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Racoon:
It is so unfortunate the poor lady may have died from mental fatigue given that she just finished her exams but all these senseless statements by the university authority are uncalled for @ present.RIP girl!

Mental fatigue studying Animal science.
Wonder how those who study/studied Medicine and Surgery cope(d)

Yoighaman:
I sense the pain and regrets in your comment, but thank God you have moved on, just find a place in your heart to totally forgive him.

It is well with you, I wish you a blissful marriage.

Never in my entire life have I felt so much pain and regret like with this incident.
Along the line, so many guys rejected me because I maintained No sex.
I couldn't imagine sleeping with 2nd man and then he dumps me .
No way!
I have totally forgiven him..
But it will never be the same.

Gentlebuka:
If you get addicted, na sorry be your case. Your story go change. The guy was very wrong, what he did to you. Infact, if a man did that to my sister, i wont be happy at all. However, i think that you've got to understand that masturbation is very addicting and not easy to be free from. If no one has ever told you the consequences of getting addicted to something, especially something as sweet as that, you've got to find them for yourself before it gets too late. Checkout Nofap on google and see what people are going through as a result of being addicted. I know you might not be addicted yet, but you've got to apply caution and know what you are dealing with. Since you now have a husband, I'd advice you quit completely. This time around, you do not have any excuse not to. Even if you do, trust me, you won't think twice before quitting if you get addicted eventually and the consequences set in as a result. By that time, you will abandon every excuse you have. Anything done too much always has its side effects.

I rather get addicted to masturbation than have sex with a guy I'm not married to.
Masturbation over premarital sex and adultery.
Thank you for your preaching.

Karleb:
Your first sex experience actually changed your perspective about sexx. It is alright.

I hope you don't deny your spouse his rights tho.

I'm glad it did.

I don't but I am not crazy about it.

I can always masturbate

Karleb:
O boy! This is saddening!

I don't get why you ladies form abstinence only to masturbate.

I mean, why not just have the sex with your boyfriend and enjoy it rather than seeing your body as the price for the highest bidder?

Not as if you give the sex as often as possible in marriages.

I would rather masturbate 100 times than have sex outside the confines of matrimony.
This was my vow after that incident.

After enjoying with your boyfriend, he dumps you, you move to another guy and the cycle continues.What sort of life is that??

. Masturbation is bae . I will not disrespect, slutshame or dump myself after the act.. I won't go about bragging to my friends how I used and dumped me.. no risk of unwanted pregnancy, abortions, heartbreak, STDs

I was 22.
3rd year in medical school.
I had my first boyfriend.
He was about 32,a resident doctor in the university teaching hospital.

I thought I had found love... Finally.

He started pressurising me for sex barely a week we started dating.
I wasn't ready.. I was a virgin and wanted to maintain myself that way till after wedding.

3 months later, I thought he was for real.. and I gave in.

I grew to love and adore him.
Spent my little spare time in his house, cooking and cleaning.

I spent Christmas and New year with him..He drove me to the airport that morning and I travelled home to my parents.

Next thing,he stopped picking my calls,or calling me.
He barely responded to my messages.

He gave excuses as being too busy at work.
I returned from home and he wouldn't see me ..
Continued same way for about 2 weeks.

Then,I visited him unannounced .

He told me he was no longer interested.

He never loved me...He was sorry for everything.

That his friends made him place a bet about sleeping with me since I was too reserved and proving to be too decent,not involved with anybody within university and hospital environs.

He went on to say he was supposed to show them videos of our knackings and my nude pix...but he found out I was indeed decent and didn't do it.

He had somebody he wanted to marry from his tribe(Yoruba).


That broke me!

That I didn't commit suicide was a miracle.

It took me 4 years before I had another relationship , after graduation...and I made sure
Sex was never involved.

Instead,I watched porn and masturbated in my closet to relieve sexual tension.


I dated 2 more guys .. Got married to the last one(a colleague too) and we relocated to the UK.

Wherever you are,I hold nothing against you,ADEKUNLE

I am thankful your act shaped me.
You people are not called DEMONS for no reasons.
I learnt how to close my legs and place value on my body.

He is now A STAR.

Inside Life!

I masturbated for many years..
Instead of rendering myself to men to use and dump, I found solace and peace in giving myself sexual pleasure.
My relationship with the opposite sex was strictly NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE.
Masturbation helped me maintain it that way.

I'm married now...
But once in a while, like this morning, before getting out of bed, I have played with my bo.obs n stroke my cl.it.ori.s enough.

I see nothing wrong with masturbation especially when you are single.
Better than hoping on a pe.nis.

chronian:
In this era of everyone being serious with one issue or the other.
We're all hustling to make ends meet and no one as it stands now has time for fun anymore.

Aside clubbing, hiking and partying,

what other outdoor or indoor activities can you suggest one engage in so as to have a little bit of fun??

Sleep

Hahahahahaha..
What a SIMP.

On social media, they are bragging how they are the ones doing women favour by dating and marrying them, how women are rushing them, how desperate women are,how they dump cheating partners, bla bla bla

In reality, the story is different.


What a waste of manhood.

confirmedniggae:
Good evenning all.

I have been having this thought of quitting my job to learn driving in order to pick up an UBER or BOLT job but the fear of getting a car on hire purchase is always coming as an hindrance.

I am a family man whose salary of just #85,000 is not even enough to cater for the family .Before the salary even comes in, there are always debts that have been incurred.

Most times,I dont even get up to #20,000 as a result of debts and seriously I am fed up. Infact , I think of suicide sometimes because i am so depressed right now. I have rent of #140,000 hanging on my neck too.

Please will it be wise to quit to learn driving for purpose of commercial driving job?

85K... And you are married.

I'm sure you were listening to motivational speakers..

I can bet your wife does nothing.

Men Sha.. Una like to suffer.

englishmart:
My ex invited me for her wedding. I knew it was to spite me. But whatever be the case, I'm not attending even for $200,000 voucher.

What about you?

Seriously?
So men feel this way?

I thought you should go there and brag about fvcking her and dumping her...that she is a left over
You are a SIMP

When Naija girls say "Tall, Dark & Handsome",they are referring to Paul Onuachu

"His name Hubby"

1.15M?

1.2M

He is right .. 100%.

The best relationship remains.. No spending, no sexing.
Everybody hold your money and your body.

That way, true love is expressed.
No scam

Reminds me of my childhood.
If my Papa beat you, you no land for hospital, be grateful.. he didn't touch you at all

openmine:
Can you prove that all Nigerian husbands Bleep housemaids?

The comment of men on social media on issues like this, especially on this platform and in this thread has proved it

Nigerian husbands and fvcking housemaids is like bread and butter, 5&6 .
They can never disappoint

pocohantas:
The irony of it all...
Has been happening, keeps happening. I don’t take their rants on liabilities serious anymore. If I am a liability, I wouldn’t even be bothered. Naija men have me covered.

This is all the truth.
The whole rant about preferring women who are financially independent is a big fat lie.
Starts and ends on social media.
In reality, they prefer women who have no source of income, the ones they label leeches and liabilities.
The ones they can blackmail, manipulate and maltreat because they are feeding them and providing everything for them, thus massaging their ego.

The few that come around well to do women , are mostly there for her money.. after sucking and milking her dry, they will move to another lady.. the one wey no get shishi.
I learnt this early enough and made sure I never gave out a dime, in any form.
Make everybody hustle and hold him money.

MufasaLion:
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Bolded tho . Madam said it with confidence

I made money early..
So I was very conscious .. Let Nigerian men not chop my money ,go flex with ladies who have nothing, their so called liabilities.

Xenry:
Most of our nigerian girls are liabilities (only few are assets), any girl who takes and do not give is a liability

So my question is, if you run out of cash today or tomorrow, can your girlfriend assist you with at least 5k? Supposing you need it for urgent reason(s).

If she can't assist you with that, then she probably is a liability.

For me, I love dating Assets, and not Liabilities. Mine couldn't do that because she doesn't have it, so she's a liability.

That's why I ghosted and dropped her, now I'm looking for an asset.

Now, over to you, can your girlfriend assist you with at least that amount of money if you run out of cash today or tommorow?

Because if she can't, then she probably is a liability.

For me, when I was single..
I don't receive money from any man I'm dating.
I don't expect him to ask me for money also.... Even if it's a loan.
Let's sort out our problems the way we would if we didn't know each other.
Not because I was(am) a liability.
Today, I pick up bills in my home.
And assist my husband in any way I can.

But as boyfriend, Lai Lai.
Shishi , he no fit collect from my hand

Nairaland has spoilt me.

Before opening the thread, I knew it MUST be them.
Immediately I opened it, I started scanning for the names of the developers.
They can never disappoint.
Ndi Biafra

Reyjavik:
Good day nairalanders

Please I met an honest and religious girl, lately.
We began dating, and relationship began to move progressively. We stayed in the same compound so it was complicated. I usually go to her place to gist with her and collect movies. One day I told her I was coming to meet her, when she agreed. I made a joke if I can stay overnight, and she replied “I don’t understand “. We talked normal the next day about me going to her church. Which she was adamant it wasn’t necessary.

After that week, her attitude towards me changed for bad. Ignoring my messages and later telling me she didn’t agree we should date and she is not interested in me. And giving me a hint that what I said that day was the cause and I should choose between Christ and Devil, Now she have blocked my Whatsapp number and my Phone number. The only way I can reach her is if I used another number and even if she will pick she will be so rude.

I really miss this girl so much, she doesn't even want to see my face again or be a friend sef. She keeps telling me she has forgiven me for the message but still acts like I am an enemy.
I really want this girl. I can’t even get my self since then.

I am scared another person getting this girl. I believe she is beginning to see me as a psychopath.

She wasn't your girlfriend.. so she is not your ex.

You wanted to use the opportunity she gave you for being friendly to chop her kpomo, in her own house for that matter.. she no gree.. that's why you wrote this long epistle.

Talk truth.. if you had slept with her, you won't feel bad.. instead you will be boasting here

oneolajire:
Hi, change your ideology. You are first guided by God's rules, before church rules.

If you want to marry a lady, to be in marriage for up to 50 years, it is not too much to give 6 to 12 months for a lady to know you in friend zone. It is even to your advantage.

As she is getting to know you, it shows she will give you a green light. But have you tried to know her? Guy, I see overconfidence in you.

Seems you are in a hurry to get into the relationship, hope you will not be in a hurry to get out.

Have you seriously prayed about it? Have you sought counsel? Have you taken time to know her friends and acquaintances?

Never force a lady to marry you. It is better a lady regrets that she didn't marry you, than to regret getting married to you.

Op is only upset because he wants to sleep with the lady.. and she is not giving him the opportunity.
That's all

A

Kingluqman:
Pitifully tell him you are HIV (God forbid) positive and you wouldn’t want him to contract it.



He will run oo

That's a very lame excuse.
Go and Google "Sero discordant" couples.
What If he goes about stigmatizing her for something she is not?

EgusiSoup:
Happy Sunday guys,

People now go to church for selfies and videos to post on social media.

Pastors now have make-up artists more like it’s a show.

For the past 4 years I don’t think I’ve gone to church. Not like I’ve lost my religion cos I still totally believe and trust in God. But I’m still asking, am I committing sin?

You are not committing sin.
But if you indulge in premarital sex or adultery, you are a dinner.

obonujoker:
The soldier will pay... God will fight for the boy

The same God who could not prevent the boy from dying or resurrect him.. or another God?
You are very gullible

Francis609:
My wife gave birth in November but we lost the baby 2 days after. What shocked me was when my younger brother sent me a voice message of what they had discussed about my wife and my mum was not remorseful, she said she is not happy that the baby has died she wish it was my wife that died in the process and the innocent baby lives , he recorded her without her knowledge because he didn't like what she was saying.

I immediately called her and play the voice, I taught she will be sorry for what she said, she didn't give a damn. She said she is not an hypocrite, she never like my wife and she can't pretend. I cut the phone with a broken heart even taught she never like my wife she could have at least show forget about the hatred and show her some love in this difficult situation.
My step mother has been taken care of my wife I am grateful , my mum has never bothered to call to know about her health and I haven't call her either. I disowned her. I don't hate her but I don't want nothing to do with her anymore because she is a disgrace to womanhood.

Please advice me if am I in the wrong

A son(man) disowning his mother.. the woman who suckled him .. because of a member of the gender that they insult every time with all sorts of derogatory and unprintable names on social media, especially this nairaland.

Wonders of our time.

This Op is SIMPly a SIMP!

Las Las,the future is FEMALE

sapphiere:
In other news, a man is disowning his mother for one flimsy reason. This life no wan balance.

It surprised me..
A son(man) disowning his mother.. the woman who suckled him .. because of a member of the gender that they insult every time with all sorts of derogatory names on social media, especially this nairaland.


Wonders shall never cease.