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Why is he unable to reform Anambra?! I can’t wait for the developers to develop their region & not claim other people’s regions.

PDP! KWARUPTION!

We need to learn that marriage is jus 30% about happiness. Marriage is more about devotion to duty, stoicism, sacrifice and procreation.
Marriage is tough and we need to be prepared to make it work. If you mostly find happiness in marriage & it is easy for you, just know that it is a rarity.

Acidosis:
If the female gender likes and appreciates my posts, then that means I am posting things that matter to them. Why are you resisting happiness? You don't want to keep your wife happy and sane?

I am not making excuses for his wife. I have only given him tips for his own sanity. In life, you have to always make choices. Some will help you, others *may* destroy you.

Is this a joke?! OMG! RIP young soldier!

I hope his mum can hand over the docs. This will clear all the doubts and mistrust.
My concern is that she is even planning to carve out a potion of the property for the man friends use… this will not only make the mistrust worse , it is a recipe for disaster. The mum who is supposed to be the one balancing pent up emotions here is the one stirring bad blood.
I think she can marry anyone she wants, she shouldn’t just destroy her relationship with her kids while finding happiness that may even be temporary.
Even in Western societies, a man who depends on his woman for habitation and wellbeing like this boyfriend is doing will eventually become effeminated… IT RARELY WORKS OUT IN MOST CASES. This relationship dynamics is just warped. Worst still in an African society, it is just a bad decision.

TenQ:
I actually don't want to meddle in the affairs of this man and the mother. Events may determine the options available for them. They may be living in different states and the wife prefer to stay resident where she used to live.

No one will complain if a Nigerian man about to wed his girlfriend living in Texas, USA decides to leave Nigeria and live in her house after marriage in America.


However, the important thing is not being emotional about things especially with respect to the document of the house. They should ask their mum to give them in trust.

If this is done,
1. Their mother can marry in peace the man of her dreams
2. The children know that their father's properties are insured in their names.


I find it strange when educated guys are looking forward to inheritance from their father instead of seeing how to build their own wealth

Because she has some excellent wife qualities that you can rarely find in all these modern ladies out there try to resolve the sex issue. Only kids don’t realize lack of sex can destroy a marriage just like lack of money. Please confirm the following before divorcing your wife:
1. Was she circumcised? This means her clit and some sensitive parts of her reproductive organ has been cut off. You need to focus on pre-intimacy and learn about her other arousal spots to make her aroused and wet enough. Also help her arousal with warming sex lubricant, so she doesn’t dry up & sex becomes painful.
2. Is sex painful to her? Both of you should go for STD/STI test. Sometimes these infections make sex unbearably painful for women. If there is no STD/STI, Try to use a nice warming lubricant like durex or fiesta. This will make sex less painful for her.
3. Does she not enjoy your pre-intimacy, sex stamina or post sex game? Please read voraciously about how to please a woman in bed. Spice up your sex with intimacy gadgets, sex card games and role plays. Women have a different sexual appetite and preferences compared to men. Find out what her preferences are. You will be pleasantly surprised if she opens up to you. PLEASE DONT JUDGE HER IF SHE OPENS UP.
4. Did her low libido suddenly start after childbirth? This is very common. Both of you need to see a psychologist and sex therapist to help pull her out of the very common depressive state in women after childbirth. They can even prescribe antidepressants for her.
5. Does she not mind if you take another wife? Discuss this with her. Let her know that the lack of sex is really affecting you badly and you still love her. Make her know you don’t want to cheat on her, however, you will be forced to date or marry another woman if she doesn’t improve on her sex game. Monogamy is a western scam that has solved nothing. Sometimes women up their sex game when they face competition from other women.

Good luck to you!

ADURA123:
Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice.

I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating.
Her qualities are
She can cook
She can keep the house clean
She can manage resources
And she is accommodating to my people
In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife.

My qualities are
I work and earn like about 700k net a month.
I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of.
I don't drink or smoke
I don't keep late night
and I am the best friend to her and my kids.
Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her.
I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her.
I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans.

My decision between now and December is
1 Avoid asking her for lobe making
2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything
3 when she comes close I avoid her.
4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back

Is there anything more I can do for her?
Advice me pls...

Well, the truth is that gold diggers (male and female) are very dangerous. They are driven by laziness, greed and selfishness. He can wipe off all her kids prior to marrying her and compel her to hand over the house docs to him or the children they both have, excluding the kids whose father built the house. I have seem such horror happen in Nigeria before.
The woman should ask her new found love to be a REAL MAN & go get his own house.
Even asking the woman to kick out her son so that they both enjoy the fruit of the poor boy’s father’s labor is sacrilegious!
The boy has done nothing wrong challenging the mother. Traditionally, if they are Yorubas, the house belongs to the kids not the woman… even without a will. Children just allow their mothers to control their late father’s properties out of love and respect. Unfortunately, these mothers are turning the culture upside down.
It is even almost an abomination for a man to want to move into his wife’s house. But, this time she is not even the sole owner of the house. It is jointly owned by her and her kids even if we want to be liberal and considerate.

TenQ:
I didn't speak of the Husband to be. I spoke only of the mother and son. It his the man's business if he wants to pack into his wives house. I am not privy to why the man and his mother agreed to that.

But the young man should act with wisdom: convince the mum to give the document of the house to the children in trust. This takes care of any eventual problem in the future.

I don talk am say this Dangote man na scammer!

They should feed him his flesh too, starting with his manhood.
Why do they kill blasphemous people so easily because they are fighting for an Almighty God that doesn’t require their help? Yet they spare those who kill the weak in society through acts like cannibalism, rituals or corruption?!

A year is too long to be separated from your family o!
I have seen families torn apart from this kind of separation. The temptation for adultery becomes more pronounced and the risk of traveling in Nigeria so often is very huge these days. I think 3months max is enough for her to join you with the kids.
Unless she has a job that contributes heavily to the family upkeep in Enugu, why is she so reluctant to move with you?! Hopefully, she doesn’t have a boyfriend that is making it difficult to move with you asap.

Why did they beat him up for not committing a crime. The consequences for their adultery is that people stop going to his church & the woman’s husband divorce the wife.
Beating them up is not right in this modern day.

This is the most useless advice in the world.
Why ain’t you questioning why a full grown man wants to move into a woman’s house??
You ask the child to go build his house, but didn’t ask the gold digging manfriend of the h0rny mother to go build his house & move his wife into HIS own house. What kind of uselessness are you talking about?! Why are some Nigerians so unintelligent?!

TenQ:
Why have you behaved so immaturely?

1. Your mother owns the house since your father is dead.
2. Since your father hasn't willed the house and property to you, go build your own fortune
3. Your mum has the right to remarry anyone she chooses and bring the man into her house and set her up in her own house.
4. You could however speak to your mum in a Civil and respectful manner while requesting for the document of the house or for the document to be given in trust to your siblings
a. This is also for her protection in case the new husband decides to sell the property behind her back
b. She would guarantee that her own biological children will inherit her properties if things go south.

But let your mama breathe o!
The house belongs to her 100% as your father is dead!
Unless your mum gives you the house, it isn't yours!

Your mum deserves the right to be happy and to remarry if she chooses

She is desperate and h0rny. These two is a recipe for bad decisions in women , no matter their age.
No good woman will curse her child.
Don’t let her bring problems into your life by marrying a man who is clearly a gold digger. Involve you father’s family into the matter if you are really sure your father owns the house. You have nothing to lose, her behavior should make her worthless to you, since she is so blinded and selfish that she has left her children out of her calculations as a mother.

So na only 250k she get that she want to push you to depression with a project like building a house?!
Both of you are delusional and a big joke!
Do you even know how much it cost to buy land and build a house before you delusional kids started with this pipe dream?
Abeg if you have the money go ahead, otherwise be the MAN and stamp your feet down. If it is so easy to build why can’t she do it alone. Only a paltry 250k na hin she think say she don arrive to build house? That’s not even enough to set up a container shop!
Don’t let any woman push you into projects you can’t afford, otherwise na depression you dey call on o! Let her keep stalling on marriage, age wil teach her a good lesson. Her eggs, beautiful body & shape are all rotting away by the day and she is giving man such a condition?
Marriage that millions of women are dying for these days? Both of you go soon get sense.

LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?

This girl is obviously desperate for attention. Nobody can tell me the leak wasn’t deliberate.

Wow! You are in trouble in life!
I don't know your age, but sadly you are digging you own hole of destruction.
Find help fast before it is too late.
It is only a matter of time before you addictions lead you into a life of real hardcore crime!

According to the post:
‘The lawyers are said to have formally applied to the court for certified true copies as of Friday’

I don’t understand o, do civil servants in the courts work on Saturday and Sunday? If you applied on Friday, which is a workday, shouldn’t the delay start counting from Monday?!
What kind of unnecessary alarmists are these people?!

Only deranged people support the rubbish journalism Rufai does!
Arise TV should be ashamed of themselves for retaining such a lying, partisan and unprofessional anchor.

Your arrogance will keep you unmarried more than the change you think you have.
I hope you can afford a dog and vibrator… that will be your companion if you keep screening out hardworking average men who can afford the basics to run a home… even if you earn more than them.
Your money means nothing to most men worth their salt, regardless of how much he earns.

We told them, but they decided to engage in bullying!

Green flag to take her serious:
Look out for ALL THESE, verify and test these qualities:
1. Respect for you
2. Loyalty (including no social media flirting with other men),
3. Submissiveness
4. Homeliness- home care and cooking skills
5. Fertility- do tests for her egg quality, STD/STI, Rhesus group, and genotype.
6. Past of no prostitution, drugs, tattoos, violence, stealing and fetish tendencies.

Red flag:
If she was such a good woman with her exes, how come she wasn’t good enough to be wifed by her 10exes … 10men o? Bad boys recognize wife material even more than good boys, so if she was that rare gem, she will certainly be wifed pronto!

You are the only one whe can weight her known past and her present personality to determine if you can take the risk. Marriage and long term relationship is a risk that can be rewarding or regrettable… so weight it carefully.

GOOD LUCK!

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

This is so sad! May God Almighty avenge your death and console your family and loved ones.
This is why I want more cctv cameras to be installed all over Nigeria. Sadly, lack of power will even hinder the coverage that can be available.
Sometimes I just feel there is a curse on Nigeria, because I can’t imagine how people will deliberately sabotage themselves this way?!

I honestly don’t know wetin Obi do this dude o. I think he is angry because Obi split Atiku’s traditional votes.

So, There are jobless people who have nothing to do to get themselves out of joblessness?!
I can’t imagine a responsible individual with a decent job, who isn’t on leave that will go and stay in a court while his or her mate is hustling!

Your actions speak louder than your words! Other ethnic groups will respond proportionately to your actions not your words BE ADVISED!

This is what simping brings to you!
You already have a conviction about how women treat kids that ain’t theirs, yet you bowed to your wives pressure?! YOU ARE A WEAK MAN! Go and check what happens to men who change their mind at the whims and caprices of their wife… most are destroyed irreparably. You can consider their advise while predominantly considering your opinion to blend both 80/20. NEVER MAKE MAJOR DECISIONS ON THE EMOTIONAL OPINION OF A WOMAN.
You promised the parents to train the child, do you think that was just an about using her as a SLAVE?! The parents did not beg you, you and your wife asked for this , so deal with it without abusing the child, SIMP!

NaijaRealtor:
1. Right from when she was about three years old, she would always pray for me to make it so she can come stay with me.

2. Been married for like 7 years and we have 3 kids. My wife was on my neck to bring my niece to come stay with us so she can assist with helping to look after the kids once they all return from school.

3. Because I know how many ladies treat children that aren't theirs, I refused to bring my niece over. So after much pressure from my wife, I approached my sister and her husband and pleaded to allow me train her as she'd always prayed.

4. Weeks after her arrival, my wife started complaining about her attitude and stuff. I refused to yield to my wife's suggestions that I take my niece back. It almost caused quarrel between us.

I felt it was too early to judge her. She's just 12 years old.

Her Attitudes:

A. She would fold and keep pants stained with my 1 year old poop in the laundry basket until it starts bringing out maggots, then we would search the whole house for the source of the foul smell until we find it and throw away affected clothes, disinfect the house and all.

B. She, yesterday wiped my 6 years old son with iron buckle on the belt and his head nearly burst open. He complained of severe headache and we are still treating him.

C. Final straw was, while we were in the office today, my 6 years old started to throw up. He was sick. This girl just laid on the couch and instructed a 6 years old to go fetch the broom, mopping stick and packer to clean the mess.

My son was very weak, but he went to fetch these items and cleaning the vomit. Because he was very sick, he kept on throwing up and cleaning at the same time. All these while, this girl laid there relaxing until my wife came home and washed my son up and cleaned the floor.

When I came back this evening and learnt about the stuff, I quietly asked her why she'd behaved like that and she said it was nothing.

I really don't know whether to let her stay while I try to coach her or take her back to her parents.

I seriously need advice.

Sorry for the long epistle.

I don’t think he said this. He said after clearing the backlog, new applications will be processed in 2weeks.
Nobody knows how long the backlog will be cleared.

As a real Alpha male, you should have realized this is a phase that you need to support and guide her through. Her body, which is one of the primary assets she has on you has deformed beyond repair. Therefore, her ego is totally broken, like a man who has totally lost his source of income can become too withdrawn or aggressive.
Let her know you understand what she is going through. THIS IS A TIME TO SHOW HER LOVE WITHOUT SIMPING OUT. Women live on attention so give it to her more without overdoing it. Praise her when you notice her effort at being more beautiful, reward her devotion to raising the kids and taking care of the home, cuddle and kiss her more, show more public affection and please don’t overdo all l these affection because you won’t get the desired results.

At least the face of foreigners sponsoring chaos in Africa is coming to light.
Whether it is electric or not, at least the train service is running. As long as it can be sustained, who cares?! The people have access to alternative transportation to road!
This is how they deliberately sponsor darkness in Africa by insisting we cannot use Coal because it is too dirty and nuclear power because we can use it for nuclear weapons and compete militarily.
[quote author=AcuraZDX post=125598947]Lagos State governor Sanwo-Olu commissioned the blue line in December, but it couldn’t start operations because a facility to power the tracks wasn’t ready.

The metro will now use a diesel locomotive for some weeks until the power plant is ready to connect to the tracks.

According to John Ashbourne, an African analyst, while quoting a video of the train being pulled, he wrote;


https://twitter.com/JohnAshbourne/status/1698991525470904465?s=19[/quote]

Clowns like you will criticize everything stupidly.
They already explained why he left to meet INVESTORS that your sorry and lazy asses in Nigeria need right now. Ain’t you the people shouting that you are broke and hungry??
Will his presence at the tribunal bring the critically needed investment?!

koiki4bat:
Clowns. This is enough to tell you that Nigeria does not work. Imagine the "presdent" is in far away India for a conference that starts in 4 days time he got there first among World leaders the SGF is in far away London and now the VP is in court attending to tribunal matters.

Well if your definition of reasonable Nigerians is chaos and or military intervention? I don’t think I am in the position to help you.
The government is just 100days in office. They have made promises that NLC hasn’t given them a chance to fulfill.
Even though Tinubu brought Buhari into office, we know he had nothing to do with Buhari’s terrible government. He was humiliated, sidelined and literally excommunicated in Buhari’s maladministration, so we need to cut him that slack and give him at least 6months and a9 months at most before throwing these tantrums.
I agree that Buhari cum APC made everything worse for Nigerians, but all ADULTS know every breakthrough comes with a temporary discomfort. ONLY the extremely ignorant child thinks there is any gain without pain.

BoldBrainz:
But they're already getting the support of reasonable Nigerians.

How do you expect them to feel?
The female gender live and die for attention!
The can do really stupid things if they don’t get the attention they crave. Those men are feeding the well known female idol and fetish… endless self adulation and male attention!