₦airaland Forum

MISSCONGENIALITY:
90% of the arrangee marriages work out just fine.

True..Not all these 3 years + relationship filled with premarital sex,unwanted pregnancy, abortions ,guilt ,heart break and premium tears.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
The babe this what many girls get carried away by love and time spent then end up missing the perfect men for them while wasting their youthful hue on a school boyfriend who know deep down within that he will never marry her

Igbo girls are usually very smart about this.
They know the difference between boyfriend and husband..

Getting married is not dating ..Igbos generally marry very well based on recommendation(arrangee) and its cool as long as it works for them.

Klass99:
What choice do any of us have in such a situation, except to move on? You wan kill the betrayers before?

Nengi is married now with kids of her own, but she told me years later that, that was her first and last heartbreak ever. She was the one breaking hearts afterwards.

As for Adams Oshiomole's lookalike and her cookies, I won't completely rule out jazz like others said. I wasn't exaggerating when I said she looks like Adams, she has his stature (short and masculine) with a slightly better looking face than Adams though.

What would make a man in his right thinking mind to give up a Nengi for Adams, if not jazz?

You don't know men

pythondance2020:
Yeah a lot of relationships end this way.
I once had a female friend who had just met a guy living abroad from her village during the Christmas period and spontaneously started the marriage process with him (introduction).
She was still a student in her final year at the time. She confided in me that she was going to go back to school and start an argument with her school boyfriend whom she had been dating for almost 4 years. The plan was to use that argument as an excuse to break up within a month. Needless to say, the plan worked and she is now married and living with the the new guy abroad whom she never really had a relationship with and barely knew.
That gave me an insight into how some people choose to bring a relationship to an end. I see it as cold but that is sometimes the world we live in.

Igbo girl spotted.
I just like how those folks operate.
No time ..

4 years relationship, most likely filled with knacks,no marriage..
She did the proper thing marrying a man who was ready to settle down.

Instead of clinging to school boyfriend who will likely dump her for a younger girl ,calling her evening newspaper after she has wasted all her youthfulness dating him.

pythondance2020:
Just before any relationship comes to an end, there are certain sure signs we begin to notice that the love is completely dead and there is nothing to hang on to anymore. This is a thread to help those in such relationships that are on the brink of collapse to have an idea so that they can brace themselves for life ahead.

Mine was within the first few months of my marriage, my wife suddenly became obstinate and started going to her parents house whenever we had an argument and would never call back till I called her to please come back and soon after she announced her plans to migrate to another country for good on one of those her return visits from her parents house.
At this point I realized I was alone and had to start planning my life ahead without her.

Please tell your experience, it may not necessarily be someone you were married to, any form of relationship would still fit in.
It could be an ex boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancee etc

He started complaining about the busy schedule of my job.Everything I did or said angered him..His response would be "Ehhnn..Because you are making money,you have no respect,no time for me".
It wasn't long he opened up and told me to quit my job before we could get married.
The relationship ended that day.

Pimpmaride:
4eva in how many peoples heart

I know even know the guy at all but I remember his song with Davido and olamide


Nice beat

This is worse than indomie generation...Covid-19 generation spotted

Drfernandez:
OP, listen to this woman who is already 38 and never married before because she commented based on experience. According to her, it is the spirit of lust and promiscuity that has made your unfaithful girlfriend not to settle down at 35. They know themselves too well.

Leave the unfaithful woman.

Chai..See Subtle shading.

E go pain am gan

davedy:
Good evening Nairalanders

I'm sorry for bringing up to this platform but is of necessity for me to bring it . I've been hearing it from people but I don't know how they do feel about it. I've heard stories about how a lady cheating on her guy and a man cheating, but all these stories I do see them as fantasy or something that is not real. I've heard about a lady killing herself because of her boyfriend and I've heard about a boy taking sniper because of a lady.

Recently, I was in love with a lady in my office and this lady she is 35 years of age, I am 37 years of age and I asked out, we started dating after a period of time, she told me about herself, after all in the place of her work, she has dated about three different persons that she had sex with them. People in the office do gossip about her because of how waryward life. They do call her prositute. With all that, I still love her.

Before I came on board, she told me about her neighbour and all what they've done like touching and kissing was the highest they have done and I said ok.

We started dating and working towards marriage. At a time, we got intimate. I never knew that she was still seen her neighbor. She do go to his room to charge her phone. I never knew that they were having sex and she was having sex with me. she always claim that I'm the only person she is having sex with but I have this kind of feeling that she is cheating on me. I do always argue and challenged her faithfulness and at the end, she will put up a defensive mode accusing me that I didn't trust her.

Some days ago, when i challenged her with evidence of cheating. She confessed to me about how she and her neighbour been having sex and I was heartbroken, that night, I slept in a house I couldn't get it, I never knew that I love her so much, that was a period I knew that I was deeply in love with her. I feel like dying, I feel like everything is over. I love her so much, I want to marry her. Few days ago, I travelled to meet with my parents and discussed my marriage issues with them, I told my girl about it but she didn't blive. With all these, she didn't feel remorseful. I wish I had never met her. I am in pain.. What should I do? I am a confused man now.


Please move to front-page. I will appreciate it. Thanks.

Girlfriend or woman friend?

Anyway,she is not cheating on you as she owes you no faithfulness.
She only has low self esteem and insatiable sexual appetite and libido.
By the way,are you 37 or 17?

Ladylite:
This will give a bad name to genuine pastors.

There is no genuine pastor in Nigeria.
The title "Pastor" is synonymous with criminality.
All of them are involved in one form of crime or the other at different levels.

tillaman:
Omo this our body ehn chai
Once the heart stops beating that’s the end
God rest her soul

Not completely true.
In medicine,
The heart can stop beating and lungs stop breathing ...And patient will still live.
Maybe resuscitated.
But once the pupils(the dark circle in the eye balls) become fixed,dilated and nonreactive to light... THAT IS THE FINAL END.

Hathor5:
It would be a great loss if humanity lost a fully qualified doctor. Imagine all the lives you can save.
I am glad you found a supportive husband. There are men who take pride in the achievements of their wives.

He has been very supportive.
He assisted me leave for the UK before him..And joined me about 7 months after.

truthsayer009:
So you're a Doctor and you married a Doctor?

Dr Mrs & Dr Mr.

I feel for your children, they must know book by force LMAOOOO!

Yes

And I am glad I did.

Lol...Of course,they will.
Hopefully,one or two of our children will be doctor(s) too.

Hathor5:
Wise decision.

Some years into marriage he would threaten you to send you back to your daddy's house because you would not have contributed any money to building the house you two were living in.

Wisest decision I ever took.
I was just imagining..Not been able to take care of my financial needs without "begging" ..Having to wait for my husband to give me money before I could send funds to my parents and siblings, buy stuff for myself,etc.
Who goes to medical school for 8 years to become a full time housewife with no source of income except "husband gives me"? Definitely,not me.

I didnt even argue with him or try to negotiate.
I played dumb..Got home ,texted him I was no longer interested and we stopped seeing.

My ex told me I will have to quit my job,forget about a career as a medical doctor and be his full time house wife before he marries me...He promised to place me on a monthly salary,just to keep me away from work.

The relationship ended that day.

I didn't care how long we had been together or what people will say.

My eye opened..and I received sense.

I rebuke the life of "I am waiting for my husband..If my husband no give me,I no chop".

Thankfully,I married my colleague the following year..
Its been 3 years and we fine!

They are claiming one church or the other.

Tell them to stop having premarital sex now,they will throw away the teaching of the Bible, church and give reasons to justify their indulgence in fornication.
Hypocrites.

Alexgman1:
Can someone who rarely pay tithe because of one of two reasons or doesn't pay tithe at all through out his life make heaven if he/she dies or when rapture takes place?

Let the men of GOD in the house clear the air on this.

There is nothing like heaven or hell.
Let's not deceive ourselves any longer

ACE1010:
Bro take heart. It is very difficult to accept the death of a loved one. I still feel the pain of my late wife after almost 3 years.

You are either a simp or poor man or both!

Men will be insulting and degrading women off and online,only to claim to feel pain if their partner dies...

What about remarrying ASAP?
7 women to 1 man abi dem no dey rush you ?
Hypocrite!

iyke926:
"You are the only woman that has ever cooked for me." Really?


I felt so sad too, man. Take heart, brother.

His mother never cooked for him?
The guy is a pathetic drama king

He might just be typing this long epistle with another woman by his side.

It won't take anything to replace her.
He is lying and he knows he is lying.

See long and very unnecessary write up... What will her parents and siblings do?

The things people do to trend on social media.
Wehdone,Sir.

BiggyB242:
You call this act stupidity , I call it maturity. This are kind of women most men are looking for. She trust her man, not taking decision base what she head but wait to hear from her man first.

He has to test her maturity with an embarrassing stunt with a prostitute.

Nonsense and maturity!

The girlfriend sure has some low self esteem.
Imagine begging a prostitute your partner is cheating on you with...These same people will fight a suspected side chic after marriage.

Both the guy and the lady are mad.

Unnecessary show off.
What happened to indoor discussions?

Clowns

Unnerve:
You found out your whöring wife was cheating on you, your reaction was to have a physical altercation with the man she slept with, only to end up very dead in the process.

What kind of funeral tribute does a man like this deserve?

What a disgrace

Simp! On social media,he would have been bragging about kicking her out and marry a new wife...Team Men don't fight over women.
But in reality..the reverse is the case

This woman is not married..
And nobody is insulting her.

Because she is not a home grown and based actress.

If na Rita Dominic,Ini Edo,Genevieve,Tonto Dike,Kate Henshaw and co, the insulta would have numerous.

Kendaboss:
Don't mind him.
He is just frustrated she's making it difficult to eat from the honey pot

And doesn't perform chores such as cooking,laundry and cleaning his house for him.
Lol

If she visits you and you fvck her,you will call her ashewo
She refuses to visit..you call a lesbian.

Is she supposed to live with a male friend?
When did 2 females being room/flat mates become an abomination?

Free the girl abeg.

Kendaboss:
Lol..So because she refused to visit she is now a lesbian?

Her refusal to visit has definitely made having sex with her difficult/not regular/impossible.

When men can't have their way with a woman easily,they resort to calling her a lesbian.

She lives with a female friend..she suppose live with a male friend ?

The moment a man starts having sex with a woman,the attraction reduces.
Worsens when she is pregnant.

MRAKPORS:
Hmm

I am 5'2 and financially ok
I proposed love to this lady who should be about
5'1 but she turned me down saying I am too short

Please is 5'2 also short? I am tired o

So where is the insult?
Not like she called you names.
Na wa for guys.
A lady says NO to your advances for a reason as genuine as this and you call it insult..

I'm 5" 7 ...I avoided men shorter than I am,for my children's sake.My husband is 5" 9
You are not smart..You won't be toasting a short woman,except you just wanna pound her and move away.
5'2 is almost a dwarf,especially for a man.
Help your future generation and go for a woman who is taller than you are.


Besides,you had to add that you are financially OK..
Funny..Money dey buy height?
You guys always think every lady will be hovering round you cos of your chicken change.lol

OkuFaba:
You can't be 5"2 and marry 5"1, don't you have good plans for your children?? Asin you want them to suffer this height discrimination you are facing??
You are short just accept it and look for something tall.
Baba don't marry anything below 6ft tall.
I am 6"3 my girl is 5"2 at all at all my children no fit short

He didnt say he wanted to marry her.
He will marry a taller lady when he is ready.
He wanted to release sperm inside her puna

Election bloodbath is not news.

Even medical doctors disgraced themselves in Enugu yesterday.

Next!

How can rape lead to pregnancy?

Too much ignorance in Nigeria