dayokanu:

You mean you also had a child for 2face Idibia?

Lol....wondering who will in her rightful sense open her legs for a "general father"(tuface) and still expect him to take care of the child he has with you, do you know how many kids he has already? MY dear cotton101 if it is Tuface just forget about him, you are on a long thing, take care of your child and assume she does not have a father.

Welcome Kofidor and Hazelle, i hope you meet your goals soon.

logs for yesterday: Actually no exercise for me, just did 200 belly crunches and 200 bicycle crunches, had pounded yam and okro soup and was feeling too heavy...omo i just lay down and crunched-up.

Efemena_xy: ^^ Lol! @ double attack from both your parents!!

This brings back so many memories! Back then, I never quite understood why my dad made male visitors to our home really, and I mean really uncomfortable.

He was sooooo protective of his girls, all 5 of us - as a teenager, it embarassed me eh! But now I understand why he acted that way.

You know, shortly after my NYSC orientation, I went back home for a couple of days 'cos I'd come down with malaria. Anyway, there was this guy I fancied at camp, and he mentioned he'll come over to my town to visit. I thought at that time he had no where to stay (Yes, yes, I know I was naive), so I invited him over to my parents home to spend the night.

Men, see whala. My dad practically hit the roof. I had to run to my usually strict mum for cover o! Anyway sha to cut a long story short, my dad didn't sleep in his room that night. He slept in the family sitting room upstairs, with both doors wide open, so he could have a clear view of my room and the guest room where the young lad slept!

Wow!!!! mine was different though, had this guy in school he was NOT my boyfriend but was pimping my very close friend. This guy just told me jokingly that he was coming over to our house for christmas....and i was like "you!! come to my house, na beans?" and we just laughed over it.

Then 23rd of December, was home with everyone, we had a knock and i was the one that went to get the door, and as i opened the door and saw who was at the door, i started trembling...(Tokunbo, omo yankee with his American accent). Chei...all i was thinking about was "i don die today oooo"" "this guy has finally killed me"...then the aprokos' my dad and mum wondered what was taking me so long to usher whoever it was in, i saw them (my dad and mum) coming to peep and saw this tall boy/guy...trust my dad, he started asking questions, i immediately stepped in ooo and explained everything truthfully to my parents.....guess what? they allowed him to stay for a whole week, he celebrated the christmas with us, went out with my dad so many times, mummy had a pet name for him (tokay)....played with my younger sisters and did not want to even leave. (phew!!!!) My dad allowed him all because they (my mum and dad) knew when i was lying and when i was saying the truth, they knew and trusted that i was completely honest with them and that was a very rare behaviour they both possessed that i had never seen. After that, i just knew not to betray their trust.

^^^^^^ Egbami!!! why so much hate?wetin Saga do you? haa!!!!

phraze: i wish i was so could ask where my wife and daughter is... Ok Ronkebp, please bend i can a person running towards u, no its me, and mmm, yea asshle u asked for these,... Pliz young man pliz... I wish op was here. Ok ok end of the film. Ronkebp i am not the father but would love to have a daughter who stops traffic. Pis!

Hun?!!!!

dayokanu: Does your friend talk to the African guy on phone?

Let her pick a fight with him and make the guy break up with her

Nice one!!!!! easy..should have done that since!!!

jaym112002: First she needs to pray hard! Challenges like this need wisdom, wisdom from God...because any wrong decision is one of a permanent nature. Also, your friend should be ready to SACRIFICE something. Either she sacrifices her family, or get pregnant and elopes with her man of choice..she needs to choose one. Because in this case, she can never eat her cake and have it. She needs to be ready to sacrifice. But one thing is for sure, whatever she chooses, as long as her HAPPINESS is in that choice, eventually, everything will work out well FOR GOOD. Thats certain

Great advice.

^^^^ your post just made me laugh. ...i had this long frown on my face before now. BUT hope you are not the dad oooo?

@ pOSTER....not that i really want to know who the person is, but i want to know who he is, if he is on this forum, ]only because it is high-time irresponsible men stopped giving advices on here, when their lives is like a scattred broken china-glass on the kitchen floor.

It is a big shame and inhumane, for a man not to care for his own child, irrespective of whatever the mother might have done. If you do not think that she is your daughter why don't you take a "paternity test" and save yourself from the woman nagging you to take care of your child, or step up to the plate and take care of your child.

You (who is the father of this child) have forgotten that she has a "God" watching over her innocent self and would fight for her. You are such an irresponsible man and to think that you would hold your balls high to say you are "a man".

Cotton..expose him here....let the whole world know...nonsense.

^^^ True dat!!!!!

Leave the girl alone!!!! period, or else your woes will start pretty soon. it will be like starting what will take you more than 7 life times to correct.

kokoye: This thread was created solely to bash people outside of Nigeria. I wonder why.

Is it a crime to choose to live elsewhere?

Some bash on you because you live outside of naija while you are here working hard to take care of your family both here and back home in Naija.

The funny thing is if you say you want to move back home, the same exact people will start beefing you..saying you shouldnt expect you can use your 'fake degree and phonetics' to get jobs when you return.

I wonder what we really want.

HATE for your fellow man.

No wonder it is difficult to grow and advance in life.

Cant we all just get along??

Yeah!!! difficult to advance in a country like Nigeria....too much hate.

lol...at deflating tyres....

Saga-pumpin...am sure hin head go dey swell.... for im mind naaa him get values


Any ways, for example, the gap between my youger brother and the last child is 3 years. and they are really close...
- He knows better than to hit her (that one is always looking for his trouble though).
- He feels Maama (that is what we call the last baby) should do everything in the house....omo by the time we the remaing sisters attacked him ehn!! he sat tight instanta.
- He know his responsiblities as a man and how to help out when it is needed and necessary
- He knows better than to use unnecessary langauge or grammar, has never gotten into a fight ever!!! he is now in the university and never fought outside.

The house chores is a neccesary lesson that needs to be taught to all the kids irrespective of gender, because we are in a world and generation where every one now is measured according to "what he/she brings to the table".
-Self confidence is another lesson that those boys need to be taught, it is a man that does not have anything upstairs that will get angry at every little thing someone does. If you know how to relate well with anybody and everybody you come across with, relating with and to your wife will not be a problem
- Teach them how to be a friend rather than a boss, they are natural bosses anyway, why rob it in at every little chance they get.

Well!!! i am still keeping my "extra tyre" just incase.... :

Good thread and fantastic topic.. Where do i start?

My mum...........had first three female children before she got a boy (8 years after the third child) and then tried for another boy and landed another girl (so 4 girls and 1 boy)...[just a head start]. My father's family believe that female children should not really be trained education-wise, because they believe we will end up getting pregnant someway or anyway, by one lunatic of a man (as my grandfather would say). My dad loves his children but sometimes thinks his father is giving him the best advice ever.

My mum is a though cookie, she is petit but very strong emotionally and mentally, if she should start trouble, the whole house will be on fire for the next 2 weeks, she put her foot down, that her kids (the girls) will be taught well and will be great children educationally, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, maritally and so on. We knew better than to accEpt a gift from a guy, {our own don boil be that}. there was this period when i was still looking for an admission into the higher institution, there was this guy that was my toaster then, he took me out one day to(foodco, in ibadan) and bought me "meat-pie" {which i don't eat}, i told him thank you and put the pie in my handbag[i had the intentions of trashing the meat-pie afterwards] but actually forgot to. did not know what my mum was looking for the next morning and found the "meat-pie" in my bag, long story short, i recieved thorough beatings that morning, [saying i was selling myself for 'meat-pie] can you even belive that?? was angry becaue i had myself 'intact" all that period. That is just a little bit of how my mum hates the fact that a lady has to depend on men to survive or receive gifts that you did not work for.

She was always telling us how important we were and still are and how successful we will be inlife if we do not let men trample on our feelings or emotions that there was always the right time for everything. we would wear clothes and start to model round the house for my parents,[actually where my catwalks came from ]. She always had stories to tell about how a man maltreats his wife and kids, some of it were 'true life" from my aunt and uncles' experiences. And would tell us virtually everyday to make sure we looked very well before we decided saying 'yes" to a man.

My dad would tell us what men do to get women and what they were alwaYS After. i used to pray for someone a litte bit like my day, because my mum got away with so many things..left for him though we will be rotten as hell, because he hardly spanked us and so much hates to see us cry, even when he scolded us, he would still apologise later on for scolding us...but my mum, for where? you are so on your own.I will just say that, "parents should be a role model for their kids" they need to "talk the talk" and "walk the walk". that is the easiest way to teach a child.

hmmm i am speechless.

Oh!!!!!!when i just thought i was getting better.

Ok.....never been better.

Hmmmmmmm!!!!! this is what majority of women get all in their bid to getting married "before it is too late", if the man has not been pampering you from the beginning how do you think he will shower extra love and pampering now? The more i read other posts the angrier i get. He does not beat you, he provides for his family? after that, what is next?

Hour_Glass: Good morning @all, I just remembered something I wanted to share yesterday. Its the fact that atimes some things are given/or earned by those who do not value it. Have you ever checked those abokis pushing water cart or off loading cement whenever they are n.aked? You see 6 - 8 packs, they are so toned and ripped. You see a well toned body, they don't even know what abs means not to talk of a 6 pack. Here we are running up and down just to have 1 abi na 4 pack sef. This life na wa. Just a way of digression.

Morning.
15 minutes jump rope

this is so funny...you are so right, sometimes it is good to maintain what you have, beacuse when you loose it, it is hard to get it back, used to be 135-140 pounds before i got married, omo now i am crying and trying to go back to that weight and to think that i never really cherished it, despite all the compliments i got. But anyways, i will reach there whether the body likes it or not. .

Logs for yesterday...50 minutes Zumba dance....loved it.

kola oloye:
Drop the 'extra tyre' and I will drop the 'back up'

you are the only one that got it....you know you started it first!!! right.....?

Sagamite:



Some times when I read these sort of stories on NL, I mutter and wander "Where the fck do you women get these men from"?

It just makes me more arrogant because it re-enforces my belief men like me are gold dust to women.

And some yeye ronkebp would be saying I have no value to give.

Some yeye stillwater will say I should go and marry (i.e. any shythead Nigerian girl) and give a shythead the gold dusts she does not deserve.

Fck Not!

The pregnancy period is a period my wife will be laughing that at least she can get away with murder and I can't say shyt.

YOUR VALUES ARE obvioulsy better than the OP's husband.

AM I THE ONLY ONE SEEING THIS NASTY PICTURESok I AM EXITING THIS THREAD.

manny4life:

You see, that's what I'm talking about... Let's get the party started

gBAMM!!! JUST tell me the colour of gele, so i can match-up with my shoes and bag.

afam4eva: It seems everyone is moving to Texas. Me sef dey go Texas Texaco bus/stop, Orile.

tpia@:




na obodo oyinbo oh.

i know faa!! do i have a choice

dayokanu:

You dare not walk in Houston or Dallas.

Those places as soo far away.

Walking on Beltway 8, or 59 in Houston, 635, George Bush turnpike, Loop 12 (In Dallas) Can land you anywhere from the morgue to to orthopaedic)

Drivers in Texas as also some of the craziest.
When I just got to Houston, I missed my bus the last of the day. And I trekked almost 3hours to get home, What you can do 15-20 drive

Must have burnt alot of calories, 3 hr walk is the way to go!!!!!

^^^^^ Agbaya!!!!

where is Tgirl4real, someone is trying to derail this thread ooooo, he is hungry for "pomo" and we have enough mallah cows there in Nigeria.

tpia@:


how about waiting in the snow.

Now, i will take the summer heat over the snow...any effing day.....i hate the cold with a passion.

PLease can the moderators....hide the "pomo" that is being advertised on this page!!!!!!!!

manny4life:

Well, I still need a car to drive around na, buses/trains have their advantage and disadvantage. Advantage for going to work and relaxing/sleeping on your way home, disadvantage, can be a lil nasty. With more than 300,000 who travel to DC every morning on trains alone, and returning back home at evening, in the summer heat and pack up like sardines, go figure...

Why is everyone moving to TX? Me sef, I'm planning on moving to Houston come next year if these fuc/kerz increase my rent one more time...Although I moving because I want to explore the business part/interaction of TX.

i want to move, because of the fun, i hear they always have. Philly is boring....

coogar:

did you just drop on this planet? nigeria use phones to judge success.
a fucking mobile phone!!!

lol... BB-porsche, tightest babe (soyoyo) with Brazillian wweave, BMW, mercedes and Range Rover (even if they borrowed it)...you will hear "bobo yen jeshu gan!!!!!" " alaye baba!!!! kasa!!!" mo beri fun e egbon mi.....