₦airaland Forum

ibrutex:
To start with , do your spouse know how much your salary is at the end of the month..

Would you tell her if their is an increment and how much is added??

Well! To me I wouldn't let her know if their is increment because I can't let someone finish the salary for me before I received , last last she will still be the one that take most share...

Maybe I acted wrongly , need your reasons.

My husband and I are professional colleagues and earn roughly same salary.
We both know how much each of us earn.
I wouldn't be comfortable in a union where I don't know what my spouse earns.
I don't know how people do it.
Transparency is key

shortgun:
Can I report Uber and Bolt Drivers?
They keep harassing my girlfriend whenever I book a ride for her to come to my place, meet up with me or go back to her house.

I am busy most times and don't have the time to pick her up or drop her off.

She keep telling me of the harrasments and how she will prefer I pick her than book a ride.
I always overlook her complaints until yesterday a bolt driver who told her he's married came back to her house to look for her after a ride yesterday!!

The randy man picked her from my house, I spoke with him on the phone and she told him she's in a relationship but he still carry his poverty stricken blokkos to my girls house?

I tot guys that do uber are trying to make ends meet? I always tip them cos I tot they need help but this have shown me that they are just a bunch of unserious people.

I am a woman ... And I know that men, especially, those who are perceived to be under the social class of a woman , do not disturb her except she gives them reasons to.
Your girlfriend is not telling you the whole truth.

I'm just imagining me as a single girl in Nigeria. No bolt or taxi driver living or dead can harrass me.

jodeci:
Truth. Some guys are so rotten within..so much that every move is judged from their thwarted narrative.

The reason a man cannot assist a follow man.

What does a man gain assisting a fellow man?
If he assists a woman, she is already owing him sex.

house10s:
soo niyi is d black guy right.
obviously queen is d girl
and white money is d yellow gay looking dude.


i rest my case if u can read inbtw

It's crystal clear WM doesn't like women.
Dude is giving off gay vibes.
Niyi sef .. looks somehow
Being married no mean oh.

MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

Lol.... End result of premarital sex, especially when rushed
You meet someone online.. next thing, you are having sex, unprotected for that matter.
The woman can even pin another man's pregnancy on you.


As for the chemical engr, she better uses her head.. and never have anything to do with you.
You are a married man.. and you sound as though her money is your catch.

Justbehave:
The only woman that can love you unconditionally is your mum.No job,no love.Fellas stop deceiving yourselves.

Even your mother may get fed up at some point and prefer that your younger brother who brings bread to visit her.

Oh.. I thought it was the Nasco Plant in Plateau state that he burnt.


You bought something with your money.. and decided to burn it.

How smart!
Kontunu!!

Yoloba De. Mon

Chop and clean mouth

agbolahan1991:
Her husband has been away for almost a month, I feel pity though have been having a crush on her right from before she got married, now she has a shop beside our office and I can't get my heart off her each day I see her....

Am a married man too but my wife gives me hell, with her anger, bad mouth and ojukokoro
Am not happy as a married man and I really need someone I can talk to, open up to and someone that can relieve the pain in my heart..

Paternity fraud.
This is how it starts.
From talking to, you will start sleeping with... Then impregnate another man's wife..
But when paternity fraud cases comes up, you will condemn women the most.
Stay away from another man's wife.
Adultery dey hungry you, it's in your genetic make up to use flimsy excuses to cheat on your wives... LOOK FOR A FOOLISH SINGLE LADY.. AND LEAVE ANOTHER MAN'S WIFE ALONE.

MONEY IS GOOD ALL THE TIME!

Romanoff:
Someone that is already sleeping over at your neighbour's place is what is interesting you?

He wants to collect his share of the kitten.
If he succeeds, she will be the "neighbourhood fvck toy".

Isaacmacdon:
Drink Redpill, una no go drink.

The moment you can decide to be very selfish with your money when it comes to women, that's the moment your life changes.

Women hardly appreciate the good you do for them.

Rather spend that money on your family members, fellow guys.

Can he fvck his family members and fellow guys?
He did what he did cos he thought finally, the kpekus he has been chasing will finally be opened for him

jaelz:
So I met this girl sometime back in March in Abuja she was very beautiful and was working in a spa back then, I approached her and collected her number after which she never picked my calls or replied my chats after I tried contacting her afterwards.

Fast-forward to last two weeks she contacted me out of the blues that she was sick, didn't have transport fare to work, she was broke and didn't have any money for food as she hasn't eaten in a days.

I got dressed and meet her in the location she gave me and bought her some little foodstuff and provisions then gave her 3k to hold for transportation to work until they pay her at work.

Guys could you believe that this girl blocked and deleted my number the next day? I tried calling and she it was telling me busy till I used another phone to call it and it went through, I asked her why she did that after I revealed my identity and she couldn't say a word she was just mute on the phone for about 30 seconds till I cut off the call.

I am still so shocked as to why some women behave they way they behave atimes.

E shock you, abi?
You were expecting her to start being all so lovey dovey with you so that you can brag how you fvcked her over 3k n foodstuff...

It doesn't work with every lady..
The way most of you guys think with your pe. nis is comical.
A girl that clearly detest you from beginning, ignored you for months.. suddenly called to ask for assistance and you ran to her rescue.
You are a MUMU man.. take your L and gedifok off

wordbank:
Sometimes judges behave like junkies, especially on female related cases. As much as women has sworn your downfall, judges will definitely dig their pit in between their legs.
A lot of innocent men have been penalized over consented affairs, but for the fact that he is an alpha, pussy judges will sway just to hit the simp way.

Na that hammer go kill dem nonetheless I don't support rape or any sort of abuse

You still have a problem understanding age of consent.
A minor cannot give consent.
Even if she agrees to it, in the eyes of the law, she is a minor.. and cannot give consent.

Sochimaobim:
A friend was supposed to pick me up at Artillery here in Portharcourt. After waiting for him for a while, I decided enter a ‘joint’ around Artillery. Unknown to me, it is a brothel. I was very surprised as to the type of girls I saw there. Most of them are above average in terms of looks. Any regular guy will see these girls on the road and approach them with something serious in mind.
I kept asking myself if these girls do not have a family. Village people? Friends? I mean, anybody can enter there and see them. Is it that they don’t care anymore?
Now to my question, have you ever entered a brothel and saw a girl you know. If yes, how did you react? How did she react?

Some of these girls come from far places.. and they just believe it will be difficult for someone who knows them to quickly spot them.
Few years ago, I was opportuned to visit a strip club in Warri , in the company of some colleagues.
There were very beautiful completely nude young ladies, dancing away all night.
The following Morning, at Agofure park, while waiting to board a bus back to Port Harcourt.. we saw one of the strippers.. she was well dressed.. We boarded same bus to PH.. at Choba, a guy welcomed her in a romantic way.. could easily be her boyfriend.
He may or may not know what she went to do in Warri.
Life goes on.

jaybenugo:
Footballer, Yakubu Aiyegbeni's Wife Gushes About Him, Shares Lovely Family Photos

Yvonne Aiyegbeni, the wife of former Super Eagles and Everton striker, Yakubu Aiyegbeni gushed about her husband while she shared beautiful photos of her family via her Instagram handle on Thursday 23rd September 2021 after she recently turned 40, IgbereTV reports.

One of the photos were captioned;


https://www.instagram.com/p/CUKKSmsLU7u/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Meanwhile, Yakubu is 38 years.. according to Wikipedia.

Kontunu!

TarOrfeeek:
You will not dare date broke boys or give them a chance at love.


But you'll do multiple abortions for a married man.


Nigerian women and their deadly hypocrisy.

See what this had led to for a young woman who can't wait to build with an honest young man.

They still do multiple abortions for their broke single boyfriend's.

Nigerian women don't practise safe sex.. it's really disturbing

Iyaebe:
Redpillers I hail una,they can kill for a sachet of salt if you refused to open gate,dem go even collect all the tfare they spent in paying you visits

Let ladies learn to pay their bills.
Even food that will enter their mouth and stomach, men must buy for them.
Hian

The Local GOAT is yet to find his feet, despite being in a non competitive farmer's league.


While the International GOAT, the real GOAT has 4 goals in 3 matches

Benki003:
U picked the wrong person to do this with , I'll give you a chance to retreat or face the consequences

Lol..
Empty threat.
You must be very stu. Pid
It's your mother that will face the consequences of failing to train you properly

MummyD2020:
Didnt u check the name? It says admissionclass. The way people castigate old age like its a bad omen. No one stays young forever. Old cargo, u don old, evening newspaper etc. Like they are cursed to live long. Its great to be advanced in age becos lots of people dont make it to a certain age. So lets all celebrate advancement in age. Babe abeg leave dem small pikin wey still dey suck bress

That was how one teenager insulted me with "old cargo" on Facebook because I cautioned him for abusing a man, old enough to be his father... I told him I agree I'm an old cargo, no problem.. but this my old age, he will not experience it. Dude raised alarm. He pain am!!

Benki003:
Clitocurrency really working for her

After it didn't work for your mother , sister(s) ,the numerous ladies you have slept with, your wife(to be)

BRATISLAVA:
She has a crashed marriage, but Gentry has 3 crashed marriages.

What does that tell you about an irresponsible man that can't stay seated in one place? Should we call him a bitch or a ehore or a prostitute? Because those are the only people that can't keep in a marriage, right? The man has deep issues. It's not everything that is the fault of women.

Men will always remarry at lightning speed, because they're usually whores. Cheating is something they've always entertained, and society encourages them. Not because they are good.

Don't mind him.
A man has 3 crashed marriages.. but they are insulting a woman who has 1.

Let's hope this new wife doesn't raise alarm too.

Yeye dey smell

Initial gragra.
He will not keep quiet.
Do you know how this new wife will turn out?
Agbaya!

Olivertwist1985:
My wife which we have been married for the past thirteen (13) years and have five(5) children, four boys and girl for me ,just left my house on Sunday to her parent house without informed me.

She left because we have little disagreement about monthly food allowance which I used to give her every month but I failed to give her this month when she requested for

She left with the girl which is six months old and a boy two years and left three boys for me.

Please I need your advice, should I go and beg her or I should forget about her and continue with my life. According to my family members, they said I should forget about her because of the manner she left.

Who has 5 children in this economy,time and age?
You are already "fighting" over food allowance.

Brace up! She will surely be back.
There are many other things to "fight" over.

As you lay your bed, so you lie on it.

Goodluck

dammyllare:
Nice of you.... But it is a bit relative
We should agree same law doesn't guide men/women in this nation.

For most ladies; passion, desire, strong will e.t.c usually pushes them into a particular job except it got so desperate where no one is particularly responsible for their bills.

For Men, it isn't same...
Nigeria men are one of the most judged from what I know and read about.
A lot of pressure on them to succeed, to pay bills, to be responsible for siblings and finally to own a family.
Desperation pushes so many men into what they do these days.

Agreed, we all have a particular career we wouldn't want to see our spouses in but you need to be in a man's shoes to feel that exactly.

I hated Police so much but at a period in my life when I got desperate, I wanted to try it out because of the pressure and need to pay bills.

But the way the O. P actually placed it made that defence a little poor.
It's a cloudy Wednesday abeg,
Hope we still have those jabs available at your working place Doc

I don't know if there is anybody who hates police like I did and still do.
The thing is .. men feel it's always about money and providing. NO!
I would choose a lawyer who earns 100k over a social media influencer who earns far more than that.

Imagine,I'm getting married and my family and friends ask "What does he do?"...Me : He works from home,he is a blogger/fashion designer,social media influencer".

They will just conclude I have been jinxed,under a spell.Nobody will be interested in how much he earns.
But immediately,I told them..He is a medical doctor.Gbam!
No questions.Case closed..Even though he was "struggling" with private hospital poor salary.

I am not in Nigeria..I relocated to the UK 2 years ago.Relocation was part of the reason I wanted to marry a doctor.If you know ,you know.lol

AmosFishon:
I am developer and I work from home. Infact, I'd spend a whole week without leaving my estate. And you know what ? I earn 10 times more than the minimum wage. Am just 21 years of age and still an Undergrad. Get educated.

What you earn doesn't matter.
I will choose a lawyer or accountant who earns far less than you do.
What are you developing?

Iyaebe:
Let's be truthful to ourselves, we all have that careers of men that immediately turn us off on finding out. Mine goes thus:
- Anything media is a big turn off, Bankers, The ' I work from home' groups, Teachers, Bitcoin traders and other Internet businesses, Car dealers.Please add yours, no insults.

I am a medical doctor.

And my plan was to marry a fellow medical doctor, an engineer,a lawyer,an accountant,a pilot or a geologist.
I ended up with a doctor(first choice).

I was turned off by men with certain careers, of course.

Some of which were : Politicians,Media personalities, Actors and musicians,Chef,Sportsmen, Military and paramilitary, educationists(teachers & lecturers),those who claim to be "bloggers, influencers, freelancers",those awon PA to the PA to the PA nonsense, sailors,all forms of "businessmen".
It wasn't about what they earned.
I didn't just want a spouse from these people,for personal reasons.

I once met a guy who was a chef in a 5-star hotel..he was doing very well,had his personal house and a car.Immediately,I knew what he did,I got turned off and I shunned him.
It's not always about money.



The way men are wailing on this thread that women can actually have a choice.
Same men who say they can't marry Actresses,bankers and marketers,nurses,salonists..labelling them as pros.titutes.


Why this thread dey choke them?
Funny Naija men.lol