₦airaland Forum

Victim to f lekki massacre?

Impossible

Our leaders are not honest

The average Nigerian is not sure of what to believe. The people who hold the power- security agencies and leaders are not telling the truth. Truth does not change. It is constant under various circumstance. Lies change.


If our representative were men of integrity, they would be careful in the usage of words, aspiring to be accurate without colouring . The DJ would not state for fact that which he is not sure. There is a difference between error and deceit. A man may be in error yet live bravely by it. He will boldly admit his error when he discovers his mistake.He who is untruthful in his life knows the truth but denies it.


There are rumors that family of the dead were threatened not to come out . A truthful person is courageous enough to stick to what he withnessed. He would not be honest when it pays and forsake honesty when it hurts. Truth is the shortest distance between fact and the expression of it.


Untruth creates conflict. Two lies breeds oppositionand seek to destroy each other.

https://tobechispeaks./2020/10/23/game-leaders-play/

When do we believe

We look up to parents as hero. At times,they fail to show us the love we deserve. Other times, they hurt us.
As kids, we were scared of telling them how they made us feel. They might get angry an inflict more harm on us so we sweep it under the carpet.
But these feeling do not go away like that. It remains somewhere inour subconscious mind. If we examine ourself closely, we transfer this suppressed emotion to our partner and kids.. we transfer the hurt to our loved ones. We repeat the their mistake.


The purpose of telling our parent is not to retaliate or pinnish them.
We are only telling the truth
We avoid repeating the cycle

Sad

Sad
If a woman move from one man to another she is a slut, but when a man changes political party, he is praised, his sins are forgiven.
.https://tobechispeaks./2020/11/15/the-ordeal-of-a-woman/

Sad

States are broke. Everyone needs money. Getting close to FG means money would be allocated to him from FG /APC.

This 2020, everyone is breaking principles for money. Holy holy people don turn ashewo

The stay at home order caused by the Covid 19 pandemic has led many to touch their saving. When the order was withdrawn, many jobs had been lost. This has led many into depression

The few who are lucky to still have their job are heaped with more workload. The organization need to deliver or else risk another level of retrenchment. Every employee is in fear of loosing their job. Buisness owners have to make it by hook or crook to avoid closure.


This year, saints have turned rogues. Clergies are taking looting warehouses. Everyone is frustrated. Parents yell at children on the slightest provocation..

https://tobechispeaks./2020/11/17/the-beginning-of-a-new-era/

Because Jesus was a sacrificial lamb and one want to be like Jesus.

Side effect of hyper religious disorder

First know your path, begin your path, find one whose goal is similar to yours, work together as partners. Are you compatible? If yes, go ahead an marry her. If no, remain single. Two persons on same goal achieve it faster and better than working alone.


Relationship is no longer about two individuals who want to get married and raise kids.because they have come of age or teaming up to meet our basic need of food, shelter, sex etc Relationship is about one person who is on a mission and discovers another person who is on a similar mission and they team up to embark on facing the challenges together .Relationship is a journey not a destination.Your partner inspire you to become a better version of your self. Not all relationship should lead into marriage. A relationship Should make you better version of yourself while pursuing the mission. The mission is the focus of the relationship and not the partner. You do not complete your partner or look for a partner to complete you. No, you focus on something outside yourselves .


The mission could be to render legal services to those who cannot provide one or to design a more efficient way of generating electricity or reform the lives of ex convicts or to impact values and principles to preteens or to spread the Marxist philosophy to the world or to build a mediation center for conflict resolution or to speak for the freedom of the oppressed.You grow with your partner. When the mission is a long term mission of over twenty years , They may decide to get married. Marriage should never be the mission for any relationship. Marriage may be introduced for long term journey .

https://tobechispeaks./2020/11/16/relate-dont-marry/

SweetHearted:
Who is BDSM?

Is she on nairaland?

Yes oo, she acted fifty shades of grey

Quality20:
Many people or shd I say most people in the south think that only Muslims are found in the north, but that's not really true. There are many predominantly Christian tribes and communities all-over the north. One of such largely Christian region in the north is southern kaduna. They are real northerners with many beautiful ladies who make great wives and companions. These ladies are also quite homely, decent, obedient and industrious/highly educated. Many of these girls are greatly looking forward to dating and marrying great guys from the south. So southern guys, there you have it. Please find your ways to southern kaduna and get yourselves xtian maidens to make ur wives. You guys gonna enjoy urselves beyond your imaginations. What more could any man ask for when he already has a companion who is very religious, great cook, obedient, submissive, chaste etc

Are you marketing them for us? Kaduna guys nno dey

We taught them to be hypocrite

Your son loves it

My comment irritates me

TheCork:
son..u see how u just upset the ladies. Nmezor now iritatated becuz thread was created to compare we Londoners to u homebase guys...now u upset the ladies again!!

Why are you stressing the fact that you are a londoneer. Why not americaneer, germaneer, Chinese or Sierra Leoneeer

Girls play the prank to know if d guy has plans of marrying her at all.

So ladies should be picked.
They cannot pick. Abi

Guys should be alpha while girls should be beta.
Alpha guy no want alpha girl, competition for power and control.

Abetterperson:
for some reason am always depressed. granted my childhood was terrible. I grew up in a broken home with my dad not living with us and my mom verbally and physical abusing me..my mom had sex with men while I was still on the bed and sometimes I could hear and see them (she stopped this when I was fourteen)she constantly masturbate in my presence, that still gives me nightmares till now.
my sister was a hot temper monster in my opinion
and my dad was cool but was never really there.

now that am older have tried my best to put that aside and enjoy my life but every time am always depressed and sad
one minute am happy thenthe other I just want to die
as I get older it keeps getting worst and for some reason I tend to over think

can my depression be linked to my childhood

Talk to her about it. Tell her how her actions affects you

Na to sleep for floor be dat

Demand from them too

Good

Absu is on strike na

Soldier do not vex when alone

Buhari does not respect court order. Sowore is learning from Papa

End soldier brutality is next

Sence

Good one