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Seems like relationships are now like marriages. If one can go to this extent to disgrace girlfriend, not wife.

Eunoiaa:
Purples25
Siofra
Jeon
Anny69
Luck98 (I'm not *quite* sure if this person's a lady; I just feel they are 😂)
Apatheticme
Atolu01
Wany
Maysdevices

Happy International Women's Day 💜💜💜💜

Thank you dear! Happy International Women's Day to you too...💜

I'm going to mention peacefull, wishing her the greetings above as well. 💜

I'm just glad she didn't let him walk all over her.

The idea of what he really wanted is grim. After all the insults and curses, perhaps he wanted a meet up to return the bride price, so that he could manipulate a reconciliation, and in later years, he will twist it to say she came back to beg. Imagine if she was docile. She would come back and sit down, and everyone will tell her to make it up to him. Then she would be drained of self esteem feeling all she deserves is this man boy who does not respect her or her family, but wants to be respected.

She will lose self esteem remembering all the insults and the fact that she is still sleeping with and catering to the man that disgraced her so much. She will feel helpless and worthless as a woman. So she doesn't deserve any apology for his bad behavior as a woman, she should just sit and endure because she doesn't have worth.

If Israel got what he wanted, that would be him dancing in the market square and doing all his kung fu movies and still, this woman will quietly come and sit with him. To many men like him, that is proof that he is a man. That he can misbehave anyhow, but the woman will not go anywhere.

Since death is inevitable, let them make some of these bunkers available for ordinary people in some way. It's guaranteed to make them feel better. At least when they pass, they know their wealth contributed to making others very happy and safe.

But I'm thinking of it...why would some people have such better abilities, opportunities and fortune to become so big amongst others? Is it just so they can enjoy life? Or did God give them such abilities so that they can care for many others? I think it's the latter. I don't think they were blessed aimlessly.

mumexcellency:
. God bless you o Jare. Serious matter ni o. And in most cases children always resemble their mum. Think we'll o.

Imagine if the girl is your child. How will you feel. Seeing men reject your delicate hurt daughter like that. Losing confidence day by day. Being treated like shit. Descending into depression. Because of her so called looks. Your own child whom you loved and raised and hugged when she cried.

If it was your child going though this rejection, how will you feel. Will you boldly and happily agree to the advice you're giving?

This talk is crazy. Like a woman does not have brains or rights again after marriage. Has a woman that got married become a child, that she must have her decisions all made for her, her life all lived for her by the man?

Does this mean that marriage is an automatic dumping of the woman's rights and identity after marriage?

She's a partner to her man, good and fine. But she should still reserve the right to take the decisions she wants.

You even said she is not fine at all.

It is better for that girl to go with a man that sees her as a prize and not what he settled for. You, by your own words, don't rate her much. Yes. You will always look at her as if you did her a favor by marrying her. She cannot do 'shakara' around you because you rate her lowly. In fact, she won't have any pride in the marriage. It is better she goes with a man that will truly appreciate her.

Old women rating young ladies. Always. They always, ALWAYS forget their own wrinkles and such and go around rating young women to be beautiful or ugly.

Even the way people go around rating by looks. It's so disgusting. As if they don't have brains. I don't have respect for people again, I know all it takes to win them over is a pretty face and a charismatic character. Just like putting cheese in a rat trap.

This world is so heartless. So because the lady is not fine, she is not worth it? Not fine, according to older grandma, who is not even humble with all her old hair and age. Disappointment! Big disappointment! So the young lady should go and kill herself?

Honestly, a woman's beauty is considered to be her value by men, just like how a man's wealth and success determines his pull of women. That's the transactional world we live in, even if I don't like it.

Many men wish to be women. They wish to be toasted, wooed, spent on without spending, to be chased after for marriage and such.

These ones are just the few that are totally honest about it.

Lock your doors and windows if you just bought food. Many are hungry. News is going round that they steal food now.

There are a set of killers who don't kill physically. They kill with words and with using every strategy within their reach to make one feel useless, worthless and suicidal. Some of them even come out plainly to type 'kill yourself'.

When my son gets old enough to understand, I'm going to tell him all about these people, warn him. They are many amongst children. They say bad words about a particular child and strategize so that the target is isolated and feels the heat of their dislike. Yes, a lot of these killers are the youngest on earth. They start from kindergarten.

If this post is true and not a skit. The lady should be aware that they are after her life. Those kind of commenters are not normal. To survive them she has to really block comments or avoid them. Take them very seriously, they get highs off driving people to suicide.

Look at how confusion enveloped him. Just because the woman is young and beautiful

Men with youth and beauty...that is their mumu button. Until she is done with him, he cannot know what to do.

God help him.

Sometimes they are just mocking you with those likes. Especially if it's someone that has never taken you seriously in real life. Laughing hard at you while clicking like on your posts. To make you feel like something. The joke is that while raising your hopes with the likes, to them you are actually nothing.

If someone is actually doing this to you, just avoid them in real life. Cuz if they see you, they will make you understand the real reason why they were liking all your posts.

Must I eat meat? I'd happily become a vegetarian. Better than eating frogs.

Why date at this point, when finances are hard on you? You really should be thinking of how to achieve than how to date, while you are still single and free. You obviously do not have the time or finances for love, so really...why date at all in the first place? Isn't it to your own comfort, peace of mind and convenience, to be single and develop yourself until you can easily carry such responsibilities? It is your own indiscipline, inability to hold yourself, that will eventually put you in hard situations like this.

Sorry o, but if this girl carry belle tomorrow, will you be able to handle it? Like, right now as you're dating her, carrying her like one special burden? I don't know why you'd carry a risk you can't handle if 'kasala' burst.

Hmm. You should have given her a heads up about the situation. Then her reaction might have been different.

Cocolatti:
It may not really be about paternity. It may be that she suddenly realise she can make money if she go to court. However, there's every possibility the sex was consensual.

So many guys can never take accountability. You guys always find how to twist the story in your favor. Any time they say rape, you would start to say it was consensual. Make una dey deceive yourselves.

omooba969:
The Nigerian society is characterised by CLASSISM, and it's a culture.

You gerrit now??

Of course I Gerrit, but it really, REALLY sucks.

Why do people feel that only extremely beautiful, rich looking people have the right to speak properly? Like, if you are not that polished in your looks, most Nigerians will legit downgrade you and believe you are 'forming' or doing 'fake life' (as if being razz is for the poor, and being classy is for the rich, see mentality).

That is why the reporter is surprised.

I like how bold and confident she is, even when her looks show that not everything is going for her, even with her simple all back hairdo. May God give her a lifestyle that matches her class and character.

Nigerians think so locally most times. Some wig wearing nobodies with Instagram pages and fine clothes and cars would be instantly mistreating her and believing she's an uneducated village woman based on her appearance. And some silly guys will also act same too, they are so limited in thought. It has happened to me. So negative. Once you look haggard or you are not a beauty queen, they believe you grew up in a bush.

omooba969:
Extreme!

You're overthinking it. 🙂

Ha, what men normally do to women and call normal, is called disrespect when reversed, and you say I'm overthinking it?

Why is it good for women, but bad for men then?

Once, when my family was being robbed at night, my mother and I escaped to the neighbors' house, where we called the police. That same night, as it was going on.

They arrived in the early hours of morning, like reporters coming to collect a news story.

Tonytonex:
you are neither here nor there. I no understand wetin you type.

I support fairness to all humans.

Also, I was being sarcastic. Indirectly stating my opinion. If you understand sarcasm, you'll understand what I said.

BRATISLAVA:
The comments are disturbing.

Especially that guy who said he pets his wife and goes back to cheat.

So if it is in reverse they can't eat what they dish out.

Evidence that most of these males we love and interact with don't even consider us to be human beings like them.

I feel you 💯 as a first born.

Well, I had to gather the courage to put this down, and I hope you see it.

Your effort will amount to nothing. All this good girl image you're trying to build, they won't appreciate it. They won't help you go back to school. You'll probably rot at home until it's time to marry, then they'll start pushing for you to go to school from your husband's house. You think they'll remember you for all this stress, but I'm telling you no one wants to feel indebted...they would all carry their chins on and move on with their lives as your time runs out. With no skill and no education, you'll struggle, and all they will say is that they are not the cause. They didn't contribute to ruining your life.

Consider my advice like someone from the future coming to see you now, view this time like the past whose actions will create a ripple effect in your future. Be strong and force your way to school. Don't let anyone draw you back. Do whatever it takes to make it. It's the same family that will be proud of you after.

They are holding you back now with full force, they don't care about you, but I tell you the bitter truth, all of them will hang back acting harmless, soft and innocent when they are done delaying your success in life.

If a woman tries to control a man the same way a man controls a woman, it is termed disrespect.

But all the while when the woman is below and it's being done to her, it's seen as normal. Because women were created to take shit. 😁

Women no get dignity for where Africa dey, swears.

I love the concept of losing weight. I'm petite and happy that my weight is around 57.4kg right now. I want it back to 50kg which I was many years ago. I got fat once and then the weight gain when pregnant, and then you add all the negative shii... I see people, especially elderly people go through just because they are fat...

I'm all for losing it. Losing all the fat.

pocohantas:
Just yesterday you guys were attacking Shallipopi for momma worship. Today you are doing same. One would think women don't have families. Yet you don't see them creating problems where there is none.

That was how my brother went to be telling his wife a similar nonsense. Saying we both suffered together. The day I heard it, I told him never to mention me in such again. Don't create enmity between me and your wife!

Many men like to foster beef between women. It is either they are marrying two wives so that they can fight themselves for his attention or they are using their mothers and sisters. Sadly women fall for it and are ever ready to go fight their sister and daughter inlaws. Can never be me.

Face your wife and leave me with my husband. I didn't tell you to put me above your wife!

Thank you.

ifytrik:
I still prefer wig to attachment and that nonsense called brazilian wool, my wife will not plate hair, instead she will Barb her hair and I will buy like four different types of wigs for her

Imagine if every day you woke up, your wife decides what you will wear and what you will not wear.

Xkale1996:
if am the one I won't go ahead

women takes the greater part of the blame.
Women are the custodians of sex, they're like commodity sellers. If someone approach you to buy some goods and you say you aren't selling then there is nothing I can do.

This moral decadence that is prevalent in Nigeria can be curtailed if the men want. Imagine men setting standards like 'no virginity, no marriage', all the ladies will zip up.



My policy is

No virgin
No marriage


I no fit marry person wer another man don knack o

Help me ask...dem no dey rob pesin wey wan carry goods sell for market?

Or, dem no dey swindle pesin of goods? 😂😂😂

What nonsense.

You kept asking her to tell you. Now you heard the truth that you want to hear, you are crying up and down.

I don't think people buy these kinds of things for use, but for value. Expensive items are bought as investments. It's a way to carry money in a compact form.

Kaido:
Even if you had told them, they will come not to witness the beautiful matrimonial ceremony but to know how flashy & big the wedding gon be. Which kind dignitaries come? How the hall decoration be? Whether dey food sweet? How ugly is the groom? Her makeup too cheap sef etc

Chai! We too get wahala for this country
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I'm telling you! I don't want unnecessary insults. On that d day they go rate you finish...mock you finish. I just respect myself, dey my dey.

Kaido:
If you are not marketing your products or your skills, abeg stop posting about your private life or moods on your WhatsApp status and Facebook.

I remember when my sister posted me on her WhatsApp status on my birthday ,I warned not to ever try it again. I dey hide myself to live long but she wan expose me.


There are lots of bitter people than happy people in Naija.

@ bold, that's the main deal. Some complained that I didn't even let anyone know I married or bla bla bla. But the baby saga don teach me.

I don change my sim sef, most of my contacts are gone. It will help me care less to post.

Those who post on social media, post all their good things, e.g celebrities, I wonder how strong the spirits around them are.

The moment you post something good about yourself, many people will be angry, because they don't have it, and they want it for themselves. Those who are not attacked but admired for posting their good luck just have a lot of grace, and they still have some low key, die hard haters.

Maybe it's just jealousy, but honestly people are suffering and it hurts to see another person bragging about what you can never get. Some will be inspired, some will feel very very hurt. They will feel you did it to pepper them, they will come out to hurt you too.

I posted my baby on my WhatsApp after giving birth. I was posting freely until one girl on my WhatsApp started aggressively posting pictures of her friends babies online. She's been in my contacts for a year without doing anything like that. Once I started posting, she went and found tiktoks and videos of all her friends babies abroad. Till today she's still posting. She's indirectly trying to tell me mine is nothing. When i made the mistake of showing my hurt on that same WhatsApp, she immediately posted a video on her status of her laughing hard with a friend. That was the proof that she was indeed attacking me. Plus a meme saying 'you push me, I push you. You do for me, I do for you!' ...hmmm. Madness.

To go for a one month old baby, jealous of a new mom with a one month old because the mom is happy, well, taught me more about the kind of people on social media, even somewhere as little as WhatsApp.

It made me understand that this life is a competition to many people.