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FatherCHRISTMAS:
It's not in a man's nature to hold on to a single woman... No matter how much he loves the wife, the urge to hunt younger women will always be there.

Some men fight the urge... The good news is, non has ever won



Shout out Born2winnx
Man is born to win

Just because you're losing the battle does not mean others are not winning.

Although misery loves company, and respectable men are a tiny minority, but they exist.

tragergeorge:
Abeg leave am for 99% shuo

Na see finish bros.

pocohantas:
Once again, it is not my job to tell you nice things. You have your mother and wife for that.

It's amusing to see these people panting after the same gender they despise so much.

tragergeorge:
And 97% of men are cheating

It's actually 99.99999% of men.

The secret of men is in the hands of women, while the secret of women is in the hands of men.

Continue insulting their smelly holes, they are coming for you.

Once you're an ex, you no longer exist. Bye

Greenishland:
You are actually here because you understand the meaning of divorce and probably contemplating it so I am not going to talk more about the definition of divorce. But for the purpose of this post, I will like you to know that divorce is simply the act of separating a married couple and it's usually done by the court of law.






After divorce, the couple are free to live their separate lives and even remarry if they feel like doing so. The children are often left in the custody of either of the couple, usually the woman and the man is made to pay alimony and child support.

Most times, it's the female partner that usually initiates divorce especially in America and some other developed countries. This is because divorce seems to favour women more than men financially.

The woman gets paid and also gets to keep the children and enjoys financial benefits.

From my little research, I have come to realise that the woman loses more after divorce than the man. Yes, the man loses only money and the children but believe me, he can gain these two back at any stage in his life.

The man can remarry, in fact he can even marry a very young and beautiful virgin better than his ex wife, give birth to new set of children, make more money and live happily ever after.



But for the woman, this is exactly what you should expect after a divorce and they are a disadvantage:

1. You become both Daddy and Mommy in the house. This means that you must not fall sick and you must not get tired.

2. Only you wakes up to prepare the children for school, take them to school and must bring them back daily. Apart from that, you will need to work hard to earn money for yours and their upkeep and you have to ensure that the house is clean and tidy and that food is always ready.

3. When you are sick, especially at night, nobody to take you to the hospital and no one to care for your children.

4. What of the days you oversleep? Your children will be late for school because there's no one to wake you up.

5. Now, how do you mentor your male children as a woman? Whether you believe it or not, boys raised by single mothers end up becoming bad boys and consequently, bad husbands in future.

6. You hope to find new love but the bad news is that it's not easy to find new love. The reason is that you might be too busy with the children and job and might not have time to look for a lover. You might end up finding some lovers who are in your life because they need something like money or shelter from you and not necessarily because they love you because only a few men would want to be in a relationship with a woman that has children from another marriage.

7. You will feel lonely most times and will secretly wish that you never left your husband.

8. What of the days that you need to change light bulbs, can you do that alone? Who will help to hold the ladder for you? How about mowing the lawns? Will you be financially capable of employing a labourer?

9. How about leaving your job because you are tired, can you do that as a single woman with kids to care for without wondering what would happen next?

10. Can you switch on the generator every night and switch it off before you sleep every night? (For those in Nigeria). Come on, God knows that only one person cannot cope with all these that's why he created marriage.

11. When you start getting old, you will be absolutely lonely because your children will have to move away to live on their own.

12. Most divorced women end up being frustrated. You wouldn't want to end up that way. Do you know that you will no longer be as attractive to men as you were before giving birth?



13. The young guys you admire for a relationship might mock the hell out of you, calling you an old cargo and will not even look at you no matter how hard you try to gain their attention. What more can be more humiliating?



14. The men you succeed in getting after divorce will only use and dump you and as you get older, they won't even want to use and dump you again. They will only look at you and move on, leaving you lonelier than ever.



15. You might be forced to be at the mercy of intimacy gadgets. This is frustrating as well.

16. Your children will feel frustrated growing up without their father and might end up becoming miscreants in the future.

I think it is better to avoid divorce by all means by respecting your husband and being submissive to him for the sake of your future and that of your children.

If your husband notices these two traits in you, he will change and become a better person and you will both live happily ever after. That's the secret of good marriages.

For husbands that cheat on their spouses. As a woman, do you know that it's not compulsory for you to get a divorce because your husband cheated on you? Do you know that you can actually forgive?

Do you know that you can remain in the marriage even if you cannot forgive?

Source: www.labari.net

This is what happens when you smoke Oshogbo weed before reading your Bible.

Quirekoon:
There is nothing in carbonated drinks.
Bill gates takes them everyday, and I doubt you are sharper than he is.

I think I prefer CR7 to Bill Gates on this.
Agua!!!!!

Casham:
If all men cheat, who do they cheat with? Oga change that stupid topic. And go tell the woman to better decide fast and take action. Never let this thing fester. She even seem like a lucky woman to me since her husband is admitting his mess-up and willing to apologize. Agidi pipo like us will deny the accusation with fire and thunder and still demand an apology from the two ladies.

You never jam FBI babe.
I don't confront based on suspicion, I will catch you red handed and bring witnesses.

I've grown past that though, ordinary men no dey move me again.

Isobug:
I don't think you are right on fratanal twins.
It's actually one sperm fertilizing two different eggs and not the other way round.
Identical twins is one egg(ovun) that split. In any case a man produces one type of sperm

You just murdered Biology.
One sperm can only fertilize one egg.
The zygote can now split.

In case of fraternal twins, two sperms fertilize two eggs.
Got it?

AmazonTopaz:
Yes that is why I blame some mothers for how their sons turned out to be.Any woman who is married to a good man doesn't know how lucky she is and she must never fail to thank her mother-in-law and other family members for how they shaped her husband's mindset ooo.

The man raised his hands to beat a woman but one woman felt the need to tell her to be his doormat,another one only saw fault in the fact that she talked back at him.Nawa ooo.

Some women are truly seeing trash in the name of marriage and wanting to keep it.Not all marriages are bad o but I will state an unpopular opinion many Nigerian marriages no matter how long it has lasted are not worth admiring or emulating when some of those women confide with the you the hell they had to put up with because they married badly trained entitled pricks behaving like babies and wanting to be called leaders of the home ehn you go weep for them.

It is well oo.Op should leave the marriage since the husband is tired she should also be tired too.

You are right, I have heard lots of stories about these types of badly trained men, but my opinion is that if you want to be respected in your marriage, find a man who respects you ab initio. Not that you will accept anything the man throws your way for the ring only to lose your patience after marriage.
God help us.

AmazonTopaz:
I don't understand you people oo.Why must it always fall on the woman why do you women like to absorb men of their own fair share of mistakes

If she is dealing with an ego maniac it should not be in her place to change it should be on the man.Every human has ego we should all curtail it had it been the man shouting at her or talking back you won't tell him to calm down and give her the respect she deserves.
If she is the breadwinner of the home the husband should adjust suck up his pride respect himself the advice should go to both parties and not one side alone.

There should be mutual understanding all these submission advice doesn't cut it at all nobody should be a doormat I can't be making money and you will think it is your right to also dictate to me as well on how to spend it.

You shouldn't have married him if you can't tolerate his egomania.

It's either you manage him, or you leave him.

Then raise your sons to be better.

This is the first time I'll see someone say the truth.

Both the egg and the sperm reduces in viability over time.

The emphasis had always been on eggs.

Flirtyjane:
To the married women mostly;

Did your husband change the bed or foam after marrying you?

If no, then why are you proudly calling it matrimonial bed?

Damn, you're wicked.

ChiefSosa:
Sir, are you still taking people to the US?

You just turned him into a travel agent.

Bola146:
Irresponsible and useless married woman does that, no matter how you are good to them, they will still cheat na curse or they think it's a pleasure . For a married woman to cheat, why not leave the Marriage and stop placing curses on your children

This your curse ehn, I hope it applies to children of cheating husbands too.

Imagine how many Nigerians are carrying curses on their heads because of their parents.

Wahala

Lostchild:
Before you read, please know that I came here to talk about myself. I am a person that is so badly wounded to the point where I feel that it is impossible for me to heal my wounded soul. Even if God did bring healing to my life, the scars will always be there.

If it is possible I would have died because of my good heart, kindness and love towards humanity. It is God that still says that my works of charity and help will not kill me. Every time I think of my past deeds and sacrifices towards humans, I only realize that I truly do not love myself at all.

For many years with no reward I made many sacrifices to many people that even some of the receivers do ask themself, what kind of person is this? And some of my good deeds, always backfire and works against me because I keep helping people I know and many of whom I dont know. Despite the many advesary I continue to keep my works of charity active and encourage myself to forgive and forget. I was convince that I must not allow my past hurt or betrayals to influence me against my vision. But I later realize that when you forgive and forget your history- then your history will repeat itself.

I experience many injustice without retaliation or bitterness. People take me for granted. They take advantage of me because of my selflessness, gentleness and kindness. I ended up making unworthy and wrong people a priority in my life and many of them are no longer in my life. (I let go of them)

My existence is acknowledge only when people need my help because I am always available to help them in any areas of their life. It is impossible for me to narrate the ingratitude and betrayals I received over the cause of many years. It got to a point that I asked myself, in what way am I doing it all wrong?

In 2019 I gave a very good and Godly help to a child-hood friend who later manipulate and turn my help upside down and my sacrificial help to him cost me so much suffering and nearly sent me to jail cell. It was even God that intervene. I sat on the floor and I wept bitterly. I said to myself, enough is enough.

In late 2020 I decide to live a new life and I set personal rules that will govern my new life and these rules have helped me to retain my sanity and peace. Although many people around me, especially women feel offended as I have become a person that is very difficult for one to penetrate easily.

These are my (sanity) and savin rules.

1) Good morning, good morning to everyone

2) I must mind my business and not involve myself over the affairs of anyone.

3) I must watch carefully and observe the character of everyone I meet. This will enable me to spot the judas around me and also relate with people without them violating me.

4) I must not give advice to anyone ( except work related issues. (Newly added)

5) I must watch out for myself always and not pay foolish attention to anyone around me. This gave out the feeling of (rejection) to the kinky ladies around me.

6) I must never give anyone I know important help without them earning it. And even if I do I must do it to a minimum level.

7) I must never help anyone that lives around me and I must not also ask help from anyone that lives around me.

I must help many strangers only. I must help a lot and lot of people from afar who are not close to me and I will never regret over them.

9) I must not be close friends with anyone that lives around me.

10) I must not talk too much; I must speak less, except on important issues.

11) I must acknowlege and respect the personal decision of others, even if their free will of choice is leading them to their early grave, I must stay clear.

12) I must make myself my first priority, this has made me to genuinely love myself and want to take good care of myself for he first time.

13) In a relationship, I must not pass much info about myself to my date or pending wife.

14) My YES is yes and my NO is no, but my NO can be change to YES with multiple pressure.

15) I must not be concern about the criticism of people about me, as the most important thing is what God is saying about me

What prompt me in writing this was my recent breaking of rule No (7). I got burnt instantly by violating this principle that is now governing my life. Right now I am so full of regret as I type this. I must make sure that, it never repeat itself again.

I remember a woman who said that, before you go into the life of people to help them, you should ask God in prayer to bind the demon in their life. I thought she was talking trash and believe that her words make no sense at all. From my bitter experience I know now that she was %100 right.

Saintmary. I have gone through so much that all the many years of my painful experience has changed me in many ways and I can never go back to being that over excessive kind and mr nice person I used to be.

I'm so sorry about your negative experiences.
I hope you find the healing you deserve and that henceforth, things will turn out better for you.
Regards.

Unfortunately, there is no update on the matter, but I think the man married the woman in question being a single mother hoping that she would bear him children as she is perceived to be fertile.

Unknown to him, there is something called secondary infertility where a woman could find it difficult to conceive after the first child.

His drunkenness shows that he is trying to cope with a problem, even though it's the wrong way.

Beating his wife up shows that he thinks she's the problem and he wants to send her away so he could have kids with another woman.

BaddieFreak, what's going on.

maxwelltony:
I posted on this section concerning my experience with my boyfriend, i really appreciate everyone that gave me advice on what next to do on how to handle the situation. Thanks to you all.
An adage says if lies goes for twenty years, one day the truth will be revealed, i thank God for revealing everything hidden.
At exactly 8am this morning, i receive a call from my bf asking me to come for a very important discussion, without wasting much time, i quickly set on the journey, on getting to their house i saw his elder brother and sister with his mum, maybe he saw my post or someone close to him, i dont really know, then he started his confession, he narrated how he inpregnated a lady while in 200level in school and that the lady had a baby boy for him and the boy is now 4years now, he has been going to the lady who reside in delta state with his baby, the worst part of the whole issue is that his parent are not even aware of the child, he never even for once mentioned that to me before...
typing.

So sorry miss, you should have blocked his number the first time he did it to you.
It's not too late though, clear his space so you can get some fresh air.

Btw, who is putting you under pressure to get married early?

You better focus on making your life a dream come true.
I have said my own.

CharisEleos:
Everything is now expensive and every trader and business man and woman is taking advantage of the inflation and doing their own wuru wuru. Are you sure they still fill it up like before?

I also noticed sane thing with airtime. The airtime I would normally use for days before now gets exausted within a few mins of recharge. So nothing is left out.

Again, its possible that the multiple burners are the cause since the gas is now flowing through many holes.

Naira's value has reduced. So, your airtime won't last long.

DashDolls:
Hello everyone. I brought this question here to get your views on this.

So this morning, I went to give a Health Talk to a group of Club Women and during the question and answer session, a lady wrote in a paper that she would like to ask me a question in private after the program.

After the Health Talk, I was about leaving when a lady in her early thirties approached me and said she was the one who wrote in the paper that she would love to speak to me in private.

She then went straight to her question. She was like...

"Should a lady tell a Fiancee who is planning to wed her next week Saturday that she had series of Abortions while in the Univerisity in which the last one she had lead to the REMOVAL OF HER WOMB.
Should she tell the fiancee that she has NO WOMB?"

I replied "YES now"

She then went further to say " But Why
The lady is now changed and remember OLD THINGS ARE PAST AND ALL THINGS ARE NOW NEW meaning all should be forgotten"

At that moment I told her I will be back to her on that.

Now what would you do if you were the lady?

Should ugly pasts remain in the pasts.

Ladies, can you tell your Fiancee that is planning to marry you that you committed abortion in your past and your WOMB WAS REMOVED so now you don't have a womb?

Men, can you tell the lady you plan to marry details of your Ugly pasts that can come hunting your marriage in the future

I say this becos I know of a man who hide his sexcapades with a lady in his past which led to the lady having multiple abortions that destroyed her womb.
He hide this from his Fiancee only to find out days to the wedding that the lady he had those sexcapades with was his Fiancee blood sister.
It didn't end well for the man..believe me.

What are your thoughts on this

I will be in the comment session

*Admin please move to front page*

You have a right to annulment of your marriage if you found out that your spouse lied to you about their fertility problems, thereby defrauding you and robbing you of the joy of parenthood.

Annulment means your marriage never happened and it's as good as tearing your marriage certificate and removing your records from the marriage registry.

If you have a good lawyer, you can claim for compensation on damages caused to you.

In view of the aforementioned, it is your right and duty as an intending spouse to know about your fertility and be open about your medical history.

Lostchild:
Mary
I am glad you did take your time to read and write me.

I will write more about my journeysjourney before I exit nairaland

I must say; May the Good Lord, bless you

Amen

Lostchild:
Mary.
The grace of God has been my safe haven. I know you strongly feel that my demise with women are the consequences of my previous actions. To be honest I have not offended anyone. I am the peaceful and loving type who respect the feeling of others. All my life I forgive and forget, but there is a reality that if you forget history, the history will repeat itself. I am not labelling women as bad base on my relationship experience, NO. I label women as more of bad base on my life experience in general. Although I have come to understand women a lot in many ways.

When it comes to my dating life; You have to still picture things from the spiritual too. Sometimes not every human on earth is permitted to do as they like base on God purpose for them. And many times the devils will bring the most evil man/woman into the life of a person just to destroy them, that is why celibacy is very good for me.

In this 21st century, dating/marriage is very dangerous. I just need to pray to Almighty God to guide me to find a woman with Godly charater who will not sink me before my time. I have had so much troubles in life because of wrong women, I just do not need more. I have never mistakenly or delibrately impregant any girl or done abortion in my life and will never partake in such evil act.

Mary. I did edit on the thread above, please check it to understand my point more

Hmmm, you got my attention here.

You see, I wish you the best.
I love the fact that you decided to go celibate, some sort of spiritual and physical cleansing. It's a worthy venture.

Who am I to judge you? I don't believe I have the right, forgive my hasty assumption.

Please do post about your journey here as it will help those who want to tow the same path.

I'm rooting for you.

Lostchild:
Wathin I want to repent for? Who I do wrong?

Have you dated before? If yes why did you to date someone in the past or present?

If you have hurt someone before, you will get hurt too.

How are you to know if you've hurt someone especially when you've dated before, God doesn't see things the way we do, only His mercy covers us, if not, it would have been worse.

If you believe in God, ask for mercy.

Lostchild:
Mary
The kind of bad women wey they come my way I no deserve am at all. I decided to celibate for a while because I saw that it was a spiritual magnet

You're not the one to determine what you deserve, it's God/Universe/Karma.
Repent of your previous wrongdoings, go celibate, then confess good things for yourself. All will be well.

Mikecold:
Why do women old quickly

Why do handsome men end up with ugly women


Fela is 50 but looks like he is hanging out with his grandma

A woman around 50 is a grandma.

Where is your sense?

Lostchild:
CountVersailles

Your brother's wife is a very selfish woman. I repeat; she is a very self centered person and I say to you to be very careful of that kind of woman.

A woman like that nothing good can come out from her to you. In fact she doesn't want anything good for you. She wanted you to go and live in one room, face me I slap you area before she can believe that your brother is not the one still paying your rent.

Please do not confront her. Continue to mind your business and secretely avoid her like a plague. I have seen woman separate childhood friends. I have seen woman separate brothers.

I, myself women has caused me too many troubles of life. Women has caused me to loss millions, upon millions of naira even up till this day I am still trying recover myself.

Even Adam accuse eve before God and said to God, the woman you brought to me gave me the fruit

Last week I heard two women conversing that women are very powerful and can destroy within the blink of an eye. They said anywhere there are women; the peace will ceased to exist.

In 2013, a young lady accused one american baseball player of rape and this young man was sentence to 5 years in prison. The young lady was compensated with more than $1 million dollars. After the man spent five years in prison, the truth came out at the end the young lady said, her accusation was the work of the devil.

I was so angry last night because one American young man, a super star was sentenced to 3 years in prison because one lady accused him of rape even though the young man is innocent. The woman did this, maybe she is looking for money or mabe she wants to end the sport career of this young man.

In different year of my troubles, I even encounter two different genuine prophet of God who told me to stay without a woman for a long time, if not they will kill me before my time. The more I stay alone, the more it become clearer to me why men should not marry early in life.

I even met a brother who was weeping that his Jehovah withness wife has turn all his children against him after 18 years of him, labouring to give them the best life. He wept and told me he wish he never got married.

・If Satan wants to destroy a man, a woman must be used
・Yes if God wants to bless a man, he can also use a woman

It was even a woman that accuse me that I wanted to kidnapped her children even though I was seeing her for the first time and dont even know the children she was talking about. It was God that save me from the angry mob.

Yes, It was even a woman the devils used to channel my younger brother to his early grave (RIP)

Over the years I have got the excessive feeling of deslike towards women even though I did love to fu:c'k them.

Yes I did like to constantly fu:c'k a woman to beget children.

Yes I did like to fu:c'k a woman to satisfy my hornyness

I deslike women yet I cannot be complete without a woman in my life because God did not create a man to be alone.

Yes, I so much deslike women but I need a woman to enjoy my money with me.

I deslike women yet I need the warm hug and soft touch of a good woman.

I deslike women but I miss the soft lips and kisses of a woman

I want a beautiful woman to tell me she love me even though I feel that their love is fake.

I want a woman but I just deslike their brains.

My bed will not keep me warm and all my pillows will not hug me back

The heart of a woman is the devils workshop

Dammn: I miss fu'cking a woman

You attract what you deserve

Magnoliaa:
The other person mentioned 'the last stage of Candy Crush' or something and you replied with 1,652 or something.

Candy Crush has more than that na. I think it's almost 10,000 oh.

I just replied with my own last level.

Any problem?

24brains:
so each man take responsibility for his kid while the woman keep bleeping around? Give a woman a chance and she will abuse it.

Is that not what men have been doing since the beginning of time? Sleeping around in the guise of polygamy while women clean up their mess.

No woman needs your permission to sleep with anyone.

P. S. You will never know what segxs feels like for a woman who knows what she's doing.