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Supreme01:
Please help!

There is this girl I just wanted to strap an walk away,
but after the first time, affection developed, it keeps increases.

She is that kind of girl that doesn't like Sex. So I have to beg her until she gives in.
Character wise she's so insulting and stubborn. It has if I'm being remoted, keep loving her the more despite the fact that I seriously detests an insulting woman. it turn my off very quickly.

We keep having misunderstanding, i'll apologise till the points she made up mind to quite. I find myself kneeling and begging her not to leave She bluntly refuse. But she loves me to some level, she's not the type that cheat.

At a point of the misunderstanding, I went to the mother to relate my interest in her daughter,( for future marriage) jut to proof my stupid point to her that I love her. But she to no avail.
She'll be 19 this year. Sincerely she's not match with the kind of lady I'll love mingle with.

I am late 20s, I don't keep many girls at the same time. I don't cheat, when am in a relationship.

I've notice this things when I am in a relationship:

1. I've notice it's difficult to get reed of an Ex.

2 .If I say I love you in a relationship even if I was lying, the love will begins to develop.

3. At initial state, won't be serious but if I have sex, I'll develop seriousness and I can't control my level of passion and emotion again.

4. Also, I'm a very jealous type. most time I can't control my reactions, (not slapped) but the kind of words.

why is It always difficult to move on?

Please how can I take away this kind of softness.
please help a brother.

You deserve to be called a Cradle robber and a thief.
Date your mates.

KevUnique:
LMAO, but you're something else.. "what perplexes them most is that they can't tell by your looks". You're wicked, like for reals. But what u said is actually true. Most men can't tell by the looks and they get jittery and worried if she is a keeper or she's gonna screw around with their brains...hehe. Men keep suffering. But not all of us, though. Some of us understand the ways women's minds work, but of course, not entirely....But to a safe enough extent.
In all things, let love be the leading factor between a man and a woman, and there wouldn't be any problems of these fears. Mary, are you married?

Shooting your shot on a public forum.
Hmmm
Good luck.

P. S. I'm not married yet though.

KevUnique:
Heyyyyyyy....slow down tigress! Haha. You sound fierce, kilo shele gan..
It's like you want this cosmetic surgery thing, but you are getting upset listening to what people have to say about it? ... I'll say, just do what makes you happy, but be ready for the consequences too...Don't let it harm your body and health, that's all.
When I said my wife can definitely have surgery if she feels less comfortable in her skin, I didn't mean going to go and over lift her butt o. Anything that will be too obvious and eye-catching is a no-no for me and my lovely wife. She will feel shy even..Me, I don't even care about the Toke Makinwa and co type of ass..My own is all about "facial features" My Wife can get a pointed nose, higher cheek bones, a different smile/lip, hairline correction surgery or any other corrective procedures. I'm not into silicone boobs as I love to squeeze those soft natural breasts and get that texture which can't be gotten from implants. I already know the kind of wife that I will look for, and then approach for marriage. She will already have a naturally big and very soft ass. Needless to say, there won't be any need for butt-anything surgery.. We would mostly do FACIAL CORRECTIONS and get the satisfaction we crave from it. Purely for ourselves, to impress ourselves and not for anyone else outside our little circle of she and I. So that's it.

Don't get me wrong Mr, I gats these stuffs, don't need no surgeries.

I just don't like the noise these hypocrites are all making.

Ciao

Mindlog:
On what legal basis is the mistress fighting to stay in the house?

Zero legal basis.

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

See them, entitled set of people, when your brother was making money and getting married, what were you doing with your life?

KevUnique:
Well, someone like me, I have always said that when I get my "money right" I will definitely go under the knife (cosmetic surgery) and I'm doing it in a bid to please MYSELF ,not the opposite sex. It's all about me, me,me...My nose ridge, my lips o, my hairline o, all join. then my jaw-line. I won't care what anyone will say once I'm ready. Everyone wants to look a certain way the like. Just let it be less invasive-surgery. mine is just reductions Sha.. liposuction. not adding anything, no chemicals. Just bone graftings and lip-reduction. And I'm good to go.
I know some men will insult me, but I couldn't really care..My own is to get what u want. Even my wife can get surgery,but it must be less invasive-surgery and not life threatening.

Finally, a non-hypocrite.

Unlike those liars who will come here to write nonsense and still check out Toke's butt

There should be a religion section, right?

Vyolet:
This lady raised a valid point but there are exceptions.
A woman can grow her family and grow her career at the same time, all she needs is a supportive husband who genuinely wishes her well, she needs to know how to manage her time in other to balance her home and career, it's not easy but it is achievable.

No matter how much leeway a husband allows a woman, she will still make sacrifices.
You just have to decide what is worth it.

No matter what your story is, as long as you're still breathing, you can still make it. Just take things one step at a time.

CalliDora1:
One thing that scares me about people from that tribe. Changing women like clothe.

My sister, take heart and move on. You're still very young pretty and full of life. No need crying over an overaged grandpa who doesn't value you.

Don't pity her darling, she enjoyed her time

Brightgem:
This aunty has said what many may still not have the wisdom to understand, they will still ask, what has this got to do with DNA testing? What has it got to do with this and that? We refuse to connect the dots and understand the ripple effects of a society strung up on wanton sex. After you have spent your youth lying with different bodies, even deceiving people to be in bed with them, you now want to settle down to a life of monogamy, karma may be dished to you through the partner you decide to settle with, then you will cry foul play, forgetting the history of your own life.

This is just on an individual level, on a societal level are the individuals we breed who will grow up and have very twisted and confused minds when they find out the scandals their parents were involved in, when they find out they were passed off as one man’s child when they actually belonged to another. Mental health issues afflicts them and the result is an even more sick society.

We are really in trouble, corruption in different forms, in our regular every day lives, we refuse to kick out corruption, yet we say we want the nation to change and we want the leaders to change. Sad.

So below is the excerpt from Your Rich Auntie @adejokewrites as posted on Twitter.

I see a lot of back & forth about DNA test and I just laugh. A generation that has built everything about itself on sex is fighting over DNA. You guys are really funny, you meet someone today & that very night you guys end up in bed.

You sleep with everyone you meet, to you it’s nothing, it’s part of the Constitution of our generation. When you’re dating someone, it’s a written law that sex must be part of the equation. When you & your friends meet, your rate each other sexual prowess, and body count.

All the songs we listen to are sexual in nature, music videos nko, sexually explicit, the most read articles are all on sex. And if one has a contrary opinion, you dare not say it. No one wants to hear no premarital sex or waiting for marriage You’ll be dragged, insulted & questioned if you dare say, you’re waiting till marriage.

Now the consequences of your actions are coming out, you’re crying. What did you expect when you used all your single years to sleep around? You think it’ll just stop? Because you’re now married? Kolewerk. If you planted fornication, you’ll reap adultery in full. Many of you are caring for kids, not yours, but you don’t know. This is just the beginning. What we’re seeing now is small, konitu sleeping around.

Vistit themoralcodeng.com to see more posts around Morals, Morality, Values, and more.

You are bold enough to say what a lot of people are too blind to see,
What some will see but refuse to admit,
What some admit but refuse to loud,
Kudos.

Whatever goes around comes around, it's the cycle the Nigerian society has chosen to perpetuate

Pictures please, I'm interested

CanadianNaija:
You're just an agbaya I swear. What is flimsy food that you had open a thread openly direspecting your wife's mother for?
At your age you can't cook? You are so useless that you can't fix yourself something to eat in your own house?

You expect a woman that came to take care of her grand child to put mouth in your matter so that tomorrow small rat like you will come here and insult her if she doesn't take your side. You're calling her useless for not saying anything when you quarrelled with your wife, tomorrow you'll say she wants to control your marriage.

When your mothers will not train you people very well, you'll grow up thinking mundane things are beneath you, or that you're some sort of Kings without kingdom.

King of Savage.
Tuuualey

Touching food with long artificial nails and giving it to kids is very unhealthy.

Richy4:
If he doesn't want to reveal it to anyone, I don't think we should force him to.. He doesn't owe anyone here an explanation on what transpired between him and his wife.... He needed suggestion on how to get his kids and that's what we are interested in and their welfare too.

Let me ask you this question and I need an honest to God answer of yes or No

Mrs X got married to Mr X who happens to be a mummy's Boy. 3 years into their marriage, the Family of Mr X especially the mother Starts pressurizing her son to leave the marriage because according to her, the wife was mistreating him in that relationship...

A year later, he succumbed to their pressure, took their 3year old baby and work out of that relationship to their family home just to cool off...mind you, they were not divorced.

Some months into their separation he had a heart attack and died... The family would not want to see the wife, they did not allow her to come to the funeral because according to them, she killed him.. and they took the 3year old baby and refused to give the baby to the mother..

Do you think irrespective of what happened, they have that right to deprive the mother of her baby?

Hmmm, I understand your point.

But, if the woman has remarried in less than 4 years after his demise, you know the case will be treated differently.

All will be well.

Karleb:
By law, the kids belong to their immediate parents.

You can only take away a kid from their immediate parent if they are not being taken care of.

The man also lost his wife. They even gave him a wrong funeral date after collecting bride price.

How is he being insensitive for demanding for his own kids kwanu?

4 years and you no see your ejima, how body go dey do you?

It is well. I think the man is hiding some vital parts of the story.

Richy4:
I know how attached women are with their babies. (Not wishing the OP dead) but Assuming revise was the case and OP's family took the twins from his wife and she came online and narrated the same thing that op said, will your judgement have been the same? Will you have started questioning what killed the husband?

You as a woman, if someone decides to take your kids while you were alive irrespective of what ever happened, will you be the happiest woman on earth?.. I think there are times to play the gender card. This is not it..A father wants his kids.. that was why he came to ask for suggestions.

Please Stop trying desperately to crucify him... We are not talking about the wife but the kids.

This is the point I'm making, that you don't want to understand, some things have been happening in that marriage, and between the in laws before the woman's passing. That is the hidden fact the man is reluctant to reveal, and since the woman is no longer alive, there's no one to counter his story, let him settle matters with his in laws, instead of looking for a way to force their hand.
How can all the siblings of your late wife, without an exception, how can they all despise you to the extent of keeping your babies from you?


Let us be good, it's not only for today, it's for the future.

He should remove his ribs naw, how can he be slaying with 9 ribs.

It's like he's not ready.

For a full grown man and woman to get up from their house, and help their daughter and sister to leave her husband's house, as a reasonable person, won't you wonder what the woman has been experiencing.
She died, her family is grieving, hubby is asking for babies.

Is he not being insensitive?

These people just think judges and family affairs workers are not humans!

Richy4:
Try and keep gender card sentiment aside dear.. what we are interested was the babies and their interest... If the father is alive and wants his kids.. do u think it's nice for the inlaws to deprive him of seeing or having full custody of them... If you were a judge what's gonna be your ruling?

Go to any court, the well being of the child is placed even above the parents' needs.
It's not about whether he wants his kids or not, it's about
1. Is he financially capable
2. Is there a conducive environment for the kids, i.e. access to quality education, they will scrutinize the lifestyle of the man and his new wife, the fact that she is nursing won't help matters.
Where will he place them? Will his wife be saddled with the responsibility of caring for them?

Let's just see how it goes.
All I see is fathers coming online to get pity, I haven't seen one person going to the authorities for redress, neither have I seen anyone granted custody.

chachanga:
Read again.

This time, slowly!

Put your emotions aside, so that you can discern the holes in his story.

Then, put yourself in the Grandma's shoes, can you leave your grandchildren in the care of a nursing Stepmom.

Daddyejima4:
I can't focus on my new family when I don't have any clue about my babies, if they are being treated well or not.

Often times, when people state their own side of the story, they leave out their faults.

Your in laws couldn't have 'carried' your wife away. She's supposed to be an adult who knows what she's doing.

Start by telling what she's been complaining about before leaving.

Then show your in laws that your wife's death is painful to you, but, how can you do that when you're remarried?

Presently, how much of money have you set aside for your twins, children are not accessories or property. They need care, and money is the answer to that.

If I can read you correctly, your wife separated from you, lost her life, and your first concern is babies?
Chai, women are trying.

Well, you don't seem to have a good rapport with your in laws.

Let them raise the babies in peace while you focus on your new family since you've moved on already.

Emmanueladegoke:

What do you stand for?

Why do people wait until after death before celebrating a person.
Such an amazing person.

obonujoker:
Many a Jezebel and many a Delilah prowl the world these days....

Children of God should be vigilant

Why should a child of God become one with a harlot. If you are children of God, why can't you keep yourselves clean.

Yeye dey smell

Familytalk9909:
Hi Nairalanders,

I had to create this account just so I can get the opinion of men and women and not just the married people on here if I can learn a thing or two from you all.

I am a young guy who has been married for over 6 years with 4 beautiful kids. I tend to leave my financial aspect with my wife(meaning I save most of my money with her till I need it for business or acquiring properties) because when we were dating she was more responsible financially than I am and she knows exactly how much I am worth and I still do that till today. I keep investment funds and savings that run up to millions in her account while I keep the fraction which is needed for our family day to day and shopping expenses.

While I think its not irresponsible of me because I trust my wife and she knowing how much I am worth, when I am rich and when I am broke, I am transparent with her and it saves me the trouble of requesting for things when she knows I can't afford them and she looks out for the best interest of the family.

My mother knows about this and my siblings and they have been complaining for years, saying this is wrong. My mom says it is irresponsible and its never safe to be too transparent with your spouse. I don't plan on changing how I run my family.

Over to you nairalanders, do you think this is right or or wrong and please give reasons.

Let me spell it out for you, you have done well.

You love your Mom and siblings, but remember, they are humans. It's expectable to feel envy when others get what they didn't.

I would still advise you to start something, or have a little investment outside of what you already have, power corrupts either male or female.

Karlebolu:
Madam, Sinach is popular and rich. That's the difference.

Not everyone thinks like you, deal with it

Jack005:
At least a single man at even 70 can get a young fresh Pussy of 18

And who are the married women paying you for sex.
They will come here looking for sugar mamas, yet will be forming after they have used their most viable sperm cells.
Shiorrrr.

Who are the owners of those buildings.

Because you girls have refuse to be their favorite dolls.
Nobody likes a doll with a mind of its own.
Of course there are good girls gone bad, good and bad girls too. What perplexes them most is that they can't tell by your looks.
Keep doing you.
Keep growing.
Don't concern yourself with market noise.

jayworld15:
There are many courses Africa considers useless but, in reality, they are hot cakes overseas. Psychology and textile studies...hmm

Of course these people want to impact their society, Nigerians only want to make bucket loads of money.