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Realashbobby:
Dear Nairalander,

How do you cope with your life after your spouse failed you and took the whole matter to the worse level by seeking for divorce?

I woke up everyday of my life in the past nine months thinking about this man. I heard he has moved on in Lagos, while I am still here bothering myself about him. This is the only man I have ever known in my life. He just left without looking back not even to check on his son.
What can I do to forget him totally?

I am down emotionally and it's affecting me.

Kindly advise.

If a person does not want you, simply subtract yourself from their equation.
Take pleasure in the good things like your son.
Make yourself happy.

Madam, please get closer to God, this is a storm that God can help you with.
I won't advise you to sign those papers if you still want your husband.
Don't lose focus on your work. Don't resign o. And don't stop schooling. It's just a matter of time, you'll become a shining star.
Sending much love you and that cute baby.
I repeat, don't leave your job and school o.

free2ryhme:
Rest well man.

I believe it may be complications from his recent brain surgery

They may not have been able to fly him out of his country because of covid.
Brain surgery in Argentina. Chai. Too bad.
I knew he might not make it.
RIP legend.

Dtruthspeaker:
You are not in that house to know that she is "Very selfish, lazy and Foolish" to Rightly Ground your Accusation of her, So you Falsely Accuse her.

Secondly, you have even Wrongfully judged her without hearing her own side, therefore, you have Unfairly Judged. This is No Different from the police passing judgement on you because of your dreadlock to kill you for "Yahoo Yahoo"!

Thirdly, No Wicked Act should be done on the infirm or the fool!

Really!!!
Really!!!!
See how this person is spinning a clear case of severe stockholm syndrome.

I'm sure you have a lot of people ready to trade words with you on this forum.
Face them abeg. I need to rest.

OchoL:
Very lazy and foolish indeed. A woman who is old enough to have given birth to grown kids like this, yet hasn't saved or established anything for herself to leave an unfavourable situation with her dignity intact. Tueh!

Abi o

Dtruthspeaker:
Meen, you are wicked oh, No Compassion at all!

She is the one who refused to have compassion on herself and her innocent kids.
She's the wicked one.
I'm only showing you guys who she is.

Lots of bitter people on this thread.

I hope you get your baby back

Everyone wants what they think is best for their kids

pansophist:
Preferably, she should give me the green light and if I like her, I'll commence romantic negotiations. Wooing a man comes with a risk of being used as a fck material, not advisable. Men are like lions, they value the meat they hunt for themselves.

Last part is da realest!

flyingpig:
I always laugh when retards say all races are equal

We were supposed to be equal!!!!

Simisola54:
Why is he talking like he's doing her favour for not cheating? Is he supposed yo cheat before?

He's asking us to fry beans

LIES AND MORE LIES.
ADC Aspirant has not joined PDP Aspirant.
Get your facts right!!!!!!

Adakintroy:
How many of them can boast of rich daddy?

I believe the data will show clear that more than if not by far the greatest number of children who graduated from universities were sponsored by their parent. So the answer is.. ,"the majority of them can boast of rich dad.

That's for facts.

But that's not the answer you need since you did not formulate the right question. Yes their are many gilrs who went to school and experience financial difficulties but an exceding greater numbers did not. They were cattered for by their parents. Also by counsin and relatives. They did not lack. The justification has always been due to poverty' but there are not evidence that remotely suggest that the rampant behaviour of prostitution in school is as result of lack.

Gbayi

Lemmy123:
Hi Nairalanders, I notice that couples begin to look alike after some years of being together. I used to be indifferent about it until my sister who got married 5 years ago began to look like her husband...

What could be the biological explanation for the facial resemblance??

I'm just curious, it's nothing serious

True, we humans are like sponges, we soak up stuff.
When you admire someone, you end up copying mannerisms that you like subconsciously.
So, you'll see couples that smile the same way, squint the same way, etc.
Though you'll still notice the essential differences if you look closely.

Adakintroy:
Shake parents table in what way.

How many of those girls can boast of a wealthy daddy?
Nigerian guys should work harder, so they won't put their daughters in difficult financial situations.
For example, DJ Cuppy does not need to date a rich man, her daddy's got her back!
Rather than blame those girls, learn from their mistakes and do better.

She's right, but her statistics are inaccurate

Adakintroy:
I don't think they will die. As students their parents already made provision for them. Just that most are greedy and not contended.

With greed comes prostituting.

Really
Greed
You want to shake parents tables right?

SweetBuns:
I saw this comment on FP and it just reeks of hate and pain



Misogynists everywhere!
You say you are going your own way, be going. We don't need you anyways.

Girl power,!

It shows their upbringing.
Very poor

ongback:
If a woman truly love you, she would not give you terms and conditions such as marriage before anything else. What do you think?

You are not the looking for a woman you will love, you are looking for a woman who will love you.

My friend, you are a playa.

Who raised you people?

You don't have the right to demand sex from a woman you are not married to!

If she chose to have sex with you, fine, but it's not your right!
Nigerian parents have done very badly on sex education.

pocohantas:
Stay there and be doing mumu love. Men always looking for fixers like you.

After moving upandan like evil spirits in their youth, when they are old and broke- they will now come back to that virtuous woman. Same thing you see in marriages. Womanize in youth, come back to their wives with Nigerian used penis and damaged internal organs. Your work will now be to cook vegetable soup without pepper and spices. You will also learn to turn wheat and pound unripe plantain for him.

Ndi virtuous women. I don’t blame him, na you I blame. 8 fcking years... Pfftttt!!




Very annoying something.

Oh my Gosh, you're so experienced.

ThatIgboBoy:
I am not asking her to support me now. I meant after we married. Working together as a couple helps us achieve goals faster. She ain't part of that. Said I will be the man of the house and carry the responsibilities of the home. She can decide to help or not and that I shouldn't even expect any help from her.
With the same mouth she will be asking why I am delaying to come and see her people. Is that not heading directly into disaster?

You need to calm down.
The first thing a good spouse should be talking about is helping each other make more money, not collecting.
Suggest businesses and projects she could go into, if she makes more money in a year's time, let's see how she won't lavish it on you.
Be patient, groom her for success if you really love her.
And groom yourself too in the meantime, she'll help you if she has sense.
Do these while watching her closely for a few more months.

ThatIgboBoy,
Personally, I think some ladies prefer to spend on only their husbands, and until the wedding ceremony has been completed, she is not your wife.
Lots of ladies have spent money on fiances only to get jilted for the flimsiest reasons.
Try and find out the root of her stance if you're interested in making things work.
All these people advising you will not live with you in your marriage.

EmperorMaria:
As una form gud girls online 2

I don't form good girl, both online and offline.
I say things the way it is, anybody that doesn't like it can buzz off.
I'm sure there more ladies like that on this forum.

J111333:
I once read about that lady and couldn't control my tears.

Oh wow, you cried?

Herdamorlar:
What do you think it will lead to if women take 80% of the available jobs

Your insecurity is frightening.
*shudders*
It's not anybody's fault that women seem to be getting stuff nowadays.
But expecting FG to regulate employment policies for private businesses is simply ridiculous.

Nwaotu:
Ezi, ndi Saint. Keep recognizing, monitoring spirit

Ezi for you too.

Don't forget to go to Court o
I already recognize your moniker

https://www.nairaland.com/6113603/visitation-rights-child-born-out#93829359

Darkandbrown:
I need a new visa to go back.

Do you need permission to get a new visa?
You mean to go back abroad?
I don't get.

Darkandbrown:
Away from home for 7months now because of covid 19. Just when I thought airports are opened I can now go home, hubby said I should give him 3 months to gather funds for a better apartment. What can I say as visa issuance is even on hold sef.
To the reason for this post,
Oga usually hangs out with his friends once in a week and gets home late, we had issue about it when I was there. And since I travelled he still continues such and when he is out he would not take my calls, my messages wont get delivered then he gets home about midnight( I know cos immediately he steps in he gets the mesages). The next day we would have issue cos obviously I was pissed my this.
Last night he did samething, we last spoke when he was at work, he responded to my messages this morning at work then he called me ( I.e he slept out). I was calm cos I didnt want to talk or react in a bad way. I asked why he didnt take my calls, oga claimed he didnt see the calls, I asked why he didnt receive my chat either and he said wifi in the house stopped working, the usual none challant respond and the obvious lie got me pissed and I told him I had to get to what I was doing and I would talk to him later. He kept insisting on the lie. I angrily said oga park well, I know what is going on and that I wasnt stupid. He ended the call, after a few minutes I was calm and thought I should call back but since then he has refused taking my calls.

You don't need anyone to tell you that your Oga has something to hide.
How could a person ask his own wife to stay back!
Do you have the key to your apartment?
Travel home, tell your hubby once you are on the way, on your arrival, get a hotel room first, then go straight home.
You are not a child.
Stop this childishness!
Don't do this if you depend on him financially!