₦airaland Forum

Jewessgratitud3:
I came across a post where some men where expressing disappoinment over the high rate of indecent dressing among our girls and thought to make a counter post to let the men understand why it is so and how they are not unconnected to it.

Now, you Men come here to complain about indecent dressing of most ladies meanwhile you're the reason this things are so.

90% of the time, You men are naturally and easily attracted to this indecent girls. I've seen it happen a lot of times. If a decently dressed lady and the slutty ones are placed side by side for you men to make a pick , the tendency to pick the decent girls will be low compared to how you would rush after their slutty counterparts and it is this single act that has driven more girls and even the once decent and innocent girls into dressing slutty just to be seen by men.

In another scenario, a girl will be minding her business and you men will come and start flashing cash before her to lure her into sleeping with you even when your intentions are not pure. Like you don't plan to marry her. It will take extra discipline and grace of God for any young girl to reject such offer and when she gets used to getting this free cash and starts demanding or giving her body to the highest bidder, the same you men will start complaining again. Why are you men now complaining now that they are giving you what you want? Abi na me dem dey dress like that for?

Some men will even tell you they need a Christian sister with a touch of Ashawo vibes. I mean.... these girls see and hear these things and the chicken brain among them who don't want to be left out will begin to conform to such lifestyle.
Others will tell their wife's to dress decently but will go and be running after the slutty ones outside. This is the reason you can hardly tell a married woman apart these days because of the way they too have started dressing slutty just to keep their untamed husband. You men had better dropped this double standard mentality because the woman are no longer having it. What is sauce for the goose is good for the gander.

After this carefully expressed thoughts/ points of mine, it is safe to say that you Men are the cause of high moral decadence in the society cos you're the ones promoting it by your actions.

Good point but poor supporting reasons

adaperry25:
Is it a Nigerian thing or something? Met 2 ladies already and its same old stuff.

I initiate all chats and calls. If I don't call..no communication..if I don't chat..no communication.

While chatting..you have to ask all the questions and bring up gists.

They can't call u randomly to ask after you.

I don tire o

Trying foreign ladies might not be a bad idea.

No dey fear. It's not so easy opening up to strangers actually unless there is a strong spark.


Also their age ranges and current expectations are a factor. Ladies often feel they have time, so let's say 50 ladies have access to 50 guys and you rank overall as top 6-10, most ladies (40/50) will believe they deserve and will be with the guy's that are top 1-5 even when those they may deserve in reality fall at 40-50.

Only the remaining 5-10 ladies will have the maturity to accept a 6-10 like you even when they truly deserve 1-5. These kind of ladies can even step down to levels 30-40 of those guys without flinching.


Unfortunately, they are very rare.

JASONjnr:
Nope, when a woman behaves this way, she's either in a relationship or she doesn't just like you or she doesn't know you.

If you want this to change, meet her physically on a date and if you spoil her well... She might want to have a rethink about how she relates to you.

Lol..... Spoil her well 😜😜😜😜


When money finish you begin beg for attention again. Well done sir 😁😁😁

Ezeeboiy:
Hello! I will go straight to the point

I am a mason (labourer) there's this engineer that hired us to work in his site outside the city where I live far away from my state of residence in the North East we spent 1 month and 5days working at the site we agreed that he will be given us daily feeding allowance but our remuneration will be paid after the completion of the project.

So after the completion of the project we calculated that I have 115k for the period I spent working . Now it has been 5days since we finished the project but yet to pay me I have families that depend on me and he now want me to go home empty handed after this long since I left my family. I have been asking him but now he doesn't even take my call. please how can I handle this issue?

Do you have access to the person/company that employed him. Go and complain to them. If he's money is remaining with them they can withhold until he pays you or pay you from his balance if you provide sufficient evidence.

Emma513:
WHAT SKILLS CAN I LEARN ?

This is a very difficult question to answer. Depends on you. Are you in school or graduated already. Pick one (a skill) whereby you have access to resources. If possible try and get a mentor that will be willing to guide.... Emphasis on the willingness to guide you.

It's hard to advise because you might be tech savvy or you have gifted hands, etc. Note that things you have interest in and enjoy can actually be difficult for you, and things that you find easy to do might not be so enjoyable.


It's not exactly about finding your passion,, but being passionate about all that you do.

Stephen2324:
Age 25+..what advice would you give someone age 18-24?

Even though Nigeria's economy might grow in the near future, learn a skill dedicate time to be good at it. Don't rely on probability.


This your question is quiet general. Can you narrow it down for better advise or you are okay with what you've been getting so far?

cococandy:
Would you require her consent before traveling yourself? If not, rest the matter

Travelling 600km impromptu is not something that's an afterthought or that you might forget to bring up

Wifeoflgbo:
I was previously heavier at 90kilograms but I didn't look very big. He told me at the time that he liked it. And that he liked my body.

But recently I have lost weight. He told me I have done okay but to not gain anymore weight. But to lose more if I can. Even though I am feeling sick from lack of food. My medication is what keeps myle chubby. So I have to eat very little just to lose weight.

I said "I thought you told me you liked my fatter body?" He told me "I was just trying to be nice. I'm not a mean person. But I didn't like your old body. But this one it bust my head!" I felt really upset by this. So I asked him if he was still attracted to me back then and he said "yes" and I asked if he would leave me if I gained more weight. And he said he would never leave me if I'm skinny or fat. I asked him again why he said he didn't like my old body, and he told me he "never said that" 🙄🙄🤦 after he got super excited about my new body for another 20mins, he told me to stop bringing it up and that he needed to get some rest.

So I let it go. But part of me still feels hurt. Feels self conscious.

My husband is igbo and lives in Owerri and I am a white westerner. So maybe I am misunderstanding or the cultures are clashing here?

Better husband done tire you or you don't think he has your best interest at heart?


If he finds you more attractive now is it a crime or a bonus?

Agbadocassava:
Dis stone plenty for my backyard in Osun

Smile4mee01:
I have been abroad for a while now and i am curious to know why some of our ladies decline dating or marrying fellow Nigerians in the diaspora. I have tried to date a few any they are often quick to assume i am after them for their papers while i just prefer my own, someone who understands my culture and where i have come from. Even when i try to date the ones that don't have paper, regular work visa holders like me. They seem to want to be with the guys that have papers.

Also, when i am old, i would like to return to Nigeria. Marrying outside would make that transition very difficult.

I study other races, Immigrant groups from India and Asia. they work together well, and don't have these difficulty.

Should i give up on being with a Nigerian or keep trying ?

Regards.

They feel they deserve better sometimes. It's complex but I believe you understand this to an extent as I'm too tired to explain right now.




Some Nigerian guys treat them poorly because they expect them to be desperate seeing that they naturally have a smaller pool of guys that are interested in dating them.

SAMBARRY:
msheewww just rest

Your comment was quite vague. I had no idea what you were getting at?

beekind:
I am the 2nd born out of 2 children, my elder brother has been married for some time with no kids as a result I am super careful with issues relating to fertility.
I am in my late 30s and have been dating a 27 year old lady for 4 months now, the relationship moved so fast as she is a perfect match for me .
I have met her family and she has met mine, we are already planning marriage and have started counselling sessions in her church.

She complained of irregular periods so I told her to do a hormonal profile test and see a gynecologist, turns out she has got PCOS.

I have done my own fertility test and I am fine, I am at a cross road now, I cannot afford to struggle with child birth considering my age and also my only other sibling still also having issues with the wife also still trying to get pregnant after many years.

The only other option would have been to ask her to try for pregnancy before marriage but she is a virgin and wants to keep it that way till wedding, besides if I disvirgin her, how will I be able to walk away incase she doesn't get pregnant ?

I am at crossroads now, its not too late but walking away at this point will be very costly for me since we have already started plans towards the wedding and our families are already in touch.

My heart is heavy and I am confused, I need good advise as I cannot discuss this with anyone.

What did the doctor counsel you guys?

I thought they had treatments she could start up immediately. No go marry woman without PCOS wey done damage her womb oh.

Some women even arrange with doctors to share fake results.

SAMBARRY:
ok so she married herself or e no get who she married?

You are losing your own point sir

Newsmic:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7u_UMndJdkA



Credit: Dr Bush

Chai....and I get dirty clothes plenty


😭😭😭

SAMBARRY:
ok so as both of them are disgracing themselves on social media, what will that achieve?

Ask the woman. Bible says a foolish woman will tear down her home using her very mouth.

Are you seeing a connection??

SAMBARRY:
it's ok to the Doing boy boy for Davido,no problem.at least that's what pays his bills but there is nothing wrong in having a side buisness so girl actually has a point because seasons change in marriage and when seasons change they can stay afloat.

The only thing I see Disturbing Israel is ego, lousiness and lack of wisdom and maturity as a man

Let her go and enjoy her side hustle now.

Seems you haven't heard stories of people who ventured into side hustles that failed in everything.

The lousy one who lacks wisdom is the logistics coordinator for one of the biggest artists in Africa who does shows that "often" rake in over a 100million naira.

Go figure and let that sink in.

Pepperdemisback:
She asked him to have a side income, Asa Ashika has 2 different businesses but still with Davido.
He can beg for money to buy perfume but not to open business.
If Davido parts with him today, where will he start from if he doesn't have a side income? Does Davido not have side incomes? Does Portable not run a bar?

Only a fool will look down on someone who earns more than 90% of Nigerians. How many people earning side income are richer than the affected person?


Is it all rich people that has side income?


I'm not saying he shouldn't have side income but let's think critically before condemning people. You want him to lose a good source of income because he wants to chase side income prematurely or what? There are better ways she could have handled the matter rather than shaming her man.

Tallesty1:
This guy is well known for telling stories, stories that happened only in his imagination

He tells stories of other people sent to him. I don't know if he verifies them though but he asks people to send him their stories for him to share.

emkz:
https://punchng.com/emefiele-pumped-n10tn-into-economy-through-quasi-fiscal-activities-cardoso/?amp

It looks like a simple theft we were just too ignorant to see. He banned importers of certain items from getting forex directly from CBN, meaning they had to get it from the parallel market. If I know you have no other options, I can easily charge you more. I know there are other factors though.



Not to forget that he brokered deals to give some people like dangote forex slightly below official rate, meaning he could have done other things to reverse our forex challenges, even of they were to fail.



Emefiele and his cabal really pulled this one off and would be filthy rich billionaires forever.

dre11:
https://dailytrust.com/how-gandujes-govt-employed-jss-students-into-civil-service-kano-ssg/

But they didn't persecute or jail anybody.

SPAMBOX7:
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That guy is demonic

See flexing..... Except you are a farmer of course

Sauter:
https://blackinsync.com/cera-3/family-1561051826/forum/topic/10-important-reasons-for-getting-a-dna-test/

What's the cost? What locations can the test be accessed?

envoymedia:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZkwnZo2uymE

Canada Looks Like Isolation Camp - Nigerian Man Laments After Relocating To Canada (Video)

Leave the Canada for refugees and return now.....

Racoon:
https://tribuneonlineng.com/10-key-facts-about-diabetes-you-should-know/?utm_term=Autofeed&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Twitter#Echobox=1700041789

Tour fact number seven is wrong. Sugar and frequent eating are some of the major reasons for diabetics.


The food and pharmacitical giants keep scamming us for profits.

Goodmorning20:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/ogun-student-arrested-for-poisoning-girlfriend/%3famp




https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/ogun-varsity-clears-student-accused-of-poisoning-girlfriend/%3famp

I keep telling people and even the bible buttresses this.

If you haven't been involved in certain types of evil engagements before, no matter how tempting it is, continue your best to abstain from it.

Welovetruecrime:
https://lawandcrime.com/crime/its-barbaric-reward-offered-after-beheaded-chickens-dove-and-rooster-found-in-cemeteries-as-part-of-ritualistic-sacrifice/

And here our police and leaders are doing almost nothing about ritual killings and organ harvesting of humans

lexylaw40:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/nairametrics.com/2023/11/15/nigeria-to-import-2-1-million-metric-tons-of-rice-become-top-buyer-globally-in-2024-usda/%3famp=1

This means our production is still very poor.

Bobloco:
You are right bro

But there is need to put this distinction so that we don't mix it up

NLC/TUC categorically mentioned Nation wide strike action

You are just giving the guy what he wants..... Reaction