₦airaland Forum

westlius:
Ode that chicked out when Mobad needed him d most

chokekachy:
Source: Peter Obi

Oladeji245:
Wherever olusegun obasanjo speak shey baba eee oloriburuku lee duro nibee?
Okan family e onii balee

Sultanofpiglets:
Even NIGERIANs know the tribe that are Generational COWARDs. I don't even need to advertise them.

stanlink:
Hello I'm just think if I will get salvation if I indulge in sexual activities early on a Sunday morning before going for service, the thought of guilt is all over my head although I'm married someone please advise

EkelediliBuhari:
Let’s agree this is my story….

Pardon my long write up but I needed to get a perspective from a fresh eye/mind. I’m married for 3 years now with 2infants.

Am I overthinking or does my wife have other plans?

My dad is an established accountant with over 3 decades of experience at the highest level of his occupation in 2 multinationals. He is now retired and consults. Presently, he lives a day at a times cos he barely has plans for his firm (he is over 70 and doesn’t have anybody he’s training his my mom).

I have a good career earning almost a million monthly with side gigs that keeps me liquid (meeting all my family’s basic needs). Monthly upkeep of 200k mainly for feeding while I pay utilities and still bring out cash (no fixed amount) from time to time. Presently am setting up a firm for contracting and consultancy.

My wife is a caterer (she loves cooking and baking) whom I have supported over the years. She has gotten much better and I have invested in her business. Presently she has all the basic requirements for her work and she works from home. We live in a 4 bed and converted one to her studio (fully furnished - AC tables shelves etc).

Over the years I have encouraged her to focus on entrepreneurship. This will give her total control of her time. This way the kids get her attention while she handles business which I hope to one day retire into. I make sure she doesn’t contribute her personal funds to the home as I advise her to save for rain days. I have encouraged her to work closely with my dad to earn experience as they share same profession hopefully take over the firm in time while I groom mine for which she is the major shareholder (I’m not even a shareholder).

Overall, do not look for a 9-5 like me, let’s grow a business.

However, she applies for jobs here and there. Just this morning she woke up as early as 4:30am applying for a customer service position and had to wake me up to correct her cover note.

At this point I feel like giving up on her. I feel she just wants to have a paying Job for whatever reason. But I know know the downsides; no time for the kids, 40-80% of income goes on expenses, work stress, regrets - now you can’t quit because you have to prove you can do it.

Am I being unreasonable telling her not to work and focus on developing her business skills?

NB: I have never discouraged her in her business rather encouraged/ advised and funded.

Modified: for those insisting I let her be, how do we plan our future if we share separate visions?? When has working ever made anyone rich??

If she gets an IOC opportunity I’ll definitely support tho, but these are not the toes she’s applying for 100k -300k

Sultanofpiglets:
The LOVE themselves so much that its ONLY Igbos that kill eachother.

Worthless people.

FreeStuffsNG:
This is a virtuous and wise woman.

If you are wondering why Pa Obasanjo is still alive, these are the people on their knees praying and interceding for Baba.

Those Obas will not forgive and forget.

Pa Obasanjo still has something to learn in this regard and I hope Baba makes amends.

Oyo state Governor, Engr Seyi Makinde, invited Pa Obasanjo to open the road the Oyo state newly constructed but not to create a sacrilege and humiliate the Obas. This is where Seyi Makinde must impress it on Pa Obasanjo to beg and apologise to the Oriades.

Pa Obasanjo spoke very very well and advised everyone there at that event like a true father but unfortunately this sad event with the Oriades just blighted everything. Check my signature for free stuffs!

Kobojunkie:
See this numbskull! Get away!

Kobojunkie:
See this numbskull! Get away!

Kobojunkie:
Get away....as if Nigerian men have ever been known as some of the most sincere humans on the planet.

You never met her yet you already condemning her character as if the one you continue to showcase here proves you any better than those you love to chew. Nonsense!

Tetrisbiz:
I never wanted to do this and this is a very embarrassing situation but I need help from nairaland users.

I have an older brother in his early 40s. Since I was a child till this very moment, this person has been a torn on the flesh of my parents and the family in general.

Sometime in 2020, with the help of my elder sister's husband ( the HR) we were able to find a job for him as a supervisor in a factory and then I and my immediate elder brother (another sibling of mine) contributed money and rented an apartment for him in Lagos and then bought some property to furnish the apartment. To our surprise, my elder brother starting forcing his sexual advances on junior female workers and if any of these girls reject his advances he would start threatening the girls that he would get them fired with the help of the HR (My sister's husband). Forunately my sister's husband found out what was going on and rejected my brother's request for the female workers to be sacked. This started a war between my elder brother and my sister and her husband.

My elder brother eventually left that company (note he wasn't fired he LEFT by himself) and went back to the village. When my father heard this he almost collapsed as he knew the trouble that was coming his way.

Since he returned to the village he started assaulting my parents and I had to send money (about 400,000) back to Nigeria for him to rent a flat just so he could leave my parents alone. My brother stayed in that apartment for 3 months then started fighting his landlord and then told his landlord he couldn't stay for the year and demanded some part of his rent back,he took his rent, returned to the village and picked up from where he left by fighting my father ( a very old man). Its so bad that my father sometimes leaves the house (The house that he built as a family house) and stays outside for hours before returning home.

Please do we have restraining order laws in Nigeria and is there a particular police division in the Nigerian police or legal system that can be used to address an issue such as this?

I'm tired and I'm considering taking a drastic and extremely aggressive decision to resolve this situation once and for all.

Ezmans:
see invaders claiming indegene of lagos

zoedew:
Gov. Soludo is actually doing a lot in Anambra to reform the State. Silently.

ValarDoharis:
I said it that the westerners hailing Soludo will remember that he is Igbo if he chooses to run for president! Only his daughter's comment, una don dey insult am

Ezmans:
tell me your state let's compare it with Anambra both in education, finance, industry, good governance