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James4358:
Hello my nairaland family. I'll make this post short & precise... I buried my dad around april this year. Am the only available child, as my elder brother relocated abroad in january & has refused to make contact. I took a loan to sponsor my bro's trip abroad, & also took another loan from my bank to partly sponsor the burial as all the family burden rested on my shoulders.. Last month, my dad appeared in a dream telling me to hurry up in paying a vow he made in church of abt 50k before he died. I was warming up to pay the vow this month's ending as am stil servicing the loans i got from my bank. He appeared last week to remind me but yesterday night's own came with severe flocking. Am stil feeling the pains from the cain he used at my back & joints.. How do i contain him before month end when i'll be bouyant to pay the vow. Am afraid he may return with more beatings,. & am jst 30yrs old, & wouldnt want to have any part of my body deformed as a result. Your suggestions wil be greatly appreciated!

Deliver yourself from this nonsense.

Tell him to go pay his vow himself, it's not your responsibility.

Since he can still flog people after dying, he should be able to work for his money.

Funniest thing I've seen in a long time.

igbowoman:
I dont even know why young ladies feel the need to confess up and down to men things they would never know.
Ladies please learn to keep your mouths shut.
Stop telling boyfriends how many men you have slept with before you met them.
Stop telling them when you err
Stop seeking forgiveness up and down
Stop being needy.
Please stop it!!

If you've committed abortions ,tell it to God,repent and do it no more.
You don't need to tell your life stories to boyfriends.
Your past is your past,keep it there.
Stop getting too emotional ,not good for you.
These things only hurt you in the end
Many of these men have procured countless abortions for people,raped women, raped little girls,slept with people's wives and grandmothers,some have slept with their fellow men, paid and slept with prostitutes,done yahoo, were cultists on campus, stolen and done all manner of evil in their past, they don't tell those stories to every girl they meet.
They ask God to forgive and turn a new leaf and move on.
But females will let their emotions take over and be answering questions no one asked them.

This is a timely advice
Ladies please stop tarnishing your image with your own mouths.
Those same boyfriends will be sharing your conversations all over the place even on nairaland.
Zip your mouths
Pass on this timely advice to your friends.

Loud it abeg

Crossroad1:
she already forgave him many years ago but said they can never be together again..
Love no dey to give again so going into the relationship will abusive and intimidation.
Pupsy go dey intimidated, Mumsy gay no shikini love to give again.. She said pupsy already died in her heart..
She sends him money sometimes naw but no love again

She has done the right thing.
Like the previous poster said, women should not be forced to become retirement homes.

OmovuduTheBeast:
Any youth who dwells on Tonto and Bobrisky issues is a very stupid and jobless idiot! If you have bills to pay, goals to attain and responsibilities to handle, you won't have time for the rubbish these people post on their media pages. I for once, have never visited any celebrity personal media page. Dem dey use am cook soup?

They're both using their public beef to gain attention and pay their bills.

The real loser is Risika who is beefing Shukura without gaining anything from it.

ityP:
Your beauty no reach man own; na wetin I dey talk since . I thank God every single day I'm a man

Just rest, and don't you ever try calling me ugly, because you're dead wrong.

TWLifestyle:
its funny how we don't see women Insisting on men bathing , dressing up, using roll on etc if anything Nigerian men are more unkempt than Nigerian women . Women are really managing you people but your entitlement will not let you see it . Is it the potbelly most of you carry around ? A lot of you think using deodorant and moisturiser is for women , many of you do not wash your boxers in weeks , is it your red eyes and bad breath from alcohol drinking ? Yet you will be talking like you are the most attractive things on the face of the earth
Women are really trying .

Go to guys hostels in universities, they stink.

Go to the average football viewing centers, you may end up vomiting, I would have loved watching football in those centers, but they stink of horrible sweat. I simply stay home.

Bad breath? Don't let me start.

I am beyond shocked that these men will claim beauty. They should rest abeg.

ityP:
Lmao. I don't expect less from ugly bitches

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Una no reach.
Till I'm old, grey haired by the Grace of God, toothless, with my walking stick.

Una no go ever reach.

You see, God gave me this beauty.

Una no go ever reach.

And the funny part.

I have promised myself that I will never post my picture on this Nairaland.

I repeat, you, yes you Mr bully, una no go ever reach.

Mercychen:
Can you imagine? That they are more beautiful than women... Insult upon injury.

It's women's fault, mothers, sister's, cousins, girlfriends and wives.

When men are busy chestbeating up and down, women kept quiet, because of what they hope to gain, now the men don't know where to stop!!!!

ityP:
Una dey very funny o. Which faults for man una dey cover? Abi, na una no get faults wey man dey cover? I blame the men who take y'all too serious. My wife no fit come dey make this kind mouth for where I dey sha. Una fine too much, na im make Una dey patronise cosmetic stores? Una fine too much, Una still dey patronise plastic and cosmetic surgeons? Like I said, y'all rate yourselves too much

Oga Caveman, please go and face your wife and keep your venom away from me.

Gobdddd:
Time without number.
She doesn't even know what she desires or likes about sex.

If found out that there's pre marital sex, my Church will cancel the marriage and make it look very dishonorable.
So,I can't risk that.

From the first day, she was afraid of it.

Never showed any interest afterwards, despite spending our honeymoon at Obudu cattle ranch.

Our last babe is 2. We have closed childbearing.

We are supposed to be catching fun.

This woman spent her body 4 times to give you those kids,

During pregnancy, a woman's body goes through some major upheaval.

She is still taking care of your household, running around to keep things smooth, yet you're asking for bedmatics.

It will take her nothing less than 5 years to get her body back!

Learn patience, it's time for you to prove worthy of the commitment she has given you.

Let your kids spend a lot of time on holidays with grandma, uncle's and aunts while you take that time to relax with her, things will get better definitely.

Mercychen:
That's what they call "see finish" .

Hold a sec, ... Does the woman not also see the man in the mornings with his stinking breath too? Yet she doesn't compare him even though they look uglier than women when they just wake up with their bloodshot eyes like.... amugbo .

Daddy, tell them.




Eh! If I hear??

No matter what, a man that has taken his bath for the day cannot stand a woman who just woke up. Talk more, a man that just woke up.

If you men dare, let's do a men vs women early momoh pics challenge and see who wins. If phone screens will not begin to shatter here now now with the men's pics hahahahaaaa...

Look, what you men don't know is that, we are the ones covering you.

Women have been protecting and covering men's faults since time immemorial.

But, that foolishness has been biting women in the rear for a long time.

Imagine doing the same thing over and again hoping for different results.

Now they are thinking they are more beautiful than women, audacious much?

Women should get sense naw.

FanOfMyself:
I'm not married yet but I know that I will be faithful to my wife.

That has nothing to do with me

FanOfMyself:
Ah ah Mary, there are still some loyal men out there oo. Maybe you haven't met one them yet.

You didn't understand my response.

If you're not married, you can't be called faithful.

pocohantas:
I believe the title is figurative (not literal), but I don’t expect sexist people like you to see that. Everything is a dick measuring contest to your kind. Any small thing, you start having palpitations, like say person dey drag prick with una.

Funny enough, it is only a category of men you see in this unending show of masculinity. The real alphas are busy with their business.

Savage

FanOfMyself:
Yeah a faithful husband like me.

Take your lies to the next girl abeg.

Besides, you can only call yourself faithful if you've done it, not because you plan to be faithful.

Ochason:
What have I done to deserve this kind of betrayal....
I really feel so depressed cos of the betrayal that I have been through. So, I got married in 2018. My husband is a medical personnel in the US. When we got married, we started to work on my papers and it was not forth coming. So, I got a tourist visa to go and join him for a year while still working on permanent papers.
My husband is a very loving man and I bless God for him. Through out the first year of our marriage, we tried to get pregnant all through but nothing happened. I had to come back to home after my one year ended to apply again. while I was here, the pandemic and lock down happened. So, I could not go back to my husband for almost a year.We spoke everyday during the pandemic. Always telling each other that we miss each other. So after the lock down, I have been trying to get back to my husband. I have compiled all my papers and waiting for my husband to send me the necessary documents so I can include them in the application.
Since them, my husband has been giving me one excuse or the other for why he has not sent the documents. He said he has been busy, bla bla. I know his job keeps him busy yes but this his behavior is strange. I just began to get worried that he is not making this a priority. Sometimes, I will even call him and he will not answer.
I became worried and called his elder sister in US. She then told me she will call me back. Last month, she fixed a zoom meeting with me and my husband and it was in that meeting that my husband told me that he has something to confess to me. His voice was shaking. He knelt down and told me he has done something bad and wants me to forgive him.
He said he slept with a coworker during the lockdown and the lady is pregnant. That the lady told him that she was going to remove the pregnancy but he told her no because he has been looking for a baby since we got married. The lady said the only way she will keep the baby is if he will marry her, that she will not have a baby outside wedlock.That he told her he is already married but the lady said that is the only way she will keep the baby. So, that is why he has been avoiding bringing me back to the US. That he loves me and he does not want to let me go but he just wants the woman to have the baby and maybe later they can divorce when the baby is born and then I can come back to join him. I thought he and his sister were pulling my legs cos I just left the meeting and went to cry my eyes out. After several days of calling and me rejecting his call, my husband and I spoke and he still kept begging me. He swears that he will divorce the woman after she gives birth. That he just wants to make sure she keeps his child.
This whole thing makes me want to just end my marriage but I love my husband so much. He now calls me everyday, asking for forgiveness and I want to just try and see his reasoning but his reasoning is so selfish. Just because I have not had a baby in just three years of marriage. Just because I was not around during a pandemic…he has s8x with another woman and has a baby and marries her and he wants me to forgive him?
what kind of wickedness is this? Do I deserve this? My family is divided about this. Some members of my family want me to call it quits while some, want me to remain after all, he is still my husband. My husband wants to come back to Nigeria this summer to beg and make up but I don’t know id I want to see him. I don’t think the pain I feel will ever go away.
I loved and trusted this man. I don’t trust him anymore. I cannot even talk to him even though I love him so dearly. My heart has been shattered in pieces. Of what use is being married? Just to wait that he eventually divorces his US wife maybe in another 2 or 3 years? I really am heartbroken. If you were in my shoes, what will you do? Will you forgive and wait for such a man to divorce the other woman or would you move on? Please advise.

Madam, since the start of your marriage, you have been played.
Let me tell you why.

When a guy is traveling abroad, his family tries to get him married, some families don't want foreign wives, hence, you.

Lots of men have learnt their lessons from the trend of Nigerian wives showing their husbands pepper in 'the abroad', so they do everything possible to keep their women in Nigeria. Hence, your papers will not be made possible.

You were supposed to be breeding, baby, but as fate would have it, it didn't happen, so, they feel that you are not helping their cause.

Your husband and his family are not on your side.

Make the decision that works best for you, in my opinion though, you should drop him like he deserves and start over, look at your own plans and make it happen for you. Forget that man, he doesn't love you.

P. S. I know it's hard, but never harbor love in your heart for someone who played you.

FanOfMyself:
Just look at how selfish women can be. Sarah gave Haggai to father Abraham because she was getting old and couldn't bore him a son. That's how a respectful and selfless woman should be.
Sorry I am just trolling.

Mama Sarah gave Daddy Abraham the maid after she has enjoyed more than 50 years of marital bliss with no baby to disturb her, and no rival or co-wife for that matter.

She's the winner in this case. Can you imagine how many Nigerian women would envy this kind of blessing.

A faithful husband for 50 years!!!!!!!

emmanuel1277:
Siant Mary
Supporting Abortion

Chai
How do you feel supporting the abortion
So if the guy didn't have the money then the kids can be killed
Or heck if IG was a case of rape by the bush path then the resulting pregnancy can just be terminated

Even if the guy may be a fool
Abortion na better thing ?

Make una fear God small
Small Abeg

I don't remember anywhere in my posts on this Nairaland where I directed anyone to terminate their pregnancy.

It's not my fault you have comprehension problems.

Finally, please get lost.

Veeeery long story, but I read it all.
The only good thing is that she is getting sense little by little.

bobowaja:
Avoid marriage then.
It is simple. Men are scum, avoid the scum.

You got me wrong, Mr.
Men are God's creation, Women are God's creation.
All things and all people belong to God and derive their existence and identity from him.

But woe to the woman who puts her faith in man, derives her joy and identity from the institution of marriage and forgets her Maker. Her journey is that of tears and pain.

purples25:
What is the advantage of women in all this 'men are free, women should not try it and accept what they see, and if there's any fault, women are the cause'. Please what security does this your mentality leave for women?

The earlier you stop begging for your natural freedoms from the male gender and become who God has made you to be unapologetically, the better for you.

You don't need to get security from a man whose breath is in his nostrils (and it can be taken away anytime), but you need to find your identity in your Maker.
Peace.

purples25:
Men will feed you rubbish and you're not allowed to protest. If you dare slip and cry out for once, if you disrespect them for once, you're done. You're going to be condemned and kicked out of the door. It's like you're not expected to be a human being. The way they behave, it's like they don't see the pain that their actions cause. The woman should just be cool with it all the time. That is the condition for keeping the man.

If her life is destroyed as a result of just accepting what the man does and wants from her, she is still the scapegoat. She is still the cause.

Men have low tolerance and love themselves. But they expect women to take a lot of what they cannot bear.

If Annie was the one with different kids from different men, I doubt that people would even let 2baba marry her, let alone endure for years like she has. This conversation wouldn't exist. Guys would be clamouring for him to leave her.

Welcome to Nigeria

Lies, they had a tiff online, but not about the guy.

xaggar:
Micheal's real son.

Brandon Howard check him out.

I had to check it out myself.
Even if the purported dna test were fake, there's no denying that voice I heard in the video he posted.
How a true son will be made to eat from the streets when imposters are living large in the palace make me upset about the many injustices going on in this world.
So sad.

That voice is MJ's. Undeniable. Period.

Misandry. Plain misandry.

So much hatred and intolerance for an unborn child.
Everyone deserves a chance to live as much as we can give.

What we need is more love.

I'm shocked beyond words

hannah03:
she can't because of us. She hopes maybe one day one of us will change our condition.

So she's alive

hannah03:
At this point am dying in silence. My dad is a chronic womaniser and he's addicted to alcohol. He has no plan for us, life is very difficult for us because at younger age we have to find our own food due to that I was abused severally. I have lost the chance of going to school because of no one to sponsor.
I can be in silence anymore we are starving all my dad care is his alcohol smoke and women.
Am hurt badly I wish someone could know exactly what am facing and reach out to us.
I can't go to work since last week am sick and very weak, imagine being sick and no medicine no food God why was I born?
My condition especially being a girl everyone that agree to help want my body in return. Am praying for this sickness to take my life let me rest. This what am facing I wish the world could stand with me in for a minute.

Where is your Mom?

omoadeleye:
Oyo state is the pacesetter

And she is Oyolola, funny isn't it?

Toks2008:
If my wife commits adultery and she is repentant AND I LOVE HER WHY NOT?

And I remember telling you this lady that you must never ever compare a man and woman when it comes to matters such as this.

A man can marry as many wives as he likes, there Is no sin in it so if a man can marry as many as he wants then tell me if it is not madness that a lady will now leave her husband cos he wants to be with another lady?

Please I beg you, stop asking this shallow question again

Misogyny
Megalomania
Conceit
Myopia.

mainman7:
Jude Okoye!!! I know you are suprised that we know that's you hiding under that Monika! I was not too suprised last year when I discovered that many Celebs and even Politicians are right here on Nairaland.

Jude, all I can tell you now is that hot and ferocious Judgement of the CREATOR of Humanity is about to locate you for being so satanically Tribalistic and for all the emotional excruciating Trauma that you put an innocent kind Soul like Lola through for years! Especially for the fact that you were so demonically inconsiderate of the fact that she solely kindly selflessly financed all your initial efforts at breaking forth in Music, she pulled your whole family and generation out of chronic Poverty years ago when Peter newly brought her, without her knowing that your evil wish was for Peter to use her and dump her like a bad habit. Now that Satanic wish is backfiring on you tribalic Satanic Igbos Sad Souls! Not suprised that you folks were so quick to start biting and chewing Lola's hand that fed you lots and magnanimously pulled you out of Poverty.

Subconscious satanic Envy of unfathomable inborn Yoruba Greatness Ability is what is making the Igbos to run mad unconsciously. It was years ago I later discovered that past Generations of Igbos bad-mouth Yorubas and try so had to make other tribes to hate Yorubas because every Glory and Greatness they have ever wished for, Yorubas have achieved effortlessly! Let all Igbos accept that stack naked Truth that Yorubas are eternally mentally, academically and Spiritually Superior to them, then Southern Nigeria shall Unite and become Great.

Have you asked yourselves why Igbos hate Yorubas so much that a whole Tribe satanically heartlessly ganged us against a kind-hearted Soul like Lola?! Today you get the Answer here! Every groundbreaking thing that Igbos could dream of achieving has already been achieved by Yorubas! All International Thrones that Igbos hope to sit on has Greatest Black African is already being Occupied by a Yoruba!

*Years ago, many Igbo guys created Online forums in competition with Nairaland, today all of their forums are dead with Yoruba's OluwaSeun Osewa's Forum being the Greatest African Online Forums for years till date. Yet senseless Igbos still come on it to try to spread hate and defamation against Great Yoruba Tribe.

*All 3 the Greatest Strongest Fighters winning the World Champion Belts and Thrones in the World are Yorubas, a Throne that Igbos have been dying to have for years. Anthony Oluwafemi, Israel Adesanya, etc.

*Igbos claim to know Business that all other Tribes in Africa, yet no single Igbo is among the 5 Richest Men or Women in Nigeria let alone Africa. In fact the Richest Woman in Africa is a Yoruba woman named Mrs Alakija. Dangote was only able to use FG nepotism ojoro and wuru monopoly to snatch the Richest Nigerian man spot from the Great Harry Akande the Yoruba International Business Magnate. Out of the 3 Major Network Carrier that Nigeria has Yorubas started 2. Globacom still owned by the Yoruba Billionaire and Airtel(formerly Econet) the Yoruba Billionaire that founded it still has a large chunk of Shares in it till date. Igbos tried to start one but failed miserably.

*GOD Created Yorubas as Special Beings, the Truth is Igbos can never never achive a quarter of what Yorubas have achieved and still achieving. Years ago, Igbos started penticostal Churches when they saw Yorubas starting penticostal Churches. All the Greatest 5 International Churches from Africa are from Yoruba Men. The great Bishop Oyedepo is the current Richest Black Pastor in the World, far richer than TD Jakes.

*For senseless Igbos that may say the Yoruba Man succeeded because he preached Prosperity, The Best, Greatest and most International truly Holiness Church started in Nigeria by a humble Yoruba Man known as Pastor W.F. Kumuyi, Heaven-focused Deeper Life Church has Branches even in China, I watch some of the Chinese Church Video recently. YAHWEH ALMIGHTY Created Yorubas as very Special Souls, Igbos should recognize and know this to know permanent Peace.

*Even when it comes to the Underworld, Igbos discovered that they are no match for Yorubas. Centuries ago Igbos started Arochuckuw Occult Confratanity and some other Igbo Occult Groups when Yorubas started Ogboni started. Today, Arochuckuwu is literarily a dead and unknown cult practiced by few Igbo Natives, while Ogboni has become and worldwide International Confratanity with so many Caucasian and Asian Members.

*Intelligence and Brain wise, Yorubas are far far eternally Trillions of Killometers ahead of Igbos. Academically, all the Universities in America or almost have Yorubas not just as Lectures but as Dean of Faculties. This is a verifiable Truth.

*Musically till date, Yorubas dominate African Music that breakforth and dominate International Music terrain Worldwideright from the days of King Sunny Ade when Igbos Oliver De qouke and co tried to equal him international but failed miserably.

*I can go on and on on the Endless Lists but let me stop here for space constraints.

Igbos are not normal rational human beings, they only respect any people that mercilessly slaughter them and look down on anyone that accommodate or show love to them. They are just not normal at all! Northerners mercilessly slaughtered you Igbos like Chickens, you moved in droves into Yoruba Land and we accepted you as fellow Southern brothers with open hands and care, how are you paying us back?! By demonically ferociously backstabbing, defaming, lying and telling every other Tribes out there that Yorubas are wicked, dirty, lazy, etc. Just because we freely allow you to do Business and you freely rake in Yoruba monies to later buy lands and build houses in our domains, you soon started BOASTING that you are more wiser than Yorubas! Can you see how senseless you Igbos are?! Someone say if you see a Snake and see an Igbo, quickly kill the Igbo because Igbos are more satanic, wicked and dangerous than snakes. Since you only respect those that wantonly kill you mercilessly and we deserve our due Respect, time is fast approaching that we too shall treat you like the Northerners treat you.
Next time you see any Yoruba, duff your hat, kowtow and Bow!

What's your favorite drink?

angelfallz:
Lol. And who said, it is only one partner that should give themselves?

The Bible, have you read it today?

Look at them, challenging the scriptures because it does not suit them.

I suggest you realign yourself and profess exactly what your Faith is, because a lot of people will suffer through the tribulation coming and still not measure up to make heaven.
Double tragedy.