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This government came into being with 3 key aspirations: anti corruption, the economy and security.

Transparency International answered the first yesterday.
No one needs to look at documents to confirm that the economy is still struggling and on top of that insecurity has reached unprecedented levels.

Right now there is not a single major highway north of the River Niger that is motorable from a security point perspective. I have been getting steady reports since monday about kidnappings and violent robberies along, Abuja-Kaduna, Kaduna-Zaria and Zaria-Kano. (won't mention those involved here) but the situation is pathetic.

I just cannot see what has improved significantly under this regime that seems to have been hijacked by very dark forces amd humam elements. I think people ought to speaak up a lot more. The time for politics and sentiments is gone. We have very serious governance issues confronting us in this country.

AerialMapper:
1.7 trillion and for this we have grid collapse every other month

Hear ye Hear ye o ye hailers, you will realize soon enough the scale of grand corruption in years to come .

Transparency International, thank you for your report.

When GEJ was looting our ranking was better than when PMB is fighting corruption.

Ironic

Just listening to radio commentary in Abuja this morning. Fans making excuses, foes flogging the horse. The report is just bewildering.... just sad.

RaptObserver:
Gradually, Bihari will hit the 16 billion dollars target of OBJ too. Then he won't have the moral right to question OBJ about that money.

In terms of duration this government has spent almost the same time in office as the Goodluck Jonathan administration. Thus you don't hear much 'previous regime blame gaming'..... their supporters are becoming tongue tied, some joining us in utter bewilderment.

Transparency International's report is out and corruption perception has worsened. Slipped from 144 to 146 in just one year.... so much for the anti corruption dogma of this administration. Not surprised at the humongous amount.

Prosper82:
I Feel Like My Marriage Is Falling Apart

I would like in advance to apologize for the long post but I think some background information is needed so you can assess the situation.

My wife and I have two kids. The oldest is turning 8 soon and the youngest is 7 months old.

Since our first child was born she has been co-sleeping with us. And ever since our sex life has been going down hill.

Now since our youngest child was born he has also been sleeping with us in a queen sized bed. But after two months of very poor sleep, I decided I couldn't follow that arrangement anymore so I went to sleep in the next room.

So since our kids were born my wife has been sleeping with them and now I sleep alone.

As you could imagine, you can't really have sex with two kids on the bed. We have gone weeks and even months without having any sex.
So my wife says that we should have sex in the room where I sleep after she puts the children to sleep.

This to me sounds like making an appointment to have sex. It isn't something you can have if you have to set up a time in advanced. I also miss cuddling with her and sleeping in our bed.


I feel like us sleeping in different rooms and beds has been the biggest hurdle to get back to the point we were before having kids.

We have a crib for the baby and a bed for our oldest daughter where each of the children could sleep separately but she's into attachment parenting so if the children cry (which I suppose they will when adapting to a new sleeping arrangement) is something that she wouldn't tolerate.

I also I understand the 7 month old might need to be breastfed in the middle of the night so she says it's more convenient just to have him nearby in bed than having to get up to breastfeed him but I feel that my daughter should be learning to sleep independently.

Anyway, it's been quite a while without sex and I don't know what to tell her or do.
We have a lot of fights because of this.

I feel that attachment parenting might feel like you're doing the best for the kids, but if it also ends up destroying the marriage and we separate what good would that do for them?

What do you guys think?

A mother caring for her children is nature's way of managing procreation if not it becomes uncontrollable. So rather than complain be cerebral about the situation and observe the warning lights flashing before you. As your family grows sex should come at a premium until age catches up.

I repeat. This problem has no military solution. Violence just feeds into the warped ideology these people operate by.

When the adherents are told that the only benefit of what they do it their demise then society has a serious challenge and the only solution to this is to neutralize the objectives of their leaders which is some sort of caliphate by a counter ideology at the very grass roots of their movement centred around the sanctity of life and the love of fellow human beings through the very channels of their negative inspiration.

You don't hear about any active programmes which this government has set up to tackle this problem at the very roots. Nothing cerebral. Just war, war, war.

And please don't say amnesty. Amnesty is not a solution. It is merely a bribe.

femmy2010:
AMOTEKUN was fashioned to fail. Those governors were just too in a hurry to push something out without crossing out the downside.
Legality aside, Who is the head of this Amotekun?
How is it structured?
How much are the operatives been paid?
who would be paying them?
etc

These are the issues sorted out on the table of debate before laws are made to make structural changes to a country. That is why I said we are a nation of ignorance. The cart always comes before the horse. Actions raken before justification. Just wrong. The governors act like a civil soviety pressure group rather than actors in the script of law.

Sunnymatey:
Imagine the state of the country by now assuming the reverse is the case.

An lmam being executed.

.....by an outlawed extremist Christian paramilitary organisation doing so somewhere in the deep south and shouting 'jesus is lord' in the process.... this country will go ablaze.

If only we knew what the dire consequences of these kinds of incidents are on the fabric of society. If anything we can learn from this it is clear that Bokoharam is intent on driving a wedge between Islam and Christianity, splitting this country in two and making their quest to conquer and subjugate a whole lot easier.

The whole of society must rise up and douse this potentially explosove situation before it creeps up and consumes.

Now this is the way the whole thing should have started. Yes from the grass roots NOT FROM GOVERMENT HOUSE so it will be seen as purely an issue of people power, of governance and not of politics, religion or ethnicity which unfortunately it has been hijacked for.

The people rise up and say enough is enough of insecurity. They protest and then the government at the grassroots which they elect starts the process by sending their Federal Representatives to lobby for the necessary support at the centre while the grassroots keep the pressure on the government.

That is democracy and it works like this everywhere democracy works. Advocacy to negotiation, negotiation to laws. That is what we spend billions and billions on the House of Assembly for. But since this issue has started I have not heard (maybe it has) a ground swell of debates thrown to the floor on this issue championed by western legislators. So you will ask, what are they elected for.

When issues are interstate governors are of little effect constitutionally. They have very little power outside their domains. The Constitution recognizes only Federal Representatives when it comes to negotiating and fashioning cross border issues bordering on what we call the exclusive list of government responsibility of which this Amotekun things is bang centre. That is where Hisbah gets one on Amotekun.... it doesn't cross state lines.

America is the centre of universal liberties but the day the governor of California meets up with the governor of Texas to form a cross border militia then you can be sure they will be led from their offices in handcuffs. This whole has been as badly conceived and badly implemented.

PS. I am 110 percent in support of some of what Amotekun stands for, that is the decentralisation of the law enforcement structure of this country. In my opinion, the American system works perfectly with a Federal police intervening in what is essentially 'national' crimes or crimes against national interests only.

But this is not the way to go about it. Restructuring must be driven by the ideals and interests of the people, the players, not of the referees which is government. That is why I support the agitation of the peoples of eastern Nigeria for self determination and the peoples of the Delta for resource control. The best results come directly by people centric movements.

DP.

Forget it. A governor featured in multiple videos collecting bribes yet he re-contested for office, approved by the same man you seek to overthrow and his hands raised by the C-in-C who is supposedly in a mega brawl against corruption....

If your quest is not the most futile in the history of the world, what trumps it?
Joke of the year.

The definition of government is simply a group of people chosen to organise the rest of society around common values. That is the simple answer. One cannot be better than the other speaking of leadership and citizenship qualities. Nigeria is the way it is because of the aggregate values of all Nigerians.

I will give you classic examples: Today we've had a European football manager for a number of years. It hasn't caused our football fortunes to be anywhere near any typical European country. The gains made are at best superficial.

Our economic mainstay, oil and gas has been in the hands of the west for a generation in termss of development, that is prospecting and production. It hasn't made this country nor the oil and gas industry viable, sustainable or profitable to the country over the decades. Countries that have bought our oil for decades are even better of.

This shows that leadership, ownership or whatever is overrated. It is the quantum of values a society projects that defines its sucesses and failures.

Watch and see how vermin overtakes that community now that the food chain is broken and their predator is gone. The rats will be in thanksgiving.

Not just the new user, the old user could be in trouble if the new user is involved in shady activity. If truecaller can identify the previous user it may mean that NCC's old bio may remain active and in a law enforcement case it can be claimed that the phone was merely lent for crminal activities and not really transferred.

I think the authorities needs to get a handle on the growing menace and come up with a working solution albeit one that is user friendly. We don't want the problems of obtaining so called 'police reports' or 'police permits' as in some automobile resales.

See Mr Donald Trump. He goes out, fights for his country to get the best deals for his people. He is taking on the almighty China and signed a deal to double American agricultural exports from 25 to 50 billion. Measurable, quantifiable and 'documentable' progress and benefits.

With a leader like that who will question his travels yet he hardly travels out but on the contrary he is desperately criticised, villified and even faces impeachment at home yet despite crushing opposition he goes about his duty bringing consistent results....

Our threshold for performance is far too low for a developing country such as ours hoping to make any headway in the world.

apasino01:
I remember when he entered office newly and started his tour. his blind misguided supporters were like.... don't worry very soon baba's foriegn trips will start paying off

And after 5 years.... Mr President is stll talking, still complaining, still buck passing.... because there are no solutions of offer. He was elected to 'fight corruption ' as the solution to the Nigeria question but after fighting for 5 years not one single problem shows any sign of being solved. I won't go to the issues of insecurity and others that were linked to so called corruption.

But on this matter he and his supporters publicly and loudly claimed corruption was the major impediment to foreign investment and economic prosperity resulting. So why is it that five years after 'ending corruption' is the country not bursting at the seams with foreign cash. Why is it that we still have to borrow our lives away.

That is how democracy works, everyone respecting the rule of law. I have no comments on the outcome of the judgemement. To me it is irrelevant. I am always pro-process, pro-structure, pro-institutions. I don't care about the individuals involved. When we can all allow the Judiciary to exercise its full authority, make mistakes if necessary and learn from them while we learn to live by their decisions then we can all collectively seek to improve the quality of their services. Not before.

CharlotteFlair:
But my question is, why didn't the governors get legal backing of their state assemblies before rolling out?

Why create such a lacuna for the opposers to latch on, why put the cart before the horse?

Because of the atmosphere of impunity pervading Nigeria caused by political recklessness at the centre. Where a Federal Government is keen on obeying the rule of law, keen on upholding institutions and best practices society tends to tow the line of doing things lawfully but where leadership has scant regards society goes about 'self helping'.

If you believe you cannot get justice in a partisan court and your views heard before an independent legislature you are bound to ignore due process and renegade. It is the anarchy that can potentially combust this country we always warn about. In Nigeria we believe power means the ability to sideline laws and act with impunity.... then we call ourselves a democracy where true power means the ability to persuade not ride bucking broncos over peoples heads.

Enjoy your country. We made it this way by sentiment. What is the fundamental difference between what the governors have done and what IPOB has been doing. Both are outlaws. Not that I see anything wrong in the purpose. What I find puzzling is the wonder in the west at the resistance.

Even a hitherto respected elder statesman like Balarabe Musa is getting soiled in the ethnic mudpit... this government has done perverse damage to the best this country has to offer... too bad. What a time to live in Nigeria.

Just watching BBC 'Newsnight' and I think the final question asked by the presenter says it all. That those who have sympathy for her (it is apparently about her even in the British media) are basically 'anti monarchy' and those against their actions are in favour of the ancient institution.

It cannot be had both ways.

Olalan:
It's high time we start having critical discussion in this country cause the outcry from the north on this initiative seems mishecvious........How do you condemn an initiative engineered towards protection of human lives and properties

Now you folks see the problem. But why act before discussion. How do you discuss now with a 'biased jury'. How will you get consensus and support with all the spats passed under the bridge....

Nigeria should start talking with each other now.....
Let us discourse on how we wish to live together as a nation aka restructuring.
It is the answer to all our problems and the end to endless ethnic upheavals.

peacettw:
On the contrary, his write up points to the fact that at the end of the day, we all must admit that Meghan remains the sole variable that tipped the scale which led to this current chain of events.

I will like to think that both are to be blamed but then again, who am I kidding.

Exactly. He has a life full of media scrutiny before he met her. He never liked it but we didn't hear of his leaving until well after his marraige. He surprised even his father Prince Charles. It is clear he intends to make a life outside the BRF so be it.

Sterope:
How has she sought to modernise it? Are you the cockroach in Meghan's cupboard?

Not me. I don't command the media both press and social. That was the talk back then when she was in. The new Diana she was called. But now she has quit it is understandable folks are now in denial. The truth remains that a section of the British public wants the monarchy gone. Others want its influence as shallow as the other monarchies of Europe and others want it to stay and remain as traditional as its roots are.

What I am saying is. If you are going to cause an effect on that institutions by union you certainly cannot do that by quitting. Something obviously has happened in the past one year that has tipped the couple over the edge amd made them leave. If it was as fundamental as concerning Harry he woukd have left before he married Megan. She is certainly involved in his decision. His leaving is essentially about her.

cococandy:
But who said she was trying to modernize the royal family?

Ah Coco, that has been the talk around her marriage to Harry by those who saw it as a good thing in parts of the media. But one can understand that those parts are a bit in a flux since the attachments to the BRF have been torpedoed.

Just like when Diana was rumoured to be pregnant for Dodi and then met her untimely there were sections who insinuated that she was assasinated to prevent a muslim born heir.

Look society views these things very diametrically. Some will want to preserve these great institutions, some others will want them ended or want them recreated in their own image. That is essentially the battle in the minds of onlookers.

Ladycewhy:
I personally think Harry has always wanted out even before Megan came in the picture, i watched a documentary on him,seems he was trying to say,i will do what i like ,kick me out if you can,lol,that guy rebel die .

i think they are looking at the future, i suspect princess Charles will likely pass the leadership to Williams when the queen does die. Which means Harry and Megan will in no time be under the ownership of Williams and Kate, and so you know there is bad blood between them already. So why not get away now that grandma is still alive?

Honestly, there are some things you might think you are prepared for until you enter and realize its not as easy as it seemed ,i think that is what happened to Megan.

Whatever happens, wishing them the best. We all deserve peace, i dont know if i would do any different if i was in their shoes.

What are you saying. The BRF is an institution with laid down rules concerning succession which Harry will have been aware of since he began using a fork and spoon. And these are not the dark ages where warmongering determined who had the throne so there simplycannot be any bad blood between William and HHarry as to the throne just as thete is absolutely none between Charles and Andrew just as there is none between HRH Queen Elizabeth and Princess Anne her sister.

No one is jealous of the other and certainly in the modern era there no one is remotely thinking of changing the order of succession. Thanks to HRH Queen Elizabeth the BRF has come to a degree of stability and she has do e evrything to ensure the throne remains firmly in the House of Windsor which it wasn't always.

When you walk into an institution with your eyes open you surely must be prepared for a change in the way you think, speak and act. That is normal. What is abnormal is you exoecting the institution to vhange overnight just because you joined, an institution over a thousand years old, with hundreds of active practitioners. If she felt she was going to modernise it and de-radicalise it then she should have been prepared for a long, hard battle. But it is evident she wasn't.

Why then criticise the institution that she was attracted to in the first place.

cococandy:
What’s entitled about expecting to be treated like a human being?
And not have your child called racist names?

Because we suffer in Africa from bad leadership, we should be okay with being treated as sub human?also

why are you so angry?

I wanted to read all posts before replying but I want to call you out Coco on this:

You must admit that the black man has problems building institutions, obeying rules and following leadership. We have very weak impulses to collectively establishing societies. There is barely any collection of black people you can point to as being sustainably successful and world beating. Individually, yes some successes but collectively the annals of history are clear.

Not criticising that woman, afterall the human soul basically yearns for liberty but in order to project ideals sacrifices have to be made to coalesce power, something the black man simply cannot do. If she was going to 'modernise' the royal family and if she was going to battle out the racism, how on earth is this action going to achieve that.

And I say this with all sense of critical thinking looking even at our little country Nigeria. Why can't the black man be cerebral in his actions. Why can't he apply soft power, why can't he be diplomatic in his ways, why can't he negotiate to gain ground, stoop to conquer. Why is the black man always confrontational, rash, always acting before thinking, and his ways always set in a zero sum game. Meaning it is always 'my way or the highway'.

Just look at Nigeria, the largest collection of black people in the world within one fence... a mini disaster. I am black. I have nothing against blacks.... but unfortunately I have a lot of issues against blacks.

When your legacy is tarnished anything goes. No one has taken the anti corruption mantra of this government seriously for a few years now. It is a waste of time speaking about corruption amongst its members.

xpmode:
No regret.... as long as the Minority Christian North is safe. in one Nigeria, who cares about oyel

Are they safe. Are they not the demographic with the highest ethno-religious casualty rate since 1967. There have been serious conflict and bloodletting in every northern state having a Christian minority from Kebbi to Nasarawa. At peace time the middlebelt has always been a powder keg.

EbukaHades10:
Chelsea switched off at the last second

....hmmm, system collapse things...,

This is why we love the Premiership.... epic drama.

BlackfireX:
Oboy wetin happen, you are not parrotic again.


I like the way buhari is dealing with all of us that campaigned and voted for him

That is why it is always better to support processes, procedures, systems and institutions rather than individuals and people who can change at will and sct in their own very personal, parochial interests with the absence of political ideologies in a nascent democracy such as ours.

Those who have made it a profession of man worship and queer idolatry in this dispensation hsve all had egg on their faces... and this may just be the beginning of misery for the pussy-cat of 2015 has growm to become a ferocious feline today who knows neither milk nor mouse.... I just shake my head in pity....

Divided country courtesy of terrible political leadership unprecedented for projecting ethnic polarity by wanton acts of crude tribalism and nepotism. It will take years of first class statesmanship to steady the ship of state and begin the ardous task of reuniting this fractured and structurally weakened country.

merahki:
Rubbish
Still doing your Bible “honour your parents so that you might live long”
Again, rubbish squared
Thanks

That is why 'wise' people like you continue to have and address issues but those who know how things work never seem to have problems. Life is simple and void of the anger and bitterness and vile, uncultured communication often seen around society.... and clearly demonstrated in your offerings. Pity.