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healthserve:
Hmm Bros

So speaking of which, is there any salvation/redemption point. Let's depict the Op here and her fellow band wagon of young ladies she may have attempted derailing to join her, what counsel can you give them Sir, as an elder in the house. Because they say he who must miss the road, should learn to ask for directions


Is it too late?

You can never advise people who have closed their minds to the truth, they can only learn through experience and by then they will not only become wiser but a teacher to those who understand that it is better to learn effortlessly from people's experience rather than to learn bitterly from their own experience.

healthserve:
Elder, allow me raise my clap, place it on my table, stand up and clap. I like the strong coherent points on your comments.


Its the idea of what they want a husband to be they fall in love with, one to put in their own ideology of what they think, feel and want him to be.

But then, 27 is too early to begin to cry wouldn't you agree?


By the way, you need to start writing again your old usual ways o. Not the short. Straightforward write-ups of recent.


How's the lady?

Back to the point...27 is not early at all considering the fact that she won't meet a guy today and marry him tomorrow and once a lady clocks 30, wahala don start...at that point, she becomes even more careful and defensive of the fact that she is not desperate but unfortunately the crazy Society starts putting pressure.

The truth is that the best time for a lady to meet her husband is in her early 20s or even late teens when she is not even nursing the idea of a serious romance but the moment she starts having the consciousness, nah trouble.

That is why I don't always advise ladies to date men with close age proximity(Yes age is only a number) but it is better a lady dates a guy very much older to avoid being played with by Bleep boys who hardly know what they want.

An 18year old girl should try to be with a guy that is at least 8 to 10years older than her...if she behaves herself very well, she is most likely to marry the guy cos at her mod 20s the guy will be getting ready for marital life and a lady in her early 20s dating a guy in his 30s will most likely end up as his Mrs.(in most cases)

This is simple logic.

healthserve:
Elder, allow me raise my clap, place it on my table, stand up and clap. I like the strong coherent points on your comments.


Its the idea of what they want a husband to be they fall in love with, one to put in their own ideology of what they think, feel and want him to be.

But then, 27 is too early to begin to cry wouldn't you agree?


By the way, you need to start writing again your old usual ways o. Not the short. Straightforward write-ups of recent.


How's the lady?

I may have to stop writing threads sef cos e be like sey lalasticlala don tire to push my threads to front page.

So make I relax first as I still have some nice ones on ground.

The ladies are fine.

healthserve:
Allow me add one comment before I bail. Can you see one of the benefits of having a female-male pastor mentorship? Many ladies know this and cash in on this. I swear it on my fathers grave that like you know me offline, there are men I'll snap my fingers and say, take this girl go marry her, no dating, nothing. Just like that, its out of 10-15-20years of being in that place of honour in their lives. This is what a social circle does.

Hence, the importance of a spiritual oversight I.e Pastor. The average pastor has ten good men that fits your taste 100%, that forming a relationship with them opens those resuroces reservoir up for use..

I hope this makes sense

Cc Toks2008

Seems you still don't get it.

These ladies don't want a good husband perse...what they want is their preconceived idea of a husband meaning a mind made husband.

This is why I will be the last person to pity any lady that gets heart broken or terribly treated in her marriage or romantic affair.

They know a good man but they will always gravitate towards a crazy guy(in most cases) and at the end they will start crying like a jinxed banshee.

Harlequeen:
I opened this account because my main one is pretty popular.

I've had this issue and don't know what's wrong.
I can't seem to get into a new relationship. I am now 25, about serving, working a normal job

My dating history is not too rich. I dated just one guy for 2 years, i became sexually active with him, we enjoyed each other, but things didn't work out. I tried to be better, have moved on, and he has too. This was mid last year. I have been celibate since then not because i don't like sex, but because i had time to think, i read a lot of books, listened to a lot of relationship counselors on YouTube, reddit, Nairaland and so on. I decided to approach dating differently, with my head and not my heart . i would vet men out who were not in line with some basic standards, to avoid fuckboys and meet high quality men. He should be well spoken, either with a career or into trade, accomplished, way older by at least 10 yrs(no i don't have daddy issues, i just like mature guys because i think like a mature person) he could also have plans to leave the country, because i plan to do that also.


Here's the issue, the men that express interest in me do not fit this criteria. They seem to have no plan for their lives. I get this impression that they are broke, they recycle the same lines all the time, i usually see their bull sh1t tactics a mile away. some are in the army(i can't date men in the armed forces, they lifestyle is not what i want for myself, cannot date doctors either for the same reason)others are artisans, some are plain hustlers who just do whatever to eat. I have a soft spot for ambitious men, and i have not seen a lot in the area that i am in. I have been advised by my friends to try highbrow areas like lekki or VI or go to church, but i don't believe in religion.

But whenever i see these men, i am not attracted to them. I have even tried online dating with some male nairalanders, but i get disinterested easily. I get turned off when someone asks for my normal pics, it is quite frustrating. There's that fear that some of these men could use my pics to masturbate or one other creepy purpose. I block them if they ask for nudes. But the issue is, it is quite exhausting to keep chatting with someone without seeing them in person and some of these guys just want to smash and run which i won't allow. No man will have access to my vagina and womb without investment and commitment. Eventually it becomes hard to keep up communication and we just fizzle out like that.

I am not under pressure to marry from my parents, infact my dad says he won't allow his daughters marry until they clock 28 and i am the first. He wants us to have a career and a life before moving with a man. I just want to know if what i am doing is right?

To be honest, i just want some words of advice and encouragement, you can ask me questions if you want. This approach of mine? Is it the right thing? Am i being too smart for my own good? Am i afraid of commitment?

Eyaah!

I for date you but you definitely won't like my type cos of my no holds bar approach to romance issues...well just kidding.

I presume you are very attractive else you won't assume guys will sservice with your pics.

It's also unfortunate that you have already created a mind made husband..(check my thread on that...it may come in handy)
https://www.nairaland.com/5467531/when-want-mind-made-husband

All the best.

mrvitalis:
As a lawyer I'm disappointed ...how can you verify what's true n what's not ...

Its about perception ...I said buhari is dead because I perceive it to be true ...that's my truth ... Its your duty to verify my truth then believe or not

I'm not responsible for what u see nor believe .....after all I post in my private wall and force no one to see it

How can you jusxtapose false news to perception? Se ko re e?

Hardeybaryor:
She is the man's daughter but a stepdaughter to the wife

Lobatan!

Maybe there is a story behind this..
Not that fathers don't sleep with their daughters but sometimes there is more to some stories.. The girl may not really be his biological daughter.

Chai! This Adeyemi guy is wicked.

Hardeybaryor:
Advise Needed!!! This Happened In My Neighborhood

Good morning Nairalanders,

Some strange things are happening nowadays.
There is this man in my neighborhood who is having carnal knowledge of his own daughter. He has been cautioned some time ago to which he denied and after some confrontation he confessed to it and promised never to do it again.

This girl in question was then taken away from his vicinity to avoid repetition of such only to find out few weeks back that she has returned.

Now the problem is that the man has started again and this time around the wife caught them in the act but pretended not to see it. She reported it to my brother who told me about it and we called the man immediately to let him know what he is doing. He found out that the information was revealed by the wife and then started beating her.

Please what do you think we can do to help the poor girl and savage the situation.

PS
Pardon my way if reporting.
Mods please help loud this.

Daughter or step daughter? Go find out well.

lalasticlala:
Now that she has sown twerking, what would she reap?

The lady no even twerk. She was innocently moving her body but her voluptuous body accentuated the moves.

But lala e be like sey you go like big things o...cos this your comment dey very suspicious.

There is no big deal here...i guess the video camera angle makes it look like one serious moves.

Abeg twerk to the glory of GOD and leave these perverts to worry their heads over simple body movement.

Jossyroyal1:



Dear Nigerians
Let's kiss free and fair election goodbye for now pending when Bubu and his APC leaves Aso Rock

"Meanwhile, the only thing that improved in Nigeria since 2015"
Is the hates speech bill operational yet?? Because I just made one!

Elections can never be free and fair.

Even If Jesus comes down to organize it, some people will still refuse to believe it is a free and fair election.

Happy Sunday lalasticlala.

Someone out there may need this.

Midas01:
But you have been supporting philandering and wayward men on this forum. Just continue.

You have been reading my threads backwards.

I have never supported philandering...that I asked wives never to leave a philandering husband that still loves and cares for them does not mean I am.in support of it...It takes mental maturity to understand my threads on romance.

NwaAmaikpe:





Skin to skin is for people with balls...a ball you've just decided to shatter by getting all those rubbers.

So stay alive for those who love you.
Practice safe sex by masturbating.

This is why I no dey sleep around even when i dey single.

I face one girl and take the risk. I hate using condom.

Kenoxman:
Yes,not just looking it but really old. Yea becos they waited for too long. They were good to go judging by the throwback. All the best to them anyway.

Both you and the person you quoted need serious medication.

I guess you two are toddlers else you won't call these very young looking couple old.

Happy life to the couple.

There must be a story behind this. I stopped believing a one sided story long ago.

Eleyi mad can! But I think he is not saying the real reason. His life tho.

technicallyrich:
Wow i have been expecting these for long.our yoruba muslim brothers dream has finally come true.
Ofcause sw has only 4 state,the rest two lagos and ondo originally belong to the great ijaws.
Let me invite the northerner tosyn2much,and some yoruba christians like sexybbstar,toks2008,the full emptycoconuthead.what do you think.
I am so so hapy.

Their headache.

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Ifeelsad:
I've had this recurrent skin issue for about three years now. I've used everything usable both creams and drugs but its not going. Its getting worst, its on my face, breast, neck, all over my back even on my stomach. I don't know what to do again I'm tired

Please has anyone had this kind of rash
I'll like this moved to the front page for more views because I'm getting frustrated and my husband is getting impatient

I use dettol or izal to bath and I bath twice a day sometimes 3 times depending on d weather so I won't say its uncleanliness

Your husband getting impatient bawo?

Suppressed expression syndrome(S.E.S) is when you suck in an emotion or action as a result of fear of ridicule or judgement from people. This condition can also lead to full-blown depression and suicidal thoughts.

Depression does not happen at once but it builds gradually when we try to hide our pains, fears, and feelings in general.

If you are going through any situation that is weighing down on you please share it, if you are going through a heartbreak or any pains that you just feel like crying please shed those tears. If you need any help in any way please cry out.

If you feel like looking a certain way, dressing a certain way, going certain places and doing certain things to make yourself happy please don't hesitate as long as such does not cause any harm to you..stop worrying yourself about people's opinion cos the truth is that no one really cares and people will hardly remember you after 24hours if you die this minute.

Stop suppressing, start expressing thereby saving yourself from avoidable heartache and avoid depression.

I hope this piece liberates someone out there.

Lalasticlala what do you think.

Omase o...the great hunter has become the prey.

vincentjk:
This is how an average ugly looking lady consoles herself

*Walks outta thread*

Awon were po ni forum yii

AfroKnight:
Lol. Awa online groomsmen. We are ready.

No worries, when i wan to marry extra concubine i go send you an invitation.

yeyeosoronga:
Continue lying to yourself.
An average looking woman or an ugly one doesnt necessarily make a good wife. They also are not MORE rushed like indomie for marriage by men. A mainstream beautiful woman would get 2 marriage proposals to 1 got by the average Jane.
They still get toasted by randy men despite seeing the wedding bands on their fingers. Some are blessed with various endowments, which makes them more attractive than a beautiful face.
Some have their beauty enhanced by make up and what not.
They equally enjoy the life of their heads like their mainstream beautiful counterparts. Don't forget beauty is very relative and as they say is in the eye of the beholder

It is one thing to read but comprehending is the real deal.

If you must counter please counter with a different point and stop paraphrasing the write-up or confusing yourself.

Abeg i no get the strength to dey explain jack.

AfroKnight:
Toks baba :

Hope you invite us for your wedding. We your readers deserve a table.

Money soon expended
Je kawon padi e jen be
I dey kaku dey gbese
Jejeli jeje jeje

Respect is reciprocal
Even though una know say I special

Anybody, wey no want to soji
Anybody, wey no dey carry body
Nack am something, ahh
Nack am something
To ba ta fele, fele
Nack am something

Gbese

mokt:
Nice ass

Iyawo oni iyawo!

Geminita1:
18th century post.

Shebi you like beautiful women, they have dealt with you.

Now you are looking for a decent woman to clean you up.

I pity the women that end up with wasted men.

Kotokoto wo ni eleyi n So?
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PrimadonnaO:
No darling, it’s not just you. I can only imagine how wounded his experiences have left him.

I know how hard it is to seek attention. Now you ladies have it..can I rest now?

funmisticqueen:
is it me, or do your posts get more mediocre and bitter?

It is definitely you.