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Zooposki:
African men are not ashamed their women have to who.re themselves out just to feed due to how incompetent and corrupt they are. Later they will want to run after the whyte women that their own group of men have made comfortable. No wonder the whyte man keep lynching your black asses. Yeye dey smell.

Said it all. Men corrupt women with money and then claim the women are corrupting them.

Show me how the women and children of a nation are treated, and I will show you the heart of that nation.

If women are getting fvcked for indomie and egg, it not only shows their values, but the values of their men.

Women and children in the society are mostly weaker, after all it is assumed that it is only men that hold positions of merit without sleeping with any boss. If that is truly so, then the so called hardworking men in charge of money, their homes, and therefore, power, have failed their women. They have used their power to corrupt the women. If you never gave them your money, and you never made it that you must sleep with any woman you date, your women would not be considered this cheap. The blame is 60:40 because the one with money holds the power to mould the world however they choose.

If I see a lady eating food and paying sex to eat that food, I would blame the man who has the money and power, but chose such an agreement just to help her. I will blame her for her actions, but I will blame him more. For he holds the entire bargaining chip that puts the business in motion, which is money!

Your women are a reflection of your manly values.

Petyprincess:
I am just seeing this I love your drawing, this is interesting.

Thanks

What's happening to my eyes

I saw '16 year old twin girls impregnated the same boy in Cameroon'.

I read "Marrying A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable. "

Happy birthday beautiful!

Yusufisraelj:
Hmmm, some discussions are beyond Nairaland, Lols.

I know experiences have made some become cautious, I perfectly understand. And it's okay if you require privacy.

Nairaland is a meeting place in my estimation and not a place for serious discussions. What do you say to that?

True. Send it, will reply.

Yusufisraelj:
Lols, make I send you private mail?

Let's talk here, what do you say?

jimmychang:
I was timid as a child,shy, emotional (i cry easily)and an introvert .My mates do bully me,omo my childhood was really bleeped up.My dad didn't help matters he always beat me up that when my aunt saw the belt marks on my back I had to lie it was my mother.
I could only open up to my mom,my dad on the other hand called me names like mumu ,goat,idiot(they got to me) lets not add the emotional abuse from my step moms(I felt worthless).I am not trying to make my dad the villian here he takes good care of us financially no cap .I believed what changed me was boarding school and life
I am still that emotional boy inside(but I no dey cry again ooh) even if my face is now full of facial hair.I am still an introvert but no longer shy and I love it.My dad always said he doesn't understand me and he never tried to .He never listens to me.I had to collapse one day before he knows that I was very sick,I rather die than speak out.The only person I could open up which was my mum is late.

Parenting is job I think no one is perfect at and I love both of my parents.


Try to understand your child , I don't know how you go about it sha but I just see myself in him. .

Sorry you had to go through all that.

How a person sees you depends on them, their mindset. How they treat you is a reflection of their character. No matter what, a responsible and good person will never do certain things. If he is responsible, he will never touch, use and continue to use what he knows he doesn't want. Because he is a disciplined man that believes in morals and self control.

That's why they say that people's opinion of you is none of your business. Do your best to do things right, and leave the rest to God.

GeneralPula:
Nobody cares about you in life unless you’re beautiful or dead..

Add successful, popular, rich, powerful, connected... Lol.

Her duty is to her husband and family alone. There really isn't any reason why she should have been at your house, cooking for you.

Yusufisraelj:
One of your post caught my attention.


Can you go through this;

https://drive.google.com/uc?export=download&id=0B-6wHyFkhX7GRUxkTWRZRjNKd1k

Ok I will. Thanks.

I dislike this so much, and I wish there were more measures to stop it. There's no good reason for it.

jendhorlee:
I was patiently waiting for the slawomir part, and i busy honestly say, you killed it

Especially the conversation between righteousness and slawomir

God bless you.you're now my next favourite person in nairaland after the Legendary EXPLORER
You're so unique, amazing and talented. I wish i could dash you money

Respect!

Thanks

I'm honored!

Yusufisraelj:
@purples25

Impressions last, and everything we do as people create perceptions about us. What perceptions have you given to get a hate vibe? You are not the only lady with male folks or who wears jeans and is hated on by abokis. Lols

First it's un-natural for people to just hate you, there must be an underlaying cause.

Now, I've lived in the three regions of the country, pertaining your issue I will enumerate the following;

1. In the northern region, when a lady greets elderly people she's considered in high esteem.

2. Respect is earned, through how you live and choose to relate in the north or relating with folks from that region.

3. Disrespect of any kind comes with disdain to an average northerner, either through academic superiority, life style or speech.

I'm not saying you should be a conformist, what I'm saying is, if you understand the ways of the people of any environment, and make adjustments that are not detrimental to you, just to accommodate or show respect for what they value, you stand chance to always have your way or be highly respected.

Adaptation is the proof of honour.

Going forward, study your environment and see for yourself what works and try doing same, however people may hate you bkos of your background, religion or tribe, that you can't do anything about. But the picture you are painting here talks more of you not understanding how to relate by respecting other people's Values, hence the strong hate, I think.

You have points. I'm trying to adapt a bit, but not because of them.

Forget about it. We must try to ignore petty things to move forward. We can't be great if we focus on these things... I know cuz I'm like that.

I'm trying to change. You can try too.

Modified, I just saw your joke on the other thread... so gross

Thank God we now have the spinach at the backyard, growing wildly. We pick that as our vegetable, instead of buying at the market. Fresh from the backyard. It has really been helpful.

As for the rest, God help us.

Love this.

DrayZee:
Wow. Beautiful thread.

Well done. Hoping to see a part two.

Working on it, thanks.

lifenajeje:
Those strippers for ashewo beer palour na die


U don give Vaseline crew image wey them go use work..


Ur creativity is second to none .

Haha thanks..

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Casham:
Another advice: try make friends with one of them and ask him why they disrespect you. Thank me afterwards.

I'll look into that. Thanks.

CharisEleos:
Oh... I see. Sorry for speculating though.

Don't worry, no harm will come upon you. You are a daughter of Zion.
The Bible says,
"ye though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I shall fear no evil, for thou art with me. The rod and they staff they comfort me." So fear not.

Pray to God for protection and read Psalms 91 every morning or 12 midnight if you can. You'll see them retracting from you like worms.

Thanks sis. God bless you.

CharisEleos:
Ok, you are part fulani. I for say because Dem no born Dem well to try it with Igbo girl like me. But wait... Can't you relocate and leave that aboki infested area? I mean... How do you enjoy the environment? Oh.. I forgot you're part of them but that not withstanding, you still need to leave that area especially as they don't like your guts. You know those people don't regard life.

Secondly, knowing how everything is haram to them, you should being more careful with the kind of life you live.
If I'm to look at it from their own angle, seems you bring in different guys hence their notion about you because I mean... What will make a group of people perceive you in that manner if they haven't seen something like that?

Just try and lead a decent life and try to leave the area because the next thing might be rape. God forbid.

First, thanks for your answer.

They don't even know what tribe I am, they only guess sometimes due to some of my features. But I will never even tell them. I mostly live, act, and identify as a Yoruba lady.

I have male and female friends, mostly Igbo and christian. I make attachment, I wear jeans, I talk and walk with my male friends down the street. I don't know what else caused their notions because none of them have slept with me before.

I feel the question should not be what I have done. Life has consequences for every action, but I still believe that a woman should not be mistreated or harassed based on any ones belief. If I start wearing a short skirt, would that justify this?

Well, thanks and you are wonderful. I will try to be more careful because I am actually noting that attacks may not be too far ahead, just like you have observed.

I live in a good, comfortable neighborhood. The majority of people that live there are rich Muslim Hausa's. Due to their lifestyle, most of them see a woman that opens her hair, gets into any male's car, walks with a guy down the street, dates without being secretive, or generally isn't their tribe, as a LovePeddler. They hardly have good attitudes towards others who are not of their tribe/lifestyle.

They are the ones handling every store in my area. Due to their mindset, I, amongst others, have gotten disrespected by those selling things in the area. They are unrepentant. The last time one of them said something lewd about me in my presence, the matter was taken up by a powerful neighbor. The Hausa's apologized to the neighbor but started a deadly malice with me. They did not apologize to me. They also told me not to buy from them or greet them. They, not considering that they are supposed to be devoted Muslims, even kept the malice throughout Ramadan.

Till today, I have to walk far to buy my things, because the mallam at the gate won't sell to me. He has also forcefully taken the role of security. Neighbors had meetings to root him out due to his generally rude nature, but this man went and built a cement foundation for his shop while an open meeting was being held for his removal.

I didn't go further on this because as those handling our security, and me being of a different tribe, I may be in danger. The mallam brings a mass of wandering sellers or poor Hausa's or Fulani's to our gate, and these people could turn on me anytime as they share the mindset that I amongst the inferior who are not their tribe.

At the closest mall, which the Hausa's also control, trouble is also brewing. I have gone there with my brother a few times to buy things, laughing and chatting along the way. My brother is tall and lanky and could pass for my boyfriend. They took it upon themselves to spread rumors about me being indecent from there, which led to more than the usual harassment I face from men around the area. I couldn't do anything about this. However, the male staff started one thing where they rub their hands on my body when talking to me. Then they grin at each other while doing that. It seems to be an inside joke with them.

I don't want to turn everyone to my enemy in my area. I want to be able to buy things. I am generally a peaceful person and I hate to cause a scene or make enemies. The last time I reported misconduct, I was barred from buying things. This time too, I am afraid, because the hausa people at the mall know the hausa people selling at my gate. This may be a matter of life and security to me.

I am really angry about this. I plan to go to the mall today and warn them. If not, being a calm person, I may continue not to react and stop going to this mall close by, which would be stressful for me, as I will have to go farther to buy things.

As a woman, how would you handle this? By the way, this post is not tribalistic. I am part Fulani, in fact.

firestar:
( Strolls In with a plate of spicy Jollof, dodo, moin-moon, plantain and assorted meat. Beckons purples25 over to eat cos it’s been awhile since she’s eaten food � meant for the soul).

Strolls out to get drinks.

Whistles a happy tune.
( Nairaland is becoming sane again even though it’s one thread at a time)

Sights Mynd44... Waves.

Thank you! I go chop well well

iamadonis2:
I’m a man and I wonder why reading through these pages made me shed tears?

Maybe cos it’s not often I find someone who has protected their imagination from the harshness of life.

I love what you’ve done. The sketches... the flawless prose style.

Protect “this” that you’ve got please

Aww thanks. I will.

Ajibade123:
That Slawomiir part is just so perfect

Lol you got that right...

Officialhorlah:
Awesome thread!

Thanks!