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He is right .. 100%.

The best relationship remains.. No spending, no sexing.
Everybody hold your money and your body.

That way, true love is expressed.
No scam

Reminds me of my childhood.
If my Papa beat you, you no land for hospital, be grateful.. he didn't touch you at all

openmine:
Can you prove that all Nigerian husbands Bleep housemaids?

The comment of men on social media on issues like this, especially on this platform and in this thread has proved it

Nigerian husbands and fvcking housemaids is like bread and butter, 5&6 .
They can never disappoint

pocohantas:
The irony of it all...
Has been happening, keeps happening. I don’t take their rants on liabilities serious anymore. If I am a liability, I wouldn’t even be bothered. Naija men have me covered.

This is all the truth.
The whole rant about preferring women who are financially independent is a big fat lie.
Starts and ends on social media.
In reality, they prefer women who have no source of income, the ones they label leeches and liabilities.
The ones they can blackmail, manipulate and maltreat because they are feeding them and providing everything for them, thus massaging their ego.

The few that come around well to do women , are mostly there for her money.. after sucking and milking her dry, they will move to another lady.. the one wey no get shishi.
I learnt this early enough and made sure I never gave out a dime, in any form.
Make everybody hustle and hold him money.

MufasaLion:
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Bolded tho . Madam said it with confidence

I made money early..
So I was very conscious .. Let Nigerian men not chop my money ,go flex with ladies who have nothing, their so called liabilities.

Xenry:
Most of our nigerian girls are liabilities (only few are assets), any girl who takes and do not give is a liability

So my question is, if you run out of cash today or tomorrow, can your girlfriend assist you with at least 5k? Supposing you need it for urgent reason(s).

If she can't assist you with that, then she probably is a liability.

For me, I love dating Assets, and not Liabilities. Mine couldn't do that because she doesn't have it, so she's a liability.

That's why I ghosted and dropped her, now I'm looking for an asset.

Now, over to you, can your girlfriend assist you with at least that amount of money if you run out of cash today or tommorow?

Because if she can't, then she probably is a liability.

For me, when I was single..
I don't receive money from any man I'm dating.
I don't expect him to ask me for money also.... Even if it's a loan.
Let's sort out our problems the way we would if we didn't know each other.
Not because I was(am) a liability.
Today, I pick up bills in my home.
And assist my husband in any way I can.

But as boyfriend, Lai Lai.
Shishi , he no fit collect from my hand

Nairaland has spoilt me.

Before opening the thread, I knew it MUST be them.
Immediately I opened it, I started scanning for the names of the developers.
They can never disappoint.
Ndi Biafra

Reyjavik:
Good day nairalanders

Please I met an honest and religious girl, lately.
We began dating, and relationship began to move progressively. We stayed in the same compound so it was complicated. I usually go to her place to gist with her and collect movies. One day I told her I was coming to meet her, when she agreed. I made a joke if I can stay overnight, and she replied “I don’t understand “. We talked normal the next day about me going to her church. Which she was adamant it wasn’t necessary.

After that week, her attitude towards me changed for bad. Ignoring my messages and later telling me she didn’t agree we should date and she is not interested in me. And giving me a hint that what I said that day was the cause and I should choose between Christ and Devil, Now she have blocked my Whatsapp number and my Phone number. The only way I can reach her is if I used another number and even if she will pick she will be so rude.

I really miss this girl so much, she doesn't even want to see my face again or be a friend sef. She keeps telling me she has forgiven me for the message but still acts like I am an enemy.
I really want this girl. I can’t even get my self since then.

I am scared another person getting this girl. I believe she is beginning to see me as a psychopath.

She wasn't your girlfriend.. so she is not your ex.

You wanted to use the opportunity she gave you for being friendly to chop her kpomo, in her own house for that matter.. she no gree.. that's why you wrote this long epistle.

Talk truth.. if you had slept with her, you won't feel bad.. instead you will be boasting here

oneolajire:
Hi, change your ideology. You are first guided by God's rules, before church rules.

If you want to marry a lady, to be in marriage for up to 50 years, it is not too much to give 6 to 12 months for a lady to know you in friend zone. It is even to your advantage.

As she is getting to know you, it shows she will give you a green light. But have you tried to know her? Guy, I see overconfidence in you.

Seems you are in a hurry to get into the relationship, hope you will not be in a hurry to get out.

Have you seriously prayed about it? Have you sought counsel? Have you taken time to know her friends and acquaintances?

Never force a lady to marry you. It is better a lady regrets that she didn't marry you, than to regret getting married to you.

Op is only upset because he wants to sleep with the lady.. and she is not giving him the opportunity.
That's all

A

Kingluqman:
Pitifully tell him you are HIV (God forbid) positive and you wouldn’t want him to contract it.



He will run oo

That's a very lame excuse.
Go and Google "Sero discordant" couples.
What If he goes about stigmatizing her for something she is not?

EgusiSoup:
Happy Sunday guys,

People now go to church for selfies and videos to post on social media.

Pastors now have make-up artists more like it’s a show.

For the past 4 years I don’t think I’ve gone to church. Not like I’ve lost my religion cos I still totally believe and trust in God. But I’m still asking, am I committing sin?

You are not committing sin.
But if you indulge in premarital sex or adultery, you are a dinner.

obonujoker:
The soldier will pay... God will fight for the boy

The same God who could not prevent the boy from dying or resurrect him.. or another God?
You are very gullible

Francis609:
My wife gave birth in November but we lost the baby 2 days after. What shocked me was when my younger brother sent me a voice message of what they had discussed about my wife and my mum was not remorseful, she said she is not happy that the baby has died she wish it was my wife that died in the process and the innocent baby lives , he recorded her without her knowledge because he didn't like what she was saying.

I immediately called her and play the voice, I taught she will be sorry for what she said, she didn't give a damn. She said she is not an hypocrite, she never like my wife and she can't pretend. I cut the phone with a broken heart even taught she never like my wife she could have at least show forget about the hatred and show her some love in this difficult situation.
My step mother has been taken care of my wife I am grateful , my mum has never bothered to call to know about her health and I haven't call her either. I disowned her. I don't hate her but I don't want nothing to do with her anymore because she is a disgrace to womanhood.

Please advice me if am I in the wrong

A son(man) disowning his mother.. the woman who suckled him .. because of a member of the gender that they insult every time with all sorts of derogatory and unprintable names on social media, especially this nairaland.

Wonders of our time.

This Op is SIMPly a SIMP!

Las Las,the future is FEMALE

sapphiere:
In other news, a man is disowning his mother for one flimsy reason. This life no wan balance.

It surprised me..
A son(man) disowning his mother.. the woman who suckled him .. because of a member of the gender that they insult every time with all sorts of derogatory names on social media, especially this nairaland.


Wonders shall never cease.

abigail11:
I have been dating this guy for 8 years now. My relationship with him started since my university school days.

Ever since we graduated and started working, I have been expecting him to propose to me, which he didn't.

When I confronted him, he said he needs a tangible source of income first before he will marry me.

His current salary is 60k, yet he doesn't want us to go into marriage now.

I personal told him that we can manage what we have and plan our life together since I'm also working. But he said no, his reason is that he doesn't want us to suffer.

My problem is this:
1. Time is not on my side
2. He want to make millions before he can marry me, what if it takes more years to do that?
3. I'm ready and he is not ready.
Please I need advise. I don't know what to do.

You are not smart.
Dating a man for that long, no commitment in sight
To the stage that the man even makes it clear he is not ready to marry(you)... Yet you don't know what to do.

8 good years....

I can bet my left breast, he won't even marry you whenever he is ready.

I'm sure the relationship was filled with knacks and maybe, abortion(s).. if not, you won't be asking what to do.

It's very simple.. LEAVE HIM. MOVE ON!

Sophy22:
My heart bleeds.
God please console the entire family especially the husband.

Lol

Husband indeed.
Someone who will be busying planning new wife...
He could be the culprit behind this disaster.

You never know men and the extent they can go.

ollins:
Exactly my point.i smell foulplay

Thank you.

Such fire incident.. to that extent.

Barely 1 hour he left home.

I smell and see foul play.

Okonjo-Iweala

Okonjo-Udochi



Both women middle-aged.


Retained their father's surname after marriage..
Added Husband's surname to their father's.


Where are the men who have a problem with women retaining their father's surname after marriage?

pocohantas:
They are related to a Nlder.

The brother in-law created a thread here to talk about his brother’s pains. Small world.

https://www.nairaland.com/6438219/brother-pain-after-loosing-wife#99498881

Nigerian Police is useless.. if not, the husband should be thoroughly investigated.. he is a prime suspect.
This looks like a planned act.. The case of a man getting rid of his wife and children for whatever reasons.

Let the wife's family go underground to make findings... I won't be surprised to read "Man who lost wife and children in Jos fire incident marries late wife's best friend(with pregnancy sef)" in few months.

Looks like a well planned disaster.
@Op,your brother should be the first suspect

Righteousness2:
Lord Have Mercy,
What a Terrible incident
Condolences!
This is Heavy!
GOD Console the Husband!

We Must understand that this Earth is not the Home of anyone.
The Earth is just a pathway to our abode
We are here on Rehearsal for Eternity!
Live this Life in the Conciousness of that Eternity..
Heaven is Real!
Hell is Real!!

Lord did not have mercy. Because Lord cannot have mercy.
What will be, will be.

Which husband?
Husband that will soon marry new wife

SmartPolician:
Beautiful place!

See how too much money and good governance are steadily transforming Akwa Ibom.

Before now, people were using Calabar in place of Akwa Ibom and Uyo. But today, things have changed.

Nobody ever notices Calabar again because Akwa Ibom has taken all their oil wells, making the latter the richest receiver of federal government's allocation.

They still ignorantly tag an Akwa ibomite "Calabar"

zedegit:
The man doesn't provide for her. He's a loafer; always in one betting shop or the other but feels entitled to food.

He bares her from coming home after 7pm and often locks her out of the house.

Yet same nincompoop comes home anytime he wants. What should she do?

She's tired of his nonsense.

She knows what to do when she wants to do it.
You, stay away from married people's homes and their issues.
They will eventually settle and you will become the bad person, home breaker.

The only problem I have with the woman is getting pregnant for another man while still married to her husband.

She should have quit before trying elsewhere.

It's obvious her husband is infertile.

His ego has been bruised because now, the secret is out.
He is not man enough to father a child.

Anyway, congratulations to the woman

She has proven she is not barren afterall.

Tomorrow, when form to join the military is out, thousands will pick, scramble to join.

While I was single and dating...
I was very clear about receiving gifts.

I didn't make demands and didn't accept gifts.
I also didn't give any gifts.

Imagine , having lunch with a colleague or friend.. and my bf storms in to rid of me of items he bought .

If a woman meets her man in same position and decides to act awkward, we will condemn her and make excuses for the man.

It happened now.. but we blame the woman.

Relationship is not slavery.
That I am dating you, or you are dating me does not mean you can not have good friends/colleagues of the opposite sex and hang out with them.
Afterall, who knows if our relationship will work?

What was important to me, as a lady.. was keeping my legs closed.
Picking my bills on hang outs.

I find it very difficult accepting gifts from people, generally.. and it has somehow affected my relationship with my husband.
I don't like accepting gifts from him.. and I hardly buy him gifts too