₦airaland Forum

LilMissFavvy:
I may not understand all the mix up and bla bla bla, but as soon as I read the story, I just knew it will have something to do with Nigeria. Either the pastor is a Nigerian or the late woman was a Nigerian.

What my female folks would advise anyone to do is to forgive. Forgiveness in this case has led to death
Let's use practical wisdom.

SyrusdeHansome:
Cohabiting for good 22 yrs shows that both of them are irresponsible nd how shameless some women of now adays are. To her the only way to offset her debts is thro sleeping with other men. May God deliver us frm this kinda women

That's not the actual reason for her actions. It's an excuse considering the fact that she has been doing it for over half a decade.

IyaebeTheGreat:
What happens to forgiveness, what did Jesus say about forgiveness. This pastor is a case of " practice what I preach but not what I do"

You are a wicked person. And you misinterprete the bible which gives room for divorce as a result of adultery. As the man decided not to forgive, he is free considering the fact that he has approached the court 6 years earlier for the same reason. The man had suffered for too long.

Jennyclay:
The most funny thing about this Hakimi saga is that broke, poor and wretched men that don't even have single property are the ones putting this matter on their head like gele . #1 they don't have, they can't even send common 5k to their girlfriend/wife to buy common body cream.

Shame!! Shame!! Shame!!!!!!

Why would any sane man send you such amount to buy body cream? Women and entitlement mentality!

edwardaigb:
Sorry about that, God thank you for giving me the grace to overcome landlord's wahala. I moved into my personal house last week, everybody join me and my family to glorify God for his mercies.

Congratulations. A step 🪜 in the right 👍 direction.

akintayoo:
The problem isn't with the car manufacturers but the people driving these cars. Judging from the picture, the car was obviously on a very high speed.

Another thing people should also know is that majority of the cars on nigeria roads are accidents cars. Nah just panel beater and plenty body fillers dey hold am together.

Likely above 120km per hour, this is avoidable.

Ezemarcel:
Ewoo....speed kills

That's serious speed. People need to slow down in life sometimes. No rushing.

wunmi590:
Good morning nairalander,

I've been cash starved for weeks, I only borrow cash from friends or ask some of my former bank colleagues to help me withdraw 10k, but I still discovered that those cash get finished in no time..

So today i was only having N500 with me, so i decided to enter into the bank and not stay on ATM queue, luckily I found my way into the banking hall, with alot of crowd.

I sha jejely withdraw 10k, with N100 mint

As I'm now, I have collected bodyguards to follow me everywhere I go

That's not a bundle but a packet. Modify your topic.

popcykaylah:
What do you have to bring to the table ? Dont be a liability

Nothing, no love, no money, even the sex, thousands or millions of other ladies Sabi am pass her.

Jennyclay:
Money
Sex
Love

Personally, if a man can not satisfy me with these 3 things I listed, I will just leave the relationship/marriage

That's why you are still single. No man on earth can give those three things above.

His money before have always go into gambling.
I have tried several time to save some with me, but he didn't. By now, we would have been on the street begging and suffering if not the fact that I have been hard working on my little business. Put money in my business let it grow, he will not. Come to church and be worshipping so God can help, he will say he's not in the mood. Now, he has nothing and he's not planning on other things.

Many women do same you wrote their and apart from gambling and their husbands love them that way. Don't make a rash decision. If things turn out better for your husband tomorrow, you may be happy for staying with him. Work with him to grow and not against him. In all, the decision is yours to make, but understand that being a single parent is worse than having a jobless husband. You may end up not taking care of the children you have if you leave.

Siwisheswereesh:
I didn't see Emefiele o

The second man is not who they say he is and it's on front page

HellVictorinho7:
spits

No comments.

GBTYO:
Fool , just this month past , the bank has raked over 10k from me just by using their app to transfer funds for payments for virtually everything.

They want to be the unwanted middle men in every transaction .

Why can't you fools see that this only benefits the banks and no one else.

It benefits you. If you pay 10k for transfer fee. How much would you lost if 500k was stolen from you?

Delphi:
He said the truth. The problem we have now about this bank notes redesign is the Bank CEOs/Managers/Heads. They (mis)appropriate the money sent to them to top politicians while leaving the masses with meagre left-overs. This is where DSS have a lot of work to do. They should meet with the banks and demand transcript of cash receipts from CBN and breakdown of how the disbursals were made via ATM. That's the way to go.

*For those quoting this write-up* (Just an enlightenment)

CBN mopping trillion of cash is inconsequential in this instance because most of the mopped currencies are never in circulation but stacked away by individuals (for inordinate reasons).. They only brought them to bank as not to loose their money.
Let commercial banks religiously release/disburse the N30Million being given to EVERY BANK BRANCH DAILY by the CBN and see if this chaos will not stop.
Most people talk on the side of ignorance/being less-informed. It is (hidden) knowledge that some "persons" intercept greater part of the 30Million released to some of the commercial banks in the states.

Bank branches that I know don't get that value in a month.

God1000:
Why the hasty move by the school when the CBN deadline is still far away

Maybe they are just being circumspect

There's no haste here. They are right. I taught in a school in 2009. No cash payment. So, I'm surprised that they are even asking for cash.

Fahvvy:
This lady is just overreacting ...

Calm down and let the boy tell you the kind of job that he's doing before you start jumping into conclusions! ...

Questioning the source of his wealth is wonderful, but atleast give him a chance to explain ...

No be every internet business be yahoo ...

How much is the jeep. Maybe above 8m. Someone that can give that to his mum, likely has more than 3 times that value. Why there are jobs on the internet what is the likelihood that the guy could get above like 25m from working online? She's also worried he has not helped her financially at home so she's not looking good. She has a valid reason to reject that car. Someone giving such a gift must have worked on the house, furniture before that.

Otitipupa:
She has been staying with us for over a month now. I don’t even know how they met each other, he just brought her one day and introduced her as his girlfriend.

I have tried to tell him it’s wrong being with an underaged girl but he told me to mind my business. I can’t say much to him because I don’t have a job and I’m squatting with him. He is the one feeding me and giving me money to go for interviews.

He is treating the girl really bad. I sleep on the floor while they sleep on the bed. One night, he wanted to have his way with her and the girl said she was tired. I heard him tell her that she is not a real woman that is always ready to please her man. He threatened her he won’t marry her again. She told him she is sorry and allowed him.

He has slapped her 2 times in my presence. He is treating her like a slave. I am afraid to advice the girl to go back home as she might tell him.

The guy is a notorious cultist and I don’t want to step on his toes. Please how do I report this matter anonymously to the right authorities without it backfiring me.

We stay in a akwaibom

Leave that house this night.

MsJackson:
She always tells me: mum when are we going to her house to beat her up?�

Do your part, otherwise you would regret it. Don't fail your small daughter. Report to the elders now.

MsJackson:
Good morning house. I need your opinion on this issue.

Around May last year, my husband and I went with my 4 year old daughter to visit my sister in-law (hubby's elder sister). They insisted they wanted her to stay some days with them, that I should return for her in two or three days time.

After much persuasion from my oga, I left her. But my heart wasn't settled because I've never stayed away from her for that long.
I just noticed that when we called her on video call the very next morning, she looked and sounded depressed, telling us to come take her home. I just thought she was missing me.

I returned the next three days to pick her up. It was even the oldest cousin, a 15 year old girl, who was actually very fond of my daughter that helped me carry her on her back and saw us off to the bustop.

Two or 3 months later, at the end of a Bible study I had with her, my baby said she wanted to tell me something. Hubby was lying on the couch. My baby said the period I took her to that house, the 15 year old girl was always sucking her vagina. My brain shut down immediately. Her dad jumped from the couch and told her to repeat what she just said. She did. She also said that the girl usually holds her mouth close during the act, and that she beats the girl on the head to stop what she was doing, but the girl refused and beat my daughter back.

I broke down. Hubby had never become so mad at his family to the extent of turning his back on them, to the extent of shutting his dad up, but he did all these because his only child was involved.

The family, they all said my daughter was lying. My question is: can a four year old lie about such? The nature of this supposed lie. I don't think so. But all the family members said my daughter lied. And even the girl denied it.
They are totally refusing to address this. They even after some weeks have codedly believe such happened and have called my husband to beg, hubby said so, I don't know if it's true or not. But me the wife, NOBODY, I REPEAT, NOBODY CALLED ME. Like I am nothing in their eyes. Not even the evil mother that insisted my daughter spent some days with them. It's not like if they called me to apologize it would change the past, no, but I might have some tiny relief.

My daughter talks about that experience till date. Even up till yesterday. I am beyond heartbroken. I can't forgive.

The family all turned their face away. Nobody cared to address it, even his parents. I'm thinking of going to their church to expose her because I hear the 15 year old girl is getting baptized next week. Hubby told me to forget about it, his brother told me not to try it. But anytime my daughter remembers this incident and brings it up, I become very disturbed. I don't know what to do.

Please advise me.

Talk to your husband and report. Then you have fulfilled all righteousness. Of they denied it in JC, it's on record that you reported.

MsJackson:
Good morning house. I need your opinion on this issue.

Around May last year, my husband and I went with my 4 year old daughter to visit my sister in-law (hubby's elder sister). They insisted they wanted her to stay some days with them, that I should return for her in two or three days time.

After much persuasion from my oga, I left her. But my heart wasn't settled because I've never stayed away from her for that long.
I just noticed that when we called her on video call the very next morning, she looked and sounded depressed, telling us to come take her home. I just thought she was missing me.

I returned the next three days to pick her up. It was even the oldest cousin, a 15 year old girl, who was actually very fond of my daughter that helped me carry her on her back and saw us off to the bustop.

Two or 3 months later, at the end of a Bible study I had with her, my baby said she wanted to tell me something. Hubby was lying on the couch. My baby said the period I took her to that house, the 15 year old girl was always sucking her vagina. My brain shut down immediately. Her dad jumped from the couch and told her to repeat what she just said. She did. She also said that the girl usually holds her mouth close during the act, and that she beats the girl on the head to stop what she was doing, but the girl refused and beat my daughter back.

I broke down. Hubby had never become so mad at his family to the extent of turning his back on them, to the extent of shutting his dad up, but he did all these because his only child was involved.

The family, they all said my daughter was lying. My question is: can a four year old lie about such? The nature of this supposed lie. I don't think so. But all the family members said my daughter lied. And even the girl denied it.
They are totally refusing to address this. They even after some weeks have codedly believe such happened and have called my husband to beg, hubby said so, I don't know if it's true or not. But me the wife, NOBODY, I REPEAT, NOBODY CALLED ME. Like I am nothing in their eyes. Not even the evil mother that insisted my daughter spent some days with them. It's not like if they called me to apologize it would change the past, no, but I might have some tiny relief.

My daughter talks about that experience till date. Even up till yesterday. I am beyond heartbroken. I can't forgive.

The family all turned their face away. Nobody cared to address it, even his parents. I'm thinking of going to their church to expose her because I hear the 15 year old girl is getting baptized next week. Hubby told me to forget about it, his brother told me not to try it. But anytime my daughter remembers this incident and brings it up, I become very disturbed. I don't know what to do.

Please advise me.

Report it to their congregation elders and leave matters to Jehovah to handle. Always pray about the issue. A young girl or boy of that age cannot lie repeatedly. It actually happened.

jasent:
Nigerians don't like going to court. If any of the app foolishly do this to my relatives then do buy market be that.

People that can take people to court don't take loans. The money you'll spend on the court case may be more than the loan.

iHart:
The way they portray lagos, it may not be good to some people's mental health

For a normal person, it's not good. For someone who doesn't mind being mental although he may be a billionaire , Lagos is ok

Kobojunkie:
I am not the one who offered the argument that one sad single woman, therefore, meant all single women over 40 are sad... you are instead the one here who offered up that bullsheet here.

Please let us rest. A woman in her sixties that came from UK was interested in my dad then. She is late now. Women need company of the opposite sex to call a husband. And that's when they feel secured. No woman loves to be alone. Even the single once look for someone even lower than them to keep them company.

worldclass68:
I usually think the way u think before, until I met one woman like that...in her 40+ never been married and no kid, she has money and good work but walai she's not happy, it's so obvious hen.
I mistakenly called her aunty...... and she broke down...I was speechless all through, I just had to escape that scene...i no sabi beg or pet people to stop crying...it really got me that day.

Don't mind people. When in school, I usually visit ladies and when they cook, they are happy to share their meals with someone else as they would eat more than when alone. Bottom line, every one needs companionship of the opposite sex. But ladies need that more.

G00DHardDick:
The moment they realized they're now turning into evening newspaper, they'll suddenly need a man to pin down with marriage.

We have said it countless times here that men gains absolutely nothing from marriage. A woman gains so much from marriage hence they cannot do without it. They see it as their greatest life achievement.

CC: Biglittlelois I was told you've been arguing blindly with intelligent men on this forum as regards marriage, come and advice your gender to avoid us, tell her we don't want her liability

Men gain from marriage, especially if their are children involved.

pocohantas:
Nawa. UK done really suffer for our hand.
Analysis and criticisms ear and dear.




But Africans talk too loudly sha. Especially Nigerians. You won’t know because you are used to it. It gives me sleepless nights too.

Lol

Justbehave:
So after fucking her he wants to pay her 1k? Your friend and the girl na same same

Some people take risks with their life. Arguing with a girl he doesn't know over 5k after sleeping with her. He doesn't like himself.

Naijaisshitho:
Women look down at me all the time. I've never successfully dated a girl before. I usually beg my way in to see without success . However, this afternoon, this girl I've been on her case pretty much belittled me and I've been unhappy since. I just need to rant here. Below is our chat.

Note : I've sent her more than #200k within two months of knowing her.

In this economy, it makes no sense to give your girlfriend or wife 200k in two months except it's for items she bought in your house. Not to talk of a girl that has not gone beyond limit for you. If you ask me, you don't deserve money, because you ought to spend and eat that money or save for the future, not to give a random girl that has no past, present or future with you.

ramaju:
Your type won't help a fellow man but i will advise you anyway. Get into body building and over time you will love yourself if you can FOCUS and be DETERMINED.

This man doesn't need body building. He needs to add weight. How can a 32 year old man weigh 35kg. He's like a living dead. The average 32 year old should be like 60plus kg and 32 year old woman should be 50 plus.

emorse:
Money wey you for use chop up.

Don't mind the guy. If he is 32 with weight of 35, he should have used the 200k to see a doctor. He is seriously sick and no woman would be interested in that. I expect a 32 year old man to have 60 plus weight. A woman can be 50 plus.