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Can I say something is weird about me?

I don't need to, since growing up everything about me was labelled weird by the toxic people around.

So according to most people, overreacting to shii.... I'm 360° weird.

Personally I know I have weird parts but I can't really place them.

If she tells one person, the secret will spread.

No one will help her with money, 'after all she is building a house. Why will I help someone that has enough money to build her own house...'

They will also bill her heavily. She is now a big girl.

Haven't you also seen where someone who was trusted with a secret would come out and expose it without an ounce of shame or fear? The only thing the exposed person would hear is sorry, or even reprimands. She was afraid because she didn't know who that person would be. She was being careful.

Women want to be the sexiest versions of themselves.

This is what the world celebrates as sexy, so....

I wanted to leave men out of this today but, actually men REALLY reward the sexiness so....

There's that.

But this makes me wonder...is he low key referring to his life? That can't be, right?

I hope his family recovered from the ridicule.

I recently started being curious about this betting thing but I have not bet anything yet.

Still life taught me it's better to learn from others than to learn by experience. May God help me not to learn from experience.

omooba969:
That's it there , bcoz she was presented with an opportunity, then she had a decision to make, she had a choice to make as there would be a 'thinking through'. Therefore, a case of premeditated action can be admitted.

U gerrit?

That's true, but that's not the part I am referring to. OP implied that even before getting to that stage, all women know what is going to happen. That all women know that they would be presented with a temptation and a choice. And I disagree, not all women go out knowing they would be faced with temptation, a choice or even an assault. That's not possible.

Is every cheating act premeditated right when a woman enters another man's house or area? No.

Finally. Men are not the main perpetrators but they are the greatest triggers.

And they deliberately encourage all those bad things, only to turn around and be complaining.

omooba969:
You would need a strong defence for this. 😳

Oh, i don't mean the act itself. I mentioned that actual cheating is a choice. Maybe you didn't notice.

However the acts leading to the cheating are not always deliberate. It's not every time that a girl sets out to a certain location with the aim of cheating firmly planted in her mind.

She might have gone out with a different intent, then she was faced with the opportunity to cheat, then took it.

But not that she woke up that morning and said "Today I'm heading out to this person's house and I might cheat on my partner with him."

rapheal5:
it's well, but don't smell what you won't eat...

That's a solid fact, but let's not say every cheating act is premeditated.

Yes, we should flee from what we won't eat.

rapheal5:
what you typed is out of context...Summary: You as a lady you are getting married this Saturday, you are still chatting with ur ex and you also invited him to your wedding. You know ur ex is a sharp shooter, he persuaded you to let him see you for the last time, then you give in and said ok I will come give you the IV but I won't stay more than 5 mins..
Sister why do you keep contact with your ex in the first place if you don't have ulterior motives, why do you want ur ex at your wedding, lastly why did you went to visit ur ex few days to your wedding... I'm talking from experience most ladies still want their ex after marriage...But I don't do married women.

That wasn't the example OP used. Going by his examples and explanation, I deduced that he means that women don't make mistakes when it comes to sex, and every cheating act was premeditated. That is highly unrealistic and unreasonable. Not every woman plans ahead of time to cheat. Cheating is a decision all right, but not everyone plans for it or expects it in their heart. If men can stumble or be the victim of a scheming woman, the same logic can be applied to women.

Hassanmaye:
Women control sex

Okay let's play that game. Men control access to their money.

So let's not hear of manipulative gold diggers again.

50:50. Equal.

In other words, what you are trying to say is that every cheating incident where the woman was in the wrong place at the wrong time, was deliberately orchestrated by her. You are saying that women always know sex is going to happen, and by this your theory, that should also mean that rape is non existent, because the women knew what would happen when they stepped in unsafe spaces.

This means that it is only her fault. The man involved didn't prey on her, she was not the victim of a predatory man's scheme or seduction, she always knows and leads the man on. Right?

I hope you have the same energy when the case is for men who cheat. Because in men's case, funny enough, it's always the woman that 'seduced, charmed and forced them'. Such explanations are accepted in men's cases, but women are suddenly very wise if they are the guilty ones.

The best thing is just to warn our young girls. Some things are rigged against men on the society, some things are rigged against women. In women's case, every bad or wrong sexual encounter is deliberately created by her, it's her fault, according to society. Men will always turn around to blame the woman, even one's so called lover. So girls/women have to be very careful, and not trust any men claiming their private space is safe. This really sucks, honestly. This method of blame reeks of cowardice and ego, and toxic masculinity.

Ten thousand be looking like five thousand naira, lol.

Please return that cutie to the tree you took it from.

I understand that she might have been frustrated, but she'd have grown the balls to leave, rather than cheat.

This is why I don't allow some kinda friendly chats. Some kinds of word play can lead to assumption if you have a partner. Even if you are not doing anything. It's unfair to assume anyhow, but prevention is also better than getting a cure.

omooba969:
Dey Play

If it's that easy she would have settled down with one of the supposed suitors. Just look around you and see lots of beautiful ladies, doing well for themselves but still painfully single.

Can't tell what guys' problem is.

It's not your fault, it's the fault of men who push for and glamorize all the things you do. When they want to sit on society's lap they remember you are indecent and they can't marry you.

Feel like giving a hug sis, really do. But you didn't need to do all this. Humiliation of one's self is no guarantee, infact it's an invitation for shege. But maybe this is a stunt cuz I think you'd have suitors. Can't be this pretty and connected and not have suitors.

Two small onion indomie packs. If you get that addmie dry seasoning with dry veggies, that's okay (with eggs).

Better still, two small onion indomie packs with fresh veggies added. Make your own meatballs or add sausages cut up and garnish with boiled eggs.

Okay, you want her to be gossiping and discussing people with her friends. Also watching Nollywood, NTA, CNN and BBN. While wearing glasses, no doubt. She should wear big abaya with all those their rubbish designs and scarf and be snapping at the kids for not washing the plates or doing the homework. She should spread her legs while sitting and minding her business and be doing boss. Then add her duties as wife and mother, and you are okay.

Mehnnn...

Local man wants local woman. I don't know why some people see a beautiful thing and they want it even if they don't understand it. You don't understand cartoons or fantasy or anything like that, and now you can't tolerate it. You only understand that bland local life where dad goes to work, comes home and makes some unintelligible comments and drives the kids away to watch tv, and mom is only close to the kids via homework or food. Nothing truly deep and satisfying, as you will realize in elderly years, when you can't communicate with your kids.

This is super disappointing. You should romanticize every aspect of your life and deepen every connection.

Juniorangel:
Back in secondary school I was sick and was admitted, so after lab results came out it was malaria and the next step was to commence treatment but the doctor was not around my condition was very bad mumsy was telling the nurse to start treatment since it was just drip and some injections but the nurse decided to wait for the doctor since it was just 9am that the doctor was already on his way, we waited for doctor until 3pm doctor was nowhere to be found and the nurse decided to start treatment with just the drip, I was on my second drip when doctor showed up around 8pm and drunk he was mad at the nurse for starting treatment without him next thing doctor did was to remove my drip that was going well ooo and said the nurse doesn't know how to put drip... Na so doctor start to poke my arms looking for vein, he finally found one and after like 5 mins my hand started swelling up that was when my mum begged the nurse to remove it and put it back like she did the first time. I later found out from a friend that that particular day the doctor was drunk to stupor and even forgot his car where he had gone to drink...

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omooba969:
I believe you know what I mean by 'right choice', so why ask?

I want to know your opinion of the right choice directly, so you don't claim I'm assuming.

omooba969:
This is about waking the man up to make an informed choice...the right choice.

The right choice, as in?

Ever seen a man take a woman he didn't want? Exactly. Stop crying.

Lance008:
The hate too much
No be any chikini change Na hate dem Dey hate

The hate is too much honestly 😓

Lance008:
Focus on ur self Na him be this generation logo
A lot of stupid and useless people thinking they are wise because they are been helped
As I Dey like this I no get any friend

Lol everyone carrying face feeling important with their chikini change...me sef go carry my own face up, look God o 😂

But seriously I now understand how guys feel when people distance them because of 'brokedom'.

1TrippleCee:
No big deal

Join a new youth church

Just social groups

Join online social media groups

Go out on Saturdays, hang out even if it is a social cause

True, the mistake is to hold on to one or a few people as if they are the only valuable humans in the world.

What would you do if you fell into a bad situation, and all your friends left you, silently blocked you on social media and avoided you?

For me I'd reenforce my belief in myself and my values. I believe that God has better people and plans in store for me. So it's okay if weak links are exposed. It's all working in my favor. 😜

I know we're all going to die someday but that doesn't mean we should have a razz approach to life. We can be so simple and minimalist and yet, classy.

Which kine combination be akara and five alive, abeg?

I would definitely eat that if I had no other choice but I pray God upgrades me.

Whatever you get, just be humble. Be very humble. The gra gra you are doing can get some predators to sense what you have and just like that, they find a way to rob you of it.

To be smart, it must look as if you don't have anything. Nobody should be able to guess. Resign with a solemn face. No. 1 sitting position.

Goalminded1:
You...
Longest time. Don't sweat it, you won't recognize me. Different moniker now.

I hope you are not one of those girls you painted up there in your comment. Always resist and know your values.

Yeah...this life sef. It's unfair. But you can exempt yourself from all of that. Blessed Sunday to you.

✌🏾Peace