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luminouz:
Who is sending you DMs sef?

I have a feeling that whoever does is of no concern to you.

In Nigeria once a woman is thirty, she has entered the grave be dat. 😁

Be yourself now. Society will always have reasons to cage you. By the time you're thirty they control you fully. You won't even be allowed to wear jeans by then.

So do everything you want to do now.

What I know is this...whoever is beneath you understands their situation, and they are angry. They don't want you to condescend and be friendly with them, they don't want to come up to your level, or worst of all, have you raise them up. They don't want to improve. All they want, is you beneath the soles of their shoes. They feel humiliated by you, by what you have that they don't have. They not only want what you have...they want you to be in their position or worse. They don't want equality, they want to be the oppressor and for you...to be oppressed by them.

You see big rich people staying away from the poor people. It's not always pride. The world is wicked. Many are waiting to pull down the so called pompous rich or successful people.

If you've ever lived amongst poor people, notice that they are experts in things like gossip, glaring 'eyeing' others, and sharp hurtful words. Why is this? Think about it, they don't have any other way to retaliate when someone shatters their fragile ego by having what they don't have.

Before you feel like a hero, a philanthropist, know this.

Sometimes ... sometimes...the poor person doesn't want your help, he/she wants your head!

These judges of women are so promiscuous that when one of them graduates as a virgin, it's news.

It's suffering. Though her decision was foolish. They should offer to do it for free for her, and give her the exact amount raised as her upkeep money after surgery.

She's either greedy or very scared of suffering.

Jewessgratitud3:
When she buys diaper for one month she'll know who school help.

Wetin dey hungry this children of nowadays eh? If school no favor you you no fit learn handwork? She thinks having a baby is fun. Without a tangible source of income to cater for that baby for the next 25 years, she'll know what she did to herself. I don't even know who's advising them .

You want to know who advised her? It is those nairaland niggahs looking for 'fresh meat' to chook their kini inside 😅😡

ElSudani:
You don't accept people just because they are successful alone. I am sure that isn't the only criteria on which you judge or accept people.
I wasn't attacking you as well, honestly.

Okay then I'm glad we're not arguing.

ElSudani:
The people of Kogi just sent Natasha Akpoti to the senate, this woman's heritage is similar to Natasha's but we should deny her?
Are you making any sense?

Oga I'm talking about success and failure in general and you're bringing your fight to me. I'm Yoruba and from a royal family in my hometown myself, so please, my post wasn't attacking you.

Look how everyone runs to claim her. Much love for a successful person. No love for a failure.

mariovito:
Shout out and respect to explorers

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Keep trying hard, you'll make it. I like that people are dropping tips.

abatically:
If this is true, congrats to him, mission accomplished. But then does he think of the aftermath? Like maybe someday he would seriously be in need of help, for example robbers come to his house and he has the opportunity to film them and post on his social media crying for help to be rescued. Now do u think people will take him serious, or think it's one of his pranks to get famous.

People in general always act like they are above sinning. Yeah, he did what he did, he had to do it because it was paining him! Take him seriously every day, every time, because there is none amongst us that is not always in need of mercy!

Working so hard to be noticed. People are actually seeing but deliberately refuse to acknowledge you. But if you are dead everyone will come out and speak and contribute. Is that not wickedness. Do you know it kills someone's morale. I don't think it's a good thing he did, but let us not minimize his pain abeg.

Somebody will be alive, everyone will refuse to acknowledge or support the person. It will be as if you exist but you are invisible. Until the person is proclaimed dead, then everyone will start coming out to support and talk. Why are people wicked like this to some of us?

I don't blame him one bit. He said he was dead, he had to die in some way for people to notice him. Can't you see him trending now? Portable that couldn't speak about him before the stunt, to even encourage him not to do that, has now come out to berate him. That's the only thing he could do. Shame.

For a human being who would still die. We all value this sweet side of life, but nobody can tug it into the afterlife.

I hate kilishi.

Kobojunkie:
Oh, I understand your view! I used to think like that when I was younger and plagued by my demons, but now I no longer do that because I see how that only aided in keeping me cracked for longer. I believe as adults we need to grow confident in our ways and stand tall no matter what others have to say or think.

People should not keep mum out of fear of what others might say. And they definitely should not keep away from the conversation because they are afraid they might not be able to handle it. The mind is meant to be pushed to its very limits to grow it. OP is not off somewhere brooding as you may think. He responded even up to page 4.

Okay, this is a bit comforting. Brave too. I'll mention him later.

Pampers is now more costly.

Nothing gives a man a better idea on whether regular sex is okay or not, than a baby.

Kobojunkie:
So out of fear of what others might say we should stay away from having conversations? You are kidding, right?

Just be you, Kobojunkie. I suspected I wouldn't be able to steer you into my view of things. It's all good.

Kobojunkie:
All this is great and stuff but I fail to see the relation between this and what I asked or said to OP.

OP said he does not eat these rats because an ancestor of his turned into one, and I respect that belief of OP's. My question to him was regarding the welfare of his other ancestors or relatives out there who maintain that ability to turn into rats. Indians' for example protect elephants and snakes because of similar beliefs they hold. Even cows are proctected. But OP does not hold any ideas regarding the need to protect the animals from harm as he readily offers them up to others to eat. That puzzled me. I expected OP to say that because of the relationship shared, he would protect the animal or something. Not throw it into someone else's pot of soup.

I also understand you but as you can see, others have used this straightforward question of yours to ridicule the person in question. As you being you, you didn't see what others would use your statement to do. All I'm saying is that someone else would've probably seen the possibility of mockery by others ahead of time, and, refrained from asking that question to prevent it.

If you so choose, you can try to evaluate the way others would use or perceive your statement next time, just as a sensitive move to protect the person you are conversing with.

Kobojunkie:
What awkward question was asked to shame him?

That's not true!

Maybe you didn't mean to shame him. But let's look at it like this, a lot of us had the same question on our minds, on the tips of our tongues or fingers, but we would not ask it. Why, because we have that premonition that the person might get upset or offended and hurt by it. You don't know who is strong and who is not, so you have to tread carefully.

All the same, there's an advantage to blunt or straightforward people like you who ask questions or say things, not sensing that it might hurt someone. Your kind of person pushes breakthroughs and discoveries of new knowledge in history.

I used to wonder how there are people that don't pause and think that something they say might hurt someone. But I've been around that type and I realized that they really don't think what they say is harmful, they have a kind of hurtful, callous innocence about them. They are just curious without second thoughts. I think you're like that.

Let's not shame people with awkward questions, it might affect them offline. I am actually worried about the guy who said they don't eat the giant rat due to someone in his lineage turning to one. No post from him again. I pray he stays safe.

Lightskin 🤣

She's actually looking beautiful. But the world's sense of beauty is different.

Error401:
lol

You think if she was thirty three with a beer belly and two kids he would look her way? No. So it's conditional. Period.

What's the big deal?

The man liked her for her body and her age, not herself.

Just the same way, she liked him for his money.

omooba969:
Purples25 what's your take on this matter?

It's really sad. I feel bad about the late woman and all affected directly and indirectly. That aside, it's people's fault, in general. What do we need spite for, in this world that is already harsh? Backbiting or impatience to listen to others? This woman kept to herself because those close to her couldn't be trusted. Just my thoughts.

I don't know about outside, but this Nigeria that I am, nobody wants to hear anyone out. Helping another person in any way is very very painful for others to do, even when it costs them nothing. When everyone is bitter, no one wants to hear anyone else out. How won't some people kill themselves.

Autopsy is needed sha. It should be necessary in suspicious cases of death.