₦airaland Forum

sameoldguy:
The child she is carrying is not yours bro plus make sure you do DNA for the first girl cos I’m sure she ran to meet the real father of the kids and her family just knew about it.

Look into this comment. It might open your eyes to some important lead.

Mranonymous50:
She has made it clear to the man she wants out about 3 years ago. But the man won't let her go.

Stop repeating exactly what she told you. In issues like this, the person involved hardly tell the other desired individual the whole truth but they do rather paint a picture that will make them look like a victim that desires to be rescued.

If you must have anything serious to do with her, tell to sort herself out by getting a proper divorce and then you guys can come together for good.

Mranonymous50:
What about my daughter.

Did she agreed with you that the child is your daughter? If she acknowledged that and is someone with conscience, she won't give it to someone else at the time she did.

advanceDNA:
ur old flame is just a thief that wants to eat her cake and still have it.......
..she's just manipulating u with all manner of lies.......the child may not even be urs...... She will do virtually anything to make u marry her at this point....
She did paternity fraud...yet u are blaming the man that he claimed ur child.. be like say u sef u be General managers of simps.

Face the girl uve been dating for two years...fight is normal...settle it and marry her.....if u feel the redflag is too much for u..cut her off and look for someone else....but dont go for that your ex.......no no no no
.

I wanted to comment but haven read this, I felt this is just enough for you.

[quote author=8inchesdick post=128740830][/quote]The issues you stated can all be managed but you just want to eat your cake and have.

Short: You knew this before you agreed to marry her. So, what has changed?

No bumbum: You also knew this before you agreed to marry her. So, what has changed?

Has a mouth Odour: You knew this before you agreed to marry her too. So, what has changed? If you care to find out, there might be a solution to this.

Doesn't know how to make love and sex: Teach her, she will get better at it and with this she might just be the faithful type. Sex is not food. Take it easy.

Ovaries are not working: There can be a medical solution to this via her money and your cooperation and understanding. So what is your problem.

You got into it with your clear eyes but just want to eat your cake and have it. Just stifle it...

TheClassic1:
Scammers

Donate to who, through who and how much?

They said their basic salary! Who are they deceiving? Their basic salary is not up to 30% of their total monthly take home because some single allowances are far more than the basic salary.

What they should be discussing is sponsoring bills to reduce the monthly take home of all political office holders both at the state and federal levels, then I will know they are being sincere not all these cosmetic approach.

The solution to the current problem Nigeria is facing must be strategic/systemic and sincere in approach not all these campaign after election activities.

Infact, the legal take home of public office holders (politicians and high ranking civil servants) is not the problem but the money and resources they corruptly embezzle. So, they should just stifle this hypocritical endeavor.

For those shouting: LP and messiah, I just pity you because the majority of the Nigerian populace never learns!

robosky02:
https://dailypost.ng/2024/03/02/why-jose-peseiro-nff-parted-ways/

"NFF offered to pay him $50,000” but if it is an indigenous coach now, I doubt if he will get such na offer. An equally well paid indigenous coach can do better.

Biglittlelois:
150k was missing and they refuse to pursue the case? They obviously know what happened to that money but keeping up with the lies to save face, at your detriment unfortunately, if only you can get her bank statement to clear your name, so sorry.

No money is missing. They did the said transfer themselves reason why they avoided proper investigation. They actually bribed their way out at the police station to avoid the case being investigated.

They felt spited or humiliated that their phone and powerbank were only allowed to charge for just 10 to 15mins and hence the need to teach the neighbors a lesson that will also make them prove they are rich.

bewla:
No if you don't no the reason and send her away does that make you a man

Be a man find the reason if it's your fault own up to it

A cheat is a cheat. There will always be a flimsy reason to explain the wrong done but a cheat remains a cheat regardless.

She should have addressed the issue and not use it as an excuse for cheating if she is still interested in the relationship/marriage.

To state it more clearly, being kind or good to people in this country is something one must do with care and selectively too. This is because those helped will in most cases in the long run see the helper as weak or foolish and must therefore continue to be used. Anytime the help stops, that person is now claiming wise and must be taught a lesson.

So, never show off but always display signs of lack or need through causal complains about the country. Also, beware of unnecessary closeness to neighborhs as they are generally ungrateful.

tiffanyfan:
There are five reasons a woman gets attached to a man after sex.

✓ Women naively believe what they hear.

The way to a woman is through her ears. For a man to sleep with a woman, he says what the woman wants to hear:

“You are the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met. You are so smart, focused and intelligent.”
This way, she doesn’t feel like he’s taking her for a fool. And whoops, she falls to his trap!

✓ Women believe in love.

Outside marriage, men are just cheaters (irresponsible men). For men, there’s no love gained or lost. After sex, a man walks away with zero feelings. The game is over. She’s left confused and wounded. Women don’t easily slow down after intimacy.

✓ Women are more emotional by nature.

The woman’s body releases volumes of oxytocin during intimacy. This is the hormone responsible for bonding. She naturally gets emotionally attached to the man she slept with. And the more time he took with her, the more attached she becomes.

✓ Women are nurturers by nature.

Women unconsciously nurture relationships the same way they nurture babies. Women foster and nourish whatever comes their way including grownup men.

✓ Sex for women is an act of submission.

When a woman sleeps with a man, she totally trusts him. In sex, a woman surrenders her life, will and body to the man to do with her as he wishes. That’s why women get broken to pieces when relationships break down.



Fritzy

So those hook-up girls are attached to the many customers they service, right?

Forget this story!

This is just like how some girls chop serious guys money and be forming I am not ready yet, I have not organized my life yet, you are not romantic, wait let me finish school/NYSC, etc.

One thing I noticed is that if one partner in any relationship shows commitment or seriousness too early, the other one starts drawing back, thinking he/she is too good to be with that partner. So, even if you have serious intentions, don't show it too early in the relationship.

One thing you might do to help her out of the situation, is to match her with another guy you think is serious and capable. If it works between her and the new guy, fine but it can also prompt her present guy to sit-up, take her seriously and do the right thing.

Darlingme:
Who can fix her up in a jiffy, but according to the story, he wouldn't because they're step siblings and past record from her mom towards his mom, wouldn't let him help any of his step siblings.

You answered your own questions partly as quoted above.

Wether step-wives or step siblings or brothers or sisters or couples or friends, be mindful how you treat people because it will determine how they will relate with you in times to come!

In most cases, they don't feel bad about what they have done but just re-strategize and become more covert.

On some cases, when the offended easily forgives, the offender takes it for weakness and think they can always get away with it. Hence, there are some things you don't forgive and if you must do, make sure it was not an easy giveaway one.

AmuDimpka:
Even if the phone is unlocked how did he get the pin same day and how was he able to transfer from her Zenith to Opay with ease...was there no pin

Opay requires fingerprint to do transfer ...so what happened

Probably the zenith bank card is linked to the Opay account. All the person needs to do is use the "Add Money" button to move money from the zenith bank account to the Opay account.

JoeyNaza:
Omo you guys are muzzing me for real, like can't you see that this is evidence that Tinubu government is still paying subsidy on fuel, because as long as you are not producing refined products locally, you pay market price and paying way below market price like this means subsidy. Several news reports have corroborated these facts.

Subsidy have already been reintroduced by the back door as confirmed by IMF recently.

Majatechworks:
That's why i said help, i know help will surely come.
Once again 3m at 1.2m per year for 3yrs = 3.6

Ok, I see.

But just know that people generally do businesses. And business is business!

I pray you find the help you seek.

Majatechworks:
A good nairalander called me but gave me a condition that's i know I can't do.
I want help.
I told him 3m for 3yrs at 1.2m per year.
Pls help a brother.

2.7m investment to amount 3m in three years which means a gain of 300,000 in three years?

No body will do that for you cos you are not being realistic at all.

treesun:
https://ait.live/just-in-nlc-threatens-full-blown-war-after-march-13/

NLC is now trolling!

I guess it should be banned now.

I know this is not your story but if it is, just know that you are the one pushing a well behaved and faithful girl to start a wayward life.

In case she eventually starts the slay quern life, just make sure you get married to her so that you will not end up creating a problem for someone else.

Imagine what a commissioner said!

So, "it is from God"

And you guys where relocated to that place to assist god kill more people with the disease?

Ud70:
I want to start a family next year, how will i go about it? Please i need your opinion.

These are the steps:

1. Get the minimum financial requirements ready. Let's say about 20mil..

2. Scout for and get a slay queen that is addicted to cheating becos it heips spice up the relationship.

3. Introduce her to your family.

4. Get introduced to her family.

5. Do the marriage

6. Live happily ever after!!

If their salary can't take them home, let it take them to the farm or better still to the sambisa forest. ....SOBs!

Gr8mind07:
This was almost my experience but i dodged it the moment i saw the glaring signs. In my own case , i did not entice with money, but somebody told the family i was rich. I began to see maximum sense of entitlement with no atom of love or sacrifice to the relationship

Haaaa! Just imagine ooo

carojody:
I can earn her full month salary in a deal. I am not thinking about the money, I'm only concerned about loyalty

With this statement, it shows you enticed her with your money and with the impression that you are available to meet all her needs and that of her family. So, she sees you as her meal ticket/atm not a life partner hence the lack of loyalty/respect.

The reason she is not warm towards you is probably because you are not spending for her family.

carojody:
My fellow Nlanders, Good evening to all. I will not bore you with long stories so I will get to it right away.

I got married to my wife about 6 months ago. We had a 3yrs dating though it was a long distance relationship. During the courting period I asked her all the pertinent questions and she answered maybe to suit me. We eventually got married.

A little of my own life story: I am an orphan, the last child in the family with 3 older siblings. Growing up was tough without the love of parents so it was hell of a tussle in the streets. Recorded lots of loses financially. Also lost the first love I ever had but life has to go on.

On her part, she is the first child in a family of 5 children. Both parents alive and young. Healthy and strong. She currently works with a bank.

We go married 6months ago, I told her things I desired most during our days of dating which was a caring person capable of love. And she told me she has that quality being the first child. We went ahead and got married.

After marriage I discovered a strange thing. She really do care, she shows love too but to her family. She acts like I don't even exist. She does not see me. Sometimes I get jealous the kind of love she bequeaths on her brothers. I provide every thing in the house even to her transportation to work, but I hardly knw when her salary drops. In fact she shares her salary to her family before it drops. She would go through my wardrobe and select my clothes she deems too tight for me and send to her brothers.

I can sspend 5 hours with her in the house and she will be on the phone giggling and gisting with her family. She cannot cook well no clean the house. Totally lacks "Respect". Instead of eating poison every time she cooks, I do most of the cooking myself.

She does not need my approval for anything she simply sends money to her siblings as she pleases and even quarrels with me for not giving her to send. Recently I discovered she paid her brothers school fee. And as I write she is asking me for her transportation to work this week and I noticed she just received her salary yesterday cos I overheard her on the phone.

Please this is not the life I prayed for. I'd have remained single that be in a marriage like this. Who has a good advice please. I beg of u fam, how do I navigate these waters.

Mirror her treatment to you back to her! Most especially in the areas of attention, financial aid (transport fare to work), cooking (tell her to start cooking good food that you can eat or she must have to find a way to go learn how to cook otherwise you will start cooking for only yourself.

This will help reset her brain if she is still interested in the marriage.

sirpharrell:
We like deceiving ourselves in this country.
I remember the frenzied calls last time to make direct primaries mandatory.
The reality is that no major political party in Nigeria can conduct a credible direct primary election.
There is no single direct primary election amongst the thousands we have held in this country that one can point out as credible.
This is the sham that some ignorant folks wanted to make compulsory in our electoral act.
Even the new one that will be conducted in Edo State will still be a charade.

What does this your observation tell you?

It shows that there is no system, no matter how good that we can't corrupt and render ineffective as a result of our greed.

Localemperor:
You have N1000 to create the perfect woman

Faithful= N300
Beauty = N200
Respectful= N300
Good Cook = N200

This will come with peace of mind as a bonus

Jewessgratitud3:
I said half derica and one milk cup.
Half derica of local rice is 800. So half will be 400 while milk cup will be 200.

You are confusing yourself. I guess you meant "quarter derica and one milk cup"

press9jatv:
It’s very hard right now to find a guy who doesn’t smoke — Nigerian lady laments



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cUortsJC6ac?si=7TqkSGP9HH_atiVb

Just like it is very hard to see a girl that doesn't do runs!

sukkot:
Ok it’s no secret that women in marriages turn to vipers if there is an unfulfilled desire. What do women desire ? Lots and lots and lots of money and great Mandingo long stroke sex . I mean let’s face it those two are all that is desired but you get the rare woman who desires to be intellectually stimulated and desire an intelligent and funny guy. So let’s just add all these qualities in there. So the question is can a woman remain happy forever if she finds a man who ticks all her boxes of desires or is there just that innate self destructive button that triggers boredom after a while and now they are tired of the perfection they have and then go seeking imperfection for that adrenaline rush. Like is a woman insatiable? Like you can be as rich as Dangote and your sex game is like long stroking Adonis and you are intelligent and funny and she can rock with all that for 2 years but then boredom kicks in and the self destructive button kicks in and then the imperfect specimen starts looking more desirable to her , the broke thug on the street who has more swagger etc etc. I guess this can apply to all humans too. Are human beings insatiable?

Humans are generally insatiable!

But in marriage, a woman or a man can be in the situation you described. That is the tendency to become bored/unfulfilled in a marriage that was initially full of fun/ satisfaction.

Now, what causes this situation? It is in most cases caused by unrealistic expectations and entitlement. This usually happens when one partner expects too much from the other and hence becomes disappointed when the expectations are not met.

Solution: When you discovered that your partner has become disillusioned as a result of too much expectations which you can't meet, balance it up by putting him/her on a similar scale, that is telling the partner about your expectations and how they are not being met and that you do want to see them work it out. By so doing, the idleness and boredom that fuels the partner's inordinate expectations will die a natural death and he/she will understand the real dynamics of life.

Nbote:
Simple. A reputable Audit firm will be employed to audit the accounts.



If it was a other party will they comment about investigating or getting someone to look into their books?? Will they even admit or c9mment about it? Oderinho

You guys should be deceiving yourselves. All Nigerian politicians are the same irrespective of their political parties and deceptive self-righteous statements.