Kellie069: Children Are gifts from God!! I pray Almighty God bless the homes of those in need of the fruit of the womb! Next year nor go pass it una by
This is terrible. She is dirty and lacks manners. I pity the husband, mere looking at the wife, she looks like his aunty. This is gender based violence O! Some men are suffering in their marriages.Smh!
ngoziwrites: So, I met this great guy online. After 2 weeks, we met in person and everything was perfect.
It's almost 2 months since we have been together.
He asked me out while we were together and I gladly said yes. (I have met a lot of players�). So while we were together, a discussion popped up and he said he can't discuss anything related to marriage until after 6 months. I pretended not to hear.
I don't know his financial capacity but I know he is doing okay. He controls the family business. They sell trucks, trailers and all. He is also a landlord in one of his father's houses at Festac. We stayed at a hotel. 25k per night. He paid for 2 night and I paid for one night. But during these times, we went to his house.
He said he didn't want me to come to see his place because it's the first time. And he said the house is very hot too.
Our communication is great but he doesn't look like he wants marriage soon. He has said things like marriage is hard work. He has also said in 10 years time, people will hardly be getting married.
Then one night, we were talking and he said I "see my wife as my responsibility" I will take care of her and of cos, I am okay but I will still be very very rich, so I can't bring in any woman to suffer now" .. That's what I am sure I heard but I was scared to ask him to explain further or repeat himself.
He is actually okay, he has two cars but importantly, he has sense and he is very hard-working. But he is very principled and we have actually had several instances where he doesn't pick my calls at night. It happens often but I am starting to trust him, because sometimes I call by 5am and he picks and says he slept off. Sometimes we would be chatting on WhatsApp and after I call him 20 minutes later, he won't respond. He is not married!
So, I currently earn 450k monthly and I have been able to save something meaningful, so I can start a good business before getting married or after. I haven't stated because I don't know which one yet. I started a restaurant business when I was 23 but it failed.
If I ask him and he says 1 year, of course, I can wait. I will be 26 years next year April.
We will seeing for the 2nd time next week. I plan to ask him when he sees himself getting married but I am scared and the way he carries himself makes me reluctant to ask such.
About two weeks ago, I wanted to even surprise him with gifts. I asked for his account number and office/home address. (He picked me up the last time I traveled to see him, so I don't know the address". Well, he didn't give me these details. He said when it's time I will have them.
Two days ago, he said a friend's younger brother is getting married. He laughed and said people just dey marry. He has once asked me "You dey find husband?" jokingly-
I would like to settle before 27. Is it bad that I am thinking this way? If he says he is looking to get married in 2-3 years, i think it's a bit far. 2023 is still fine. But the problem is he doesn't really sound like marriage is on his mind. He will be 32 next year April too.
We vibe a lot. But he says I love you sparingly. Sometimes I say it and he doesn't respond, he will say tomorrow I will tell u or no, I told u yesterday.
But we are really really cool. I like him a lot and he likes me but I think I like him more. He gives me attention, I don't have to ask.
If I was 23, I won't have a problem waiting 3-4 years. But since I am ready mentally, financially, I am looking for someone who wants it within 6 months to 1 year. I can still try to do 2 years if I get someone great.
My only advice to you is that you should never sleep with him, show him you love him genuinely but after some months, just act nonchalantly and watch his reaction. Then if he asks you what happened, then open up and ask him what he really wants in this relationship
officialwdhtv: Problem in Edo State as two (2) men impregnate little girl and fight for custody of the child.
One of them apparently took care of the girl until she gave birth while the other surfaced a few months after the baby boy was born to take the child thereby causing commotion.
The Chairperson of Dowen College Parents’ Forum, I beg to say is not serious. Is it candle light service that will bring succor to Sylvester’s parents or to the parents of those children who are bullied in the school and afraid to speak up? Abeggi!
Something has been bothering me of late and leaving me emotionally and mentally stressed and drained for the past weeks and I'm cut between the devil and the deep blue sea.
There's this bro we're trying to see if we can work things out. though, I never really wanted anything relationship again or at least for now until I'm decided later in the future on what I really want for myself.
Before, I delve into the main discuss , let me quickly highlight how it all started.
Some months back, My publisher came to deliver the books I ordered for. So while sorting the books, he just got teasing me like " Babes, na wa o. What's up with your romantic life now?. I've never seen you pulling with anyone. It's always work, biz Money money money I see you pursuing. Lol... I just told him, guy, free me abeg and I went on counting the books at the boot of his car.
He now walked up to me and said, on a more serious note, what is happening? So I told him it's a personal choice cos I dont have the strength for relationship brouhaha now. He agreed with me that truly its not easy and even as a married man, he too feels the heat but the good thing is, he married in the Lord. So I should choose wisely from among the brethren.
So he said, he has this family friend, an eligible bachelor, who wants a decent lady and I'm the one that comes to mind each time the guy mentions it because since he's be dealing with me, he can vouch that I'm a very honest, hard-working and decent lady. So he would want the bro to have me. That was how I got to meet bro.
Now fastforward to the main reason of this post. There was this particular day we tripped out to cool off and discuss about US. So we got talking and planning on how to build our home in a way that we will not be caught unawares with some setbacks and unplanned responsibilities. So the issue of children came up and I suggested we have only one, which he reluctantly accepted after much convincing. So we tried to look at ways we can maintain that decision and I suggested a vasectomy. citing the possibilities of health risks (as a result of mismatches ) and failures that might occur if the family planning is done on me but with vasectomy, no issues. He looked me in the eyes and said, "my darling" no!
I was dumbfounded.... And became a little worried because, if he has no plans of having more children, why would he kick against the idea of a vasectomy?
If we are going to be one and follow one course, why shying away from a plan that will benefit us as a couple and a family?
Could it be, he only agreed to have one with me and plans to have more else where? Is vasectomy a life threatening condition?
I was still trying to wrap my head around his refusal, when he said, it will be done on you ( the family planning). That instant, I felt all alone, like im on my own. So I told him I needed to cool off, and he said feel free. I left the tent and went to the waters prentending to be playing with the water. He came and dragged me out of the water. we strolled without a word and I asked him to take me home. He did.
He called when he got home. I was cold to him so, he promised to call again but since then Ive refused to pick his calls or reply his texts.
The big question is .. WHY DID HE BLUNTLY REFUSE A VASECTOMY?
COULD HE HAVE ULTERIOR MOTIVES?
IS IT NOT BETTER TO OPT OUT NOW THAN PRETEND I DIDN'T GET THE MESSAGE AND END UP IN REGRETS?
WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN A MAN KICKS AGAINST VASECTOMY?
Well I think most men would not want vasectomy because the idea of being able to impregnate a woman always boost their ego. So in order to balance the equation and in order not to look one side, tell him that he does vasectomy and you will do tubal ligation, so that the probability of anyone having a baby for an outsider will be ruled out
Congrats to her. But then being a single father/mother not as a result of death of a partner or divorce is never an achievement. Moral values is gradually disappearing from our society which is not encouraging at all. It’s well
It’s news because in our generation, a lot of godly principles are seen as impossible to accomplish and as such thrown out of the window which is not good
ManirBK: The charges are just "terribly outrageous!" And some of the banks like mine, don't give debit alert on those useless charges. Just deposit 200k in your account if you have 20k the next time you would deposit 100k instead of getting a balance of 320k you will get like 319, 850. Just imagine?!
karnap: It was indeed glorious day for business administration students National diploma as they are the first set to ever graduated at the ikorodu campus They started the journey in 2018,it suppose to finished in 2020 but because of the global pandemic it reached out to 2021.
But my major concerns is the signout polo slighted on this particular student of the institutions.
The caption is * LASPOTECH no Hard,Just Buy Textbook* The write up could be encouraging and can be discouraging It depends how you reasons it. This guy could be insulting lecturer and he could be encouraging students to buy and reads their textbooks and pass exam. Go Through it He also has another wonderful write up at his back ....* TIME to learn work* I guessing he is mocking the.lack of work in the labour market in the country.
One word for it is envy. Some people are always happy seeing you poor and always begging them (that’s because in that state, they can always control you) but once things begin to get better for you, they become uneasy and envious
Moreign001: Hello Guys, Good Morning and a Happy Sunday to you all.
I don't know how concise i can be, but I will try.
I just graduated last 3 months, with my girlfriend who's now my ex, and she's 26yrs of age while I'm 28yr.
We started dating from our 200level till yesterday, (that's approximately 4yrs and counting...). We were ideal together, we were well known in school, to an extent where her friends and mine kept asking how? And wishing theirs was like ours..
She promised never to leave, and she please everyday that I should never hurt her. At times we jokingly talked about our future kids which is now a never happening fable.
So after we graduated, she travelled to stay with her aunt, we do check on each other everyday.
Last month.. She called, and said her friend needs an advice, that she and her date just graduated, and that another man is asking her out, and she's thinking of dumping her guy since he's not ready, and that the newly known man is ready to pay for her marriage rites. Immediately I knew she was the one in the story, because I already had several dreams were she left me. I pretended, I told her to tell her friend to "Follow Her Heart".
Last night she called, and said there's something she wants to tell me, I responded, "Is it what I already know?", she asked what? I told her she's getting married soon, and she said yes! I was speechless. I asked her for how long has this been going on, she said it started when she came to stay with her Aunt. We spoke, and I congratulated her, she started crying, I ended the call, sent her a good luck text.
This morning, she called and said she couldn't sleep last night. I asked her why she did it, why she decided to get married, she said she doesn't know. I asked if she likes the guy, she said yes. She couldn't stop crying and was saying I shouldn't leave her, while she's the one leaving me. I was totally down, but I have crazy friends. I WhatsApp a friend, told him what just happened, his words boosted me up. He said, " Support her, we move, no be God leave you". That was enough, but it's hard, really hard to move on without her, and she said the same thing and kept pleading I shouldn't leave her. Now I'm asking, if I was the one who had left, what would have been the story? That I used her and dumped her, because this has always been used against the guys. Why are women in a rush to marry? They don't even add value to themselves, I'm now 80% in agreement that marriage is one of the greatest achievement for a woman, maybe in Nigeria.
Women rush to get married because of their biological clock. That’s why you see ladies marry who is ready and not who they love cos sometimes, who they truly love is not ready to settle down
EkehPraise: The rate at which married women are becoming so unfaithful is soo unfair and scary. I work in a 5 star hotel and it's so frightening that 4 out of every 10 guest that lodges in our hotel is a married young woman accompanied by either another man who is old enough to be her grandfather or a small boy old enough to be her kid brother or son
Magun is a charm that originates from the Yoruba tribe in Nigeria. It literally means "do not climb." Magun has been used for centuries to catch a wife who has an extra-marital affair or to put a promiscuous woman in check. ...the woman and her lover will stick like glue during the process of sex if she has crossed a Broom or touched a substance laced with Magun charms until her husband comes or they are caught.
At least this should bring back some sanity and faithfulness and keep those who are not ready to settle down away from taking vows they will not keep...
There should be magnun for the unfaithful married men cos this married men are the ones who frolic around those young married women
Wick3: Lol, Nigerian parents don't play with respect.
The one I don't get is when after eating the kid will thank everybody in the room, even the family dog.
I remember when I sat on the same table with a lady in an eatery, and we were having a conversation, I was surprised when she said "thank you" after eating. Would have made sense if I bought the food for her, but she actually bought it herself. I mean, I just met her there.
Like what exactly was she thanking me for? For watching her eat?
You can sue them, the chances to win the case is 90 %, however, you must be willing to pay your lawyer for his services. Where do you reside? Where did the issue occur?
DSC7: I met this beautiful damsel around 2012,we got admission into same institution same year....
We dated from 2012-2016,,,,
During service we parted ways and met again 2018 but ended up becoming friends with benefits....
By 2019 distance(different states) kept us apart due to life plans.....
And we don't have each others contacts again
So i was chatting with my elder brother this morning and he told me about his fiancee, i asked for her picture... Lo and behold she was my ex and friend with benefits.....
Now there is no way she will know that we are related except on their wedding day coming up next year if i attend.....
I don't know whether to tell him or just let them be
It’s better you tell him. I think it’s somehow your brother marries someone you have slept with. I find it weird sha.
MALIGNANTGuest: Let's assume it was a GIRL that dumped a man, would you say same.? Would you be this thorough? This is the issue! By the way, MARRIAGE is not a death sentence. People get married and still divorce even after having kids and aborting many. So, I don't expect an ordinary relationship championed by phuckmates to be anywhere close to marriage in terms of commitment.
The GIRL should move on and look for another man to leech on. She can also snatch Men from other unmarried ladies which is allowed in Law.
Yes, I would say same if it was the other way round. I love people who channel their points without adding emotions to it so as to have a logical conclusion. Your comments is laced with emotions.
funkmrflexx: I was dating this girl for a while actually wanted to marry her . She has some characters I couldn't live with. I gave her time to change but she didn't so I broke up with her. So she started raining curses on Me telling me dat I'll suffer and beg for food. (this is a girl I trained in school) Why are nigerian girls with this mentality that a relationship is a do or die
I hope you are telling us the truth cos there are always two sides to a story. Hope you were not the one that disvirgined her? And also you didn’t pressure her to abort any pregnancy on your behalf?
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