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Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. Simple.

I sight you Bukatyne

Well, the biological reproductive clock runs for both genders.
Google it before quoting me abeg

BlissB:
Live in relatives eh, I nor get strength to day fight or get grudge against person so no one will live with me..
She is 20, nor be small pikin, after talking to hubby about it, caution her calmly, it's either you are preparing food for the whole house or she is.... food nor go day then she go still carry her body go prepare again and to even make matters worse, same food you prepared....
The meat part day vex me
Some people just know how to insult person without speaking out. All these daughters of Jezebel when they go day send come person house con day cause havoc nor go put person for trouble

As in ehn, na wa

ismoney:
Thinking if there are ways to make someone not to cheat on you because of your truthfulness in other to meet up with your destiny demands.

A cheat will always be a cheat. Stop trying to change people. And if you're the cheating type, don't expect a faithful partner.

Queenttoast01:
Hmm, your advice is good but can't adopt

No one is forcing you

Queenttoast01:
Yes please

If your parents are in your state, travel to visit them and relay your dream. This would serve as a short separation. Tell them you are scared to go back just yet.

Queenttoast01:
, and when I said blood of Jesus he stopped, that was when I was able to scream

Hmm

Divine89:
Hello everybody I am Nigerian based in France my English it is not 100% perfect but I will try to make it possible for you to understand me with the help of google french to English translator and my story is also long sorry for that. When I was 9 years old I joined my uncle my mum younger brother in France he declared me as his daughters , during that time he only had one child 2 years old , he and the wife were so loving to me I never lacked anything in their house but when I turn 12 i went to secondary school I met some bad friends their this is where the problem started , I become a very difficult child I will go to school come home late , my uncle will beat and beat me but I never listen I smoke my first cigarette at 12 and had my first sex at 13 and I started running away from home to stay with boyfriends sometime I can go for a weeks and when uncle report me missing, the police will be looking for me then they will bring me back home then at 14 I went to school and lied to my teacher that my uncle was abusing me I told them he was beating me with belts , electric wire , they don’t give me foods and I really said a lot of bad things about them doing to me to make my teacher believe my story so they could take me away from them because I wanted freedom and my teacher believed me and reported to the police and child protection they are people who take away abused children from their parents they took custody of me and my uncle three children the youngest was 6 months old to their care and they gave us to this white lady to care for us and my uncle and wife were arrested for child abuse and the police were doing some investigation. after spending 1yr 9months in care of the white lady I dropped out school they found out that I was a difficult child that I lied to get freedom so they have decided to give my uncle his children back to him while I stayed in care of white people but my uncle had sworn because I made him lost his children for 1yr 9 months that I will never found happiness in my life and I will never enjoy the fruit of my labour which it is true as I am typing this I have given birth to 6 children by 6 men and none of the children are living with me , the first one was taken away from me at 2 months old because I beat her up and fractured her hands and I also tested positive for heroinn(drugs), so that did not stop me from giving birth second child was removed from my care 4 hours after birth she also tested positive for heroin the same way my other children were removed at birth too so I carry on with my lifestyles I did not care about my children at that time all I care about was sex, alcohol and drugs this is what I wanted and I have been to prison several times for selling drugs and fraudsters , the longest I have spend in prison was 2 years then after i left prison , I met with this sister who introduced me to this church she attended so I went along with her, the pastor told me to confess my sin to him and promised it will be a secrets between I, him and God which I did repented and accepted Jesus as my saviour to be honest my life did changed a lot I fell the peace in my heart , enjoyed going to church every Sunday but this pastor went tell his wife my life story and the wife told everyone in church my life story and started using it against me so it made me so angry that I left the church in November 2017 without looking back , I have decided not to attend any church again , I have stopped alcohol, taking drugs and sleeping with men I no longer does it , I prayed at home , read my bible and behaving good and it's almost 2 years I havnt slept with a man and i went to look for my uncle asking him for forgiveness but he has refuse and I send him many text messages begging him to forgive and I still no heard anything from him or the wife even their children I have tried to ask them forgiveness they have blocked me and they all want nothing to do with me even my own parents and siblings in Africa they have rejected me none of them want to talk to me , my parents said i am dead to them, it is so painful I cry everyday in my prayers, as for my children 4 of them are adopted with new family I can't see them again maybe until they are 18 years old If they want to know me if they don't want I will have no choice to accept it and my 2 youngest children i am only allowed to see them once a year in a children play centre with someone supervise because they don't let me to be alone with them and soon I will stop visiting them because they are planning to adopt them to a new family too that will mean I will have nobody on this earth , I regrets my mistake so bad I wish I could changed it but it will no be impossible , I can't have more children because they will be removed from me like the others and I am only 31years old . I don't know if my repentance was genius because my family has refused to forgive me and my question goes like this if they never forgive me will I ever found happiness again or I will just have to accept it until I died ? Please advise me in a Christian way maybe if there's more I can do and also prayed for me so my family will be able to forgive me and also pray for my two children that nobody will adopt them so I can get custody of them and i promised to be a good mother to the please I am begging you in the name of God.

Lies

If you're being strangled, you can't scream

Modesthy:
Nobody forces anybody on a woman in my place. The advice I need is just based on conscience because I use to see the woman as somehow a mother and my uncle as a father. And moreso I'm a Christian. These were the reason I objected. But she keep telling me that I should think about her condition of having only one child.

For a woman whom you see as a mom to make this kind of request of you means she has given it a lot of thought. Chances are, she might have consulted one or two elders discretely.

Everyone is just making mistakes on this thread

arthorjnr:
Why do you bother with them?
Let them live by their principles. I hope they stay happy, single and alone with only sex to comfort them at 60.
Maybe then, those hormones that are driving them now, when they've been depleted because of age, they'll seek companionship.
Don't worry, they'll meet a lot of old happy singles in the old people home.

We don't run old people's home in Nigeria presently, maybe one or two but I haven't heard of it.

Rajix20:
I’ve got the money, I’ve got the swag and mentality. But they just leave for me complaining about what I don’t like. And all you could think is that I’m matured

So, she should ask you before thinking, your money, swag and mentality, are clouding your eyes. Better learn

Godlovesyou28:
I am not super rich but comfortable and can handle legal fees. Marriage is not an option for me because I made up my mind as a child that I will never marry. I don't want to digress from the point, I just want to say that I don't need any open arms except my real mothers own and can handle the financial burden. I am already an alien in my family so no sweat.

Since your Dad hates the spotlight seeing as he asked you not to put his name on your death note. Pay for a page on a popular newspaper, display his information and picture, display your baby pics, and your info too, include dates, and locations, ask the woman who married him and had a child with him to come forward. Be as emotional as possible. Some of her relatives or friends might help you out. Pay for subsequent publications you can afford. Your Dad will forgive you at last.

Godlovesyou28:
I don't know what the story is; and I clearly do not care how I came... Am here now, and need to know who my mother is.
But for the record, the relative told me that my father paid my real mother's dowry when he Briefly separated from my step mum but returned it afterward after sending her out to bring my step mum back. I do not care what the history is; I just want to know my real mum.

Try to find out the people present at the ceremony, ask the relative who opened up to you to refer you to someone who can talk, do you mean there is no one in your family who can stand up to your Dad. If you continue to keep quiet, you won't find out the truth which is convenient for both your Dad and step mom.

Mindlog:
Some of the reasons are low self-esteem, low self-worth and the thought that they can't earn to take care of self and the children. Socialization has also played a role in some women believing that there is heroism in enduring abusive marriage, many grew up seeing their own mothers hanging on to abusive marriages and most times still got to "outlive" their abusive fathers. "So if my mother survived my father, I can also survive my abusive husband". These women become depersonalized in order to "cope" with the Intimate Partner Violence (IPV)

Any woman who hangs on to an abusive marriage with the excuse that she is still there because of her children is living in self-denial as she is using the children as a cover up for her fear of leaving "the comfort zone".

A dysfunctional family is a fertile ground to raise children who would have a higher chance of growing up into damaged adults and the sad circle continues.

A broken home is not only where one of the parent is no longer in the daily life of the spouse and the child(ren) between them but also where both parents are under the same roof but toxic is the atmosphere in the home.

Exactly

Kaien:
I don't see how my old moniker is of concern to you, just post your opinion and leave.

Is it up to that?

Ayemileto:
You people should try and read the story before commenting na.

According to the story, his family took him to a hospital in Abuja, where he was receiving care.

It was at the hospital that he met the said lady, and eloped with her to Lagos.

How was the woman able to leave the hospital with him, if his family were around, this wouldn't have happened. A lot of Nigerian families and siblings only care about what they can get from you, when trouble comes, they abscond, they are uncomfortable with sickness or mental health issues. They probably took him to the hospital and left him there.

When she cannot take care of her own brother

paulolee:
good...this man is one of the producers dts doing a good work in nollywood...love his movie from the production to the interpretation of roles and most especially his story lines are always on point and i do endup learning from his flicks...remember when me n ma parents watched "the storm" a movie abt a troubled family dt was in total shambles from d drunk n cheating parents to the wayward children" i guess dt was almost 6 or 7 yrs bk...we watched dt movie together and we learned alot as a family...dad was being accused of aving anoda lady outside n ma mum learned how to curtail him and leave d rest to the lord tru prayers after weeks of shouting and challenging him...mum jus changed and started being extra caring n praying all nites and one day dad took mum out n confessed and also deleted n block d lady causing problems n said he felt too guilty ever since mum changed n hearing her prayers each nites keeps givin him nightmares n dt was how we wr blessed by this man's evangelical movie...thanks sir.

Glory to God. Awesome testimony. Affliction shall not rise again in Jesus name.

TheArchangel:
1 month dating and you are already on call duty as a chef.

Free chef

GBOKASINCHA:
most Nigerian girls have toilet infection and they hardly treat theirselves.....they can carry gonorrhea for 10 years without treating it compare to the male counterpart

Your opinion is not accurate, you just want to hate on girls dontcha

Mordson:
Slay queen with kror kror on her pussy.

All these slay things na STDs full them body.

Where did they get STD from?
Do people have intercourse alone?

Continue playing with your children's appendixes.

Obingene:
Listen to yourself, if they say people who are ready for marriage should come out, you too would also come out.

Just keep dating, that's what fits you, don't try marriage at all.

Ahn ahn

Climatology100:
JOHNNYSPUTE and saintmary, you guys are so wonderful as I respect you both, please let's shield the sword.
JOHNNYSPUTE, you're a real G bro, thanks.
saintmary, I understood your perspective sis, thanks as well.

Now, I'll tell you what I would have told someone close to me
Keep in touch for now, she is already married, so, unless you want to marry her and be a father figure to your child, don't rock the boat yet.
Make your own family with someone else.
Once she has had other children for her husband, start persuading her to come clean.
Everyone will be alright with careful planning.
Be ready to make all necessary amends with her husband once the truth comes out.
If she wants to come back to you, that's a whole different ballgame, please don't be rash unless you are ready to provide a landing net for her.
P. S. I hate what she did, pinning a baby on someone else. I would never have done that.

Climatology100:
The first pregnancy came at the down I was down, I was having problems in school as I was about to be rusticated for leading a revolt and I'm having a bad time with my mum so the pregnancy news just caged me and I was powerless.
Thanks for your input, God bless.

This point makes your story achingly familiar, now that I'm reading this, gosh.
Goosebumps....

JONNYSPUTE:
Most of you ladies are evil. So is it fair for an innocent man to be training another man's child thinking she is his?. Be honest and objective here?

The main purpose of this thread is about this guy who wants his daughter back, as for the issue of paternity fraud, its between the woman, her husband and their families. As for the evil in your eyes....

LilMissFavvy:
Why are people telling this man to go get his child? You all want him to ruin the girls marriage? Oga stay away from that lady's marriage, you did not want her as a wife, you were busy rocking gals in camp and school. She will definitely confess her crime to her husband when the time comes, let her do it willingly, carry your badluck and leave her alone. What if the lady had taken morning after pills to get rid of fertilization, would there be any baby to look out for today? Mind your business and keep off that woman whom you frustrated emotionally, if you need children, go and marry.

He wants to have his cake and eat it

A man who can break down the bathroom door for his phone will probably break your face or even your skull one day. Use your head.