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I really really like the skirt. I like long skirts and long sleeved tops.

peacefull:
Some guys try to harass you?!
Please avoid them. This is scary.

Sorry, I read it, But I'm still can't understand very well.
Because of how you dress making them harass you?

Of course! I'm worry about you.
You are my good friend!!
I really hope they will stop harass you and you are safe.

How I dress is different from their standard of decency. We live different lifestyles. Hence they despise/dislike me. So they try to disrespect me.

I'll be safe, my good friend. Don't worry dear.

donteddy:
Please make a plan to leave the environment. One thing you know is a typical northerner treat women as second hand citizen talkless of you that even wear trouser or look different. They will use every available opportunity to provoke you to react so that they can harm you because they see you as an abomination. A typical Hausa man is a fanatic disguising under religion to perpetrate evil. Please find way and leave before they will jungle justice you tag you as a blasphemer.

My father suggested setting me up in somewhere new this morning. In two weeks. Before that, I have resolved to stay at home much more to reduce the aggression. Also dressing more conservatively to fit in.

peacefull:
purples25

Somebody mean to you?
I hope you are ok and stay in safe.

I'm sorry if I misunderstood. I maybe don't understand well.
I really hope nobody mean to you!

Hi peacefull. Glad you showed concern.

There are some guys that try to harass me in my area. I have taken action on their bad behavior, so that it would stop.

I also come out less and avoid them more, apart from reporting them to authorities.

So I'm okay now.

theTranslator:
Really rare
I love this


Purple25

Big thumbs up

Thanks

@ dalil8 and Harrykn, wish I could see your eyes. Would be interesting.

Enjoyment.

Change but keep it to yourself. My opinion. Cause the world isn't a nice place. What can the world do with your confession stories and your repentance than to use it as a weapon against you, and mock you?

Cheating is never the answer. Cheating complicates things and makes it worse. A last option should be to get witnesses and separate before them, cuz usually the wicked spouse doesn't want to change but they want to keep you there to be suffering.

Speak out, call family and friends and announce a clean break, and for God's sake go and find someone who cares. Not your hubby's friend. Make a clean start.

Good contribution @ seniorwriter. Let others learn from our suggestions. I actually posted this cuz I'm feeling for someone, but I don't want their trolls to come at me if I defend that person. Hope she sees this thread.

Seniorwriter:
I differ to agree with you @OP....in my opinion if you have a Troll on you then you need not worry just turn the tables by posting table shaking comments.

@Seniorwriter

If you are gifted in insults right?

Those guys are tireless and very good at saying what hits your soul... Unless you can go on forever like them, my option is available.

But if you got a gifted mouth, OMo, carry go!

Replying them is the biggest mistake you will ever make. That's their field of expertise, you step into it, they kill you.

The troll lives for and through attention from you. He or she lives on your pain, when you reply with anger, sadness, begging, or pain, the troll is eating it up. The more you reply, the stronger the troll gets. You are feeding it.

How To Defeat the Troll:
-Never reply, it will shrink up and dry up. It will become weaker and weaker until it dies.

-Become a troll hunter... Master the art of attacking/hunting them silently. As you ignore them, they will soon start saying worse and worse things, and creating new monikers to do it. You must allow the troll to reach this peak first. Then you strike: use their own words to get them banned. Also, you must perfect the art of enjoying the banning experience. Make it one of your hobbies when online. Say nothing, just take the trolls as your 'ban babies'. Anytime you are bored online, go to their abusive posts, get them banned. It's like waiting for a crop to get harvested and then you pick and enjoy.

Remember, to really kill an internet troll... Is to never answer that troll. Always look for an authority of some sort that can silence them. Attention and your misery Is their food. They are sadists.

A beautiful woman. Happy Birthday.

Money, self care, power.

sunnedee2:
If you see the way I have been making siren noise here, as in wow! wow!! wow!!! wow!!!!
Once again wow!!!
This is so amazing!
Nice job op. I mean Welldone.
I don't even know what to say again.

Please let there be a part 2. Ejoor! And quote me please when the part 2 is out.
Peace!

Thanks so much! Being appreciated for my art makes my day! I'll quote you when p2 is ready. I am so glad you enjoyed every thing!

sunnedee2:
@ purples25
Please try and relocate from that area.
We dont want anything to happen to our favorite artist.
The issue is deep now and if you bend to their will then you are game.
Meanwhile, with what I read, physical attack (including rape) cannot be ruled out.
So, please try and change location.
Stay safe sis.

Thanks. It is lovely to see this issue being addressed by you. I appreciate your concern.

I hope that some things will take me away for a while, soon. Hopefully.

I wish I had that baby face too. It's , but I don't

I have an aunt that is totally youthful looking like that though.

Showed my mom, she said this should go for 8k at most.

Nice story and pretty pictures.

Bring the corn for me, I will eat. Then you can go and settle her, maybe she will prefer boiled corn...that one no consign me.

I think if one is giving money away he/she shouldn't ask the receiver what they will use it for. After all you're 'dashing' the person.

If a woman dares complain of a man being stingy like this before marriage, that he doesn't help her in any way, is it a red flag....

She will be labelled a gold digger.

neyoohhh:
It's a theoretical question, so don't take it too seriously. Just trying to find out something since it appears you seem to understand the underlying issues especially with your quote


"Men corrupt women with money then say women are corrupting them".

Here's the question.

Would African/Nigeria women accept Arab styled patriachy of female chastity/ modesty if they can get socio economic protection like it is in say Kuwait. (Controlled patriachy)..

Essentially no western type of freedom's but there's social protection.

Lol they wouldn't.

neyoohhh:
Read all your contributions. Got me thinking.

You're right but there's more.

Please share your thoughts.

Quenmoly:
Attachment 3=3900
Washing 500
Hair Money 3000
Total =7900

So expensive really. Close to 10k. But if you want to make proper hair, that's just the cost.

I'm moving to my brown, black and grey wigs for the rest of the year.

Covering hair is going to go too, for religious and financial purposes. I even have styles that I can tie happily.

I went to look for trouble, went to a place that I normally do my hair after a long time of leaving my hair free...

Place with A.C and VIP treatment. I even have a special person always assigned to me. I should have known that their price would have increased by now.

Finished hair, brought out 1000. They hook me for throat, talk say the money na 4000 . I had to pay up.

Na me find trouble.

Fiscus105:
Ur submissions are partly incorrect and you are shifting blame on men as usual

I will implore you to do enough findings on these set of children, they are children in which their mothers married their father out of greedy and ojukokoro,(convetousnes). After one or 2 kids for the man, he dropped the mother and negative result will bounce on kids and the circle will continue.

You blame their mother more for what happen to their kids.

Go for good guys when u r young u say no, now blaming all men for offence of few rascals

Okay. Why are Arabian and Caucasian women not in this same category. Why are they respected and favored around the world? More than the black woman?

Let me tell you why.

Look closely at these races. Their men protect and help their women. Their women are encased in comfort and such rules by their men that do not allow them to exhibit OR as another option, be tagged as sluts and what have you. It is only in Africa that our men do not protect the image of our women, and even invite other races to use our women and insult them.

When their women are poor, they rather marry them and give them more power or rights, than let any other race have them and use them. They value their race so much, that even their 'old cargo' would be avenged for if used and dumped. They can come to your country to find out about you (I have seen this) and bring you to justice if you take advantage of even their old women. Not to talk of the young ones. You can see the power that the women have in their country.

Coming back to naija, so your women are poor and could not help themselves. They married their native men, and the men displayed insensitive and irresponsible attitudes by mostly running away. You people, rather than put in many support systems and laws and advantages for your women, work and help your women....

You prefer that your women should be working with you like fellow men. The result is masculine women, hardened by working so hard and incessantly. And then when they resemble the men in the process, looking worn out and tired and ugly, you people go to other races women that have been shielded from hard life by their men, and pampered to remain soft and beautiful and feminine.

It is only African men, that want their women at the top of the stress ladder, working their asses off just like the men. Like I said, the way you treat your women shows your heart. The heart of the black man is not merciful. He treats his woman like his fellow man, wanting them to bear burdens 50 50, or if possible, the woman should bear most, and he should have rest of mind.

Black man does not care for his woman to sacrifice and give her a comfortable platform in life like other races.