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Good question. I wonder why women don’t ask these kind of questions. I hope you are ready for the truth.
Those househelps have most feminine characteristics that men desire. beauty may draw a man to a woman but other features are more desirable and will keep the man with you for a long time or forever.
1. Respectfulness- most women lose respect for their husbands and the housemaid exhibits this excellently. A man is drawn to where he is respected, even if it is the office, bar or the arms of another woman.
2. Homeliness- men want their house to become a home. The errands the wife sends the maid makes her look more homely than the madam. This also includes excellent meals the man knows it is the housemaid that prepared it. One of the fastest ways to a man’s heart is via the stomach. Wise women cook and SERVE their man’s meals. You deputize this role at your risk.
3. Loyalty- most women , especially career or socialite women, devote their attention to their work, boss, colleagues, social media, church, pastor, party etc. The househelp shows better devotion to the man and family. This subconsciously draws the maid to him.
4. Great sex- most Nigerian women are terrible in bed. Unfortunately, men don’t like talking about this. One taste of a maid good in bed gets the oga addicted.
5. Youth- Men are always more drawn to younger women. This natural attraction is made worse by a wife with bad character. In the old days, old wives marry younger girls for their husbands so that they know and can manage the number and the kind of pvssy that their husbands dick ventures into. Most men will still find their aging wives attractive if she takes care of her body and has excellent character. Unfortunately most women stop taking care of themselves in marriage and develop a terrible non feminine character.

Caveat- there are still polygamous men and/or a few terrible men that will still cheat on you inspite of checking all the boxes above well. Those men are a special breed!

saphiere:
Stories of men sleeping with their house helps and even impregnating them is not new to us.
Why do men indulge in such act?
If you must cheat as you men do saying it's men's nature to cheat. If you must cheat why should it be the househelp?

please I need answers

Is Nigeria so bereft of talent that it is mostly old and expired people that take key public offices?!

People like Dele cause the chaos.
Why not balance things by calling out all form of cyberbullying and trolling?
Several supporters of Atiku and Obi also cyberbully and troll Tinubu, Dele should call them out too!
You cannot be seen to tolerate one side of the menace you are trying to stop.

1. Tinubu is president to you not just senator.
2. Tinubu just showed how stupid you guys are by sending you on a wild goose chase.

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At no point did I say Burna boy was a worthy role model for Nigerians.
Sadly, everywhere you look, you find more reasons why Nigeria is where it is.
I have never seen a country like Nigeria where her citizens DEMAND a good, prosperous and working country when the people are mostly lazy, corrupt, evil, untrustworthy, fraudulent, promiscuous, religious but ungodly, selfish and arrogant. It is an irony that is beyond reason.
God is not deceived! Nigerians deserve the Nigeria they have. Wicked people will get a wicked leader, bad people will get a bad leader. No miracle can change that dynamics.

airsaylongcome:
Burna boy screaming he needs Igbo and shayo with toddlers dancing to that has done way more damage than BBN showing mature content and clearly indicating that it is R18. You pay and subscribe to be able to watch BBN whereas igbo and shayo is played at parties for 4 year olds.

How they hired their 2000 employees is known to them. It's like asking how Nigerian remote tech workers got hired. Those in that space know how to go about looking for those jobs.

Good luck to you people. With reasoning like this, you deserve the Nigeria you have.

Angelfrost:
You are way too emotional to make much sense, and it's also bad for your health.


Philanthropy and Altruism are not terms that you compel from individuals and corporations... They can choose to do them or they choose not to.

These profit-making companies are not doing business illegally... They pay huge amounts of money in the form of taxes to your country, which we all know never get to the poor.

They create far more jobs than you can imagine... That's more than enough Altruism in the real sense.

Telling them what to do with their money aside all I Iisted above is objectively out of place and ridiculous... They didn't come into business for philanthropy or charity... They don't owe you and I that... Matter of fact, they have paid their dues to us all in full (check my earlier explanation above).


Philanthropy and Altruism are great, but no one should or can be compelled to do them.

No vex o!

Jozibrainz99:
I asked u a simple question and there u are ranting like a confused leopard....
You are a certified dunce.

How were these 2000 people employed?
Keep deceiving yourself. That show is an absolute waste that has not morally or financially benefited Nigeria and Nigerians.
A show that makes money and designed to destract, manipulate, and make Nigerians more immoral and lazy.
Suddenly, Nigerians think you can be stupid and get a chance to win 150million.
People who can’t answer simple general studies questions have a chance to be millionaires? What is the moral for the frustrated youth and poor/naive child?
No values taught in a country that desperately needs it at the moment!

people

airsaylongcome:
You want a private business to take out ₦5bn and give it to Nigerians freely? When they can invest it in the services they provide and generate revenue for themselves? Did you hear when they said they had 2000 people employed for the duration of the show? Let's not talk of all the private businesses (DJ, restaurants, fashion designers, diesel vendors etc) that benefited from that ₦5bn. Come one now

Typical selfish, self centered and myopic Nigerian

Jozibrainz99:
Wetin this one they reason?

Why advertise and flaunt such expensive, extravagant and RIDICULOUS WASTE OF MONEY in a country riddled with abject poverty?! Only an insensitive and callous company will do that!
I keep saying it that most Nigerians are a special kind of evil and lack the right values required for societal progress.
Kids like you think government MUST do everything. There is nowhere in the world where government does everything. The philanthropy and Corporate Social Responsibility (CSR) in Europe & North America is beyond the imagination of clowns like you. The typical Nigerian selfish mentality is why you think business have nothing to do with empathy, philanthropy and social welfare. There is even studies that show the profitability of corporate philanthropy and social responsibility.
THAT MONEY COULD HAVE BEEN PUT TO BETTER USE IN THIS CHALLENGING SEASON !

Angelfrost:
Is this a joke?!! Better the lot of which thousands??! Is BBNaija organized by the government or by NGOs??!

It's a business... And the goal of every businessman is to make a profit and more profit from any amount put into a venture.

So, the problem here is your emotional way of thinking instead of being objective and logical.

Over N5b that can be used to better the lot of thousands?!
I detest the Nigerian way of thinking?!
Useless show!

There is nothing you can do about a deadbeat. You also CANNOT kill yourself because of family commitments.
Why can’t the person who wants to go to school also sacrifice 6months to a year to work & save to meet you halfway? You will use that opportunity to teach her delayed gratification and thinking outside the box.
Things are not easy at the moment and Nigerians need to start being innovative about how to raise money legally for important things.
What is the role of your religious bodies to raise money for moments like this? Are these religious bodies just collecting from y’all and giving nothing?!

Crying Corrupt Civil Servants!
There is nothing we won't see in Nigeria!
I can bet that MD allowed them steal money easily!
Civil Servants are the real problem of Nigeria.

FYI, what the governors steal is chicken feed compared to what the CIVIL SERVANTS backed by the NLC has stolen.

vanitybutiwanti:
If Emefiele is returning 50b, for a second imagine the amount of money stolen by serving and ex governors since 1999.

In 2023 states in Nigeria are struggling with roads riddled with pot holes

Very funny country

Excellent move. There is nothing to celebrate in Nigeria.

I don’t understand these people. You say you are fighting for salary increment for ONLY civil servants, yet you want ALL Nigerians to not work for your selfish reasons?!
I don’t get it!

Most Nigerians have become exponentially evil and ungodly. Guys be careful out there … especially around Nigerians.

Nigerians just like to chase shadows.
Even if Tinubu didn’t sign the form, was it part of the grounds to disqualify him in court? If not, what is the senseless and useless info/ mischief for?

Instead of finding a way to help get Nigeria out of this mess, y’all just want Tinubu to resign?
Instead of holding the CIVIL SERVANTS & GOVERNORS accountable so that Nigeria can work at least 50-60% better, all energy and focus is directed at one man who is already president?!
Una mumu never do!

The only single mother worth marrying are
1. The one whose husband was EVIDENTLY an abusive man whom the woman did not provoke his madness.
2. An EVIDENTLY great woman whose husband is dead for reasons not attributable to her.

Note that your EVIDENCE to prove the two points MUST NOT COME FROM THE WOMAN.

If you marry any other single mother outside these two points , you are not only a SIMP, you will be doomed in the long run.

If those guys you mentioned are the Nigerian youth’s role models for making and managing wealth, then we are in trouble. Go and check how many cars Mike Tyson had in his prime, then check where he is now.
You better learn how the Warren Buffets & Dangotes make & manage their wealth. Those are the real billionaires.
If you buy a 2million naira phone, you better have 20-50million in your account or that phone is sure to make you at least twice the value of the phone.

alphabbey1:
Yet, Davido bought 300m naira car...
Ronaldo have countless of cars in his garage,
Wizkid bought 6 sports car in just one day...

Why not condem them for using overpriced cars, abi, 20 million naira car is not good enough ?

Point is, People buy according to preference... Have been using S21 ultra now since 2 years, the phone is serving me well and I see no need to upgrade to S23 Ultra... I purchased the S21 ultra because of the 100x Zoom features, am a fan of binoculars... Until I see any captivating features in any Samsung future release, I will continue to use this S21 ultra....

And mind you, I hate iPhone with passion, it has nothing i want...

And let me remind you again, anyone that doesn't have a car and using Iphone 15 Pro max didn't buy it with his/her money (Quote me with proof if am wrong)

The CIVIL SERVANTS and the UNIONS that back them are the problem of Nigeria, not the politicians. The day Nigerians realize this, 50% of Nigeria's problems will be solved.

It is your opinion that is flawed.
Go and check the phones of most real billionaires and you will understand.
Only your fake millionaire celebrities with a poor man’s attitude of looking richer than you are, that use these overpriced phones.
Most times, It is a way to compensate for status you don’t have and complex issues that make most people buy these things.

alphabbey1:
Honestly, your analysis is flawed.
Anyone considering to buy 1.5m Naira car is definitely not the target market of iPhone...

No be poor man dey consider to use 12 Pro max, talkless of 15 Pro

I agree that your looks will draw romantic attention to you, but your personality is much more important.
Try to clean up your looks without too much make up. Be friendlier without being desperate, develop an excellent personality and manage your expectations of the kind of guy you want.
Most times, women look for men that are not in their league and friend zone men that truly love them.
Look close to you, there are men you are just friends with and they love you. Just flirt your way with a great personality into the arms of that ‘male friend’.

Medicine after death!
OBJ needs to apologize to those Yoruba monarchs that he denigrated! In Yorubaland, it is abominable to do what OBJ did. His denigration is to the ancestral stool and not the persons on the seat. Only an apology can be seen as an effort in the right direction by OBJ.

Simps will never understand why the guy refused to be disrespected.

If they are not performing or are corrupt, they should be laid off and prosecuted!
THE CIVIL SERVANTS are the main problem of Nigeria not the politicians. But Nigerians prefer delusion and distractions, that is why they focus their energy at politicians who are just 30% of the problem.
This is my estimate regarding those who are the problem of Nigeria:
Civil servants- 50%
Politicians- 30%
Citizens- 20%

Your case is a typical woman who found what she was desperately looking for. You better find a way to make your marriage work. I pity you if you leave your marriage. That your sister will become his wife.
Almost all men will flirt and/or cheat at least ones in marriage… that is why mandatory monogamy is the biggest lie oyinbos sold to us. Learn to manage your man and pray for him. Hopefully he will repent or he won’t bring a deadly disease , std or sti to you.
Sadly, you can’t flirt or cheat on him in retaliation, because if you are caught you will still be the one to regret it…. It is unfair, but that’s the reality.
From your earlier snooping on his phone, you likely nagged him into other women’s harms.
I read you as a woman who thinks marrying as a virgin (which is extremely valuable and desirable to men) absolves you from good character in marriage. I can bet you were not his peace of mind because of your nagging, snooping and fighting him.
Learn how to be a good wife by being his peace of mind and watch him fall back helplessly in love with you. As a wife, you must be homely, respectful, loyal, submissive, and supportive, virginity and fertility is also good, but it doesn’t cancel the other qualities.
Men will just use and dump you if you leave your marriage… especially if you carry bad wife characteristics along too.
I also don’t believe you that he is a deadbeat husband. It is typical of a scornful wife to demonize her husband.

PaigeTaylor:
Hello house. I'm too angry to type. Been married for 10 years with a kid. 10 long hard years.

He always assures me and portrays himself as a faithful man. I have never suspected him of committing adultery, not because he's not capable, but because I wanted to give him benefit of doubt. I wanted trust to be in my marriage because I'm extremely faithful to him. He disvirgined me on my wedding night.

But he does A LOT of flirting on social media. Passwords his phone from me. This has caused a lot of problems between us, almost leading to marriage break up many times, until people advised me to stay off his phone, which I did. I lost my job since February and have been unable to get another one.

Now I'm learning some soft skills online, using my phone but it got to a point where I couldn't proceed because it's an old phone. I told him yesterday morning that I would love to use his phone, he said ok when he returned from work.

Only for me to go to his browser to enter a website address, I started seeing past searches from him.
LOVE SMS YOU CAN SEND TO UR CRUSH
LOVE MESSAGES YOU CAN SEND TO UR EX GIRLFRIEND.

The one that shook me to the bone is, HOW TO SEDUCE MY SISTER INLAW.

She came to visit two weeks back. She is very beautiful and plump and he has always told me he had a crush on her. So I know.
And those internet searches are RECENT.

I feel so disgusted by his presence now, so much that I don't allow his body to touch mine on bed. I feel for my daughter, she's just 6 years and I don't have any money to take care of her. He doesn't take care of me either, but I have put up with him, I have struggled and suffered with him all these years. Only to see this on his phone. I'm beyond depressed.

He's talking of us celebrating our 10 years anniversary by December and thinking of inviting few family and friends. BUT I'M NOT INTERESTED. The love is dead. I've been played all along.

HOW WILL I HANDLE THIS?

Good for you! You will experience enough women with these characteristics at a high level:
1. promiscuity / disloyal
2 carelessness
3. rudeness / lack of respect
4. ungodliness
5. unnecessary risk taking
6. gold digging
7. feminist tendencies /not submissive
8 . High rate of STD/STI
9. Not homely
10. Likely addicted to drugs and/or alcohol
After they finish dealing with you, come & tell us about what little remains of you.

You are both adults, DEAL WITH IT LIKE ADULTS!
But because of their age, use tact, diplomacy and show as much respect as they deserve from you, while being extremely firm.
It is a delicate balance that you must keep fine tuning as they begin to behave better or worse.

Mr Atiku is just groping in the dark, sope otilo!

This is so heartbreaking!
Why can’t we just do ranching in Nigeria?!