₦airaland Forum

lordnkem000:
Wow, how can you even say that you don't agree that a man needs a woman and vice versa? Forget societal pressure or conditioning here, life is not complete without a woman in a man's life, even God saw this before he created Eve, it's not easy to cater for so many problems alone without moral advice, companionship, support, etc and when you then add the society pressure it becomes a necessity, though paternity fraudsters are making me have a rethink regarding marriage but once I see a good girl that ticks my boxes I'll marry her asap, I don't care about body counts as long as i can trust her.
And you are right, mine is money problems, bills and issues that are eating me up without a shoulder to cry on or a mind to share with. These things can make you think or feel there's no hope again and I was there

Exousiang01:
Let's just hang this guy.
I will get the rope

AgentNairaland:
Who is supporting evil? Ajoke lies has been exposed

Seek for the truth before supporting nonsense


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZCJBdhrO0k

BluntCrazeMan:
He may not start to look back into the past regime, so as not to be seen as witch-hunting..

But his own regime will be so tight.

He will block off all possible leakages.

pansophist:
Don't be a forklift.

A forklift is someone that leaves his own problem to go handle other people's problem. You be God?

The sad news is that most people's problems are structural, only God and them can save themselves.

So remove what's in your eyes first, face your challenges, and let others face theirs, then it shall be well with you.

lordnkem000:
I heard about that woman's death and I felt bad because awhile ago I was in exactly that place and almost ended it like that, but i remembered my enemies and concluded that I was making them fulfilled if i took my life so i buckled up and here i am still trying to make it. You are so right when you said all a man had to do is make money and worry less about other things. But a man needs a woman who understands life and is faithful in both little and few

FreeIgboho:
The “decide” thing actually makes sense to me. Example, once Tinubu decided it was his turn, the uninverse went to work!

mrrandomguy:
He is absolutely correct.
For those who don't understand, the dollars don't reach Nigeria. What the money transfer companies do is to credit the receiver with the naira equivalent. The actual dollars is then diverted away from the official market.

mikeapollo:
If you watch the church services, everything in the church is recorded. If not, Nigerians would have used lies to destroy the man many years ago.
1. There were church members (women) that discovered the abandoned baby. Go watch the video very well. People reported the case to the police and wrote their naames. There are women in the church that were feeding the baby. Some are still alive in the church. Some older disciples were also taking care of her when she was a baby!
2. Your impression could be as warped as the condition of your mind! TB Joshua does not move alone. There are usually many people that follow him, so they would witness whatever happen.
3. Bad influence e.g from school etc could make the girl misbehave.
4, All meetings with disciples and other activities in the church are recorded, This Ajoke is only a coincidence. What is contained in the video is only the portion of what happend on the day that relates to Ajoke.

Tell us what he and the wife are hiding since you know better than them!

No one should be afraid of video records if you are doing the right thing!

It seems your conclusion lacks logic because you want to hear bad news about TB Joshua to be happy.
If his 3 daughters are well behaved, and this Ajoke is having bad behaviour and attitude, it should tell you that something is wrong with this Ajoke.

lordnkem000:
I'm glad you concured that it's nobody's fault, but you'll agree with me that today's Nigeria is tougher for the male child than female, from job employments to sympathy levels or even social media empathy, it's hard for a man to take care of himself and still marry a woman, pay her dowry and family obligations and then prepare for his family responsibilities, it's so tough but every man is expected to do it and the women expect you to cater for them without minding your financial strength, capacity and capabilities. Chimanda is correct in her assertions but I think she's just being sentimental and ignoring the main points, both male and female has this same issues but individual perceptions is the only difference

PoliteActivist:
*Politeness*
Drop advice or quotations you think will help people live a better life, or that have helped you in life (both in romance and life generally). Dominique, Nlfpmod

lordnkem000:
Look i get your point, most times men can be a scum and all that but there's no need fighting against men because all these grievances you rightly mentioned, if anything blame our African culture for it, but again also note that a good woman doesn't react to these flaws and loopholes in our African culture, rather she makes her relationship work. I really disagree with you when you say that women are the disadvantaged one even though i get your points, why, because the whole responsibility lies with the man, he pays the bills, all the bills and takes careof both the child and the mother, even extending to her people. While she's busy carry the pregnancy & all, he's busy working tomorrow clear the bills, feed her and etc. so you see, the man is not entirely out. A man is not expected to complain, cry or beg for help, people will call you lazy, tell you to man up no matter his pains and difficulty. My dear I love your intelligence, I just hope Iade a reasonable point

lordnkem000:
Are you quite sure you know what you are doing? Because you are such an amazing woman and very intelligent so please don't associate yourself with these feminists, especially the Nairaland and naija feminism. Because they are bitter and irresponsible, after rejecting good prospective guys because they are poor they feel bitter after jumping from dick to dick of the rich guys and tossed around and dumped. E g Tonto, iyabo ojo. You will never see mercy Johnson & chioma associate with feminists

pansophist:
Me I'm not a feminist o, God forbid.

Maybe if we are in the 90s, then I may call myself one because feminism haven't become anti man.

IAmHim1:
https://www.nairaland.com/7939213/one-guide-end-addiction

i know what it feels like to be addicted. depressed and second guessing yourself all the time.

ive been there and noww im out. shared how i got my freedom from my addiction in the link above

PoliteActivist:
*Politeness*
Drop advice or quotations you think will help people live a better life, or that have helped you in life (both in romance and life generally).

IAmHim1:
one cant avoid suffering but one can reduce pain that comes with suffering

ie the death of a loved one (suffering)

understanding that the soul is recycled as the flesh decays to be used by plants and reincarnation and karma is real. your loved one is not really dead. (reduced pain)

Franzinni:
I don't misunderstand I only see it for what it is ... Can you tell me any advantage that a man has today over a woman Anything ... That people say only men can do it You only become feminists when you percieves an unfair advantage forgetting the metrics that made that possible.. you say men are making more money, but you won't dare do the kind of blue collar jobs that send men to their early grave...How about we talk about the unfair advantage female pornstars have over thier male counterpart I have never heard feminist fighting for that, let's talk about warfare in Ukraine, men are dying while the women are in clubs having fun in neighbouring countries ... Where are feminist on that ? You guys only seek to play victim to get advantage out of pity... And because you have weaponised your son's from the 50s and 60s into weak men, So it became very easy to manipulate narratives .. let's take black america for example, you can see what happens to a community ran by feminist... It's a shit show where their men are overly emotional, never had a father so all he learns is feminine mannerisms and eventually can't lead a family because he never knew how to be a man and then the women call them, weak making them feel violence is how a man should conduct himself and then he goes out and kills or gets killed leaving the single mother feminist at a loss ... But she has 11 kids from 6 men ...

Lett me tell you something, I know how women feel, we all have souls So why should a woman be subordinate to a man ? Are we not all people ? I get it ... But if you would be honest, you would rather have a good man in your life, leading the way while you build with him ... than to be single ... It is a part of the fabric of a woman's being. Dont fall for the narrative of feminism.... It's a waste of life.

Idaytesj29:
Thanks for clarifying this

pansophist:
No gree for Yourself.

One thing I have trained myself to do is that the difficulty or easy mode of a task has no influence whether I'll do it or not.

If I have to do something, then I'm doing it. Full stop. If I plan to run for example, the rain won't stop me, it would be challenging, but now it become a matter of what is greater? My will or the rain?

And that's how you get things done. Mandatory comfort is your enemy. Comfort is like procrastination, only that it makes you enjoy wasting time.

So do things you have to do, because it has to be done, not because it's easy or hard.

pansophist:
Be independent.

Not the feminists kind of Independence that don't need a man o (well, they need his money somehow lol), but in the context that you can rely on yourself and do away with betrayal in form of friends.

If a friend betray you, you can give him the middle finger because you can do without him. Previous fraternity with him is not for your survival, but because you give him the benefit of trust after all, life is better enjoyed with good people.

Also, you can only truly respect yourself when you can rely on yourself. And that's what will makes others respect you too.

Because the day anyone feel that you can't do without them, then they will punish for you. And it's your fault.

pansophist:
When God asked king Solomon how he should blessed him, he chooses the blessing of knowledge.

Also God said that my people suffer for lack of knowledge. The opposite is also true. If you are wise, you won't suffer.

Apart from existential suffering (suffering that is part or life eg death, sickness, accident), almost all suffering I see that people pass through can be traced down to a lack of knowledge, or ignorance.

You can't afford to be ignorant. Na suffer full that place. So ready widely, ask questions, be curious, observe, and think. You may not eliminate suffering, but you'll reduce it to a large extent if you have wisdom

pansophist:
The new slave masters are not with whips and chains, they are addictions. To be free is to be free from addictions.

Imagine a man that smokes, is a philanderer, a gambler, addicted to porn, an alcoholic, and a wankster? How life wan take better for such a man?

So to be free and lead a good life, you must rule yourself very well. You must be a well-functioning self-government. You're like a raw diamond, and you must refine yourself to live a good life.