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tete7000:
You are wrong, when you see a woman who married a real man, A man strong and godly, you will understand that woman has less work to do. Women has been so brainwashed to believe that making marriage work is all their duty that many don't even bother to look out for strong and capable men to marry but simply settle for anything and work their ass out to make their marriage work while the man philander around. God created the man to lead, not the woman. Sin turned everything on its head, and create situations where women seek to dominate. In the beginning, it was never intended so, and God's original intention has not changed.

Oh, how I love this your post.

Are you married?

FalseProphet1:
Marriage has become terrible because sex is so cheap these days, the day girls learn to close their legs and preserve their chastity is the day marriages will begin to experience the blessings God created it to experience. You can turn yourself into a sperm bank and expect to enjoy your marriage...I see many more marriages crash because of premarital sex. This I have seen.

Each gender is responsible for the sexual depravity in the society.
The girls are not doing it alone.
The earlier you start teaching men to zip up, the better for all of us.

spice123:
Exactly my thought too. @DoubleFinger prayerfully follow this. The bible says: He that findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord. My brother, nothing dey happen. I was once in your shoes but I am in 7 years marriage now. The devil does not like marriage right from the start. Refuse to be discouraged and continue to pray.

I've suspected for a long time that the devil does not like marriage as an institution especially since it's a means of bringing God's heritage (children) up in the way of God, which will bring joy to God.

So marriages are under heavy attack, even more so in these last days.

Lots of prayer is needed if you want to run a happy marriage.

Well done

chukwuma0000:
I have a close female friend here in school she's in 200l (22) while am in my finals about writing my final exams but as a young man (26) who's about to start life with nothing but has a lot of visions and aspirations but don't know what the future holds for me but I strongly believe that whatever I put my hands into must surely pay.
She always discuss about moving on with me no matter the circumstances to an extent of planning and suggested to have an establishments by saving up together for the future and told me that she's ever ready to walk through the fire with me.

I love her so much and she loves me too but that's not my priority for now because I have a lot on my head.

Please I need your candid advise not insults.

Is she supposed to be discussing the past with you?

I don't understand, didn't you ask her out?

You better come clean and tell her you are an unserious joker so she can look elsewhere fast!

Mtcheeeeeeew.

ZeddyR:
Thanks for your honest opinion. Speaking out helps me in getting over things easily. I've not had sex with him before and I don't intend to do that.

My pleasure
It's not about your desire, it's about whether you are weak towards his persuasive powers.
Lock your gates baby, he ain't worth it.

So much dignity surrounding that man.

Thanks for showing the greatness of Africa.

TOBIeee68:
6. Does he have trust issues? How comfortable is he when you are with your friends or even male colleagues. An immature man will continually expect you to explain your movement and will continue to show anger when you associate innocently with other males. There is a fine line between jealousy and envy, it is TRUST. Anybody with trust issues, is somebody with secrets and he who can't trust others, sure can't trust himself.

LISTEN!
HE MUST UNDERSTAND DIVINE CONCEPT ON RELATIONSHIPS, BE A MODEL FOR OTHERS, HAVE SELF CONTROL ESPECIALLY IN WORDS, MUST BE ABLE TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOU IN WISDOM & RIGHTEOUSNESS & SHOW THE ABILITY TO TRUST YOU WITH OTHERS WITHOUT QUESTIONING YOUR INTEGRITY.

Now ask yourself if he is that mature to cope with marriage?

Don't be deceived, if you marry a young boy in an Old man's body- someday his immaturity will bring you great anguish. He won't listen to wisdom and will not stop acting like a child. Ask those who got married to people like that, they weep and cry everyday. You can change your life and future by listening to wisdom today.

WE WON'T CALL YOU FOOLISH FOR STOPPING WICKEDNESS IN YOUR MARRIAGE BY SAYING BYE-BYE TO AN IMMATURE MAN BEFORE GETTING MARRIED , BUT WE WILL SHAKE OUR HEAD WHEN WE HEAR OF YOUR DILEMMA IN THE HANDS OF AN IMMATURE MAN.

Jesus offered us wisdom to become mature- accepting Him and listening to Him on all issues of our life. His death & resurrection is the example of obedience and maturity.
You will either become a model of grace or an example of disgrace in marriage...what will you choose? Choose life and live.
Call upon Jesus Christ to save you..His death, burial and resurrection can secure your future when you submit to Him. Call upon Jesus Christ now!
Shalom!

(c) Ponle Segun Adegboyega Alabi
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Wow, first time I'll like this kind of counselling post.
Please write about maturity to teach men too. Teachings for men are really sparse.

ZeddyR:
Hi fams. I just want to share this because it might ease my pains. Please go easy on the insults that may follow. It might be a lengthy post 'cause I want to pour out my heart.

I'm a 27 years old lady. I met this guy when I was about sixteen. I particularly took note of him unconsciously the first day we met but I waived it aside. I wasn't particularly friendly at this point in my life but somehow we connected and became friends.

We both left where we met to different locations yet we kept in touch. I changed sim card severally and he also lost his severally but somehow we still get connected.

(One thing about me is that, my mind has a way of helping me to make decisions. If I do contrary to my mind's suggestions, most times I regret it.)

While this was on, I had some suitors, but then my mind won't let me marry. Whenever I want to say 'yes' to anyone, it becomes a battle in my mind. Reminding me about the other guy who didn't even ask me out until I turn down the proposal. There's this peace that comes with saying no.

Then in 2018, I decided to get into a relationship which is the worst mistake of my life. My mind was against it as usual but I decided to go on because I can't continue waiting for one guy. I told him it was a no sex relationship which he agreed, I became very free with and around him.
He later forced himself on me because he said I was behaving as if I'm better than him. It was a very traumatic experience because I've kept myself for so many years.

In 2019, my long time friend asked me out. I was very happy because it was what I waited for. Relationship was great, love was real despite the distance and he told me I've been on his mind all these years.
But along the line, he started showing some attitudes like not answering his calls( he's always with his phone), not calling for days and when he calls, he talks very casually. I asked him if there's any issue, he said everything was fine. Until the day I called him and he was talking with a girl while my airtime was burning. I asked him where he was, before then, he'll tell me where he was without asking, but his reply that day was why am I asking. I told him to call me back when he's less busy but he didn't.

I called him some days later to talk. I told him that if he's no longer interested in the relationship, we should peacefully break up instead of becoming enemies which he agreed to. That's how we broke up without a reason.

After some weeks, I asked him for reconciliation and he told me he will get back to me. He didn't, about a month later, he started posting a girl's pictures on WhatsApp and eulogizing her. Sometimes he does this immediately I come online. I was deeply hurt but I accepted or so I thought as part of life.

The issue is, I can't forget him totally no matter how much I try.
I've prayed, stopped talking to him, had relationships which didn't work out.
I don't want him again but I can't forget him. I know I've made stupid decisions in the past but how do I move on from it, is it until he announces his wedding date or when?

Help me out please

If you were my sister I'd shake you till you wake up, because you are dreaming.

What!!!!

At 27, don't you know you're not getting any younger, wasting precious time whining about a guy, are you for real

News flash!!!!!! You don't love the guy.

You're just delusional enough to sustain your infatuation for 11 whole years of your life.

Imagine, your mates are spending the same amount of time giving birth to all their children and planning their future you're here claiming love.

My dear, life goes on. If it ends with him, go out there and meet up with people, enjoy your life, have fun responsibly, meet marriage minded people and settle down with someone you like.

What nonsense

Love koor, madness ni.

P. S. He will still come back and try to have sex with you. Don't be stupid.

Cute

cococandy:
I would argue that it’s feminist to live the life you (as a woman) want on your own terms.

Before feminism, dads collectively decided for you when and to whom you could get married to. Your mom usually has little say in the matter. And you definitely had no say.

Daughters were for father’s economic gain.
You couldn’t decide if you wanted to pause marriage and obtain a degree first.
If your marriage would expand your father’s empire today, then you’re getting married today. No if’s and buts.

So love, the right to not get married if you don’t want to, is feminist AF. And we all love it . That ability to make that choice for yourself.

Please specify the society where daughters were used for financial gain, because that is not the case anywhere around here!

kingasap:
I'm a man in my early twenties. I think it's only natural to want to date. The thing is I am attracted to women that know how to hold a proper conversation on various topics. Alas such women seem extinct. I would like to know where I can meet such women.

Just be the kind of man they are looking for. Simple.

Stephjeff:
he is into internet fraud

You're not even afraid of ritual!!!!

IntentionTremor:
I give it to her, she's a strong woman. But did I read "inability to support her"? I will take it cause I opened the thread and asked to be talked to!

You think it's that easy psychologically doing surrogacy for a young man not to have his young wife preggy naturally.
The cost implications aside cause we've spent and been spent on this matter...the will to try it is the issue now. Thanks anyways

I know it's not easy, both financially and psychologically,
Whatever you decide, I wish you all the best.

IntentionTremor:
So I married this beautiful lady after dating for one year. Two years after wedding we had a still birth of our 9 month pregnancy! 9 years later we are yet to achieve another pregnancy naturally.

Summarily, we have had 5 failed IVF cycles to our history of search for solution.

It's all making me sick. Mentally sick! In 2 years we'll both be age 40!! And I am the only male in my family!

Our last resort seems to be surrogacy! But I haven't had the sanity to give it a thought talk less of a try - even as she wants us to! It makes me more SICK!

These fertility treatment failures have made me hate, resent and despise her so much that we are now flatmates.

Because she had an abortion for her boyfriend while in school. I BLAME HER RIGHT NOW FOR THIS WHOLE SHIT.

I WANT A DIVORCE? Yes or No? Talk to me.

As a woman, TTC for nine whole years must be driving your wife crazy.

Your inability to support her is only compounding her problem.

If her ova are still viable, let your specialists use her eggs with your sperm, then make your baby with your surrogate. Your baby will be biologically yours, your surrogate gets compensated, everybody wins. Good luck.

jesusjnr2020:
Different strokes for different folks...

Even with the benefit of hindsight i would make the same decision over and over again given the opportunity to do so again.

What you claim has no spiritual significance is one of the most spiritually significant thing that's ever happened to me, and I wouldn't trade it for anything else in the world.

Many apostles and prophets of old even some true believers today who know better concerning such things would agree with me on that.

Hence I would say that this comment you made is rather ignorant and that you haven't the least idea what you speak about.

But you're entitled to your view though.

God bless.



I'm laughing really hard at the height of ignorance being displayed by you both.

So Moses came out with a glorious face after fasting right? Also the apostles worked signs and wonders after fasting right? But all you know about me is that I came out with a bony structure and naked, without any "signs and wonders, no miracles, no deep revelations, no preaching or saving of souls, no life won for Christ" right?

I'm used to that though with NL Christians who are predominantly spiritually shallow, yet are not willing to learn from those who know and love God much better than they do, so no surprises there.

That's the same way, when I said Jesus appeared to me, they were so sure that it wasn't Him, some were even willing to place a bet... but they all were put to shame, after God went out of His way to confirm here that it was really His Son Jesus that appeared to me to their confounding, that some even had to modify their such comments to show how foolish and ignorant it now made them look. I wouldn't be surprised if you were even one of them because you sound as one of them, even though you come in the guise of a different (new) moniker.

Thank God I have quoted this your comment though just in case... So according to you I was competing with God right? Okay. If you're not also put to shame soon because of this comment, then i'd accept everything you've said against me here as the truth and that the fasting was of no spiritual significance but borne of sheer ignorance.

But if you are, then you should be humble enough to swallow your pride and accept that you made a serious blunder concerning me.

I'm really grateful that I shared this experience even though it gives you an opportunity to mock, because this is not meant for the spiritually blind who believe that God deserves crumbs, and want to continue giving Him such, but for those who are willing to know that God deserves nothing but the best and everything even as the apostles had given to Him, so that they'd be inspired to give Him same.

God bless.

I love how you denied yourself to do this, I want to try it

'Upkeep'

Life is short man, RIP Ma'am.

I suspect that this OP is not female,


just another guy using us to catch cruise

Iamafinegirl:
Yes I hv
But does that solve the problem or the root of the problem?

It gives you the dignity you threw away last year.

You only solve problems when your spouse is on board with you, not when you're dating yourself.

If he genuinely wants to settle down with you, he'll have a serious discussion with you after you have moved out.

Otherwise, consider this relationship high risk, heal first, then decide if you want to continue.



P. S. It's like you can't realize that you're being treated like poop all for the ring.

I came to see the pictures

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Have you heard now?

junketer:
Main babe? Is it just me or did anybody else notice that?
So he has other babes?

Birds of the same feather, flock together.
They deserve each other

Agboriotejoye:
How exactly would the Muslim stepson drag throne with William

If Princess Di had given birth to the foetus in her as at the time of her death, he would have become a step brother to the boys.

If you don't understand the implication of that, then you've not been following the story.
I want to rest abeg.

mariahAngel:
Why wait till he got married then?

Cutting off ties with his family after getting married was and is selfish of him. He only used them for emotional support for as long as he needed them. Now, he wants "freedom"?

Let's hope it doesn't backfire on him.

He didn't cut off ties with them, he just resigned from his official duties.

He didn't say he has disowned them naw, be calming down.

mariahAngel:
Why wait till he got married then?

Cutting off ties with his family after getting married was and is selfish of him. He only used them for emotional support for as long as he needed them. Now, he wants "freedom"?

Let's hope it doesn't backfire on him.

He didn't cut off ties, he just resigned from his official duties.

He didn't say he has disowned them naw, be calming down.

Tonytonex:
hmmm! so many versions don't even know which one to believe. heard that it's because the mother was a is a black woman

You don't have to listen to liars,

Princess Di married a man in love with another woman, so they were three in the marriage, she slipped into depression while her two boys watched.

One of them supported Daddy while the other pitied Mummy.

In the long run, Princess Di started acting out, divorced the unfaithful husband, picked up a new lover but the royal family didn't want a Muslim step son to drag the throne with their sons in the future, so 'miraculously' the problem got solved through an 'accident'.

The small boy wailing at his Mom's funeral now grew up, and decided to part ways with his Mummy's 'enemies', so to speak.

Meanwhile, the man went on to marry the woman who indirectly caused his wife's death and the disintegration of his family.

This is the summary of what I found out.

Blackmoran:
help?!!!!!!!! are you kidding me? go and make your research about bipolar personal disorder.. and come and tell me to help her!!

majority of guys are dating such kind of girls and thinking they are in love.. until the lady stab him or kill herself then they will now blame it on the guy and call it domestic violence, not knowing the real cause...

This disorder is not gender-specific

Supreme01:
seriously, I thought they said age is just a number.??��

And they also said whatever you do to other people's children will be done to your kids. Say amen.

Killertune20:
I have seen her, tried to persuade her, but she isn't bulging, I ask then, why can't things go the way they should, why can't people be with the ones they so desire, why must there be complications, cause I'm sure no man on earth will love her the way I do, I know it.

I can only empathize with you on this,three years is not beans.
Please try to find your own balance if she's not cooperating with you.
Take time to heal. All will be well.

Killertune20:
Catch Cruise? Wao, unto say I no get work

If you're serious about her, make efforts to see her, then if she refuses, either give her space or get someone else, you will be fine.
This is nothing new.

Killertune20:
Having dated for about 3 years, early this year, we had an altercation, I believe the distance between us caused it cause I moved to a different state.

Late last year she told me about a young pastor who's asking for her hand in marriage, I asked about her stance and she said she didn't see it happening, but 2 weeks after the altercation, she told me she is considering the pastor.

Ever since then, I have tried to move on but I can't, this babe ticks all the boxes for me, for more than 3 years cause we started dating in school while I was in 300L and she 200L, It's been like no other girl existed in the world for me.

Now the usual gimmick "the lord said you are my wife" has cost me something I value so much.

I love this babe with all my heart, now the things I do around her, like forced chats, unreplied messages gets to me, create a pinch on my ego and in a way emasculates me. It feels like she has moved on but I can't.

Now my question, how do people get over people so easily?

Have you ever met someone and feel like she is the one and it ended?

Has anyone been in my shoes and how did you move on?

The happily ever after I dreamt of has become a night mare.

Be using us to catch cruise