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Hangulsaram:
You people like to attach emotion to everything, nobody is dragging the wife but if people dragging it’s not bad, she was with him 48hrs before he died, with the leaked audio she is also a suspect too, i wonder if mobad happens to be your blood brother would you say that considering the circumstances surrounding his death.

There is consideration even for criminals. We even have few rights given to criminals. This one has not even been convicted yet. The main thing here is to still handle her with a little humanity despite what she is accused of. She is supposedly mourning and caring for their supposed child at this time. Yes, she's a suspect, but the way men in particular are coming for her, it seems they are full of bile that their fellow men are being interrogated instead of the women. It doesn't seem like a cautious suspicion and unemotional demand.

So evil to blame his wife just like that though. Look at all those dragging his wife out, not caring about her state of mind - men.

That girl must be thinking that she can lay the blame on the man after alls' said and done.

When that man avoids all responsibility and even claims she jazzed him, her eye go clear.

TOPCRUISE:
So reporting to social media is now the solution.

That is not a solution. I believe the report to social media helps enlighten others on the despicable acts going on in the world.

Back to the issue. I have noticed one thing about minders. Most of them are bitter and unhappy about their jobs. I've seen things. Honestly there should be a negative impression about minders.

Most are just upset with their lives, and na one random person or even your pikin go collect.

There are some things that you will do when you are broke, that won't give you peace even when you have eaten, and your belly is full...

For example. You were broke. You didn't owe anyone money, even though you were seriously hungry. Then you went to borrow 10k from a loan shark. Loan shark said you should pay 28k back (that is what you owe plus their crazy interest) within two days. You said you would worry about that later. You went to buy rich soups, you ate plenty chicken, settled yourself on a few needs, chilled and bought what you liked.

Fast forward to two days later. Now, you are full, not hungry, not totally broke, but the loan people start calling you and insulting you. You now realize that the story you had in your head, that you were broke and hungry, is actually not an excuse you can use to get their mercy. The office gives you another excuse why they cannot pay you till next month. Loan shark starts to call all your family, friends, even your enemies. Within a week, loan shark has increased your debt to 50k. So now, you have little money, you have eaten, but you are not at peace.

Maybe they finally pay salary, and your pay is 40k. You can't enjoy your salary, and you cannot avoid paying the loan shark. Then they will perpetually take you to broke town.

This is a good example of something that is worse than being broke. Now you have some money, it can't stay. You have eaten too, but you are rolling in your bed, knowing the loan shark is out there exposing and insulting you.

Don't do something when you are broke and hungry, that won't allow you to sleep when you are full/have money.

These desperate acts are things that cause situations that are worse than being broke. Like someone said, lack of peace of mind is worse.

This is the best I've seen so far. You've glowed up!

It's funny how people blame women for not choosing better...as if women are super humans that should have the ability to always discern a bad person.

People in general, have been doing business for ages. Getting scammed, both men and women. Even the ones that claim to be streetwise. So, why do you all expect women to just know the best partners? Aren't women human beings again?

One last thing. Tell me if an evil person has a particular look. Are all rich, even morally corrupt guys, bad? Are all poor and religious men good too? Evil doesn't have a particular face, that's the truth.

What is 'slay queen'? An insult meant to shame young ladies into living like the older stiff ones.

Optimist2023:
Won't really call it escape coz it took a while before I finally made up my mind. It really was a mess. But thank God its over now.

I'm happy for you. I mean, for the fact that you have moved on. Stay strong okay? You'll meet the right person soon.

Optimist2023:
Really crazy. In this situation, my ex actually said he could not move ahead with the relationship but still wanted to remain friends. I didn't want that coz it was going to be difficult to move on that way. Nevertheless, I tried to be "matured" and went with it. But along the line, I just figured that he wanted me in his life without any commitment. Coz he'd call when it suited him, he'd even say he misses me and all, still acted like I was his. He really was not respecting any boundaries. So I just had to block him.

You escaped a complicated situation. You know what would have happened? He would have gotten you emotional, kept you for sex, then you will be hanging around full of jealousy and pain while he brings his new girlfriend around. You understand? You are not in, and not out. You guys would be entwined, but you can't claim him. Last last he would hang back and enjoy the show while you compete or fight with his new girlfriend.

Look at them trying to defend sex before marriage here.

Later they will start crying for virgins. Crying about their corrupt women. They want to sleep with all the girls, after which they will miraculously find one set of virgins in one area.

I'm inspired by your write up. I want to make one for women.

Nice. I was surprised at first.

Optimist2023:
I'd only block an ex if they don't understand boundaries. Trying to talk and act like you're still dating, leading you on but in their minds, the relationship is over. Otherwise, life no too hard.

That's crazy. One big problem is when no one wants to be the bad guy and state the obvious. That they don't want the relationship anymore. Hiding resentment inside but they find it hard to say their thoughts. That kind of thing is what will make one person suddenly attack the other.

UHLmoving:
Yup, I'm good. It's been a while

Surely. I'm guessing you had a moniker I knew you better by before.

UHLmoving:
krystalxxx how are you

Ahem, is anybody looking? I'm good and you?

kkins25:
Thank you for the kind words and that you able to see this as a means for a healthy discuss.

I like when people can argue while looking at the issue from different viewpoints, also without insults or enmity, so I appreciate you as well.

advanceDNA:
u are talking like a child....its ur life fvck sake......no one is responsible for the outcome but u....

If u a going to be holy or righteous...it's all on u to build up discipline.... U cant blame anyone for making u commit sin when u could have just said no and walked away

.. See madam u reasoning is flawed....what's even more flawed is that u don't see anything wrong with blaming others for the decision u decided to make..

I give up on you....

No problem, our different opinions shouldn't make us be unable to be on good terms with each other though.

Block for your sanity. Your ex may be able to show off and succeed far better than you. You block so that you do not lose your sanity when they start their own show off.

blingxx:
Your native traditional African wears looks local God will punish lugard and the British empire

Oga. You misunderstood. I like the cowries very much, but while it looks so cool on some girls, like the pictures above, I haven't learned how to wear it and it will look nice on me too.

It's not local, I don't know how to style it.

advanceDNA:
Look all over nairaland..there is something called redpill....it's a mentality to not be a fool for any woman, not give what u can't afford to lose to a woman u are not married to, and who is not committed to you alone...any Mann that's not redpilled should blame himself when a woman deals with him


I did not tell u anything about GOD and his actions or judgement day...don't know where u got this from....like always..u jump into conclusion and dialogue with emotions.....
.what God will do on judgement day is left to God....
my own is to be 100% responsible for my actions and consequences and not blame others for my dirty, and unholy lifestyle

I'll debate and apply logic, as I please, thank you.

People are responsible for their actions, and the ACCOMPLICES are also responsible too.! Yes.

This way of thinking of yours, where two people are to blame for a turn out, yet you want only one person to shoulder the blame ....

This is what makes parents keep teaching their girls to be chaste, while allowing the boys to be wild. With this, the turnout remains the same.

advanceDNA:
Hahahahahaha.... If I have a commodity I don't want to lose..and pple keep coming to me to give them and I gave it away eventually..
madam please can u explain how it is the fault of he people coming to me...??

If u never wanted to fvck before marriage..no pressure will make u fvck any man...and then turn round to blame the men u use to enjoy urself....
U women with high body count...it is lack of discipline that make u fvck every man u meet...
It is not pressure....how can u have body count of 10-30 men in one life time and u are blaming others ..... U wanted to fvck..deal with the consequences....

Yes, just like you. I hope this theory will apply to when you guys spend on girls and start crying. You too were not manipulated. Guys too should never cry about being victims. Since that's the way we want to play it.

You are telling me that on judgement day God will just wave you guys aside that you were merely temptations and you had no part in it at all, hence no punishment for seducers. Does that make sense to you? Don't give yourselves false hope.

It looks nice. I however, don't know how to use it without looking local.

advanceDNA:
Scam ..what scam??.....Another victim card playing.......Two consenting having sex isn't scam.
.U got the sex u wanted... because if u didn't want to have sex outside marriage in the first place u won't be in this situation
.....yall have no discipline, u didn't decide to keep urself till marriage and u met a man like urself ...and u both have casual sex,collecting phones, wigs, money and the likes on the go.

manytimes u even have multiple partners so u can fvck more and gain more...madam...can u please explain how u are the victim here? .

I laugh at the assumption that every woman having sex Is gaining something somehow. That's a great myth. Many women aren't getting a dime from guys that are sleeping with them. Also, women have sex for pleasure too, but they could actually hold themselves if men didn't insist on it as a condition to continue relationships.

Only a woman who wasn't pressurized into sex can be classified as not a victim. A lot of times women have gone through different men because they were trying to keep the man happy/ keep the relationship, and man insisted on sex as a necessity for continuity.

advanceDNA:
See how pathetic u sound.....u have not read about no sex b4 marriage abi?? U didn't read about abstainance too abi?? U didn't believe that...but u chose to believe what's convinient for ur spreading legs around...

.we all have sexual desires we want to satisfy.....but u women always want to pretend u only have sex because u were deceived....

If u were told to steal...will u steal...??
There are 30years old virgin women and men that kept themselves by discipline, so all these ur pathetic lies and blaming others for ur own actions those not hold water....

..keep blaming others... Everyone has the consequences of their actions to face....no amount of blame or victim card playing will change that.....

Lol so because you scammed me and I fell into the scam, that means I should only blame myself. You don't hold any accountability. You are joking.

Even if women decide not to blame men, it can't erase their part in it, you know. As long as you participated, you share that blame with the women. Even the law works that way.

kkins25:
Indeed, wisely spoken.
But dating is a game, and i approach it like so. We are biological creatures afterall..

The number one advise I give young girls, "if you know you're not ready, don't collect."
By collect, I mean, any gifts or money. Once that transaction takes place, the man's pschye begins to expect something in return.

In the animal kingdom, males get sex, in exchange, they protect the females. Some species even offer gifts. It goes both ways though.

There are women in some societies that are so protected theu no longer have human rights. Men dictate what women should be, can do and not do. Middle easter countries are one example.

From a scientific perspective, women are stingy with sex, because they want to have healthy babies who would take the species to the next phase of development. Nothing about virtue.. that's man made.


Let's not forget that men did wait.. however, they weren't waiting until they turn 30. Life today is different from that of our parents.

In the past, no one cared for female orgasms(bar a few tribes, e. g. romans and greeks).. Men care today.

In the past, a man will rather commit suicide than allow his tongue touch puna..

In the past, women didn't really choose; they had no choice.. Men choose whom the women married. Hold on, here's the twist: No man will want to pay money to marry a woman who has been "touched" by another man.

Virginity is not about the value of the woman to herself, it's about her value as a second hand being to the man she'd marry.. That's all virginity has ever been about. Nobody checks the man's virginity.

There you are reinforcing old beliefs? What's honorable in knacking a virgin? Is a non virgin, any lesser? Shine your eyes.

That said, I'm not a fan of promiscuity. The thing is, it could be both men and women. Infact, science claims, some folks are genetically predisposed to be promiscuous. So, i don't judge. Will people get hurt, yes. Are men more promiscuous than women? it depends.

Should virgin boys marry virgin girls? Did that deter men from abusing their virgin wives in the past or today? Of course not. Will it guarantee a happy marriage? Probably. But how do you know, you're happy, if you've only being with one man all your life?

A woman who chops beating once every Saturday can tell you she's just as happy as the other woman who her husband treats like diamond... 😂 😂 😂

You have some good points. When people put it this way, then I can ignore the whole virgin thing. I think you reason outside the box. You were able to explain more without it looking like you were just defending your gender blindly.

advanceDNA:
If he loves u, he will wait ??..where did u get that from......bible, Quran, psyc 101, GNS 102?? Which all over world are u talking about?? Which text book did u read that from? U are. Just a victim card player....and a pathetic one at thaat

u are pretending and talking as if u women don't have hormones and don't want to fvck as if men make u do it ...

madam u don't have a single point...saying someone else should be responsible for ur life and decision u make is truckload of nonsense..

.Saudi and Iran that cage women dressing and and behavior are castigated has oppressive, backward and a barbaric society by women like u..... Yet when u allowed to do wateva u want ..u dress nàked, spread legs and look for who to blame

.. Please don't say this to ur girl child....
. Ur last advice is actually meant for u women...u have more to lose from whoring around yet u don't excercise any caution and to make matters worse... Women like u won't tell the truth but look for men to blame for ur decision to have sex..
even women fvcking women still blame men....

Lol I saw that advice on tv, abstinence stuff. Saw it when I was very young. Something that I also saw in books, men, you can't hide this stuff. Go research, that quote is popular.

You guys can't be lying to women that you love them then you sleep with them, then you say that none of it is your fault. No sir, you walked up to them or chatted them up, charmed them with sweet words and promises and later demand sex or you are leaving. You guys can't wash your hands off this.

Buns forever. Puff puff na side chick.