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Angel55555:
Technically you should be thanking your grandparents too, you got a chunk load of their genes also.

Yea I am thanking everybody including my ancestors because they get sense well in choosing a partner

squash47:
Self confidence is bae... Even if u don't have money, just have self confidence. Most women u think won't like u at first will fall for u once they see u have a lot confidence. Also, try and spice up d confidence with smartness. Women also love smart men.

Not all the time o, if you are ugly as fvck and have all the confidence in the world, your spec like the girls you really want (beautiful and sexy) will not like you o.
I have one guy in my street, confident and all and can talk to any girl, girls like the confidence but they can't date him because he is not attractive and also broke.
So if you want a girl and you dont have the looks, just have money and you are good to go.

Sorry that's the way life is, the same goes for ugly girls that men put down.
I am so happy that my parents gave me this beautiful Genes, life no easy if you are not attractive as the standard set by society.
Make money and you will find love

Children having unprotected sex what do you expect.
She is a medical student and can't take birth control pill or use a fvcking condom.
I wonder why young girls keep risking their lives by doing abortion for relationship that you both know you are not ready for marriage yet.
End of the day the lady will do like 3 abortions and if the relationship ends which will most likely happen, she will be shouting I sacrifice so much for you.
Ladies always learn protect yourself.

Let people do what makes them happy, some are happy single while some are happy married.
Some married women are facing so much pain in their marriage while some single ladies are facing depression due to been single.
At the end of the day happiness is all that matters, let's stop with all this married vs single competition.
Sometimes I feel it's because of money and security that's why some women enter into marriage because looking at nollywood and some rich women in Nigeria, the ones that are not married is very many and most of them are so very happy with their lives, just have children and flex their lives

Nefort:
I have never had the opportunity of dating or meeting anyone I love. In fact I find it really hard meeting someone who is my spec. I have only being in one relationship and I must confess I didn't really love her. I was just tired of being single and searching and decided to manage anything I could find. I just wanted to find out there are those in a similar situation with me.

I see from your previous thread that you dont go iyt often, so this is one of the reasons you haven't met the love of your life yet.
Dont worry you will met someone very soon and for your spec what type of woman do you want??

generalwo:
If she was your child will you abandon her? Advise her dad to employ a maid to assist with taking care of the child.... Marriage is for better for worse..... You leaving him because of this defies everything a good marriage stands for.... He messed up not telling you about the child in the first place but i advise you forgive him..... Children are blessings.... No matter the disability or conditions they are in..... I didn't say it's easy but think twice before you leave..... Don't love for the good times only..... Unless you already have someone you're seeing and then you're using this as an excuse to japa.... Let me ask... What if it's your husband that had an accident and finds himself in such a condition... That's how u will leave him and go abi..... If na man dey do this one now... Them go begin shout men are scum follow everywhere... It is well Sha..... I have always said it that this generation knows nothing about true love... They love only for the good times... When the going gets tough..... They change without thinking twice

So everything they have been writing since you haven't seen it, the husband isn't financially buoyant, he has a 15k job and his side hustle isn't working.
His family members ie Mother and sister refuse to come and help, everything falls on the wife to help out 24/7 when she herself is 7 months pregnant.
This isn't easy for anyone so if she wants to leave for her mental and physical health, she has a right to

Blessedmercy8:
This is what happens when you put the cart before the horse. When you ought to do your findings about who you're getting married to, you were busy consumating sex, getting yourself pregnant and rushing into marriage without proper background checks. Now you want to opt out just like that.

you think marriage is child's play? Or something you can just throw in the trash when the odds are against you? Think again cos this right here is the real marriage. So you have to accept and deal with it.

Oh... You want the man but you don't want his child?
What if it was you who gave birth to the child? Forget about how the mother is not willing to take her therefore you can't keep her excuse you're giving. The father didn't marry her but you. Maybe if he did, she won't abandon the child, so you who won the man should accept his totality.

Do you know what the one you're carrying will turn out to be?

Majority of you marry these days for the benefits. If nothing is in it for you, then you leave. You can't sacrifice and if they ask you now, you'll say you love the man. Mtcheeeeeewwwww..

The man lied to her and what is it with your statement "you won the man" like the man is kind of a prize.
Life is not that complicated, can you take care of a special needs child every day without rest, we are talking about your life, day in day out, you basically spend all your days taking care of the child, forget about working or starting a business, forget about your own health.
You think it's easy, she is a young lady, let her live her life not to be tied down in this stage of her life where she could be building something for herself.
The husband should take responsibility since it's his child, he should try harder to provide proper care and not expecting his wife to sacrifice her life because she is the "wife" and should just take it

You have an aura surrounding you, the days you feel good, your aura shines brightly and attract everyone around you but the days you probably have negative thoughts even if you dress fancy, it's diminish the Aura you have with you and nobody notices you.

Ok we hear, keep searching

You did good but be careful next time make you no enter wahala and for the woman, some woman are so soft and low self esteem.
That's why some idiotic boys here feel marriage is a blessing to women and trying manipulate women into thinking if they dont rush and get married, their life wont be complete, when some girls read comments or things like that they feel they have to get married to any rubbish that comes their way thinking their time will be over soon.
If you look at the world today, we care less than we do decades ago, many people are so heartless that's why crime are on the rise, rituals killing are so rampant, brothers killing brothers because of properties, men and women killing their spouses up and down.
So this time if you want to enter into a relationship with anybody, shine your eye well because many people have so many emotional and mental issues and dont let people force you into a marriage that will kill you

Nyascobar1414:
I will kindly tell my mom to teach her home manners cos maybe she doesn't know she's lucky to have a man as a husband

broke ass dude feeling like a trophy, keep living in your fantasy dear, you are too too simple minded for the real world

uthlaw:
what if he tell his mother nothing!

Then I would have known the kind of husband I got married to, I am sure he wont like it if my Dad disrespected him, it's just left for me to start arranging myself in the future because this marriage might not last.
A man that truly cares about his wife will tell him mother and I am not saying he should start shouting or disrespecting his mom, just try to reason with her not to slap his wife again

Won't say anything, I know how to control my temper, i will walk away, my husband will be the one to tell his mother not to try that again.

okoroemeka:
why inviting Jesus in a case of clear paranoia,he or she should see a psychiatrist immediately,prayers don't solve everything

This is a case of depression and feeling you aren't good enough and feeling of worthlessness.
The OP will get better, it's just a matter of time

Vix805:
The voice chatter in my head,
chattering for attention

*not good enough you are better off dead"
"You are so far from perfection" .

I just want silence.
I just want peace
I want to have no worries
I want to sleep with ease

Failure, shame,
ugly , a waste of space.

I want to scream, holding my head
with all my breath ,till my voice is hoarse .

I'm doing my best , I'm Trying for real.
The voices don't care
I will have no rest.

I use to feel that way years ago, just know one thing life goes on, no matter what you are facing today wont last forever.
Take it as a challenge and keep going, dont give up

Number 2

Weirdo

Rayban25:
Yes...its for both messages and read WhatsApp status

OMG wow, I really need to learn new things.
Thanks

Tjesctacy:
Most people who do it are troubled. Not everyone, please note that. Why hide ur read settings if you are not up to something sinister. Why do you want to view my status in secret? What's ur motive, what do you plan to achieve? Why are you hiding, when i am opened to you?

The FVCK, why am I just finding out today, so someone can view my WhatsApp status without me knowing, I only thought when you disable the read button or something, it's for only people not knowing you you have read their messages.
Wow this is new to me and very cunning

lovediehatelive:
So, we had a little quarrel some weeks back, not up to a month and stop talking to each other.


We stay in the same area, but not too close. so seeing her all the time is difficult.


Then last night, i went to an eatery with a shawarma joint and placed my order while waiting.


Lo and behold, i felt someone touch me from the back and it was her! She said I should buy for her too, told her I am short of cash. She now went to my far left still on the counter, and I don't know what she wants to buy.

Still waiting, I looked towards her direction and was shocked! She was murmuring her number to the guy beside her. I felt disrespected. When I got my shawarma, I quietly left without looking at her direction.


Why would she do that? I mean. why would she give her number to a guy in my presence? That is disrespectful. We didn't break up na

Wahala, why will you guys not talk to each other for weeks because of quarrel, 2 of una no matured at all.
When you have problems, you talk it out and find solutions not keeping malice like a 7 years old.
Anyway both of you are just playing with each other mind, goodluck

yemibask:
You seem to a good teacher. As strike still dey, you fit dey take me on private lessons?

How much are you willing to pay, my time is very important to me

Itohanmiwa:
Yes she listens to her parents. Thank you very much for taking time out toshare an advise. It was gratefully received and I truly appreciate.

You look like someone that is scared of online bashing lol.
Dont give a fvck what online trolls says, they are pathetic in their own lives.
And to your question, just advice her, ask her what her dream is, if it's to go to school or learn a skill and remember achieving one's dream will also need money so if you can, help her financially.
Wishing the best in your relationship

Jaika:
I'm genuinely curious.
What's the function of the share option on Nairaland?

People that follows you will see the post and also the poster will know you like his/her post because your moniker will show unlike if you just "LIKED" the post where your moniker wont show

First thing first your friend doesn't love that her boyfriend, there is no way you will love someone and still cheat on him.
She probably liked the boyfriend because he is young and already planned a future with him, maybe he has potential and looks good to be with but deep love is something she doesn't feel for the guy.
Your friend obviously like money and it's not a bad thing but she can't eat her cake and have it, this is her time to choose, if she want money more than her boyfriend then she should go for it but if she wants her boyfriend more than money then she should break up with the sugar daddy.
But looking at this scenario I feel she is Fvcked because even if she choose the boyfriend, the sugar daddy will surely tell the boyfriend about their affair.

Kobicove:
I have noticed 5hat a significant proportion of those who turn off read receipt on WhatsApp are chronic debtors!

This is funny

fashionale:
I know a friend who's quite rich and calm... So people often disturb him online for one favour or the other, so he disables the read receipt. I did mine because of my ex, once she texted you and knowing my data is always on, she expected me to reply instantly, even when I'm not disposed or feel like chatting with her. And sometimes she complained I would enter online without chatting her up. Menh I'm the kind of man that believes in privacy and that we are dating or married doesn't mean we should be chatting every now or then online.
So these I believe made people to privatise their online view from others... If it gives you sanity doing it, do it and don't give a "F" about what people say.

It will make sense to a phlegmatic or melancholy person but not to a sanguine or choleric person.

I find it fascinating as you use phlegmatic, Sanguine people instead of using the basic introvert or extrovert people

Fireboy02:
I guess u are a female.
U can share ur thoughts about it

I have ready shared my thoughts on it in my next comment

Welcome to the club my brother.
It's only get stronger if you develop it

It's a 2 way street, nobody is perfect.
Men also hurt women like crazy, I have a relative that dated a guy who was so broke she was the one feeding him for years, she aborted 3 pregnancies for him because he wasn't ready, she lend him a huge sum of money to get a job, only for him to get the job and told her face blank, that he doesn't love her and was in love with a certain girl in his street.
This dude wasted years of my relative life and put her through shit only for him to become somebody and she is no longer a standard to him, las las he got married to that posh girl that he said he was in love in his street, this posh girl that didn't look at her when he was broke.
My relative was broken for years.
So that's how life is, no gender have a monopoly on wickedness, both men and women hurt each other, let's just pray we met the good ones

Fireboy02:
Things dey happen shaa
Pls share ur thoughts

The neighbour want to have sex with her and showing her what he got probably very big and very confident about it and simply asking your friend or GF "if she is game"
He is just showing his card and letting your friend decide.
And on another note the dude is a fucking pervert and your friend should stay away from him

Realtalk20:
Your topic didn't sound like that at all.
Seems you are the one fantasizing about seeing your neighbors manhood.!!

TAKE YOUR GAY NONSENSE OUT OF NAIRALAND

U guys are so aggressive here lol.
He created a topic, if you dont like it move on why trying to create something it's not