think dat u and ur boyfriend are already hypocrites(that is,if u guys indulge in kissing & any other sexual acts,even if u don't indulge in s*x itself)?.........

Nawa for we women, if they "woo/pursue" us,wahala, if they don't, we start crying & going from one church/pastor to the other asking for deliverance...its well oooo

Anyways sweetie, plz don't b pissed,just appreciate dem for desiring u & politely turn dem down(so far dey ar young unmarried pple), buh if is d married ones ? my dear, u really don't need to be polite cus itz obvious what they want..

Plz keep serving d Lord in anyway u can, don't b discouraged by all d distractions plz...

Wow! This is as close to genius as possible, permit me to ask what proffession are you or what course are you studying?
Your thinking and articulation is exceptional

Jungle justice everywhere. Africans behaving like scum bags

My sixth sense tells me both pregnant woman and mad man are scammers but things went horribly wrong for them

Keneking:
Ok..It depends...

1. Borehole - N600k
2. Fence and gate - N600k
3. Aluminium Roof - N700k
4. Wooden roof skeleton and frames - N500k
5. Blocks - N 600k

You might request that he abandons you one more time to raise additional funds to complete the pending points.

Why not wait till Buhari resumes as President...things would be cheap by then?

You are too wicked for my liking

Tashaamania:
It's just bad the wife didnt open up to him before marriage..
Lies and deceit isnt healthy for relationships.
I cant blame the man, however I feel sorry for the woman

My sentiments exactly. However, I don't pity the woman, deceitful people are not worth a penny to me.

kennygee:
Only Porn addicts will do a study like this.

Just enjoy sex and leave

Don't go all "Masters of sex" about it.

You're just too funny!
Some people are just scientific about everything!

naijainfogalery:
hmmm you dont understand what techcabal meant by building from scratch, for example, if the site uses a navigation system, did they build it? it must have been integrated from another system

The truth is building from scratch is like reinventing the wheel, sometimes it could be time wasting and our ecomony doesnt give you room for that. imagine building a site like facebook for 1 year and after building it, you still come and beg people to register.

Nicely put
People like the OP are actually the reason why we are backward.
Technology itself is about building on the strides of previous achievements.
It's about providing solutions in the best and most efficient way not about proving a point

Mitsurugi:
Its what I always suspected. South Africans are just a bunch of lazy ass people who want to be spoon fed. Nigerians are hard working and that's why we are always picked on everywhere we go. Yes, we have the ass.holes who give us a bad name (which country or tribe doesn't) but there is no foreign establishment that jettisons the Nigerian and this is because of his work ethic. We can work three jobs in a day without sweat and complain. My friend told me that Ghanaians wake up as late as 10 for business as against the Nigerians who are up by 5.30 and would have serviced early and lucrative customers. Instead of rising early to hustle they blame the Nigerians for taking their business. Look at their movies which even drab Nollywood outshines in terms of acceptability and popularity and the horrible noise South Africans have going for music... very soon they will start accusing Don Jazzy, Tuface et al of witchcraft! Nigerians beat South Africans in everything; work, money, beautiful, well endowed women and handsome guys with authentic swag, movies, good (sensible and danceable) music even in football! I don't blame them... its enough to go crazy about!

What you have said is actually hard to disprove.
But really, it's sentiments like these that make locals wary of Nigerians in foreign lands.
Though some of what you said might be true but it smacks of disrespect to other africans!

MRBrownJ:
noted, but you have only yourself to blame when he finds out about anything you did that he is against and divorce you because you hid that from him. remember, whats good for the goose..............



i guess we are different, i believe in trust and honesty, care and understanding....... therefore if someone i was about to marry tell me they are against something i did in the past, it is my DUTY to tell them that i have done it so that we dont waste time lying and pretending to be who we are not. let me guess: you would have advise the lady of the OP to lie to him if he asked her if she ever had an abortion, right?

I guess this is going to be a difficult back and forth; You are talking to people with totally different world-views. It's like trying to explain what happens in mars to creatures from venus.
See as she 'smartly' avoided your final question


I see you also noticed the 'petty things'. Petty things like abortion

MrsChima:
MRBrownJ

There won't be any blame because we don't trip off petty things...Thank God!

All my husband and I want to know are we going to be subjected to any life and death situations/experiences....if not we are good!

I also am into trust and honesty as wel lol as minding my business to things that does not affect me or knew me.

Wow! petty things like having an abortion (which I believe was the premise of this thread) I'm learning MrsChima, I'm learning !


I will also like to learn the definition of trust and honesty because today might just be 'reorientation friday' for me.


I used to think the information someone withheld from me, that he should have told me, is a worse form of deceit than the lies he said

MrsChima:
Exactly. He has posted a post contradicting himself or herself. It said that no one can show their real self in a relationship and some things needed to be hidden.

Which one is it? We should keep things hidden or tell evertthing?!!

It has confused itself!

I might be missing something here.

If you are referring to the sentence below in my earlier post, then you didn't get my point

I find it remarkably absurd that you have decided to use the phrase 'keep it real' when trying to convince me that nobody can show their real self in a relationship, because we need to keep some part hidden - hope you spot the contradiction !


I was actually trying to condense your line of reasoning from your earlier posts on this thread. Which is - there are some parts of our selves that we still need to keep hidden even from our spouse and then you used the phrase 'let's keep things real' to buttress your points, which I felt was a big contradiction. It's like you saying - let's keep things real, we can't be real to our spouses !

MrsChima:
You failed the lie detector test and you know damn well you didn't tell anyone everything that has happened in your past and anything you have done that is questionable.

Why can't motherfuckers keep it real?!

Anyway..do you.

I have resisted the urge to respond with an insult so I took a deep breath before typing this
I grew up with my dad in my impressionable years and he was an open book. The first thing that cuts anybody off my list is deceit.

Every body with a sensitive conscience is naturally a good person on the inside regardless of what he/she must have gone through. And whatever you think you might have gone through or done is an experience millions of others would have had at some point.
So I don't see any reason why I should be afraid of telling those close to my heart about my challenges and difficulties no matter how bad it sounds knowing fully well they might have experienced something similar or worse

but then it might be pointless arguing about this - female children especially those in Africa are raised differently from men. And a male child is moulded from his early years to be less concerned about society's opinion of him whereas females are sort of raised to conform to some arbitrary standards so maybe I might understand your angle a bit.

I have had friends who had talked openly about girls that had abortions for them, or being on drugs - so what ?

I have been addicted to pornography at some point in my life before , so what ?

I have had more partners than I would have wished to, so what ?

I have never stolen from anybody or killed any one ?

So really what is it that you think I might want to hide from my spouse ?? I am still trying to imagine what that thing is ?


I think the problem you might have is never learning to accept yourself for who you are. It's a battle a lot of women (and men) face

Kenai:
With the Odi Massacre, the Halliburton fraud, the Econet scam, the Bakassi loss, the Siemens fraud, the National ID scam, the 2003 electoral rigging, the 2007 electoral rigging, the fraudulent impeachments, the introduction of Sharia Law in a secular state, the oil industry fraud, the power sector fraud and the brazen civilian dictatorship that marked this man's administration... I have no option than to conclude that Obasanjo should have been left to rot in that jail all along.

cc: Lalasticlala, Ishilove, Obinoscopy.

Take a deep breath

PassingShot:
Nothing bad in scrapping the program if it's no longer sustainable.

It is a lofty program which was introduced based on certain conditions and if the new realities mean the program must be discontinued, so be it.

May God bless and sustain your intelligence

succinctly put !

MrsChima:
You don't have to marry someone that you don't want to marry but know this just like you won't marry a serial killer neither does a person want to marry a dumb ass.

You have flaws and issues as well. I bet you won't disclose everything you have done unpleasantly.

Keep it real.

MrsChima:
You wrote all of that and STILL haven't said anything that convince me that someone can FORCE you to choose to deal with someone because they didn't disclose what they have done on the past BEFORE THEY MET YOU.

Not one person on this thread including you can tell me you have disclosed EVERYTHING in your past to the person you are in a relationship with..I know for a fact NO ONE HAS.

In that case we all have been deceitful because NONE OF US disclosed everything we have done in the past!

The world I live in is not fiction and a bunch of unrealistic bullshit.

I don't know why people make over generalized conclusions. There are issues where you can only speak for yourself.

The last relationship I had (and the most serious so far), I told my partner every thing, absolutely everything she needed to hear about me, I hid none! She had access to my phones and my computer system, 24/7 ! She knew my system password and my phone unlock pattern, so what ?
That's the way I live my life, If you don't like me, buzz off. I have never killed anybody, never stolen from anybody, never defrauded anyone. I am not perfect but I love my life and proud of myself despite my obvious weaknesses.
The worst thing was that I told her that I have had more partners than I would have wished to, which even included some people she knows, so ?
I believe in openness and I will rather live alone on an island than in a house with a deceitful person.

I find it remarkably absurd that you have decided to use the phrase 'keep it real' when trying to convince me that nobody can show their real self in a relationship, because we need to keep some part hidden - hope you spot the contradiction !

MRBrownJ:
@ MrsChima @ Deehvahrzz,
i am the one who should ask you which world you live in that you think that we shouldnt look at someone's past to evaluate them? bwaaaaaah. what anyone has done in their past is part of who they are today, you MUST use that to evaluate them and build a r/ship on solid grounds. you cant possibly build a great future with someone, while hiding from him something you did that he is against.

let me ask you this:
- if i suddenly tell you a few days before marriage that i was a child molester, a rapiist or that i've killed my 2 ex wives out of drunken rage. would you really NOT sit down and re-evaluate your stand in this r/ship?
- if i suddenly tell you a few days before marriage that i have kidnapped a few children and ate their organs, done money rituals to become who i am today, and that baba ijebu has still not been settled. would you really NOT sit down and re-evaluate your stand in this r/ship?
- if i suddenly tell you a few days before marriage that in the past i was a male prostitute selling my aaass to underground gay ogas at the top in lagos, without using condoms. would you really NOT sit down and re-evaluate your stand in this r/ship?

what i am trying to make you understand is that, what she did is wrong (in his mind), and from the day he discovers what she has done in her past, that man would not be able to look at her the same way.... its now a different person in front of him (a gal that did something he is against). so this is why he has to re-evaluate! r/ships crash everyday so this one aint any better. any woman who thinks that her past is irrelevant to her future, is fooling herself royally. your past will always be connect to your present and you future, and sometimes there are consequences

if a lady dreams of having a child, and discover just before marriage that her future hubby has low sperm count, then she must re-evaluate and decide if she wants to continue or not in the r/ship.... she has all the rights to do so.

so now, some virgins are barren OR some runz gal who had a few abortions got married and had 5 kids, so men shouldnt have an opinion on the past of the woman they are about to marry?!?!?!?!?!

Don't mind all these people who talk without thinking. Past is past so I should marry someone I just discovered to be a serial killer ?

Joavid:
3) Flow of your period
While it may seem that you're losing gallons of blood during your monthly cycle, the average period only releases less than a cup of blood, says the iron disorder institute. However it is not to say women can't experience heavy bleeding.
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A cup of blood? Blood of Jesus!
Now this is really creepy! I can't even stand a drop!

frodobee:
I am not answering your question, it is ur choice. I am bordered by the number of abortions carried out in this times, it is no longer a question of virgins, it is now the issue of "who has not aborted before?"

You're so on point, it might soon even become 'how many abortions has she had before'

ammyluv2002:
Shey, because she told him? Do you know how many babes that have done worse yet they act like saints? See, what matters is the repentance and thatz what God is looking at too. Besides, do you know many times you have sin against God yet He's not mad at you. We ask God to forgive us our sins yet we are so harden to forgive those that have wronged us.

Based on some people's ethical, moral and religious convictions - abortions are seen as murder.
Yes, we have all sinned but not all has committed murder !

tinkinjow:
Congrats to her.
OP please learn to report events appropriately. When u say 12 year old as part of the heading, it would appear as if she competed with people much older than she is. Her name could've been better or her school. Then her age will come in in the actual write up.

But it's okay if they were 15 or 20 year olds there.

Chai, you are very intelligent.
When I see Nigerians reason like this, it restores my hope in the future of this country.

Let me know if and when you decide to go for an elective position, I will be one of your supporters !

Who are all these people and why do we have to read their stories ?

alentyno:
YES but i don't think a whole VC of a 'christian' owned uni will lie about such

cc: macmaster01 gbadeolu1 kissb et all scholar could please confirm

He doesn't need to lie out rightly but statistics can always be presented in a way that does not reflect the truth !


For instance when in business meetings/presentations, I tell clients that my company handles a certain form of revenue collection for a certain state and they are wowed. Which is true but not so true.

Yes, I handle a particular form of IGR for a state but that same project was actually divided into three parts. The part I am responsible for is the smallest and accounts for less than one tenth of the collections. So in essence, what I am saying is true(fact) but it really gives a wrong impression of reality.

Bottomline, this information would have been more credible coming from another source

Sad story!
I just hope you're wiser for it sha!

Victortee1:
His fall began wen he left labour party for PDP! #lawofassociation

Aaaaaah, you prolly know little about Ondo politics.
Mimiko's slide began waay before that......
Infact joining PDP was something of a drowning man clutching at straws!

dridowu:
“It was at the dinner that he introduced senator to me. Senator is our leader. He told me that senator’s mode of operation was highly sophisticated to be called armed robbery. After his explanation, I became interested in joining the gang. Really, our first outing was impressive and interesting. We were dressed in the Economic and Financial Crime Commission’s (EFCC) uniform and in a convoy. Each police check- point we came across, they would pay us complements. In fact, at any given time, I even forgot that we were into crimes

“

http://sunnewsonline.com/new/?p=115598

Funniest thing I have heard this year!!!!

I still can't fathom how Mimiko went from hero to villian in just a few years.

This guy was the most loved, most amiable, most popular man in Ondo state until he got to power.

I worked under him in the early 2000s and he was genuinely loved by all. How power changed him beggars belief

Though this story might be true (and I congratulate him, if it is)

but I have my reservations. .. . . .

He certainly doesn't look like someone that trekked 750km. By now, he should have lost so much weight and should be looking anaemic.

Two, he started when Buhari was announced winner (on May 1) and finished on April 20....a total of 19 days. Oh well that seems very far fetched for a such journey. Considering the 'heroic' welcomes he received in some cities along the way, emirs and all, his effective travel days must have been like 15 days. Now do I believe a human can complete 750km under scorching heat in 15 days - No.

To save us all the stress , he should have had some form of verification, GPS tracker, monitoring team etc.



Just my thoughts anyway, not intending to be the spoilsport