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GboyegaD:
People divorce for their own reason however, one thing I feel is responsible for divorce is the fact that many do not infers marriage because they were more about the wedding and getting married than understanding that marriage needs be worked on.

You're always making sense

Kobojunkie:
1. I am afraid you have been deceived by the doctrines and traditions of men.

There is nothing like a Christian marriage, and no your marriage are of no importance to the Kingdom of God, Neither are the children produced from such unions of importance. Your children are no different from those born to others in this world. That lie was fed you by men to deceive and delude you just as Jesus Christ warned you that they would.

Jesus Christ made it clear that marriages are of this world and not of His Kingdom, whether contracted by two Christians or not - Luke 20 vs 34 - 36.

2. Submission is a curse God Himself placed on wives for Eve's sin against God in the beginning. For men, the curse was that that would rule over their wives. And we know that no one who lives under a curse can enter the presence of God - Genesis 3 vs 16. So, when a man and woman close to live under that curse, they do so against God and are each no different from the unbelievers of this world.

3. Your Pastors and Mogs are the ones who probably told you many of the lies you are believe today. I suggest you take back the reigns from them, and seek God directly for yourself so He can teach you of Himself, just as He promised He would from even before Jesus Christ showed up - Jeremiah 31 vs 34

"Even before Jesus Christ showed up??"

The derisive way you dared to describe the Man who took away your sins shows how puffed up and ungrateful you are.

Obviously you have been seduced by the spirit of the antichrist.

Get thee behind me satan.

Kobojunkie:
There are no such things as Christian marriages - Luke 20 vs 34 - 36.

And submission of women to their husbands came by way of a curse.... Jesus Christ redeemed everyone who belongs to Him from the Curse.

For crying out loud,

Marriage is a very important institution through which God raises Godly children.
A Christian marriage is one contacted by two Christians, a man and a woman.

Submission can never be overemphasized, it's the key to a successful marriage.
But most people are getting it wrong because a woman is meant to submit only to her husband, and then both husband and wife are to submit to each other under God. If you can't practice this particular clause, it's going to be tough on both partners.

Now the issue of curse, there is no mention of curse in marriage except childbearing for women and hard toiling for men from which we have all been redeemed, please don't mix things up.

I also suggest you find a true Christian Pastor who will teach you these things and read your Bible prayerfully, with humility and reverence to God, and you will not be in the dark concerning the Truth. May God help you.

angelfallz:
What do you mean by "give yourself"?

If you can take the time to meditate prayerfully on what Christ has done by sacrificing Himself for all sinners, and becoming the mediator through whom all genuine and fake Christians hope to enter Paradise, then you'll understand what it means to give yourself.
You give yourself not only TO your partner, but primarily, you give yourself FOR your partner.

Good luck

1Sharon:
They claim to hear from the holy spirit and it's all fake.

Lots of fake pretenders out there

DenreleDave:
Leave emotions aside.. I am telling u what it is...


Divorce rate in Christians home and nation is far too much... Any small thing na divorce....

Is it bcox Christianity doesn't put women under strict subjection like Islam??

Subjection of women can never be the solution, go and see threads made by people from predominantly Muslim countries, and see the deep resentment expressed by their women for the concept of polygamy and infidelity. You'll see that they hate it, but they are expressing it the wrong way.

This is the thread
https://www.polygamy.com/articles/75131698/why-does-a-man-look-for-a-second-wife

I'll suggest you move your thread to religion section so you can get more contributors.
Since you're so adamant on getting answers, I'll oblige you.

Christian marriages are crashing because they are engaged in by people who profess Christianity by mouth alone, not in deed.
The Bible said the man should love his wife just as Christ loves the Church and gave Himself for it.
How many men can give themselves for a woman who has done them no favour?
The trick is to love first, then the woman will submit to you, but these crop of men expect women to take the place of Christ in their lives and give themselves to them, that is the wrong way.
If you desire to be the head of your woman, just like Christ is the head of the Church and the church is submitted to Christ and adores Him, give yourself.

DenreleDave:
Why are so called Christian marriages always ending in parting ways?
The church always talk ń preach about divorce than Muslim does, yet most divorces comes from Christian homes......

Dating now last more than marriage itself....

Who is getting it wrong? Where did it go wrong?

Why are Christians marriage always the most affected?

Look at Christian nations in North America ń Europe, divorce rate is far too much...


Guys I need your contributions..




Cc: lalasticlala seun mynd44

Why are you turning marriage and divorce, both universal matters, into a religious thing, what do you have to say about irreligious people who end their marriages?


Try not to type when you're upset.

MYHUBBY:
she come bracket am? a lot of them badmouth Yoruba here a lot



someone like me is here to tame that stupidity, whether she's defending or against, she should not mention Yoruba people anyhow. the thread is about Anita an Igbo woman not a Yoruba woman thread

I understand your feelings, but if you're familiar with previous threads about this family issue, you'd understand why she posted it.

By the way, the enemy of your enemy should be your friend.

MYHUBBY:
you're daft, what do you mean by Yoruba witch



you people will just be typing faster than your reasoning badmouthing a tribe because of individual differences



get sense poco or what's that your imbecility moniker is called

She meant to say people called Lola a witch.
Be calming down, she was only defending the woman.

seborrhic:
The dr and hospital that keeps a woman in labour deserves to be shut down.
Either she is lying,not saying the whole truth or was in a stage where to play safe they just decided to observe her in the hospital till she entered labour.

Those were bogus lies.
The period of birthing and hospitalisation could have traumatic for her but labor for 4 days?
Haba.

Avviala:
Op, the only reason you like Pere isn't because he is smart. Its because you are a condescending and insultive person who thinks highly of himself /herself.
You opened a thread to get opinions and its still you insulting the opinions of them and calling them dimwitted just because they refused to see Pere for the manipulative dumb Arrow that he is.

If he was intelligent like you said, he would subtlely knock over his opponent and not maliciously do it. He would know that Nigerians vote with emotions and would therefore find a way to gain Nigerians love and still knock his competitor out.
Ask Erica how it went last year. Her hate allowed Laycon to be handed the win so easily.

If he was also intelligent, he would find his strategy instead of knocking out someone's game. Ask what happened to Enkay. Truth is, he is the content of the show yet he is losing fans and making White money gain more fans. Nigerians love the mistreated who acts innocent. If he was intelligent, he should have read through Nigerians who are capable of keeping him in the house and up his game with them instead of making his so called competitor gain fans by trying so hard to kick him out.

I don't even like White money but I hate people who claim smart but don't act it.

Good point.
It takes a good strategy to counter a manipulative schemer.

Kriss216:
It's difficult to find good gbola. Believe me

Are you not a man?
How would you know?
Guys are always quick to UnCloth in front of girls, but can't show it to their friends.

I told you people earlier, your secrets will start coming out one by one.

Very simple naw.
In the nearest future, when the same son she will have expresses more love for her than that same man, he will start wailing.

People like to perpetuate cycles, but they expect to get different results, is that not foolishness?

AmazonTopaz:
Loud it sis.

And thank you

My pleasure

Youngpo413:
an overused pussi is worse.....

You'll learn when you're 60, till then, I have nothing to say to you.

AmazonTopaz:
I very well understood the thread and my guy not only reserved the nectar for me but everything complete.My guy could be my hubby,Partner or whatever I choose to call him that is my choice of words and be free to deduce what you may from it .
Same should apply to women so that wives will not meet their men's d's affected with every or suffering from every form of disease known to man that it cannot enter the woman's heaven or stand on it's the message should be all inclusive..
The fact that your maggot is spread in different kpekus you are damaged goods

You have given him the deserved responses. Lots of them don't know that men can also be damaged goods, they've been busy focusing on women.

1. Their private parts, will change in physical appearance because of overuse.
2. Their semen and sperm will reduce in viability over time as they grow older.
3. They will begin to experience erectile dysfunction, and the severity will be influenced by their misuse of their body.

The devil has really deceived a lot of men and the worst part is that the women they think they are saving marriage for are the ones that will bear the pains of their consequences.
Well done for standing up to bullying.

Youngpo413:
you are very correct....ladies really needs to close their legs till their wedding night...it's not a big deal.

All women are asking for is simply that you men should zip up.

The female's private part is acidic. Putting your stuff inside too much will darken the skin of your something.
Bursting too much will wrinkle and sag your sac over time.
There's always a difference between the private part of a man who disciplines himself and that of a man who indulges too much.

I said earlier in another thread that the secret of women is in the hands of men, and the secret of men is in the hands of women.

Stop insulting women, one day, which is now here, women will drop their discretion and expose your secrets to the public.
And nobody wants an overused product.

If any male wishes to be wise, be wise.

olola4:
This is a very good feature for Graphics Designers, you send client a complete work and after viewing it once, you can now talk on the pay while the client won’t be able to access it again until payment has been made.

Very good point

CalmElder:
My brother.
I beg u in the name of who you believe.
Even if a lady should eventually accept you the way you are now, she won't respect you. Before you think so, it's not a Nigerian girls thing, it's like that everywhere because as the head of the family, you are expected to provide leadership to the best of your ability while she assist by providing support.
Your children will be ashamed of you. They will have a low opinion of themselves because of a weak father figure (you), they will despise you and rebel against your authority.
Their mum and peers will influence them more than you.
I'm a 42 year old single guy, I'm more ashamed of my present financial level far, far more than of being single at this age.

I hope you're not the type that calls single ladies evening newspaper.

All the same, may you find what you need.

HORLADY:
I am back here again with the story of my life. As much as it's scary to seek advice from Nairaland, it's much more relieving to pour out ones heart to lessen the pain.
I am not that good in writing epistle so I will just drop the highlights
* I was born in June and heard my Mum died three months after my birth
* Had a tough "babyhood" nearly did not make first birthday due to negligence of members of extended family
* Dad took me to his station in the North just at a year old despite protest from people that he can't tend to me and I might die due to lack of care.
* Dad tried his best for the three of us until he married another wife 7yrs later.
*Life became so difficult but he still managed to send us to the best schools in town.
* Decided to join Navy after Secondary school as a Rating. It's not as if I know the difference between Ratings and Officers anyway.
*Tried NDA but no way. The politics and connections involved is way above my level.
* Went back to the Uni and bagged my B.Sc in Accounting & Finance despite being a Science student and Technical personnel in the Navy.
* Tried DSSC of the three arms of the force but still didn't go through.
* Started writing my professional exam (ICAN) and enrolled for my Master's at the same time.
* Decided to quit the Navy in search of greener pasture, personal growth and career fulfillment
* Quits the Navy and concentrated on my Exams and eventually qualified as a Chartered Accountant. Masters stills in view due to the University and COVID wahala
* Couldn't secure an job since then but managing on Pension sha
* Love life is a mess. Was jilted by GF after committing 16yrs of my life to the relationship.
* The next partner bore a child for me and I had to find out after 3yrs that I am not the boy's biological father.
* Hard to let go due to the strong bonding between me and the boy but still had to let go.
* Relocated to another city and living in a corner in a friend's place. Very difficult cos I was living in a three bed apartment before.
* Looking for Accounting job but none is forthcoming
* Trying to raise money to buy a vehicle for e-hailing cab services.
* A friend is advising I find my way out of the country to heal better and start afresh.

At this juncture, I am trying to become someone I am not. My confidence have been greatly impaired and I feel so inadequate on the street. I perceived everyone to be better than me and I am not measuring up in life. I am naturally a kind and polite individual but I have learnt that people like me suffers the most in the society. I currently shared the room with my host brother and I think he is trying to take advantage of my large heart. So I decided not to cook agin or I cook for myself only..

If you will be kind enough, kindly advice me on the way forward. I need help from whoever is kind enough to offer one. Thanks Nairaland family.

OMG OMG
Chartered accountant, B. Sc plus previous military experience.
Please dust your credentials, arrange them well and go to the jobs and vacancy section of this forum.
A good job is coming.
Put your hopes up and keep praying and believing positively.
I'm so excited on your behalf. Praying for you too.
Got some questions plus ideas for you too, no DM, just signal your interest here.

Stenvee:
Seems no one is ready to do this. Alright
Signing out!

It's too early for you to give up.
You can call on married women to share their experiences.

CsRockefeller:
Lol. Oya beautiful woman no vex.

Look around you, there are many women (beautiful) that married not to handsome men and they don't see it from the spectrum you do.

Some would even tell you that they are fortunate to be with their man, but because it's only beauty you possess, you think that's all that needs to build a home and make a great career.

It's an irony that a lady who has Saint and the name Mary as a monicker has a jaundiced view. Lol

I don't see why I need to explain myself to you, but, I'll bear with you for a bit.

Physical appeal goes a long way in social interactions.
Sure it's not a priority in marital choice, but it's important nonetheless.

I won't stoop low enough to respond to your snarky comment.

thorpido:
The whip used to beat the first wife is reserved for the new one.smh
FFK is narcissist.

I don't know about narcism but I can see that this man has a weakness for fair skinned ladies, and he will go to any tribe to get them.

Obviously he's not tribalistic, and that seems a good thing.

CsRockefeller:
Lol. It's 2021 and babies like you still have this mentality. What have you achieved with your beauty Cinderella?

Sit down there and be hating on a beautiful woman.
No one is asking you to understand how these things work. Just dey your dey abeg.

She's too beautiful for him.

Blessed4sure:
Dear Nairalanders,

This right here is an example of "the wisdom of the world" that the bible calls utter foolishness in the sight of God.

The natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit, for they are foolishness unto him.

May God open your sight and grant you true enlightenment.

Thanks for writing this, these people are trying to score cheap points against the Word of God.
They are incoherent, they contradict themselves, they have no continuity of thought, no deep thinking.

Only one person speaking with both sides of his mouth, whereas several writers of the Bible all speaking with nearly 100% consistency, and they want to compare themselves with God.

I'm not too worried though, everything happening now has been foretold.
Bless you.

niyidenrele:
Same way
It surprised the western world
How African survive
The epidemic of coronavirus
With little or no help
Talk about
Unseen power shielding them away from what trouble the rest of the world

I believe it's for a purpose. Not because Africans are holy.
Unseen Power, good point.

Enginiaman1:
Good morning ma.
Ecclesiastes 1 Vs 4 ma,it says the a generation is going,and a generation is coming but the EARTH will remain forever!!!!

Please read the entire chapter, it's irresponsible to pick up only one verse and run with it.

Please don't come back to me, I can't solve whatever mystery you're after.

sigiyaya112:
I think you are the one to check your brain sister

Sorry Mr, I can't associate with such a confused ideology you're experimenting with. Not your sister.

ThinkSmarter:
The man/deity called God.
First of all, let's list the attributes of the Biblical God called Yahweh, Elohim or Jehovah
God is a man according to the Bible.
God is always ascribed with the masculine personal pronoun HE.
The Bible says that God is omnipotent, omniscient and omnipresent.
The Bible and Quran described God as the most compassionate or most merciful.
But, as they say action speaks louder than voice.
Right from the garden of Eden.
God have proved otherwise and in many other scenarios in the Bible.
From the creation story in the Bible.
God is not the most powerful.
Angel Lucifer outsmarted God.
God lied to Adam and Eve that they will definitely die when they eat of the fruit of good, knowledge and evil.
God said to his fellow Gods, let's drive man away from the garden of Eden because he has eaten the fruit and have become wise like us (gods)
So that he will not eat from the tree of life and live forever.
God never had good intentions for mankind with those statements attributed to him.
God is not everywhere, God is not all powerful, God is not all knowing.
Cuz if he is, he should have known ahead of time what Angel Lucifer could do.
He should have stopped him if he is all powerful.
He shouldn't have left the garden of Eden since he is every where.
Common!, the Bible stories are just but a fairy tale that can only be taken seriously by sheeples.
God of the Bible is a blood thirsty deity that is hot tempered and kills at little provocation.
He is a dictator.
It takes a mere human like Moses to persuade the angry God to come down in his show of anger and brutality.
He ordered the killing, maiming of vulnerable people like the aged, women, children and physically challenged.
He encouraged rape and violence against women.
Read the Book of Numbers if you think that I am lying.
God of the Bible used venomous snakes to torment and kill people.
He strikes people that try to challenge his authority with illness and death.
Why am I writing this?
Do I intend to spite any one or group of people by doing this?
No, I am constrained by an inner force to write to my generation.
And to that, I appeal to my family and friends to forgive me for not living up to their expectations.
It's not my doing, that despite my strong Christian background, I still deviated and speak against what majority of the populace hold of high esteem.
I also want to use this medium to implore to all and sundry to take cognizance of my freedom of thoughts and beliefs as enshrined in the universal fundamental human rights.
The Bible actually contributed to my spiritual awakening.
Know that the Bible is a collection of Religious myths, history, religious rituals, hallucinations and magic.
Lucifer is described as the most beautiful and intelligent of God's creations but when the white man brought religion to you, they depicted Lucifer as a Black horned monster just to ridicule Black people.
U got the racism inspired Christianity?
I know that God is a figure invented to solve the mystery behind creations.
But invoking God as central figure behind the creations will lead to another intelligent questions like :
Who created God?
Where did God come from?
Who have ever seen God?
Can God come out of nothing?
Is God really in Charge?
Or that natural forces are behind all the weather, climate changes we witness in our planet?
How can the tower of Babel be real?
How many meters of structure can humans be able to raise?
With what technology was the tower of Babel built with?
Where are the ruins of such magnificent structure?
Remember, when the Bible was written, they were no telescope, no spaceship, no cars, no aeroplane, no idea of space, other planet/ planetary bodies .
People had always thought that the sky is made of crystal stones until science discovered that it was really empty.
First of all, what supports life here on earth.
Soil, air, water, sun, force of gravity and other invisible forces are the physical conditions necessary for life to thrive here.
Get rid of water from the planet and life will cease to exist, same applies to air.
U see, we can't really explain as to how intelligent life, flowers, plants, animals of different varieties started from scratch, but invoking an invisible creator deity won't solve the mystery.
So, the Yahweh of the Bible is not different from any other gods found in all regions of the world.
Superstition begot myth and myth begot religion.
Nothing is really hidden.
Nature didn't conceal anything.
It's just that we have little understanding.
We truly have eyes but can't see, we have ears but can't hear.
My people perish for lack of knowledge.
Let me burst your bubble.
Jesus Christ tried to liberate his people from religious grips.
The Elites (Roman Rulers, scribes and the Pharisees) used religion to instil fear and control the masses.
But when Jesus Christ returned from India at the age of 30, remember he left around age 12 after the passover.
He is an ascended master
He joined group of merchants and traveled East to Nepal and India where he got more educated on Eastern philosophy.
Remember Sadhauta Gautama (Buddha) was born in India many years before the birth of Jesus Christ.
And Buddhism have spread wide in the South East Asia.
Jesus Christ got so much infuriated about the way the people were burdened with heavy religious rules and rituals.
Today, bring pigeon, tomorrow bring a bull, next other time bring your 1st son and first born animals.
Jesus Christ really liberated the people but they twisted his message in order for them to continue enslaving the people through religion.
He tried to enlighten them and liberate them, this got the Pharisees infuriated and they used his frequent saying that he is a God to accuse him of blasphemy.
Just so you know, Jesus Christ was a Jewish by religion/tradition
Though his teachings slightly deviated from the Fundamental doctrines of Judaism.
Hence, was asked severally by the scribes and Pharisees "Whether he came to uphold the law or condemn it"
He tried to separate the people from Religious yokes.
He told the people that they don't need the priests or any rituals but a pure heart to access the cosmic energy.
And that was when he mandated people to go into their houses, lock it up and pray silently (meditation) not shouting in the market places like the Pharisees (Religious show offs)
Jesus Christ was actually a Jewish man by tradition/religion.
But he is an enlightened being, he got extra sensory perceptions and powers.
His teachings contradicted that of Judaism, hence the contradiction between the Old and the New Testaments of the Bible.
And that's why many passages of the old testament are not read in the church.
The truth is that the God of the Bible that is good some cases and evil in some cases is not the God that most Christians believe today.
The God that most Christian believe is a perfect God, that is all good, with no evil.
This is just but a mental construct of God in our heads which is nothing but a mere fiction.
In my next write up, " The Religion Shield"
I will explain how people have been commanded not to ask questions concerning Religion as a way to Shield it from Scrutiny.
Religion is built on falsehood.
Truth is coherent and logical.
The universe is orderly.
The Universe is Conscious
Nothing is Concealed.
Seek, you will find.
Ask, and you shall be given.
Open your mind to nothing but the truth.
Get rid of emotions and sentiments.
And you will be close to enlightenment.
No tragedy will befall you for asking curious questions concerning your faith.
The same way that God lied to Adam and Eve that they will die is the same way that Religion lie and threaten you not to ask questions for fear of tragedy or misfortune befalling you.
The truth is that you, asking thought provoking questions about religion will awaken you to the truth and religion will lose its value and grip on you.
Know the truth and truth shall set you free.
#CuriousMind #Revealing the #Truthfulness in #OurPlanet
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Get your brain checked.

Righteousness2:
Fight Climate Change?
This is one of the Greatest deceit and Folly of Humans in this Generation.
This is one of the reasons why this Rebellious Generation will be Destroyed.

Listen, No technology advancement, government, Money or whatever can do anything about the Events shaking the world. These are GOD'S actions to let us know the time we are in. Infact if they make any move in the Name of fighting Climate Change, Expect Greater Mind blowing Disaters.

The Solution is for The Nations and People to do away with Evil, Abominations, all sorts of Wickedness and Submit to the Lordship of JESUS CHRIST.

Any other thing done will Usher in Hailstones and Brimstones from above.

Now you are way out of line.

God does no evil.

Everything happening is as a result of misuse of this planet. Sure, these are the end times, but it's just the natural order of things, not God's fault.