₦airaland Forum

Children raised with good things, in good environments and having it all at a young age, be careful. So many people are angry at you. So many children of others who didn't have the same opportunity as you, coming to ruin you to scorn your parents and you. These people usually strike hardest during the University period and ahead.

It's sad, it seems that they hated her luck and drained her.

Wetin shock me for this list be say Nigerians no dey dream of money, according to the list, it's sex? 😳🤯🧐

Is this real?

B minus the bacon.

Men say the human property can't leave.

The professor//professor of love a.k.a the disguised dog on a leash is already backing away in fear. He's a mouse and not a giaants after all, he didn't mean all the shows of bravado and words of fearlessness.

She's on her own. Never trust the dogs on leashes. They always run back to their owners when push turns to shove.

She got it all...

Sexist comment. They are not men, they have a different way of dressing. As long as the dressing is decent, it doesn't mean anything. And not only so called ugly women are serious. A woman must not look plain and odd before you know she is serious. Make up does not reduce the ability of a woman to think.

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Kobojunkie:
1. So, a mother leaves her child with the father of the child. But, rather than the child's father prioritizing his care, he should go about his hustle and business, burdening instead his mother and sisters -- relatives-- with the child's care. Who then carries the priorities that belong to those relatives you mentioned?

2. In your view, the same men that women pine for and believe are capable of showering them with love and affection are incapable of the gentleness and instinct necessary to care for the children they birth from their loins? So if the woman is no longer in the picture, the child might as well be condemned dead because a man, according to you, is incapable of raising even his brood?

1. The child is dear to all, a priority to them all, and can never be a burden to it's blood family. We're talking about a temporary situation here. If dad can fend for baby's needs while experienced relatives take care of the baby, it is better. There's nothing wrong if they do that family support and help him out.

2. That Dad is capable of loving both mom and baby does not magically give him the skills to care for a child. There are good and gentle people, not even just men, who cannot care for children of any age. Some men can do it, some can't. The child should not be gambled with - 'can daddy do it or not, let's put your life on the line and see, give you to a stressed out working man who has never handled a baby before. Hey baby, maybe you'll be alright!'

It's not just about if he can do it or not. It's about giving the baby the very safest condition. That safest condition is better attained with someone who isn't nervous, rushing to work, experimenting, without any experienced person nearby to guide. Even I as a new mom, needed some guidance from other women. That family will have to pitch in, whether he's good or not, especially as he's working. It will reduce the risk. Even if he can care for the child.

ifinger:
I will tell her on Ur behalf

Tell her o! 🤣

She thinks she's being a sexy girl, she thinks she's in a romance movie, sleeping with her enemies who will use their own hands and mouths to finish her.

Go and find her and tell her. They are already spreading her story on nairaland.

Just waiting for everything to turn upside down.

The other men have identified and judged her as a intimacy gadget with little cost. Soon you will do the same. Men rat out women that do bad things with them. They are the co criminals and yet the judges.

Hope she knows she's alone and you'll turn everything on her head and avoid blame. The office and everyone will blame her alone of it gets out. I know you will easily say she seduced you, and so will everyone else. It's her I pity. That is a situation in which the world is partial to males. The double standard here favors you as a man.

Kobojunkie:
Those ones no get life of their own and hustle to focus on abi?

There are situations which family should prioritize as important, and step in. It's not just weddings and burials. In this case, if there's no other option, because I don't support the mother leaving the baby at this stage. If not at this time, when will they help and show support?

I don't really believe the dad can take care of that tender baby. That gentleness, that instinct. This is firstly about the welfare of the baby, and an experienced grandma will do better at caring for the baby. A man can take care of an older child, but not an infant.

Leaving a tender five months old baby is such a hard somewhat heartless decision but if it much be done then baby should be given to paternal or maternal grandmother and a female relative or help must stay with them both.

Sad, what happened to this lady. Apart from that, it's time for many guys to use another lady's death story to air their grouses with women, to express those thoughts running through their insecure minds. Chai, women have suffered!

A lot of guys are the police, the judge, and the criminal at the same time. Go after girls and use them recklessly, later cry that all their women are spoilt, commence to condemn the women as unfit for anything serious.

Look at it right here, using a girl that hasn't completely understood who she is and what she really wants. Used her naivety to bag her and put her in bed. Tomorrow they would be acting as if we are blind to all their promiscuous acts, claiming women are just bad on their own. I've said it, if the women of a country are bad, their men are very lewd as well. You treat your women with respect, you get respectable women.


This is horrible though. Just bragging about using a vulnerable girl. Do you think you can't be caught?

Haba.

This is wonderful Maureen. I'm happy for you.

Sad...R.I.P to this lady.

Update, I tried the plastic cowries with a better style and now they fit!

ahnie:
Nothing bad in an older woman or man primping themselves.
So long the dress/shirts fits appropriately.

Thank you. The deep show of hatred made it necessary for your opinion... I just needed some sane people to reconfirm.

budaatum:
Have you never heard that some people are jealous of others or just plain stupid?

It might explain the behaviour of some so their stupidity is pitied instead.

Yeah I think it's a weird kind of stupidity. Thank you.

Zonefree:
That's one problem I have with older women, inferiority complex dey worry them. No one cares whether you primp yourself or not as no group of people have monopoly for looking good.

Young sweet virgin girls are not the reason you're not getting too much attention from men. Don't transfer your aggression on innocent sweet damsels.


God bless all young sweet virgin Nigerian girls.

If no one cares then why are the older good looking women faced with so much hate and attacks from younger people?

This question is especially to the youth. I noticed some young ladies or lads get mad when they see older women trying to maintain themselves. They mock these women, they call attention to their older features and ridicule them severely.

My question is, is there anything bad in an older woman primping up herself? Why are so many young people filled with bile when they see an older woman trying to maintain her style?

My mind wondered and I thought about it. Is it that older women should walk around wearing 'papa adieu' shirts and wrappers? Are good hairstyles and clothes only the birthright of younger women? Do young people feel it is only their right and never that of older women to look good and smart?

I watched a video on YouTube where an older lady with a very youthful look was addressing her attackers, who seemed mad at her for looking 33 at 47 years old or so. It's so weird to me, like a cult movement. I wonder why young women, even young MEN, will have their focus and so much anger directed towards a well maintained older woman. They just spark into rages insulting and mentioning how old the woman is, or her flaws. What crime has been committed then?

Said it all. Never trust your fate to the hands of men, society or anybody. They often fail and leave you with the blame and consequences of actions which they supposedly guided you to take.

You would be trusting all these with your life, thinking they are trustworthy, and when they or their advice fail you, they refuse to take responsibility. Just start alone first. Use your brain and navigate on what you feel you should do. Cuz everyone go remove hand when kasala burst.

IbileIfe:
Don't risk your life for whatever is not up to the worth of your life.

What is a wheelbarrow compared to life?
She died from the fear of the woman who would have scolded or beaten her if she did not stop the wheelbarrow from being swept away by the flood.

Humans continue to perish from lack of knowledge.

Yes, madam wanted her wheelbarrow at all costs. Then proceeded to wail pretentiously after the girls have gone the length of heaven and earth to secure her bloody property.

DamnnNiggarr:


Shit, she could have just let the rickety wheelbarrow go. Wheelbarrow can be replaced at any time, but life certainly can't be replaced.


what has soludo got to do with a girl that was swept away by flood while she was trying to rescue a nonsense wheelbarrow? some careless deaths could be averted. I believe that while she was struggling with the wheelbarrow, a whole lot of elderly ones were there looking at her, without telling her to move away from the flood, or even assist her in getting the wheelbarrow out of the flood.

I was a critic of Charles Soludo initially, but today, the guy's works are making me draw closer to him, to the extent of becoming his fan anonymously.

Perhaps the woman was harsh on them for losing anything, and she would never consider conditions leading to the loss of any item. Perhaps her inability to understand made those girls go after that barrow so desperately. Why would they let the girls go after it in such bad weather? I concur with your assumptions on the girl's death.