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Watoni2T:
not a good thing it's deceptive but in many cases the guys are left with no option

Abi na...no option... because the guys have got to release tension using that girl by all means. Right? Guys have to get what they want, and ladies leave them no choice.


Ah...this life sef.

Domestic violence and toxicity from the female. Please escape and report if you fear for your safety. This is very wrong.

Anybody that is angry should increase their search for a virgin. 1:1.

He is back to completely finish you.

Rule for survival which is hard to obey but carries great benefits: Never look back.

Is it by force. Can anybody force men not to go with their spec?

countryman13:
Something must have prompted ds bullying of a thing! U need to sit down n trace your path backward. I don't think people will just wake up one day and start bullying you for no reason (s).

They actually start for no reason.

Juniorangel:
If you don't face your bullies now when are you going to face them or are they not human being. Bullies are everywhere in this life not only in schools learn to face them squarely and watch your life improve, or run away from them and continue running your whole life.

Bullies are not human beings.

Letting people get to me.

Extra nobody asked for:
Going to loan apps.
Not being secretive enough.
Still believing in the goodness of most humans.
I wish I was already done with my goals for the year even if I came close to achieving one.

kkins25:
It's you women that like to think men don't look out for themselves na. Before a guy marries a babe, he'd tell his friends, "abeg how una see am?" Sometimes, it's not even the guy's friends, but the person the girl is cheating on the hubby with. "Bros, you fiance dey come collect diq".... Don't you see John_doe's thread on twitter? Men don't knack and keep quiet about it. the whole adugbo must hear.

I tell you with all confidence that I have seen men lie too. Yes. Or you'll tell me men don't lie that they've slept with girls? Yes guys look out for each other but definitely some come out to lie even when nothing happened.

John doe thread...men really trust their fellow men as angels. Na so somebody go just break una up then actually go and sleep with the lady in question.

kkins25:
Nope. We do that so that he won't be thinking he's banging a queen when in reality, he's knacking a cigarette that men in the neighborhood smocked. it's women who aim to destroy their friends marriage for the sake of destroying it.

How do you know many men smoked her? I personally know situations where a man that didn't know a lady from anywhere has lied that he slept with the girl. Because the bf was informing everyone about meeting her as a virgin.

I kept wondering why he did that. It's just wickedness.

If you announce your good girl or wife to the world...many men will step up to discredit her even if they don't know her. It's something I've seen, it's man to man jealousy and sadism towards the woman. Somebody could even attempt to rape her. Telling people your good news isn't safe.

Congratulations.

In other news, jealousy is really real, even with men. When you are shining as a virgin or a man who married his spec, they'll really go ahead and destroy you. Some people don't like to hear good news at all. If it's not coming from their end, if it didn't happen to them, then better keep it to yourself. Else with anger, they'll spoil everything. That's the way some people think.

Your fellow men can tell you they slept with your girl to diminish your joy. There's many people walking around just looking for someone's life to destroy because they are sadistic on the inside. Those that have escaped are really lucky.

I believe in letting boys and men cry and be emotional. They are humans too. Whatever bad treatment is meted on men and boys, they tend to mete out on their females in the future.

You won't know the damage until you see them in relationships, and they cannot connect emotionally. Never learned to feel safe with anyone or truly bond. Also, how does anyone expect them to feel pity when no one takes pity on them? Men should not cry, men should be hard, later we expect magic when they enter their homes, we expect them to transform into romantic, sensitive men. It can't happen like that. Perhaps they need compassion to be more human.

That aside, I do not approve of when men jam female help structures for rape or abuse, and use them to start crying for themselves. Men, if you don't have enough help structures for your abuse cases, please cooperate to create them. Trying to say women should be mute or their help structures should be torn down because you guys don't have it or discuss it, is not a solution.

I hope every man finds the hurt little boy inside and heals with him, inside out.

Anny69:
What a lovely piece. Those market women are far gone and beyond correction. However, young women and others who are willing to understand internalized misogyny can unlearn it.

Amen. I just hope they can.

Keep prioritizing your mental health.

Go on an outing to a truly beautiful place with them, where you all can take pictures and make really beautiful memories.

Buy girly stuff like diaries, dollhouses and cute African dolls for them. Take them shopping too, let them pick a few things they personally like.

Lastly let there be at least one educational item you'll get for each of them, and then during the outing you have to let them know how much you love and miss them with a really loving short family talk.

But you should involve the mom. It's hard but she has to know. Placate her with a little money or goodies too if you know her to be all about what she's going to get out of it.

This is a messages to and for women.

It's almost like social media and the real world are two different places. On social media, women seem to support each other. In real life, they often seem to compete or bring each other down. Is this just me, or other women have experienced this in real life?

Women call other women out on not being married, most especially market women. Market women are queens of internalized misogyny. I once went to a market with a male friend and I sat down while my male friend shopped. The market women were all exclaiming as though an abomination had occured.

I see women harassing other women based on age, looks, and status in society on all levels. Please we need to stop this and help ourselves. Men are friends of each other. We should do the same and stand up, fight for fellow women.

When you see any woman shaming another woman for any reason, please call her out, correct her, do not support it as a woman.


Thanks.

Omo replies here have shown me. The other gender takes childbearing for granted.

sammyhir:
It's a Methodist Church located at D-line. I saw the drama from outside, the pregnant woman and her crew were all thrown out of the church premises.

That's the best way the church could fight for a helpless unborn child. The grown adult man and his wife were more important.

advanceDNA:
Lol u are u fvnny.....you are not the one to determine what is best for another couple or a woman u don't know....
Your own is to receive care from ur baby from the man u claim impregnated u after confirmation the baby is his.......if u want formality and no denial after promise...u go to court..only court has the power to enforce or compel......not demanding he tells everybody. ..i asked u before .what is everybody?? 20, 30, 40, people or just his new wife because u want to spoil his chances of marrying her..??

...U got pregnant to someone that doesn't want you....thats ur fault...intruding into a couple's union is wrong on every level when it's not like he is guilty of bigamy.....

Nothing is spoiling the man's chances here but her vindictive nature of the women borne out of the fact that she's not the one at the altar...

She could have gone to his house days before the wedding to discuss....but she chose the day of the wedding to cause issues...and it's not because discussion was not made....it's because she want to carry out 'if he doesn't marry me, nobody will marry him"

Toh. Whatever you say.

advanceDNA:
Lol...u are fvnny.....spoken like a fellow vindictive woman.... U want him to care for ur child.....u are still demanding he must announce to everyone how is that part of child care......what does everyone mean? Lol.....can u please explain what that requirement means??


Is that what will make him do as promised or u just feel that will spoil his chances of marrying another woman so he will come back and beg u....

No, not at all. The intent is to solve the matter. A case of proving a child's DNA is very delicate, should be taken seriously, and it is only fair that your future partner knows before deciding to tie the knot. If it was the other way around, you won't say that it's spoiling chances by letting the man know.

The man's family, the bride to be's family and the pregnant woman's family should be involved, or at least just the man's family and the pregnant woman's family. To put solid plans for DNA and whatever happens next in case, and prevent overreactions like this.

Shey now you see the whole arrangement as spoiling the man's chances? But if it's the woman hiding a dispute over a child because she wants to marry, it'll become a bad thing.

advanceDNA:
... ...loose end or no loose end...she will still s chose to be vindictive on the guys wedding day because it's not her on the altar....

U cant force a man to care for u pre-delivery ..no court can make him do so.....because there are chances the baby isn't even his own..... Even abroad.....child support payment only starts after the baby arrives..

On your first paragraph, she would be wrong if all is settled yet she destroys things.

Paragraph two, okay, no proof yet, at least let there be a serious discussion on what happens after the baby is born, as per DNA test or whatever. And everyone must know, the bride to be, the family, it should be a public affair to be taken care of in it's entirety.

We4all:
Dey play. Some mumu Nigerian men even give more than that. I used to know a babe whose sugar daddy would drop money like he plants it. .

500K weekly for just groceries, 100K for fuel, and other expenditures. Girls are cashing out!

Maybe it happens. Never seen it though. Except where I heard they later killed the girls (a terrible crime).

Which man would give 500k to 1million for sex. All these lies. No man will remove such an amount for sex alone. Unless you guys are business partners as well as sex, as he would still benefit from that your business.

advanceDNA:
E pain am... she's just bitter and vindictive over spilled milk ...

Eh she's bitter and all, no problem, but him sef no try. He should have tied up loose ends before wedding. That way, the woman won't have any right to destroy his wedding.

Serves him right. At least try to settle her. Nobody is forcing marriage on you but make proper arrangements for your child and let it be known to all especially the woman that you chose to marry that you now have a child. It should all be settled before you go off to marry someone else.

Loan apps are for Rich people who forgot their credit card somewhere during lunch at L'Oreal hotel/restaurant 😂

It's true na. What I'm saying is the truth. Which poor people do they expect to take 5k to pay 10,000 in seven days. Or 6k to pay 14k in seven days. Loan apps are for Rich people.

The only ones that don't scam/harass people are Okash, Branch and Fairmoney.

BRATISLAVA:
Because he's finally preaching to men, he's being called a male feminist.

When he was demonizing women, he was a bastion of morality in these evil times we live in.

So interesting how the topic has shifted to whataboutism.

I am glad someone has finally admitted to what is happening. They describe women as wicked creatures who are always looking for money. Meanwhile the truth is that many women are just seeking love and they use deception (pretending to love or like them) to get them. Saying something absolutely opposite to what is truly happening behind the scenes.

luminouz:
Will you kip kwayet?

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