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Nigerians with their big stones.Casting it with no reservation.

As you have judged while not privy to their situation,,so shall you be judged.

That said I can see edo babes all over this thread,by their language and proposed violence as conflict resolution you shall know them.

Watch them come for this post

oodua1stson:
If I were a woman and a woman snatched my husband and still has my son I'd pay to have her kidnapped and watch her die a painful death as I cut her to pieces.



She should watch her back

I had to login for this one,
this is an irresponsible post,someone should please note the IP address asap.annonymity is not an excuse.I hope the poster notes all entries can actually be traced.

He needs to apologize to Ibadan people as well for ruining their already fragile reputation

A handler does a great job... Congrats to the handler,he/she has taken great initiative in redefining a role into amazing.the day efcc reveals his /her name is the day they loose their handler to people that will pay better money than they do

Some women in places in Nigeria are pregnant every year of their reproductive life cycle because their husbands will not let them use contraceptives,communities,civil soceity ,women groups and the medical community are fighting tooth and nail to reduce maternal deaths and unplanned pregnancies by ensuring wider acceptance of contraceptives which has been shown can reduce Maternal deaths Up to 30% in Nigeria if a certain rate of usage is achieved

Then some riff raff nurse writes an unsubstantiated report like this.Not just unsubstantiated,unfounded.

The mods should just take this down,cos by putting up this piece of trash,you spread wrong information that will do greater evil to women and the a great injustice to the Nation.

This is the most irresponsible post I have seen in nairaland on recent times.

Naptu ever thought to write a book about Nigeria.Her people her music, her food, her history and her culture.That will be a book worth reading

Nice thread.

I'm going to write this advice here it worked for me so I hope it helps someone. Firstly get relevant experience.Even if the salary is crap! Gain useful middle level management experience .the first set of jobs you aapply to. should be about building a profile for yourself.Volunteer posts are helpful so long as its adding skills and competencies to your cv. Next network print a business card relevant to the field you have chosen and , network network network. Attend conferences and the likes, you may get recommendations that way. Lastly there are good jobs in Nigeria advertised on foreign sites that's how come oyibos seem to get them cos naijas don't aapply. And that has been the joker I know. Apply to Naija jobs on foreign sites when u ave gathered experience! Their recruitment process is usually more transparent and the pay is good.Keep applying and don't get tired.You will be invited for interview someday and when u do please don't ask for 50k as salary. And lastly don't stop praying. that's my contribution

Sorry Bro,cant help here,not my field so I cant contribute on this one.

Grains are been released for the inhabitants of the North East and the North West where whole villages,their livestock and their farmlands have been ravaged by bandits.

Some people are actually starving in these parts of the country, they have been impoverished and are destitute by these happenings.Normal hardworking people with regular lives like us all lost all in a day.They lost family,friends ,their dignity and home all in one day.These people have no source of income,no farms,no Family,nothing.

These are the people grains are been released for,not the privileged rebellious half brained dimwit behind a computer screen that has eaten 2ce already before noon asking why with an air of arrogance are we birds?

If you cant empathize and support these kind of persons at times like this,but would rather throw vain discouraging words to those supporting them,ask yourself what kind of seed are you sowing into your life....and ignorance is not an excuse

So non of the earlier critics can reason shes using her star power to get her husbands business promoted?

This post will remind people who to contact the next time they need an IT company with reach in 8 countries and a staff of over 100,even if its a lie.That how businesses are promoted. Watch as he gets contacted for more IT deals following this free unpaid publicity.

But no a fellow man is reasoning shes putting her husbands business on social media etc.Typical of small minds talking about people instead of ideas, and this fellow nairalanders is an example of how to reason 101, it is why the rich keep getting richer? e.g Kardashians.


Its all in the way people reason and see things..

lastly I must add small minded Nigerians with the beer parlor mentality of the OP would do well to mind his own business in future.People like Tonto Dikeh and her husband are obviously way out of his league

@seun this culture of naming and shaming even of royalty on this forum is wrong.

You are starting and promoting a culture where authority is demeaned even royalty and this is the legacy you are building consciously or otherwise.

For all those speaking I'll of this woman on this day,I suggest you examine your intentions.if you speak for justice from a heart that seeks good then may the Lord and your conscience be the judge,

but for those who speak in malice,envy and the pull him down syndrome to the very ears of this woman without validating these claims, remember as you throw stones at another on the day of her joy, that on the day and the place of your promotion, may your secret sins not be remembered, may they not be displayed to the whole world and may you definitely not be called to account for your every indiscretion because that is the seed you sow here, and the stones you have thrown at this woman.

@seun I ask you to examine again, is this the legacy you want to leave behind?

these guyz need help,

Severe low self esteem on display,No man should speak of a woman like this.

marlockj:
I think u Dnt Hv a point!!

Babymama is Nt d perfect way, marry and have children!! Wat Eva bad name can be addressed to a bad person.

So I do not see how ur racist talk link into this... if a white call u junk Cuz u Hv done sumtin contrary to the bible then the white man is right

Just read ur mention, so I understand referring to them as junk is a result of your overzealous disposition.please keep your judgmental oversabi opinion on other peoples life, omissions and cross to yourself.

If your comments cannot help the weak bear their cross with hope and dignity then how charitable are your intentions, words and concerns?, how christian indeed and you dare bring the bible into it?

If Jesus did not condemn the prostitute who are you to quote the bible in this your message of condemnation referring to these women as Junk?

Should you choose to reply me, As you carry that ur oversized stone to throw, remember may your secret sin not be exposed,and then reply if your conscience is clear.

Also remember the summary of the law "Love God, love your neighbour" .Next time you want to quote the bible and refer to someone as junk that is.

Unserious kid on a pity party tale expecting life to be served by mummy and daddy like the undergrad days.I may be wrong. But this is how it works.You hustle.In every profession the hustle is real,you don't sit at home and expect housejob placements or real jobs for that matter.

Medecine is the job with the most opportunities at home and abroad for Nigerian graduates of medicine and you are there lamenting, the course that no week passes without calls for CV's in the paper.I'll bet you dont buy the papers and you're searching for jobs,Like seriously.If you feel there's no hope in Naija it takes 5 months to pass plab, leave and get a decent job in the UK,other options abound Australia,west indies etc so what are you waiting for?This post is for someone out there willing to help themselves.

Ill call it Phineas verses of wisdom for the brotherhood of the snake and cross.Sounds spooky,I know.

1-Be polite to your senior colleagues in school and stay in touch.
your senior colleagues are the key to opportunities in the medical world,that is students 3 yrs and above in school,they go ahead and by the time you are finshing NYSC they tell you of openings at their facilities,organizations and that of their collegues.

2-House job matter.
If you cant get into the federal system,stalk your state.Go to your state of origin,take a letter from your chairman, LGA Councillor,senator,grandfather,anybody just convince them repeatedly you're from your state,and have your family talk to everyone chances are you;ll get consideration above other applicants,If that fails,lots of private facilities offer housemanship,Baptist Hospitals,Catholic Hospitals,Eko Hospital,Not sure of ST Nicholas,etc.Arm yourself with that information and confirm their application periods,be willing to travel keep applying.You definitely cant be complaining about the 5k registration,if you're serious considering your speed of advancement and escape depends on this rate limiting step.

3-Decide if you're for Naija or "the Abroad",If Naija,For Clinical or Non Clinical Specialty
Decide and start your preparations in NYSC year with money saved from housejob.

4-If you're "the abroad" gang,
From start to finish it takes an average of 6 months to finish plab and start scouting for job placements which should take like 2 months thereabout for locum, after which you can then have good money to sort which of the abroad hustle you want. You can do PLAB from Naija travelling to and fro,during NYSC.
Save your housejob money for this purpose dont dash any relative eager to eat the fruit of their labour,save your parents though and even they should understand theres a bigger purpose to the picture.

5-If you're for Naija core Clinical,"the optimistic I want to serve my country and my people gang "(And you guyz deserve awards and acolades......)
(they eventually get disillusioned and join "the abroad gang" last last,or stay and grumble about everything whilst going on incessant strikes,or start Private practice)

Write primaries ASAP and start the search for residency ASAP,Consider same techniques as it was for Housejob Placements.
Don't waste time in PP except you own it,It is a waste of destinies.

6-If youre for Non core Clinical consider;
-Occupational Health-Company Dr
-Epidemiology-Disease surveillance etc
-Public Health-Program administration,project management, M&E, Research and Learning etc
-Health Financing and Health Insurance
-Humanitarian medecine
-dumping the stethoscope completely and starting farming for instance or politics,or work in the bank

If you've decided for Non Clinical,then Start gaining relevant experience Like ASAP in required field so you rise up the rank.
to find medical opportunities,read the dallies,apply and reapply,stay in touch with senior colleagues,volunteer.

Lastly Don't be afraid to travel all over Nigeria for opportunities,Now is the time to leave home in order to grow.Just be sure its the right kind of experience,that you are gathering,the kind you really want,and when you have sufficient experience don't sit and let life happen to you,apply and keep reapplying.Buy the papers ,use medical job sites for Nigeria and abroad.

Medcine in Nigeria is where some people earn 150k per month till midlife whilst some earn over 2m a month for years even in Naija.Ultimately,the choice is yours and how you choose to plan your life.

It certainly wont happen by whining about how unfair life is to you.

Summary is Medcine is a brotherhood,"don't be a lone wolf"

I hope this helps someone.

marlockj:
This man is a fooool
Someone said u shuld tell Sophia to get a job,you are here saying rubbish.
Tell ha to mke meaningful use of her life,get a job and marry.
Stop using davido as ur meal
@ times I wonder how this kind of old n ugly girl find her way into a musician Lik davido. Old guys Dnt get me wrong, am saying this Cuz the kind of pretty hot,sexy girls I see on music videos are mind blowing. How cum musicians Dnt flirt with such cute baby Bt end up with junks Lik sophia.
Is it that they Dnt knw cute chicks?
4xample 2face all the babymama are junks,Bt in their music videos u culd heavy artillery super cute girls,rubbing their bum bum over them on music videos.
Okk see tiimaya case he got anoda junky pregnant, yet d his videos carry girls Dat if dey shake dear yash it will take Lik 5minutes for d yash to b stable, if they twerk on u,u shuld start thinking of ejaculating.
Bt they end up with junks as babymama y.Xcept for flavour. Who fckkkk all beautiful things.

An example from my last post is a fellow such as this referring to women, as "junks".JUNK! Like if a white man called this retard junk he will scream racist from the rooftop, but its OK to address some women with the singular indiscretion of having children with the wrong kind of men junk.

And that is the trend davido and co are leading for generation next.

I hope Mr Momodu does not settle for anything less than a public apology for Sophia, full custody for the baby with supervised visiting rights for davido and ilk, and a decent child welfare package while at it.

So when davido hooked up with her he did not realize she did not have a job?

He saw her extravagant lifestyle he still stayed for years, got her pregnant and now, he's not "an ATM"?

Paying for child welfare does not make a man an atm, its actually the woman and her child's right.Shebi he's an american citizen, they should sue him in the us for child welfare and he will know how much he'll end up paying every month.

What I find worrisome about this matter is how this celebrities dictate what obtains in society, it won't be long before some retard starts thinking this scenario is permissible.To treat the mother of their child like trash, malign her reputation after all nothing will happen.

A society is defined by how it treats its women and children,the matter is simple like that.The Adelekes have not been honourable in this matter.full stop.

This baba should take a back seat.over sabi overbearing busybody Nigerians.whatsoever his qualifications this is not his area of expertise, as such his expert opinion does not count.

Its important I make clear I do not know either of the parties.but what I see been played here is the Nigerian culture of use and dump which I detest with a passion.

So the issues.

1- The adeleke family wanted the baby and they schemed well

2- The baby was "collected" from the mother because the baby developed breathing problems from breast milk infected with marijuana(so marijuana na infection now abi)

3- The mother has not been breastfeeding this baby since July and the breathing problems still persist requiring a "breathing apparatus" every night and further consultation with Drs abroad without the mother, because the problems were "caused by marijuana in the mothers bloodstream"

4- let's not forget she's not good enough to marry so let the grooms family just take custody of a child less than 7 yrs from the mother because shes "unfit to take care of her" she cannot bathe the baby well, or use the breathing apparatus well as instructed.

The issues remain who declared the mother unfit to care for her child? And Who is elligible for custody next.

Does marijuana in the bloodstream routinely lead to breathing problems? How many children have been isolated from families because the father smokes cigarette ? Nicotine is a poison too after all ? and a drug of addiction.Can the davido clan prove conclusively the breathing problems was a result of marijuana in the baby's blood stream from the mothers breastmilk, secondary smoke perhaps, if so why does she have this problems 6 months after isolation from her mother? Who is still smoking around the baby this 6 months.Remembering URTI are the most common complaints in children of this age group till age Five.

Protocol has not been followed in this matter, justice has not been done either. Davido has abused this woman's reputation on allegations that appear cannot be proven conclusively. The only proof he has is she smoked weed at some point - a criminal offence he conveniently brings up. and like it or not that is not enough reason to render a woman unfit to care for her child.And should she be unfit the next in line for custody should be decided by the court.


What the davido crew is doing is cruelty to the mother of a child he refused to marry.That is my definition of wickedness and injustice. And All the holier than thou team will do well to take a backseat.

I still insist the role the hospital /lab played in this scheme should be investigated thoroughly.

So its okay for her to be tried in the courts of public opinion while she sits in a corner maligned crying till pic fades....

This lady is doing the right thing, on this matter.

Personally I'm curious as to what the lab,(lab and not clinic) has to say about why and how they released a patients confidential information to the wrong person, 2- why the staff at the "clinic" thought it was appropriate to give counsel that a baby should be taken from her mother) because she "smokes" marijuana.the cause of all this troubles

Who gave that medical opinion? And through what channels.Who also told them the "breathing problem was a result of exposure to marijuana smoke" and a nebulizer was a "breathing apparatus" to be used every night for months even after removing the baby from the source of the "irritant" (supposedly the smoke from the mother.

who gave all this opinion knowing fully well how common upper respiratory tract challenges (putting it in laymen's terms) is common in this age group and how they mostly outgrow it from age 5 and above.

But most important who advised the baby be removed indefinitely for treatment abroad from its mother for these reasons?because we all know that is so not the right process or approach to the matter, just another bunch of unprofessional judgemental oversabi hospital crew giving a situation their unprofessional moral grandstanding that has led to the abuse of this woman, the dearth of her privacy, and reputation on this matter.

They should not slap just the clinic/lab with a lawsuit, but all individuals involved in the clinic/lab found culpable in this matter.the specific individuals that said "take the baby away from her" gave seriously wrong medical advice.

This case should be the example for future loose lips in practice that no one cares about their personal opinions or moral grandstanding in family matters and the need to stick to protocol.

Lastly I hope the lawyers do full justice to this case and not settle outside courts as they continue to update the social media space on justice served, seeing how she sophia was charged, judged guilty and sentenced on social media, so people learn you cant get away with crap if the woman takes it up.

she has enough evidence to prove damage was done to her person as a result of this negligence hence the lady should have her full day in court and justice served to the culprits while the whole feedback is highly publicized on social media too.To save some other woman the humiliation in future.

PS -how far with the child kidnapping aspect of the story? It is indeed kidnap

I must add if you are a graduate searching for work useful skills include basic proficiency with MS word and excel at least plus or minus some basic graphic design for reporting .People get employed for what they can do these days and not their certificate.

this is the most helpful tip I can give anyone,

All the ladies should quit learning makeup artistry or gele tying in school and just pick an excel sheet and be proficient (if they are serious about a career that is). Entry level stuff

be sure to mention it at the interview too.

Any graduate that cant use this basic packages is unemployable. Harsh truth but it is what it is.

This kind of posts sadden me because its information like this people see to peg and slash salaries in future.

For the record there are lots of jobs that pay over a million monthly in Nigeria.my advice is don't just do any job, build a carrear.

This thread is about kids giving to other kids,its a good thing to be celebrated and per adventure those kids come online to see feedback in Nigeria these are not the kind of comments they should see,

Seun or any mod should pls do something about the negative comments. That's responsibility.

God bless you and yours Sir,

Congratulations.

lest I forget apparently Nigerians have not heard of stockholms syndrome ba?

issues like this make me weep for our educational system,so she kept a vindictive diary for years to wait till his father contested before a fake breakdown? we are so eager to believe that version than to see a broken soul from misadventure and abuse at the hands of the person she claimed to love.

If anything we should use this case as a rallying cry for the way we treat young girls in our soceity.
That the girl you pass around to your friends as a joke is been destroyed daily,you are infact responsible for the making of a broken person and that in exploiting her weakness,her poverty, you leave behind persons that become like sugabelly deep inside.

That when a teenager in her youthfull exuberance,poverty or greed throws herself at you,an honorable person does not take advantage and he definitely does not abuse that person.In this these accused men allegedly did what many Nigerian young men do,what they saw the previous generation get away with, and if this girls outcome is not cause enough for quiet reflection,then men like that have their own waiting for them.but as a soceity we must not stop raising eyebrows,

They say it takes a village to raise a child. our children,our teenagers are a collective social responsibility.Their safety and future is sacred,because that determines the future we have as a people,the norms and cultures that become acceptable.So before throwing your stones at sugabelly,just stop for a moment and ask can this be true? If there is a benefit of doubt,pls put down your stone and be silent.

great Job @ seun for allowing your platform keep @sugabellys case going in the courts of public opinion.

Sadly thats all we may have for justice on this case and the alleged culprits have been judged by many but Heres my take on this and I usually refrain from commenting.

From this womans comments on twitter,The wife of the alleged rapist(yh its rape when there is any form of coercion) is just plain stupid.Theres no other word for it.This was the time to exhibit tact and restraint.To sound magnanimous and empathic,she should have swung public sympathy her way by emphazing she does not condone acts such as this,she stands on the part of truth,empathize with the broken sugabelly and ask everyone to leave the courts to rule on the truth whislt asking for respect for her families grief at this time.Like the okereke sis did.


But what did she do? she came out raging and cursing out an obviously broken woman and in public for that matter
A woman that accused her family of been bullies actually animals is more like it with no conscience.

In that I criticize her (Zahra) her foolishness,her lack of tact (Yes she had the effrontery to attempt to dignify that too) ,her inhumanity,and honestly sheer stupidity.

if there be any consolation in all this its that the sugabelle has had her day in the courts of public opinion,this nonsense Zahra too and Posterity will judge.

This is a bad thing to do to anyone even if he stole,they ave forcefully robbed him of his dignity,Reducing his chance to incorporate normally into society after serving term for his crimes.


For those supporting this gruesome act, pray ur own secret sins and weaknesses are not discovered and exposed in a way to humiliate you in future, because that is what you have sanctioned today


That said the perpetuators of this crime should be caught and given a tough sentence to serve as deterents to others that may think its acceptable jungle justice in future and before some illbred southern dudes promote this nonsense subsequently.

depressedsoul:
I was born and bred in Lagos Nigeria. i am over 30 but swimming in poverty. i attended a university in Ogun state but i dropped out due to the loss of my mother who happened to be my sponsor back then. My father died before i was 4years old so i had no one to fall back on. I am the only child and life has been so cruel to me. I have no job at hand. My fathers family has taken possession of his property at Agege Lagos because they insist my mother had me for another man due to stories i'm hearing for the first time since my parent's demise.

If your epistle is true, then remember that as long as you have life, everyday comes with new opportunities, also remember a lot can change in a momment, Ive seen that over the years so I know. don't loose hope,pray God defends the helpless so long you look to him for help, keep telling everyone you know you need a job, something will come through.

Why put a woman through an HSG when she has not had an challenges with fertility? That's simply put cruel and any Dr that writes the test ought to be fined.Because such a woman will not be able to stand for herself in such circumstance and the practitioner has the responsibility to prevent that abuse.


That said even when all the fertility tests come back fine, up to 20 percent of people may still be infertile.so its not by tests.

@ Seun and OP

This post is irresponsible for 2 reasons,

A- by mentioning the fathers full name on nairaland we have exposed the identity of the said ladies.

B- The image was unnecessary, as simple as it may seem, it could glorify and possibly imprint this evil on the mind and to do list of another pervert somewhere,

Please let's stop sensationalism, let's not applaud or celebrate evil in any way.

Why does nairaland celebrate women bashing so much? One begins to wonder if these men were raised with women in their lives at all, why all the negativity.

But I believe its a reflection of our society at large and indeed it is said you can tell how developed a nation is by the way it treats its women, children and disabled.

Going by these dime a dozen threads glorifying the negatives and weaknesses in Nigerian women thereby villifying them weekly on nairaland, we know we still have a looong way to go in Nigeria.

And to Seun, I say you underestimate the power of your site,that by allowing and promoting this trend you entrench this culture of women abuse on the very pages of this site. And by this , you do the nation and its future a great disservice sir.Just an observation

So here's my rejoinder to this piece.

Those criticizing this accomplished lady on the grounds of not been married you'll find to be pple who excuse their inaccomplishments or generally small lives with been married.

Yes, they are those those who made marriage a priority realizing little accomplishments thereafter and so will be quick to promote this "major achievement" in life rather than face the truth that one cap does not fit all and everyone is responsible and at perfect liberty to choose what makes them happy

So next time you see the "where is her husband" comment , just note its the marker for a small minded, unaccomplished, most likely less than average income earning,unsuccessful, unfulfilled Nigerian whose only major accomplishment in life is that marriage as such would want to force it on others to excuse his or her low self esteem in life. They ussually end up marrying retards cos they must marry at all costs and by all means and they'll rather die in the marriage than accept its not working.

Dreamers, visionaries, those with the right kind of attitude will tell you happiness comes first, and one cap does not fit all,they'll tell you life is about making a difference, about impact and contribution, They'll also not be quick to dismiss success with lack or refusal of a person to get married cos they know what it takes to be succesful, they know it takes sacrifices, hardwork, dilligence, patience and careful consideration with key issues of life such as location and marriage amongst others and they respect peoples decisions as regards this virtues and issues.

That said, God bless Linda, the 10kobo bloggers and their success stories should thank her for leading, this lady is a good example in Nigeria, and we had better celebrate her than the mediocrity of been married but useless to self , family and nation at 35.

Many happy returns Miss Ikeji.